Okay, some peoples negativity on your post must be their hormones talking honey, the way that I see it is this...unless someone is taking it upon themselves to pay for you and your baby's needs, then they have NO reason to take it upon themselves to interject their staunch opinions on you and your growing family.
I have been to some reveal parties that were obnoxious and selfish, and I have been to reveal parties that were very special and classy.
Girl, you do whatever you and the father wants. No one is carrying this baby for you or footing the bill that follows, so they really have no authority. I personally and planning on doing a reveal party with my close family and intimate friends. I know it will be a special moment for my closest and my husband. They are all excited about it, and we will probably do something casual over dinner or a BBQ.
I think it's a great idea if you and your hubby are wanting to do it. As for your in-laws, I'd kindly let them know that being a mama is stressful enough that you'd really like to limit the amount of external opinions. Best of luck to you mama! Don't let others make this any less HAPPY than it should be
Okay, some peoples negativity on your post must be their hormones talking honey, the way that I see it is this...unless someone is taking it upon themselves to pay for you and your baby's needs, then they have NO reason to take it upon themselves to interject their staunch opinions on you and your growing family.
I have been to some reveal parties that were obnoxious and selfish, and I have been to reveal parties that were very special and classy.
Girl, you do whatever you and the father wants. No one is carrying this baby for you or footing the bill that follows, so they really have no authority. I personally and planning on doing a reveal party with my close family and intimate friends. I know it will be a special moment for my closest and my husband. They are all excited about it, and we will probably do something casual over dinner or a BBQ.
I think it's a great idea if you and your hubby are wanting to do it. As for your in-laws, I'd kindly let them know that being a mama is stressful enough that you'd really like to limit the amount of external opinions. Best of luck to you mama! Don't let others make this any less HAPPY than it should be
Did you read her OP? She asked for opinions. We gave them. Don't ask for opinions if you don't want to hear differing ones.
To the poster who quoted me... I think there's a difference between saying one's opinion staunchly and lovingly I think some people's (not all who were disagreeing!) opinions were heavy laden and aimed to make her look foolish...but then again, that's just my opinion
I think the reveal parties can be fun if done right. I feel like you dont need to invite everyone that you would invite to a baby shower but Family and maybe a couple close friends. It needs to feel like a true family gathering where people dont leave the minute you cut the cake whatever you do.
Gender Reveal idea
Someone from my office did this - they filled a big balloon up with helium and glittery (gender specific) confetti and Popped it in front of their family. I thought it was super quick/easy/cute.
I'm totally having one. Luckily, I'm surrounded by people that care almost as much as we do. It's the first biological grand baby for my parents and my sisters want to plan it. It's going to be "Rifles or Ruffles" theme I understand why people think they're tacky/unnecessary but I think it'll be fun to just have a small get together.
We're kind of doing one- I want to do a balloon reveal and am asking a friend to take photos of it- I'm doing it because I want to include our children. Then I was thinking we'd invite family and maybe my best friends for dinner. Since it's our third I definitely don't expect to have a shower so I'm not worried about the "too much party" side.
We are doing one just for close family and friends. Husband and I will find out together and reveal to them in a cupcake or something. We have had fertility issues so I kind of feel like the fun and excitement of telling family and friends we are expecting is over. Everyone close knew we were seeing an re and I ended up telling my best friend and mom when I had my positive test via text message just so I could have their support if I miscarry again. Last 2 miscarriages we lost the baby the day after we told our parents- really bad luck. So we are looking forward to having the gender be a fun surprise and something we can celebrate all together.
I talked to my Mom about this the other night and we decided that we would have the technician write the sex and put it in a sealed envelope. Then we would just take it to a baker and have a cake made with the surprise on the inside. Then we'll go to my Mom's and cut it together so we all get to find out at the same time. She suggested we record and post on FB as our "announcement". Works for me.
I agree with others that if done right, it's cute. Someone we know did a HUGE party (50+ with bounce houses & catering, the whole 9 yards) and on the invite they asked for "diapers or donations." Ehh not when you spent probably over $1000 for a party...
My sister is a photographer so we are just going to take a cute picture & have a dinner with close family.
So I posted on this thread about how I was so excited that we were just having immediate family over at my in-laws for a BBQ and cupcakes. This isn't something my husband and I discuss frequently but he was out with his family today and just came back and said "my aunt is going to host the party at her house instead". His aunt's family is another 5-7 people. I told him that while I appreciated his aunt offering, i wanted to keep it small to just our immediate family because I thought it would be more intimate and a good bonding experience for our parents who live in different states and don't see each other often, plus I can see it bringing some tension as my extended family wouldn't be invited. Anyway, now my husband thinks I am being crazy and that I always complain about everything. Please be honest with me- am I making a big deal over nothing.
@ChrissyD1203 That is a tough situation. On one hand I would say if you want it small and intimate then the aunt should be understanding, but on the other hand it is very nice of her to offer and maybe now she is looking forward to it and so I wouldn't want to let her down. I guess my personal decision would depend on how the aunt would react if you talked to her how you feel exactly.
Re: Gender Reveal party opinions...
I have been to some reveal parties that were obnoxious and selfish, and I have been to reveal parties that were very special and classy.
Girl, you do whatever you and the father wants. No one is carrying this baby for you or footing the bill that follows, so they really have no authority. I personally and planning on doing a reveal party with my close family and intimate friends. I know it will be a special moment for my closest and my husband. They are all excited about it, and we will probably do something casual over dinner or a BBQ.
I think it's a great idea if you and your hubby are wanting to do it. As for your in-laws, I'd kindly let them know that being a mama is stressful enough that you'd really like to limit the amount of external opinions. Best of luck to you mama! Don't let others make this any less HAPPY than it should be
DD 12/20/99, DS 12/14/12, M/C 9/2014, M/C 1/2015
That being said, a small dinner at someone's house and a cute reveal is not the same as invitations, balloons, buttons, photographer, games etc.
If you want to share the experience with your loved ones, have a dinner. If I got an invitation to a huge party my eyes would roll hard.
My sister is a photographer so we are just going to take a cute picture & have a dinner with close family.