@CEB37 Your gift sounds very nice and I cannot imagine anyone being disappointed in receiving it no matter what they asked for. You clearly put time and thought into what you are presenting the mother to be and honestly I think that is all that matters. And I would hope that any gracious host or mama would be more thrilled with the fact that you are present and brought something thoughtful than caring about a book as a card or diapers or whatever the suggestion had been.
Yes my stepmom is in the U.S, I was mainly trying to say that on this board there are ladies from all over the world and all over the country and our points of view are going to change and be different depending on our culture. I'm in California and I know we do many things WAY differently than my girl friends in Tennessee for example. Doesn't make either one of us right or wrong, just different
I feel like you should call it a diaper party or diaper shower and not the diaper drive. If I was attending I would assume you were doing the selfless thing of donating all the diapers to a women's charity. I would be a little disappointed to find out it wasn't going to charity but that's because I like donating.
@wassuphoes I just want to say I thought you were very polite and eloquent in explaining why you share your opinions and try to point out if you think something is inappropriate. There's a difference in being snarky about it and trying to genuinely help a fellow mother-to-be out with planning her shower.
That being said, I'm SOOO glad this is baby #2 and I'm not having a shower. My first go round, I had four showers, and each person who hosted did 100% of the planning and carrying out. Not a single thing any of them did struck me as tacky, rude, or unsettling. Maybe I just wasn't paying attention I can't imagine the headache of planning a shower - what is found offensive to one guest may be the normal way of doing things to another, depending on where they are from and/or past experiences. Just from the wide range of opinions I see on shower posts on here... Whew, it makes my head spin!!!
Thanks.
Sometimes I'm rainbows, sometimes I'm snark. It depends on how the OP is worded and how much caffeine I've had today. Today I've had a lot of caffeine.
Op- Do as you please. There is no right or wrong, and NO ONE, not even me, can tell you what is. Honestly, the only opinion that actually matters is your SO's. If you spent all your time worrying about what your guests would think: why even throw the damn party? And thats exactly what it is...a party... a diaper raffle is a great idea, and im glad you landed on that idea.. Everyone else is too busy arguing to even care what you think or decided was a good idea anymore, and thats wrong. Glad you found a semi-solution...oh...was i the only one who noticed? Huh......
Just out of curiousity I wonder if baby shower etiquette/etiquette varies by region. Because where I live many of the things people have suggested for baby showers that are out of the "norm." Ie. Books instead of cards, diaper raffles are common. I honestly never knew it was tacky, or rude until reading the many threads on here. Could it be a regional thing or just family/friends preference kind of thing? Maybe what's socially acceptable in some regions, families isn't acceptable everywhere?
Just out of curiousity I wonder if baby shower etiquette/etiquette varies by region. Because where I live many of the things people have suggested for baby showers that are out of the "norm." Ie. Books instead of cards, diaper raffles are common. I honestly never knew it was tacky, or rude until reading the many threads on here. Could it be a regional thing or just family/friends preference kind of thing? Maybe what's socially acceptable in some regions, families isn't acceptable everywhere?
Unfortunately I think it's more a symptom of the entitled society we live in.
Our shower is the 25th of July and we sent out invites this week. We also did a "save the date announcement" a few weeks ago.
As for the diapers, my cousin did the diaper raffle at her shower and it seemed to go over pretty well.
You sent out a save the date for a baby shower?
Not really a save the date I guess. More of a Facebook event invite/email notification with formal invite to follow. Have a lot of relatives that need pretty advanced notification to get dates off etc. And wanted to check that the date worked with most of the family.
Our shower is the 25th of July and we sent out invites this week. We also did a "save the date announcement" a few weeks ago.
As for the diapers, my cousin did the diaper raffle at her shower and it seemed to go over pretty well.
You sent out a save the date for a baby shower?
Not really a save the date I guess. More of a Facebook event invite/email notification with formal invite to follow. Have a lot of relatives that need pretty advanced notification to get dates off etc. And wanted to check that the date worked with most of the family.
Gotcha. Yeah don't want to pick a date no one can make it lol
Hmm I suppose you have really strong feelings about baby showers, etiquette, and manners.... Which you are entitled to. I just don't think that not everything that isn't traditional/formal or written in an etiquette manual is rude/tacky/distasteful.
Re: Turning baby shower into diaper drive.
Sometimes I'm rainbows, sometimes I'm snark. It depends on how the OP is worded and how much caffeine I've had today. Today I've had a lot of caffeine.
What did I miss?
Op- Do as you please. There is no right or wrong, and NO ONE, not even me, can tell you what is. Honestly, the only opinion that actually matters is your SO's. If you spent all your time worrying about what your guests would think: why even throw the damn party? And thats exactly what it is...a party... a diaper raffle is a great idea, and im glad you landed on that idea.. Everyone else is too busy arguing to even care what you think or decided was a good idea anymore, and thats wrong. Glad you found a semi-solution...oh...was i the only one who noticed? Huh......