I can't believe all of this is going on. I suppose we are all meant to be all rainbows and butterflies or something?
@BostonBaby1 I 100% stand by you and if you get kicked off the boards I, as most others, will be terribly upset.
Now what to do with myself since my search function thread is closed.. Guess I'll actually have to get work done or something.
Thanks sweetheart! I don't think that they are going to ban me in order to reopen up the thread. I could be wrong, but it just doesn't seem that that will happen. At least not this morning. And not fear, we will find other ways to have fun. With gifs!!!
Okay so I posted a response before reading the entire last page of this thread- it was hiding?! I'm glad things have calmed down. I'm seeing a trend in many posts lately where someone doesn't feel a response supports their beliefs/wishes/whatever and starts calling people's bitches or cursing out whole groups of women. We are all not going to agree on anything. Being a parent comes with a ton of decisions and I'm sure there's no two women on here who would do everything the exact same way. So disagreement and discussion is not only normal but I think we should welcome it to broaden our views. But why does it always go so quickly into name calling out the "mean girls"? That needs to stop.
(I feel like we're at that gym rally in mean girls at the end)
THANK YOU for posting @bostonbaby1 I was one more nasty comment away from deleting my account! Fingers crossed this makes things a little more pleasant around here!
@BostonBaby1 let me just say that while I do post, I don't post on everything. But from what I have read, you have been one of the most (if not the most) encouraging, helpful, and respectful people on this board. For them to ban you would be a true tragedy, to me and the other women on here who need positivity and encouragement, and for people to call us out if whatever we are saying simply isn't likely to be true. You have had so much loss, which deeply saddens me, and I am so so sorry for that, and you are in my thoughts and prayers. I have had one miscarriage and one ectopic pregnancy, and even though the Lord is good all the time and got me through.. I was no where near as positive as you. You are still so helpful and such a crucial part of this board, though I understand if it gets to be too much for you.. If this is what is helping you heal, I think that's great. Life isn't fair, and I think this thread was greatly needed in light of everything that is going on.
**side note. I CANNOT figure out how to GIF. I have used the search function again and again and again and the post doesn't come up.. I am on mobile so I don't know if that's why, but if someone has easy access, if they wouldn't mind bumping, I would greatly appreciate it.
@BostonBaby1 everything has already been said. We love you, don't worry about the thread. There's a reason why us supposed "mean girls" are still here (for the most part...) while the girls who are calling us names are being banned. I think the (better named) "science girls" are responding to the majority of threads respectfully. And, honestly, it seems like typically the OPs are respectful back and value the honesty and science. It is typically other posters who come in and start stuff.
I JUST posted yesterday about how the search function thread was my guilty pleasure! Unfortunate sequence of events, but as everyone else has stated, we'll get over it and move on and hopefully continue to support and educate each other as we should. (And gif each other til we're blue in the face)
@BostonBaby1 You are a true gem! While I am not the most frequent poster, I am definitely a daily reader and you are definitely an inspiration! I hope that your positive thing to happen to you today is that you are having the most delicious nap and recharging your body.
@BostonBaby1 they cant ban you! I wasn't an everyday active member on the search function thread, but I was a daily reader! You have gone through so much and yet you still come on here everyday supporting EVERYONE here! Your presence here is too needed, a new thread can be created for a daily "gif-it-out" outlet (as I love the gifs you ladies find!!).
@BostonBaby1 let me just say that while I do post, I don't post on everything. But from what I have read, you have been one of the most (if not the most) encouraging, helpful, and respectful people on this board. For them to ban you would be a true tragedy, to me and the other women on here who need positivity and encouragement, and for people to call us out if whatever we are saying simply isn't likely to be true. You have had so much loss, which deeply saddens me, and I am so so sorry for that, and you are in my thoughts and prayers. I have had one miscarriage and one ectopic pregnancy, and even though the Lord is good all the time and got me through.. I was no where near as positive as you. You are still so helpful and such a crucial part of this board, though I understand if it gets to be too much for you.. If this is what is helping you heal, I think that's great. Life isn't fair, and I think this thread was greatly needed in light of everything that is going on.
**side note. I CANNOT figure out how to GIF. I have used the search function again and again and again and the post doesn't come up.. I am on mobile so I don't know if that's why, but if someone has easy access, if they wouldn't mind bumping, I would greatly appreciate it.
@BostonBaby1 they cant ban you! I wasn't an everyday active member on the search function thread, but I was a daily reader! You have gone through so much and yet you still come on here everyday supporting EVERYONE here! Your presence here is too needed, a new thread can be created for a daily "gif-it-out" outlet (as I love the gifs you ladies find!!).
You took the words right out of my mouth!! I was going to say this too!! We love you @BostonBaby1 ! It's totally not your fault the search function thread got shut down! We can always make a new thread very similar to the search function thread. Or a daily vent/gif thread! A thread is a thread. We can make as many as we want! So no need to get banned over a silly thread! You would be dearly missed if you got banned and we'd all be very sad!!! So please try not to get banned! Thanks. :x
@BostonBaby1 I guess Perhaps am misunderstanding the turn of this thread. I feel as if we are not welcome here, I only come here anymore for several girls I feel bonded too, and most of us hung out in the same place. other than those I have lost the desire to be here because evidently we are the only ones who are offensive, the ones calling us names are in the right and we are the problem. That's the message I feel like I am interpreting. Now it's early and I'm tired and pretty bothered but I guess I want contact with you ladies but I think I am done here.
Hey ladies, somehow I seem to have missed a good chunk of posts... I don't know why, but they weren't popping up for me. I feel like I'm taking crazy pills!
@BostonBaby1 I am truly amazed that you have such a wonderful capacity to keep giving. When you do get a sticky baby (and you will) you are going to be an excellent mom.
I find it very hard to believe that you would be banned, seeing as you haven't violated any of the guidelines.
On a different issue, I am usually way more disturbed by people who rely on religion or beliefs to support a position. I think it's good to argue/ debate-- this is forum, therefore it's an ongoing conversation! However, saying 'it's science, you're wrong' is not helpful. Even a link to something that explains it would be better. That kind of response doesn't help the poster or the commenter and, tbh, it makes whoever posted it look ignorant and jerky.
@BostonBaby1 I am truly amazed that you have such a wonderful capacity to keep giving. When you do get a sticky baby (and you will) you are going to be an excellent mom.
I find it very hard to believe that you would be banned, seeing as you haven't violated any of the guidelines.
On a different issue, I am usually way more disturbed by people who rely on religion or beliefs to support a position. I think it's good to argue/ debate-- this is forum, therefore it's an ongoing conversation! However, saying 'it's science, you're wrong' is not helpful. Even a link to something that explains it would be better. That kind of response doesn't help the poster or the commenter and, tbh, it makes whoever posted it look ignorant and jerky.
AGREE:
To ban someone who has been more than patient and kind is just childish.
Also, I will only argue science until I have an immaculate conception.... until then. Science on.
Due 11.16.17 Baby Girl 12.9.15
MC 2.1.15 @ 5 W - Chemical MC 4.7.14 @ 21 W - Turners Syndrome
@rain0831boww I will too, when I think it is relevant. There are some things that the medical field just doesn't have enough info on. It's hard to get accurate empirical data on pregnant women (especially with drug safety... ain't no one gonna experiment on a pregnant mama) and they get info on when women start to feel flutters (not kicks!) by what pregnant women report. Also, medical information is constantly growing and changing. Right now, radiation is a treatment for cancer. In the near future (hopefully) people will look back and think that using that is equivalent to leeches or something!
While I think it is important to do all the research you can (and a mother's duty to become informed about her changing body) we also need to use our heads and not just regurgitate what we read in a book. How many times has What to Expect been edited and overhauled since it was first written? I just think that women's intuition and feelings are really important as well. I mean, I remember in grade school being told to watch for numbness in the arm as a sign of a heart attack. They taught us all that, and it only happens to MEN! Science is not immaculate. It's our job to help improve it, right?
I mean this kindly.. After all of this, I've decided to stop answering the repeat posts. When we have long discussions about a topic and then the next day someone starts a new post about it I won't be the one explaining to use the search function, linking them to the other page, or answering the question. It feels rude to me when someone does that. This happened twice just in the past half hour. I wonder what would happen if all of the "mean"/pro-science girls did this...the boards would fall apart. That's why this is frustrating for some of us. We want a community where we can discuss things together instead of having a few women answer the same question over and over. How can we find balance here? I want to be kind and help people in need- how can that happen while I also keep my sanity?
--I have said this before -who do I at for this, who moderates/ changes these things - that the design of this board is sloppy. What board install is this? The search function is not the best, and the appearance of threads is not very streamlined. The problem is both that it is not used when it could be and that is not the best when used, making some less likely to use it. Things are also not always chronological. Who can I bring this up to?--
That aside, what is up for discussion? I think the tide starts to change when the overwhelming majority of posts are about the "other things to be discussed" rather than questions. That way the culture of the board changes (I mean culture as the way a group operates). Questions will never disappear, (which I know no one is advocating), but will become few and far in between.
I mean this kindly..
After all of this, I've decided to stop answering the repeat posts. When we have long discussions about a topic and then the next day someone starts a new post about it I won't be the one explaining to use the search function, linking them to the other page, or answering the question. It feels rude to me when someone does that. This happened twice just in the past half hour.
I wonder what would happen if all of the "mean"/pro-science girls did this...the boards would fall apart. That's why this is frustrating for some of us. We want a community where we can discuss things together instead of having a few women answer the same question over and over.
How can we find balance here? I want to be kind and help people in need- how can that happen while I also keep my sanity?
YASS girl. I think also, if people realized that the suggestion to look at previous posts is for their own benefit. Better, more detailed responses. Who wants to answer the same question repeatedly? It's only fair for both sides if people search prior to asking because of that. I don't get where being mean about suggesting that comes in...
Due 11.16.17 Baby Girl 12.9.15
MC 2.1.15 @ 5 W - Chemical MC 4.7.14 @ 21 W - Turners Syndrome
I mean this kindly..
After all of this, I've decided to stop answering the repeat posts. When we have long discussions about a topic and then the next day someone starts a new post about it I won't be the one explaining to use the search function, linking them to the other page, or answering the question. It feels rude to me when someone does that. This happened twice just in the past half hour.
I wonder what would happen if all of the "mean"/pro-science girls did this...the boards would fall apart. That's why this is frustrating for some of us. We want a community where we can discuss things together instead of having a few women answer the same question over and over.
How can we find balance here? I want to be kind and help people in need- how can that happen while I also keep my sanity?
Is this still about asking people to use the search function? I think the only way to actually change that behavior might be to stop commenting on the repeat posts. If you don't want something to happen, don't enable it to happen. Either copy and paste a link or don't say anything at all. Repeat posts help no one, that has been established. My problem is that I can't tell what is a repeat post or not-- I'm relatively new compared to some major voices and I'm not sure what to leave.
I am the person that reads manuals, guide lines, and signs before starting something. My mother would be proud.
The Bump guidelines suggest:
"But please don’t complain about reposts or crossposts. Other members may not have had the same opportunity to read it. And, naturally some conversations simply fit into two different forums. A link to the previously answered question might be more productive than a complaint about it."
It does seem like that's what folks have been doing today. Saw it in a few posts such as the UO post. It would be nice for a sticky post with the Summer Weekly posts for the days of he week. It would satisfy my need for a guideline. LOL
I am the person that reads manuals, guide lines, and signs before starting something. My mother would be proud.
The Bump guidelines suggest:
"But please don’t complain about reposts or crossposts. Other members may not have had the same opportunity to read it. And, naturally some conversations simply fit into two different forums. A link to the previously answered question might be more productive than a complaint about it."
So, @VegDumpling Bump validation.
It does seem like that's what folks have been doing today. Saw it in a few posts such as the UO post. It would be nice for a sticky post with the Summer Weekly posts for the days of he week. It would satisfy my need for a guideline. LOL
But they also say:
DO read current threads -- and older threads too!
DO use our Community Search [https://global.thebump.com/search/default.aspx] to find curated collections of information and articles by staffers, doctors and experts, as well as posts by other Bumpies on the topic you have a question about.
So let's be honest, the guidelines kind of contradict themselves.
I am the person that reads manuals, guide lines, and signs before starting something. My mother would be proud.
The Bump guidelines suggest:
"But please don’t complain about reposts or crossposts. Other members may not have had the same opportunity to read it. And, naturally some conversations simply fit into two different forums. A link to the previously answered question might be more productive than a complaint about it."
It does seem like that's what folks have been doing today. Saw it in a few posts such as the UO post. It would be nice for a sticky post with the Summer Weekly posts for the days of he week. It would satisfy my need for a guideline. LOL
But they also say:
DO read current threads -- and older threads too!
DO use our Community Search [https://global.thebump.com/search/default.aspx] to find curated collections of information and articles by staffers, doctors and experts, as well as posts by other Bumpies on the topic you have a question about.
So let's be honest, the guidelines kind of contradict themselves.
-------- It's less contradictory and more suggestive of how to handle it. Because to reposts and cross posts, there are lots of ways to respond to them. They are suggesting a helpful way to handle it.
But seriously... no one is dissatisfied with the design of the board? I'm beating a dead horse with that one. But seems this whole thread contains many beaten dead horses.
Oh no, I completely agree, the design is a hot mess. The search function has never been solid. I mean, you tell it to search only within one board and it still pulls all results. No argument there.
Frankly, I am confused by the rules here. Added to the UO thread last night because I thought I was supposed to use the search function and now it seems that those are weekly threads for specific days of the week that the "use the search" rule does not apply to. Jeezum crow. How do you people keep it all straight?
The weekly threads are traditional to TB. Usual ones are:
Wed: HDBD (Hump Day Bump Day) Thu: UO (Unpopular Opinion) Thursdays Fri: FFFC (Flame Free Friday Confessions) <---- which are never flame-free, so I've always hated that definition.
I've mentioned putting the date on the title of the threads each week to help make it easier to follow.
Adding to the life is not fair, I have to apologize with the deepest sincerity that the search function thread was shut down by the bump administration following a disagreement that I tried to take off of that post. Unfortunately, despite the fact that I have requested that they ban me personally and reopen the thread, that has yet to happen. I cannot tell you how horrible I feel. I am truly sorry. There's not much else that I can say other than that. I hope that The Bump administration will make the decision to ban me personally rather than close that thread. I know that it was the only one keeping many women sane and I am truly heartbroken over this. I should not have responded back to the person that was instigating with me. It is absolutely not an excuse and although I did not receive any warnings (*edited for correction, I did receive a warning this morning but not for anything having to do with that thread. It has to do with an apparent violation on this thread.) I absolutely did not think that the thread would be shut down. I feel especially horrible because since my loss, I do not belong on this board. I'm going to go crying to DH's shoulder now for the rest of the night.
Again, I am so sorry!
Obviously, I have not slept over this and still feel is awful this morning as I did late last night. What is no longer visible has obviously been removed based on the Bump administration's decision. Apparently I can not explain myself other than to say to you ladies that I am so sorry!
I am just reading this....and I am so sorry that you are having to deal with so much and on top of that this chick. I really hope you know that it is fine the thread went down...we can build a new one lol (build it and they will come??). Anyway I am so sorry for your loss and this uneeded harassment:(.
The weekly threads are traditional to TB. Usual ones are:
Wed: HDBD (Hump Day Bump Day) Thu: UO (Unpopular Opinion) Thursdays Fri: FFFC (Flame Free Friday Confessions) <---- which are never flame-free, so I've always hated that definition.
I've mentioned putting the date on the title of the threads each week to help make it easier to follow.
I am sure this is very likely in multiple places that I missed. But when the first UO thread got deleted, I thought there was only supposed to be one. Sorry for creating madness and chaos!
I think that one got deleted because of the meme used to start it.
I am the person that reads manuals, guide lines, and signs before starting something. My mother would be proud.
The Bump guidelines suggest:
"But please don’t complain about reposts or crossposts. Other members may not have had the same opportunity to read it. And, naturally some conversations simply fit into two different forums. A link to the previously answered question might be more productive than a complaint about it."
It does seem like that's what folks have been doing today. Saw it in a few posts such as the UO post. It would be nice for a sticky post with the Summer Weekly posts for the days of he week. It would satisfy my need for a guideline. LOL
But they also say:
DO read current threads -- and older threads too!
DO use our Community Search [https://global.thebump.com/search/default.aspx] to find curated collections of information and articles by staffers, doctors and experts, as well as posts by other Bumpies on the topic you have a question about.
So let's be honest, the guidelines kind of contradict themselves.
Yes! I do wish that there was a little bit more clarification on certain issues. Especially if the pump administration is going to throw out warnings. It's frustrating to receive a warning when you don't understand why you gotten it.
Oh no, I completely agree, the design is a hot mess. The search function has never been solid. I mean, you tell it to search only within one board and it still pulls all results. No argument there.
I wish it would let you pick from certain boards, i.e. December 2015 Mom's...would be awesome lol >-
Oh no, I completely agree, the design is a hot mess. The search function has never been solid. I mean, you tell it to search only within one board and it still pulls all results. No argument there.
I wish it would let you pick from certain boards, i.e. December 2015 Mom's...would be awesome lol >-
Oh no, I completely agree, the design is a hot mess. The search function has never been solid. I mean, you tell it to search only within one board and it still pulls all results. No argument there.
I wish it would let you pick from certain boards, i.e. December 2015 Mom's...would be awesome lol >-
You can search a specific board.
Ooh now I feel like a ditsy blonde, I didn't realize that you could narrow down the search! Thank you for letting me know! :-D
Hi ladies, just a little update. Unfortunately last night and this morning were spent in the ER. I don't want to pull up my other post so I thought I would just update here. If I seem to be missing in action, it's because I'm not feeling well and I'll be back on.
It is so unfair! Just kidding! It's just science people ;-) and, life is not fair!
* excuse my language because I don't intend it towards anybody. I just like the gif
Hi ladies, just a little update. Unfortunately last night and this morning were spent in the ER. I don't want to pull up my other post so I thought I would just update here. If I seem to be missing in action, it's because I'm not feeling well and I'll be back on.
It is so unfair! Just kidding! It's just science people ;-) and, life is not fair!
* excuse my language because I don't intend it towards anybody. I just like the gif
I'm sorry that your having such a shitty weekend!! I hope you feel better soon!
Hope you feel better soon! Praying for your recovery!
Thanks sweetheart! It was definitely a long night. Hopefully after this week I will start to feel better! And at least I know why I've been having such a hard time recuperating. I appreciate the prayers! They always help on top of medicinal intervention!
Re: Life Is Not Fair
Thanks sweetheart! I don't think that they are going to ban me in order to reopen up the thread. I could be wrong, but it just doesn't seem that that will happen. At least not this morning. And not fear, we will find other ways to have fun. With gifs!!!
I'm glad things have calmed down. I'm seeing a trend in many posts lately where someone doesn't feel a response supports their beliefs/wishes/whatever and starts calling people's bitches or cursing out whole groups of women. We are all not going to agree on anything. Being a parent comes with a ton of decisions and I'm sure there's no two women on here who would do everything the exact same way. So disagreement and discussion is not only normal but I think we should welcome it to broaden our views. But why does it always go so quickly into name calling out the "mean girls"? That needs to stop.
(I feel like we're at that gym rally in mean girls at the end)
**side note. I CANNOT figure out how to GIF. I have used the search function again and again and again and the post doesn't come up.. I am on mobile so I don't know if that's why, but if someone has easy access, if they wouldn't mind bumping, I would greatly appreciate it.
Anywho. Don't go anywhere.
@BostonBaby1 You are a true gem! While I am not the most frequent poster, I am definitely a daily reader and you are definitely an inspiration! I hope that your positive thing to happen to you today is that you are having the most delicious nap and recharging your body.
Jamie
:x
Baby Girl 12.9.15
MC 4.7.14 @ 21 W - Turners Syndrome
Baby Girl 12.9.15
MC 4.7.14 @ 21 W - Turners Syndrome
After all of this, I've decided to stop answering the repeat posts. When we have long discussions about a topic and then the next day someone starts a new post about it I won't be the one explaining to use the search function, linking them to the other page, or answering the question. It feels rude to me when someone does that. This happened twice just in the past half hour.
I wonder what would happen if all of the "mean"/pro-science girls did this...the boards would fall apart. That's why this is frustrating for some of us. We want a community where we can discuss things together instead of having a few women answer the same question over and over.
How can we find balance here? I want to be kind and help people in need- how can that happen while I also keep my sanity?
--I have said this before -who do I at for this, who moderates/ changes these things - that the design of this board is sloppy. What board install is this? The search function is not the best, and the appearance of threads is not very streamlined. The problem is both that it is not used when it could be and that is not the best when used, making some less likely to use it. Things are also not always chronological. Who can I bring this up to?--
That aside, what is up for discussion? I think the tide starts to change when the overwhelming majority of posts are about the "other things to be discussed" rather than questions. That way the culture of the board changes (I mean culture as the way a group operates). Questions will never disappear, (which I know no one is advocating), but will become few and far in between.
Ugh... What do pregnant people talk about? LOL
Baby Girl 12.9.15
MC 4.7.14 @ 21 W - Turners Syndrome
The Bump guidelines suggest:
"But please don’t complain about reposts or crossposts. Other members may not have had the same opportunity to read it. And, naturally some conversations simply fit into two different forums. A link to the previously answered question might be more productive than a complaint about it."
So, @VegDumpling Bump validation.
It does seem like that's what folks have been doing today. Saw it in a few posts such as the UO post. It would be nice for a sticky post with the Summer Weekly posts for the days of he week. It would satisfy my need for a guideline. LOL
--------
It's less contradictory and more suggestive of how to handle it. Because to reposts and cross posts, there are lots of ways to respond to them. They are suggesting a helpful way to handle it.
But seriously... no one is dissatisfied with the design of the board? I'm beating a dead horse with that one. But seems this whole thread contains many beaten dead horses.
Wed: HDBD (Hump Day Bump Day)
Thu: UO (Unpopular Opinion) Thursdays
Fri: FFFC (Flame Free Friday Confessions) <---- which are never flame-free, so I've always hated that definition.
I've mentioned putting the date on the title of the threads each week to help make it easier to follow.
Jamie
Jamie
Yes! I do wish that there was a little bit more clarification on certain issues. Especially if the pump administration is going to throw out warnings. It's frustrating to receive a warning when you don't understand why you gotten it.
I wish it would let you pick from certain boards, i.e. December 2015 Mom's...would be awesome lol
I wish it would let you pick from certain boards, i.e. December 2015 Mom's...would be awesome lol
You can search a specific board.
Jamie
Ooh now I feel like a ditsy blonde, I didn't realize that you could narrow down the search! Thank you for letting me know! :-D
It is so unfair! Just kidding! It's just science people ;-) and, life is not fair!
* excuse my language because I don't intend it towards anybody. I just like the gif
I'm sorry that your having such a shitty weekend!! I hope you feel better soon!
Together since 2006
Married 01.17.15
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