Alright ladies, I need your help! This morning was the first time my SO and have had sex since we conceived. It's not because of sickness or fatigue or anything like that... I just straight up haven't been interested in having sex, and pregnancy seems like a really good excuse not to put any effort into it.
My man is a good one and he won't (dare) complain, but I feel bad going from twice a week to once in five weeks. I don't want this pattern to continue, especially if my entire reason is "I don't feel like it", but I also don't want sex to feel like another chore or obligation.
I'm sure I'm not the only one this has happened to! Please share any tips or tricks you have for getting yourself in the mood (when you really aren't)... Oh, and feel free to get a little racy!
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Usually if I'm not feeling it I let my husband try to get me interested and in 5 years of marriage, I can count on one hand the number of times I just could not get into it.
Can you try a good old fashioned make out session, with no expectations, and see where it goes? Or let him take sexy pictures of you for his own uses?
That said, if you can't do it you can't do it. You can be intimate without sex. There are plenty of couples who can't have sex for various reasons. It's not the end of the world even though people act like it is. Once the baby is here and you've healed and adjusted, I'm sure things will get back to normal. In the whole of your lives together, should a few months of spotty sex really determine your relationships health? I don't think so. :-)
I feel bad, but know that typically 2nd trimester is better.
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I agree OP, I am NOT in the mood. I feel bloated, nauseous and fat. Not exactly get-it-on vibes. I've told DH he needs to warm my up. I always tell him, "you don't take a frozen thanksgiving day turkey and put it straight in the oven. It needs thawed and basted and lathered in butter." A little massage or heavy petting can usually get me to change my mind.