September 2015 Moms

Rude comment about name *vent*

So my husband and I made it a point to not discuss name options with many people because we didn't want the negative comments that we knew might come with it. Once we picked a name, we announced it as THE name. As in, no longer up for debate. We picked and announced it like a month ago and have mostly had positive comments. I don't expect everyone to love the name, of course, but I do expect that people will respect our decision.

Tonight, my sister called me about something totally unrelated but then decided to voice her opinion on our name choice. The first name is Remy, which we got from a male character in X-men (Gambit) but there are several other characters through t.v., books, etc.. all men, with that name. She says she has a friend who's daughter is named Remy and we're giving our son a girls name. I blew that off, it didn't really bother me. I just told her that we've only ever heard it as a boy name.

She then tells me he is going to get made fun of and that my 11 year old nephew already made a joke about "Rim job" (He's 11, wtf??? So many things wrong with that, don't even get me started.) I tell her the comments are unnessarily and not appreciated. She then tells me he's going to get made fun of in school and I just need to be prepared for it. Then she says she likes the name Gideon (our 2nd choice that we didn't go with) I'm like that's great but that isn't his name. We've already picked his name.

I'm just really annoyed right now and needed to vent. Anyone else had crappy experiences with people's opinions on your name choice?
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Re: Rude comment about name *vent*

  • We had alot of opinions on what we names we should use but we haven't announced the name we've chosen to many people yet so I haven't dealt with the rudeness yet but I know that it's coming.  However ummm why the hell is an 11yo talking about rim jobs?!? If that was my kid I'd be more concerned about that then what my nephews name was going to be.... side note: I like the name Remy and I don't think I've ever heard it as a girls name.

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  • That sucks! I hate when people aren't suportive and even if they don't like it just shut your fricken mouth? Like c'mon, it's not your baby why would you care?

    We have chosen Summer Anne for our little girl and people look at us weird, like you know summer is a season right? Yeah we know. But we like it as a name. Deal with it.

    Hope you don't get any more rude comments :( I love the name remy for a little boy
  • lolad5lolad5 member
    Love the name! It's perfect! I've had many be rude to me on our name choices. It's whatever you as parents want. There are some pretty crazy names out there.
  • v1wwov1wwo member
    edited June 2015
    Rémy is a French boy's name.
    :)
    Ooo lala Rémy.
  • Ignore her, her opinion doesn't matter and that's seriously so rude of her son to make that comment at that age. She should be more concerned about that other then the name of your child. We had our boy name picked out that everyone loved, but up until I found out the gender I swore it was a girl. Every single name I thought of my mother and my sister had the nastiest things to say about, not once did they ever agree. It's annoying but don't let it get to you. It's your baby and once he's here they'll accept his name without question
  • I'm getting a lot of negative feed back from people about what I'm naming my daughter. Sorry girly, I know how it feels. I like the name you picked and I'm sure your son will love it too.
  • @shelbydd - somehow i knew it was Gambit! It makes my insides (and outsides) smile knowing im not alone in nerd-dome on these boards.

    I love the name, and is for sure a male name. I've NEVER met a female Remy.. I never let anyone in on our name choices until it was final. They can say whatever they want, make all the suggetions they want, but when it comes down to it, if they didn't put the baby here, their opinion doesn't matter.
  • I love that name, I don't think it sounds girly at all! I know how you feel though. A few people I've told about my name choice Nikolai have given me weird looks, or say they don't like it/ it sounds weird. It's irritating sometimes but hey, it's not their baby so they can get over it :)
  • I went to college with a gorgeous European guy named Remy.

    I also have an old college classmate who named her baby Remington and is called Remy for short. 

    In a time of some truly bizarre spellings/names (I work with kids, so I've seen some things), Remy is a name I like! 
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  • ^^Remington was on our short list for a middle name, but we are having a girl. You know how I feel about it @shelbydd! Total rockstar name! B-)
  • Remy is my friends son's name. His actual name is Remington but we've always called him Remy and he never gets picked on. I've gotten a lot of sh*t for our son's name too. His name is going to be Draco and my MIL said she is going to make up a name for him and never call him by his name. She refuses.
  • I love the name Remy - Gambit was always one of my favorite X-men :). As many have said - not a girl's name, and the nephew really shouldn't even know the word rim job (although I'm not overly surprised - I teach 5th, which is 11-year-olds, and they know an astounding amount of inappropriate things!).

    My sister also doesn't like our name. We were sitting together at the table at my mom's, and she asked if we had any name ideas, and mom said, "Oh they like Jameson!" (I was a lil annoyed cuz we haven't made a final decision yet). Sis wrinkled her nose, I asked if she didn't like it, and she says, "Well, it doesn't really matter, it's not MY baby." Sorry, but what a b!tchy thing to say!
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  • This is why I'm of the school of thought that we don't discuss names with others until it's actually attached to a child in my arms...
  • I've met both a boy and a girl named Remy, it shouldn't matter that you want it for your little boy regardless if a girl has the name as well. Ugh people are so weird about claiming names for a specific gender, it's 2015 people... We're dealing with the same for our name if we have a boy(not sure yet).... Most people respect our decision but you always deal with the occasional weird look, etc. Unfortunately Kids are going to get made fun of regardless, so their name isn't going to be the end of the world.
  • I had a male coworker named Remy and I never thought anything of it. Your sister will get used to it.
  • What the heck is a rim job?
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  • Um I like Remy for Gambit reasons haha I'm a nerd though ;) when I hear Remy I think of a boy so technically that girl has a boy name. Family especially feels as though they have a right to bash names we pick for unknown reasons. I don't think he'll get made fun of especially if you teach him it's from Xmen.
  • CEB37CEB37 member
    What the heck is a rim job?

    LOL.  Don't ask.  You really don't want to know.

    OP, Remy is a beautiful name.  You were probably just better off keeping the name to yourself.

    As far as everyone being shocked about an 11 year old knowing that, 11 year olds are in middle school and they have smart phones now.  They know things.  I have occasion to teach a middle school ballet class occasionally (11-12 year olds) and some of the things I hear are frightening.  Kids are far more knowledgeable these days because of what they have access to. 


  • Remy is an excellent choice. Kids can find ways to make ANY name into a mean nickname. 

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  • WDDCHWDDCH member
    edited June 2015
    Well that kid would never be left alone with my children, sad to say. If he were to call my child such a nickname he'd have some serious boundaries.

    Anyway, not much that I can add to what has been said. It's a good, strong and masculine name. Your sister is just trying to come up with what she can to dissuade you.
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  • keda1988keda1988 member
    edited June 2015
    I myself was hoping for a boy in which I was going to name him Lenzie (Lindsey) which is also my husband's name. Alot of people didn't approve and said it was a girls name. Either way I found out I was having a girl so the name will be the same just spelled Lynzie. But should it have really made a difference? Of course not my kid, my choice. That's the bottom line.
    P.S love the name REMY @shelbydd
  • sgleavesgleave member
    edited June 2015
    meggipi5 said:

    Remy is an excellent choice. Kids can find ways to make ANY name into a mean nickname. 


    I was going to say just this but my phone kept autocorrecting Remy to Remus...go with your pick, not my phone's :P
  • I think Remy is a great name! I never met a girl with that name and I'm usually the first one to associate names with something dirty and "rim job" never came to mind. I don't even see how her son got that one... I'm naming my daughter Violet Matilda and have gotten tons of shitty feedback, if people don't hate Violet they hate Matilda but DH ava I love it so that is all that matters! Stick with your choice and tell your sister to get her mind out of the gutter and focus more on where her kid learned that!!
  • I feel like Remy is a unisex name, like Jamie. My husband wanted to name our baby Remington if it was a boy, so his nickname would have been Remi :) I seriously feel like we pregnant women need to hand out pamphlets on appropriate comments and opinions(by which I mean no outside opinions!) when we do our announcements. That way everyone will know what's acceptable and what's not.
  • Remy is cute and totally a boy's name. How rude of your sister! I have no idea what a rim job is either, but I gather it's something very inappropriate and if I was your sister would be more concerned that my son knew what it was AND felt comfortable saying it out loud.

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  • Remy is also the name of a male character on desperate maids. I like the name and to me it's a male name. If we get creative all name on earth can be used as a tease.

    Good for you for not swaying on your choice. I like it.
  • Kids will find a way to make fun of any name if they decide to do so. I have never known of a girl named Remy so I'm thinking the girl she knows got a boys name not the other way around! I have sworn my SO to secrecy about our final name choice. We had WAY too many opinions when trying to decide on a name and most were negative. I feel like once the little guy is here and it's on his birth certificate people will be less likely to tell me how much they dislike the name. So they get to find out then :)

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  • Ummm I have never EVER heard of a girl named Remy? Although spelled differently, my husbands middle name is Remi, and his fathers name is Remi... Very French MALE name.

    Tell her to get stuffed.
  • This sounds like something my sister would say/do! We have decided on a name but family has no idea what it is. They don't even know we know we are having a girl. (That makes my sister more frustrated because she can't buy stuff that she wants our baby to wear and we will get more gender neutral outfits) everyone is more supportive about us not finding out.
  • The only female Remy I can think of was Dr. Remy Hadley, "Thirteen", on House. Every other Remy is male.
  • I love that name I think it is so cute! And honestly everyone's name gets made fun of no matter what kids are mean lol and I'm actually going through the same thing right now my sister keeps giving me a hard time about the name my fiance and I picked out as well. We chose Jaxon and she thinks we are spelling the name wrong it should be Jackson and he will get made fun of bc it's weird but my fiance and I love that spelling so I told her to shut up about it and her opinion didn't matter to me bc this is not her decision it's our baby. And she got quiet so I don't care if she gets mad about it lol
  • shelbyddshelbydd member
    edited June 2015

    The only female Remy I can think of was Dr. Remy Hadley, "Thirteen", on House. Every other Remy is male.

    Ooh! I totally forgot about her but Hadley was actually one of the names we had picked for a girl, how weird! Lol

    @Mousemama my step-son is the same age as my nephew. When I told my husband about the conversation he was totally blown away. If my step-son had said something like that to me I probably would have slapped him. I shouldn't say that and I've never spanked him (been around since he was 4) but I just can't imagine those works coming out of his mouth and me laughing it off and saying "you can't call your brother that." Which was apparently how she reacted when my nephew said it (causin instead of brother, of course, but you get the point) I'd like to think she made that up but truth is I don't doubt he said it. She's raising him to be a bit of a jerk. :(
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  • @shelbydd Remy is a boy's name and your sister was very rude for those comments she made. Go with the name you love and tell her to shove it. I'm glad you feel better :-)

    @BeachBabe22 Rimjob is licking your partners butt hole. Sorry to be blunt, but definitely something an 11 year old shouldn't know too much about!! Yes they do have smartphones now, and have access to lots of adult content, but I still wouldn't let my kids hang out with a kid who speaks like that.

  • @shelbydd I totally get what you're saying. My mom never hit or spanked me, but her favorite threat was "If you do that again, I'll throw you into next Tuesday!" Lol! There's a big difference between being frustrated and acting on it. I'm sorry your nephew is being raised to be a jerk, but it sounds like you and your husband are doing an awesome job with your son!
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