I totally agree. We can go get the "facts" on google. And I do. And I agree with most of what the "veterans" here say. However, everyone in this group is desiring a baby. I'm not sure why we have to attack each other with "facts" instead of being supportive of people who are hurting. The facts have been repeated. What most people are looking for here is emotional support.
False. I am OAD but hang out because I have info to share and love the ladies who are (were) here. I have family for emotional support; I understand some people don't, but I can't see myself thinking complete strangers can offer me the support I need. There are people here to whom I would offer emotional support, but that's because I have gotten to know them.
I totally agree. We can go get the "facts" on google. And I do. And I agree with most of what the "veterans" here say. However, everyone in this group is desiring a baby. I'm not sure why we have to attack each other with "facts" instead of being supportive of people who are hurting. The facts have been repeated. What most people are looking for here is emotional support.
And if you are a contributing member of the community you get a whole lot of support from these ladies. There are SOO many message boards out there. This one may not be what you are looking for. And that's ok!! But you definitely won't be able to change the tone of this one. It's already been established. I've personally been trying for a very long time. When I need support here, I get it (as long as I don't ask a stupid question like am I pregnant because my tits are tingling). The point is there are tons of message boards dedicated to women who are trying to get pregnant. It's important to find the one that fits you best.
Late to this party, but really? The bump if for information and facts. If you want someone to pat you on the head like @TheBorg7of9 there are sites out there that will blow smoke for you.
I totally agree. We can go get the "facts" on google. And I do. And I agree with most of what the "veterans" here say. However, everyone in this group is desiring a baby. I'm not sure why we have to attack each other with "facts" instead of being supportive of people who are hurting. The facts have been repeated. What most people are looking for here is emotional support.
No one deserves support. If you give support, you will get it back.
I totally agree. We can go get the "facts" on google. And I do. And I agree with most of what the "veterans" here say. However, everyone in this group is desiring a baby. I'm not sure why we have to attack each other with "facts" instead of being supportive of people who are hurting. The facts have been repeated. What most people are looking for here is emotional support.
No one deserves support. If you give support, you will get it back.
I totally agree. We can go get the "facts" on google. And I do. And I agree with most of what the "veterans" here say. However, everyone in this group is desiring a baby. I'm not sure why we have to attack each other with "facts" instead of being supportive of people who are hurting. The facts have been repeated. What most people are looking for here is emotional support.
Facts and emotional support aren't mutually exclusive. Mainly because what's hurtful or despairing for a lot of the non-compliant posters is the uncertainty of TTC. And that comes from not knowing how ovulation, temping, and conception work.
It sounds like what the complaint is the snark that [sometimes] comes with the facts. Which regulars argue comes from frustration with newbies not reading the guidelines and TOU. The snark hurts, but newbies or non-compliants can read up, realize the mistake, and make an attempt for amends. What I gather from lurking is many people have a good sense of humor.
In the end, this seems to be Much Ado About Nothing.
<gif of Kenneth Branagh dancing in a fountain that I cannot post because I am at work>
I totally agree. We can go get the "facts" on google. And I do. And I agree with most of what the "veterans" here say. However, everyone in this group is desiring a baby. I'm not sure why we have to attack each other with "facts" instead of being supportive of people who are hurting. The facts have been repeated. What most people are looking for here is emotional support.
False. I am OAD but hang out because I have info to share and love the ladies who are (were) here. I have family for emotional support; I understand some people don't, but I can't see myself thinking complete strangers can offer me the support I need. There are people here to whom I would offer emotional support, but that's because I have gotten to know them.
Exactly. I'm done having babies so that statement is false. Many ladies stick around because we love the environment here and have formed awesome friendships.
Like PP said, no one is owed support. I don't owe Jane Doe on the street support just because she demands it. That's what family and friends are for. The people that I support (like the awesome ladies here) have this crazy habit of reciprocating support, imagine that.
Facts=/= attacks. Actually these facts will attack all the silly misconceptions floating around which hinder conceiving a baby so these FACTS are most likely the nicest thing anyone can tell you.
This goes back to lurking to see if this site is a good fit for you or not. If it's not, cool, but stop complaining already! All you will end up doing is frustrating yourself because things aren't going to change just because you say so.
I'm sorry, was this thread started just to argue? I don't understand.
Worse. This thread was started by someone who WAS trying to get pregnant, got her BPF, moved on to her BMB, and had the balls to come back to tell us she's "disappointed" in you. As in, "I'm not mad. Im just disappointed."
OP, you're welcome to feel disappointed. No one is going to take that away from you. But also, no one cares. Perfectly honest, you've given them no reason to. You come busting over here from your BMB with your undies in a bunch about some threads that had literally nothing to do with you. And for what? What is you interest here? Are you @urani?
If you have such an issue with the TTGP board, don't spend your time on the TTGP board. Simple as that.
I totally agree. We can go get the "facts" on google. And I do. And I agree with most of what the "veterans" here say. However, everyone in this group is desiring a baby. I'm not sure why we have to attack each other with "facts" instead of being supportive of people who are hurting. The facts have been repeated. What most people are looking for here is emotional support.
I think just about the least supportive thing you can do is let people believe false information and give themselves an infection, reduce their chances of getting pregnant, or go through the trouble of doing something that isn't going to help them. Though sometimes I do like letting Darwin awards sort themselves out from time to time.
LFAF/Nov 16 challenge: Bad TV moms that shouldn't be celebrated
BFP #1 10/30/15 MMC found 11/30/15 D&C 12/11/15 EDD 7/9/16
healing comes in waves, and maybe today the wave hits the rocks and that’s ok, that’s ok, darling. you are still healing, you are still healing- Ijeoma Umebinyuo, be gentle with yourself BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
OP's post is absolutely absurd. There are announcements and guidelines pinned to the top of this board to assist newbies from getting hurt. If newbies follow those guidelines (lurk, don't post pee sticks, don't ask if you are pregnant) a lot of the snark on this board would be unnecessary and no one would be getting butt hurt. But those people do not respect the board! I get that we are all busy and want answers right away. But by not doing your HW, you are disrespecting the ladies on this board who can give you those answers. Attitude is not the issue, but rather laziness.
A lot of people like the snark. Come on now OP....just admit that you think all the snarky gifs are funny. No one is trying to make anyone feel like less than a human being. It's just funny shit on the internet.
Person starts thread. Asks "do you think this will help me conceive?".
People respond saying "no, this is why. Maybe try this instead. Good luck"
OMG YOU'RE SO MEAN!
Do people seriously want people to tell them that whatever method they may pull out their ass may work? Hey guys, I think if I do 10 jumping jacks and then eat a can of corn that I will get pregnant that very night, even if I don't have sex! What do you think?
LFAF/Nov 16 challenge: Bad TV moms that shouldn't be celebrated
BFP #1 10/30/15 MMC found 11/30/15 D&C 12/11/15 EDD 7/9/16
healing comes in waves, and maybe today the wave hits the rocks and that’s ok, that’s ok, darling. you are still healing, you are still healing- Ijeoma Umebinyuo, be gentle with yourself BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
So obviously OP is not going to come back (hopefully because she is massively embarrassed about posting this in the first place) but I just wanted to say I adore all the veterans on here. They have been the ones who have helped me get the tools so that I could actually understand my cycle - something that I had tried googling about and tried other TTC groups and never got results.
When I do hopefully get preg someday a piece of my thanks will be to this group.
I totally agree. We can go get the "facts" on google. And I do. And I agree with most of what the "veterans" here say. However, everyone in this group is desiring a baby. I'm not sure why we have to attack each other with "facts" instead of being supportive of people who are hurting. The facts have been repeated. What most people are looking for here is emotional support.
Not everyone here is TTC. I was I this board before I had my son. I just never left - not that I post a whole lot. And I am definitely OAD.
Seriously I'm a relative newbie that took all of five seconds to realize that this is a board with people who know what the heck they are talking about and posting pee sticks and "OMG am I preggers?!" was poor form.
Why is everyone and their mom coming out of the woodwork to cry butthurt?!! And in general whatdafudge is up with all the whiners up in TTGP, ESP WHO AINT EVEN TTC, who are coming around to complain every five seconds about snark? Cry me a river. Go to another website where all they do is compare symptoms or tell you about their best friends roommates sisters dogs cousins mommas TTC experiences.
Btw OP, if you did plan to post a run and hide on your BMB, that was silly. We have several ladies over there. They will call you out on this crap.
I don't think @kadzokimbia has any intention of coming back and explaining herself. Typical, classless drive-by.
Wanna know what really sucks?!? She is a drama llama! She went off on me over on ttcal because I gave someone some advice that she deemed to be overstepping my place (cause she's my mommy now?!?) And then she comes over to Feb16 bmb and tags me in a post saying she's so looking forward to getting to know me. Guess what... I'm not looking forward to having a drama llama to AW thru the next 9mo of my life!
Okay guise, I've figured it out. We should be trying to win the approval of uninformed, sanctimonious busybodies on the interwebz.
Yup. Because we're all speshul snowflakes so it doesn't matter what you believe, let's pretend everyone is always right, all the time, and has an equal right to contribute their point of view no matter how BS it may be. And we shouldn't call anybody out on their stupidity, because that's not supportive and when you want to get pregnant clearly you don't care about SCIENCE, what matters is how you FEEL.
Okay guise, I've figured it out. We should be trying to win the approval of uninformed, sanctimonious busybodies on the interwebz.
Yup. Because we're all speshul snowflakes so it doesn't matter what you believe, let's pretend everyone is always right, all the time, and has an equal right to contribute their point of view no matter how BS it may be. And we shouldn't call anybody out on their stupidity, because that's not supportive and when you want to get pregnant clearly you don't care about SCIENCE, what matters is how you FEEL.
Because this is my new favorite gif.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married 2010
TTC: Feb 2014, BFP 7/14/14, CP 7/18/14
BFP 3/10/15 - DD #1 born 11/19 TTC #2: Oct 2017, BFP 12/19/17, CP 12/22/17 BFP 2/20/18 - EDD 10/31/2018
Lol at trying to win over the BMB's lurking here. I mean, if you try to please everyone you'll be miserable. I'd rather make some internet enemies than sell out. \m/
Okay guise, I've figured it out. We should be trying to win the approval of uninformed, sanctimonious busybodies on the interwebz.
Yup. Because we're all speshul snowflakes so it doesn't matter what you believe, let's pretend everyone is always right, all the time, and has an equal right to contribute their point of view no matter how BS it may be. And we shouldn't call anybody out on their stupidity, because that's not supportive and when you want to get pregnant clearly you don't care about SCIENCE, what matters is how you FEEL.
Because this is my new favorite gif.
I Feel like the people who are all "I don't need science" aren't going to know who that is and miss the point completely.
Okay guise, I've figured it out. We should be trying to win the approval of uninformed, sanctimonious busybodies on the interwebz.
Yup. Because we're all speshul snowflakes so it doesn't matter what you believe, let's pretend everyone is always right, all the time, and has an equal right to contribute their point of view no matter how BS it may be. And we shouldn't call anybody out on their stupidity, because that's not supportive and when you want to get pregnant clearly you don't care about SCIENCE, what matters is how you FEEL.
Because this is my new favorite gif.
I Feel like the people who are all "I don't need science" aren't going to know who that is and miss the point completely.
Anyone who doesn't know who that pile of scientific awesomeness is needs to be throat-chopped.
Oh darn. Now I have to eat my words because I like you too much to properly throat chop you @Everycol0r. That's Neil Degrasse Tyson, director of the Hayden Planetarium, astrophysicist, host of The Cosmos, and all around scientific badass.
If you ever have the chance to see him live, DO IT. He is funny and informative and basically like the most amazingly interesting college professor we all wish we had.
Me: 34 DH: 35
Married 2010
TTC: Feb 2014, BFP 7/14/14, CP 7/18/14
BFP 3/10/15 - DD #1 born 11/19 TTC #2: Oct 2017, BFP 12/19/17, CP 12/22/17 BFP 2/20/18 - EDD 10/31/2018
Oh darn. Now I have to eat my words because I like you too much to properly throat chop you @Everycol0r. That's Neil Degrasse Tyson, director of the Hayden Planetarium, astrophysicist, host of The Cosmos, and all around scientific badass.
Edited because I mixed up the last names. Duh.
This may be my all time favorite gif eva. These NDT gifs are blissful!!!
If you ever have the chance to see him live, DO IT. He is funny and informative and basically like the most amazingly interesting college professor we all wish we had.
Yes! My mom is a high school principal and she had NDT give a speech at the graduation one year. She had to book him like 2 years in advance. He's SO charismatic, funny, knowledgeable, and you can tell that he's a real person who doesn't take himself too seriously despite all of his accolades. I would totally pay to take a class with him. I go to the Hayden Planetarium at the Museum of Natural History a few times a year.
Re: Attitude
Married since 3/2013
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
Facts and emotional support aren't mutually exclusive. Mainly because what's hurtful or despairing for a lot of the non-compliant posters is the uncertainty of TTC. And that comes from not knowing how ovulation, temping, and conception work.
It sounds like what the complaint is the snark that [sometimes] comes with the facts. Which regulars argue comes from frustration with newbies not reading the guidelines and TOU. The snark hurts, but newbies or non-compliants can read up, realize the mistake, and make an attempt for amends. What I gather from lurking is many people have a good sense of humor.
In the end, this seems to be Much Ado About Nothing.
<gif of Kenneth Branagh dancing in a fountain that I cannot post because I am at work>
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/5c047a
Exactly. I'm done having babies so that statement is false. Many ladies stick around because we love the environment here and have formed awesome friendships.
Like PP said, no one is owed support. I don't owe Jane Doe on the street support just because she demands it. That's what family and friends are for. The people that I support (like the awesome ladies here) have this crazy habit of reciprocating support, imagine that.
Facts=/= attacks. Actually these facts will attack all the silly misconceptions floating around which hinder conceiving a baby so these FACTS are most likely the nicest thing anyone can tell you.
This goes back to lurking to see if this site is a good fit for you or not. If it's not, cool, but stop complaining already! All you will end up doing is frustrating yourself because things aren't going to change just because you say so.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
OP, you're welcome to feel disappointed. No one is going to take that away from you. But also, no one cares. Perfectly honest, you've given them no reason to. You come busting over here from your BMB with your undies in a bunch about some threads that had literally nothing to do with you. And for what? What is you interest here? Are you @urani?
If you have such an issue with the TTGP board, don't spend your time on the TTGP board. Simple as that.
BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
BFP #2 3/21 EDD 11/28/16
Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/58d258
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
Seriously I'm a relative newbie that took all of five seconds to realize that this is a board with people who know what the heck they are talking about and posting pee sticks and "OMG am I preggers?!" was poor form.
Why is everyone and their mom coming out of the woodwork to cry butthurt?!! And in general whatdafudge is up with all the whiners up in TTGP, ESP WHO AINT EVEN TTC, who are coming around to complain every five seconds about snark? Cry me a river. Go to another website where all they do is compare symptoms or tell you about their best friends roommates sisters dogs cousins mommas TTC experiences.
Apostraphes takes too long on mobile...
Wanna know what really sucks?!? She is a drama llama! She went off on me over on ttcal because I gave someone some advice that she deemed to be overstepping my place (cause she's my mommy now?!?) And then she comes over to Feb16 bmb and tags me in a post saying she's so looking forward to getting to know me. Guess what... I'm not looking forward to having a drama llama to AW thru the next 9mo of my life!
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
TTC #2: Oct 2017, BFP 12/19/17, CP 12/22/17
BFP 2/20/18 - EDD 10/31/2018
Lol at trying to win over the BMB's lurking here. I mean, if you try to please everyone you'll be miserable. I'd rather make some internet enemies than sell out. \m/
LFAF Summer 2016 Awards:
I Feel like the people who are all "I don't need science" aren't going to know who that is and miss the point completely.
I Feel like the people who are all "I don't need science" aren't going to know who that is and miss the point completely.
Anyone who doesn't know who that pile of scientific awesomeness is needs to be throat-chopped.
Throat punch me... Who is that fella?
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
Edited because I mixed up the last names. Duh.
Who knew he'd have so many good gifs?
My vagina punches me every month.
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
TTC #2: Oct 2017, BFP 12/19/17, CP 12/22/17
BFP 2/20/18 - EDD 10/31/2018
My Ovulation Chart