Totally agree! It drives me crazy that people feel that they suddenly have license to comment on your body/weight gain. FTM here, and that's been the most challenging thing I've experienced so far, and I'm only 17 weeks! It's only going to escalate. I wish I could just say, "You look a little chubby today, too!" Jerks!
Say it!
I had a girl at work tell me right before I announced the awesome news "well this one hasn't eaten sushi in like two months and you can just tell..." 1- why are you paying THAT much attention to what I'm eating and not eating.. creepy.. and 2- thanks for the not-so-subtle 'you've gained weight and it's obvious' comment.. I wanted to punch her in the face
Apparently if you say "so are you pregnant" very quietly or just pantomime a belly it's not rude. Or at least people seem to think that. Saying it quietly doesn't make it less weird, it just means that i have to ask you to say it louder and just own being nosy.
I know it's rude, but I kinda wish people would just ask me if I'm pregnant. In my head, I imagine they're all just assuming I'm just getting fat, and I hate that.
Me: 28 DBF: 30
BFP#1 07/10/14 EDD 3/14/15 Diagnosed with Blighted Ovum 08/18/14
FTM here and I try soooo hard to use google before asking anything, and I also try to use that search function as muchhh as possible. Things a life saver.
My confession: I'm absolutely terrified of breastfeeding, and I actually get really uncomfortable when I see someone in public doing it, even covered. Ahhh I have no idea how to cope with it. I know it's a natural thing but I freaks me out. Hoping my opinion changes when my little one is here because my BF would like me to try and I would like to as well, but I don't think I can even attempt it in public.
My second confession: I haven't spoke to my BF going on 4 days now because I caught him looking at some young hotties at our pool. Normally I wouldn't care and I'd check em out with him. For some reason my feelings got super outta whack about it and I've cried each day since. Ughhh! So dumb I know.
I am tall, overweight, and have lost weight so no bump yet. I guess my FFF is I love my 2 year old to death but I have very little patience now and I feel like I am yelling at her a lot more. I've also have my husband as a support person up until about 2 months ago and I dont know if he really wants to "work on our relationship" or if he just know he will get screwed in a divorce so he is playing me by putting it off. I love you ladies and love coming here. Sometimes I am more of a lurker and some times I am a poster
My confession: my 14-month-old ruffian has a chipped front tooth that I discovered yesterday. I have no idea how or when it happened. Sigh. I see a long series of stitches and casts in this child's future.
My confession #2: I freaking love pregnancy hormones once the first trimester is over. I have tons of energy, I'm calm and happy, and I want to have sex pretty much all the time. My husband loves pregnancy hormones too.
My fffc: I have a wife of a friend who is a FTM...it's cute until she posts "i am so awkward now! I can't sit in the car for 30 min to go grocery shopping!"...at 20 weeks... i want to be like "sweetie, you don't know awkward yet!" And your 20 weeks bump is smaller than my 17 weeks bump (3 kids in 3 years).
Confession- I'm not excited to go maternity clothes shopping. I know I need to go, but I need to save the money for the hospital bills and baby's needs! The goodwill and thrift stores nearby don't have a real maternity section at all so my plan to be super frugal is already failing.
Not sure where you're at with weight gain and bumpage, but going up a size or two (especially in maxi skirts and dresses) may help keep you in Goodwill clothing. Target also has 25% off maternity through the 31st if you have the cartwheel app. I am trying to do the same as far as keeping a frugal wardrobe budget.
I've also heard there are decent mommy swaps on FB, but that's something you'd need to research for your area.
I had a coupon code for a "free" (I paid nearly $15 for shipping) belly button band that you actually wear you regular pants with but you don't have to button your pants. The pants button to the belly band. It has worked great so far and has helped me make it through the end of the school year without needing to invest in maternity clothes. I also love maxi dresses because the are so forgiving of my ever growing baby bump.
so this borders an u/o possibly but I hate hate hate hate hate side ruching on maternity tops....
I am tall and have a super long torso, so the ruching kills an otherwise long enough shirt! My friend gave me a bunch of clothes since she's done breeding, and there are several ruched shirts which I am pretty sure won't be long enough by the time my bump is big. I am kind of excited for the longer shirts in general, though!
My fffc: I have a wife of a friend who is a FTM...it's cute until she posts "i am so awkward now! I can't sit in the car for 30 min to go grocery shopping!"...at 20 weeks... i want to be like "sweetie, you don't know awkward yet!" And your 20 weeks bump is smaller than my 17 weeks bump (3 kids in 3 years).
I have bump envy. My friend is 7 months pregnant with her 5th and her bump is a lot smaller than my 14 week bump. Her's is so small and cute and round and just perfect. Mine is odd shaped (kind of like a pear), huge, and I just feel like I look fat instead of looking pregnant. I've never had a nice looking bump with any of my pregnancies.
Shamelessly bumping so I can AW the fact that I finally found a workable 3rd row SUV today! I took my car in for my free service and found a 2011 Pilot with the DVD crapola and everything. The seat slides so you can actually reach the 3rd rear facing kid without craining over a fold-down seat. Thank you @LizQ2 thank you for the SUV push, I tried to like the minivan but I couldn't.
My FFFC: Backstory: we are having to find a new home for my dog, who I've had for over 5 years. I'm really torn up about it, but she is very anxious and unhappy around small children, especially once daughter started crawling, and I know that she will be a lot happier in a new home. She is going to visit with her prospective home this weekend (is getting picked up within the hour) and hopefully they will think she is a good for for their home. Anyway, my SIL put up a post on the Facebook about how your pet is an extension of your family and there is no excuse to abandon it and she would rather have to live in a tent than give up her dogs!! Maybe this is more of a rant than a confession, sorry guys, but I just got SO MAD!!! I have a thousand responses in my head, but just didn't respond to it and shut off Facebook.
So, my confession: I hate it when people are totally oblivious to the feelings of others on Facebook!! (Bragging about how perfect and wonderful their life is, or how productive they are. / Stupid pointed accusation statuses without specifically calling out the person you're upset with, etc...)
I'm sorry about your dog. I'm worried about 1 of my 2, she's not anxious or aggressive but she has no calm button haha. She jumps on us and "punches" us and is not very aware of personal space. I'm worried she could hurt baby. BUT she's really smart so I'm holding out hope she'll learn once he gets here.
I think you're doing what's best for your family AND your furry one, so don't let people get to you
@mom4liak I am 6ft and have a long torso. I wear about a L XL top in maternity. The rouching fit me until about 38-39 wks about when baby dropped. . The pics are of my last pregnancy week 38 and then week 39. I have been pretty lucky in my last 3 pregnancies to get good balls for bumps . But for women that tend to go out all over I think rouching could be a problem
My FFFC: Backstory: we are having to find a new home for my dog, who I've had for over 5 years. I'm really torn up about it, but she is very anxious and unhappy around small children, especially once daughter started crawling, and I know that she will be a lot happier in a new home. She is going to visit with her prospective home this weekend (is getting picked up within the hour) and hopefully they will think she is a good for for their home. Anyway, my SIL put up a post on the Facebook about how your pet is an extension of your family and there is no excuse to abandon it and she would rather have to live in a tent than give up her dogs!! Maybe this is more of a rant than a confession, sorry guys, but I just got SO MAD!!! I have a thousand responses in my head, but just didn't respond to it and shut off Facebook.
So, my confession: I hate it when people are totally oblivious to the feelings of others on Facebook!! (Bragging about how perfect and wonderful their life is, or how productive they are. / Stupid pointed accusation statuses without specifically calling out the person you're upset with, etc...)
I just had a consult with a guy a couple of weeks ago whose little dog had attacked his baby pretty much unprovoked. He showed me pics of the baby with bite wounds all over his little face. This was an 18# little lap and dog and the father was right there within arm's reach when it happened. I certainly don't advocate for getting rid of pets for petty reasons, but some dogs just don't mix well with children. So I don't know the details of your situation, but you have to put your child's safety first. Always. And you didn't send her to a shelter, you are rehoming her, so that's great. Hope it works out for all involved!
So I'm a first-time mom and think posting "guess the sex" posts are the dumbest thing I've ever heard of and I'm very glad I haven't actually seen any. I'm only on here like once a week haha.
My FFFCs:
I am overweight and have only lost weight so far, but I'm still growing and expanding in every direction so it looks like I've gained thirty pounds. My belly button hasn't popped either so I just look ridiculous right now.
Eff doctors whose policies classify me as obese. BMI is a worthless measurement.
I want a DRINK.
The "friend" I have who is five weeks ahead of me, refuses to even acknowledge my pregnancy, flat out told me she doesn't want to "bond with anyone at all" over this major life event, and said "well mine is coming first" when we inadvertently picked the same girl's name? I hope your baby cries nonstop for WEEKS. You're the worst.
Anyone who gives me grief about still not having energy can kiss my ass.
Crying over EVERY happy or sappy commercial is getting old.
Re: FFFC (I haven't seen one started yet)
Say it!
I had a girl at work tell me right before I announced the awesome news "well this one hasn't eaten sushi in like two months and you can just tell..." 1- why are you paying THAT much attention to what I'm eating and not eating.. creepy.. and 2- thanks for the not-so-subtle 'you've gained weight and it's obvious' comment.. I wanted to punch her in the face
My confession: I'm absolutely terrified of breastfeeding, and I actually get really uncomfortable when I see someone in public doing it, even covered. Ahhh I have no idea how to cope with it. I know it's a natural thing but I freaks me out. Hoping my opinion changes when my little one is here because my BF would like me to try and I would like to as well, but I don't think I can even attempt it in public.
My second confession: I haven't spoke to my BF going on 4 days now because I caught him looking at some young hotties at our pool. Normally I wouldn't care and I'd check em out with him. For some reason my feelings got super outta whack about it and I've cried each day since. Ughhh! So dumb I know.
I love you ladies and love coming here. Sometimes I am more of a lurker and some times I am a poster
My confession #2: I freaking love pregnancy hormones once the first trimester is over. I have tons of energy, I'm calm and happy, and I want to have sex pretty much all the time. My husband loves pregnancy hormones too.
My fffc: I have a wife of a friend who is a FTM...it's cute until she posts "i am so awkward now! I can't sit in the car for 30 min to go grocery shopping!"...at 20 weeks... i want to be like "sweetie, you don't know awkward yet!" And your 20 weeks bump is smaller than my 17 weeks bump (3 kids in 3 years).
I've also heard there are decent mommy swaps on FB, but that's something you'd need to research for your area.
I had a coupon code for a "free" (I paid nearly $15 for shipping) belly button band that you actually wear you regular pants with but you don't have to button your pants. The pants button to the belly band. It has worked great so far and has helped me make it through the end of the school year without needing to invest in maternity clothes. I also love maxi dresses because the are so forgiving of my ever growing baby bump.
I think you're doing what's best for your family AND your furry one, so don't let people get to you
My FFFCs:
I am overweight and have only lost weight so far, but I'm still growing and expanding in every direction so it looks like I've gained thirty pounds. My belly button hasn't popped either so I just look ridiculous right now.
Eff doctors whose policies classify me as obese. BMI is a worthless measurement.
I want a DRINK.
The "friend" I have who is five weeks ahead of me, refuses to even acknowledge my pregnancy, flat out told me she doesn't want to "bond with anyone at all" over this major life event, and said "well mine is coming first" when we inadvertently picked the same girl's name? I hope your baby cries nonstop for WEEKS. You're the worst.
Anyone who gives me grief about still not having energy can kiss my ass.
Crying over EVERY happy or sappy commercial is getting old.
I'm ready to buy stuff. When can I do that?!