My sister and one of my friends/co-workers know. My friend and I were pretty much on the same cycle, so I had asked her if she had got hers yet, then told her I was waiting on mine. I confided in her after I got the BFP. I plan on telling my parents and ILs after our first appointment at 8 weeks. After that, it will be around 12-14 weeks before I tell anyone else.
We have told no one!!! Although we have wanted to spill the beans many times. We plan on telling our immediate family on Fathers Day (10w) but if people figure it out before then, we are okay with that. So far so good!
Since this is was our very first pregnancy, and for personal reasons, we announced to everyone very soon. I'm 8+3 today and everyone knows already. We announced the day after Mother's Day. It's not something I personally wanted to hide. For future pregnancies I may change my mind. However, this felt right for us right now. It seems to be unpopular to announce so early now but we love and accept all the support we have right now. Just goes to show how different everyone is
We are in the same boat. All of our close family and friends knew that being able to have another baby was a big deal to us, so we did let everyone know already, mostly to put them out of their misery because everyone asked all the time. If anything happens I know that I have all the love and support I could ever need to get through. It isn't for everyone but it seems to work perfect for us.
I told my mom and my sisters- we are all very close and so there is no way I could keep this a secret from them. DH told his mom. That's it until I get to 12 weeks.
After 1.5 years TTC, IUI #2= BFP 12/2/12
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Just my DH and one co worker knows. I only told my coworker since she sits next to me and I have been complaining like crazy! I plan to tell more once I have my first Dr. apt in 2 weeks.
My sister knows - she guessed when I was 4 weeks 4 days. She always figures these things out! I also told my best friend. I wasn't planning to but I flew out to visit her for a weekend. She told me she had some big news, and even though it was early she wanted to tell me in person. She's pregnant and due 2 days before me. I spilled the beans two seconds after that! Otherwise we're waiting to tell our parents until the first ultrasound at 10 weeks and the rest of our immediate family after 12. We'll announce to extended family and friends after my sister's wedding in July (I'll be about 16 weeks). I want to make sure the spotlight is totally on her.
I thought it would be tough, but we're enjoying keeping the news to ourselves. With DS we told everyone at 5 weeks, so this time it's been really nice to adjust to the news privately.
I haven't told many. I'm not totally ready to let the cat out of the bag yet. I've told - my family, my two best friends, my boss, one girl from work bc she needed me to watch her cat over the summer. My SO has told the two people he works with and his mom and sister.
I'm waiting until I'm 12wks or as close to it as possible as long as I can hide it to tell everyone. I like my little secret
And I had to tell coworker because I bartend at a restaurant and can't lift kegs or cases of beer etc. Also have been sick at work multiple times.
I'm 7 weeks we'll probably wait for any kind of social media announcement, like maybe when we find out the gender. Extended family we plan on slowly telling them at BBQ ' S on 4th of July I'll be about 11wks
I just told my husband after knowing for a week. I was going to try and wait to tell him until Father's Day, but I obviously didn't make it. I had to tell someone. We agreed not to tell anyone else until much closer to 12 weeks.
Certain people in my family know. I'm sure everyone on my husband's side knows by now. They're so excited! I told a handful of people at work and I had to tell my office manager so I could get off work for appointments. I told her it was a secret for now, but she announced it to everyone during an office meeting. Ugh.
Also, I asked my mother not to put it on Facebook. She said she wouldn't. She's not excited at all. But she put up a post the other day pretty much announcing it. So much for a secret.
my husband and I had the quick conversation about this as soon as I told him. He wanted to know my opinion. And my opinion is, I'm pregnant. I HAVE a baby. For as long as I have this baby I'm going to celebrate and enjoy every moment. I know that means if I miscarry then a lot of people will be sharing their condolences with me, but I don't think that will make my pain and grieving any less. If I keep it a secret then I'm just greiving in private and didn't get a chance to fully experience the joy of being pregnant and sharing my awesome news with everyone. so first we told our 17 and 18 year old boys, then my brother and sister-in-law, and then the entire Internet via Facebook, text messages to everyone.
The Grandparents know (had to explain why I wasn't drinking the wine….) and close friends. AND NOW my daughter's preschool class knows. Last time I trust a 5-year-old.
My SO, my two BFFs who live out of town, and my old landlord. Haha. The last one isn't as weird as it sounds--she is also my dental hygienist and she was asking me about meds today, tried to confirm I was still on BC, I said I was off it, and she instantly asked, "Are you trying to get pregnant?!" I'm a terrible liar, so I just confessed.
im 7 weeks and we have told both of your immediate families which was such a joy and its so nice to have especially our mums in the loop for support and advice (as this is our first!) as i have had a lot of nausea i have also told my immediate boss at work as it is great to have him alongside and understanding the situation
we are going to wait until 12 weeks to do the "big announcement" and i cant wait!
We had to tell MIL as we live tigether..my MIL started calling all of her relatives.. as this will be the first baby in my inlaws which made me very stressed as it is too early. one of my husbands cousin, she could not conceive for 2 years and married right after us and she is a very jealous kind of person. so so stressed out and I an afraid of a miscarriage every single day.
My staff and boss know, I have so many drs appts it's easier that way. Our parents, our best friends, and my aunt (who is like my mother). That's all I am telling until probably 5 months lol. We are especially keeping it tight lipped around my son, he took our last loss exceptionally hard and I don't want him going through that again if possible.
Only my boyfriend, best friend, 2 mutual friends and his father know. My boyfriend is so excited he couldn't wait any longer. Next is to tell my mom. Maybe after my appt today if I don't feel better before I go into work
I'm 8w3d....I told 2 best friends and then my hubby told a few and now all of his friends know:( I had to tell my work and don't feel guilty about that. Our parents know too. It's comforting to know we are not the only ones who are waiting till the 12 week mark to let VIPs know
Just parents know being that I'm only 6 weeks. I'll tell other friends and family after 12-14 weeks. I've known too many girls that tell early and loose it and I'm not one to have a pitty party so I'll wait.
My mom and my sister knew the day I took the test. For my first pregnancy (baby's heart stopped in my 6th week) my mom told me grandparents, who then told their siblings, who then told their children, etc. I was getting congratulatory emails and FB messages for weeks after our loss, which was extremely painful.
This time around, my mom told my dad and that was it. My sister and her fiance know. My MIL and DH's step father know. And a few choice good friends know. I wanted these people to know because they are all extremely supporting and positive people. It's nice to be able to talk to family about my anxiety, hopes and dreams and feel supported. We plan on telling both sides of the family in July.
DH, my coworkers, and my mother found out. Though my mother can not hold water (tells everything she hears) I was really upset. Bc DH and I wanted to keep it to ourselves and only tell select few. She told ppl who had no business knowing
We plan to make a big announcement to my family in late June, and his family in early July.
DH and I are the only ones right now. I wouldn't mind a few others knowing, but DH has a much harder time getting through m/c when people know and we have to untell them and then they're sad too. I was glad for the support but I guess it really took a toll on him. So no one except my parents and best friend even know we've lost more than once, and no one knows we've lost 3. I can keep it to myself for the sake of DH, but sometimes it would be nice if some people knew what we've been going though the last two years. I will say that even though I appreciated the support with the first one, there were a few close friends I told who I regretted telling because they were really awkward around me for a long time after we lost and they got really uncomfortable if I ever mentioned our m/c. It's a grief a lot of people don't understand.
Married 6/1/13
BFP #1 7/2013 MMC 9/17/13
BFP #2 5/2014 MC 6/15/14
BFP #3 11/13/14 (Found in ER with ruptured cyst) Diagnosed MC 11/15/14
BFP #4 4/2015 MC 7/1/15
BFP #5 10/21/15 EDD 7/3/16 Praying for our rainbow!
Thank you @winnie1122. You worded that perfectly. Until you've suffered this kind of loss you can't begin to truly know how you ( and your loved ones) will handle it. I hope these are our sticky babies :x
I had my scan last Thursday, I'm 8 weeks and all our friends and family now know. If anything happens I would like the support. We had to let the cat out the bag early as I was flying out on a girly holiday the next day after I took the test, (they would have guessed if I didn't have a single alcohol drink the whole time I was away) and because I believe family should know first, we quickly told our parents and siblings before I broke the news to the girls. After everything was fine in the scan we decided to tell the rest of the families and friends. Everyone's different, there's no rules around it go with what you feel is right. X
A few co workers know and my administration. I work in a Special Ed. Classroom with students who are labeled Emotional Disturbed. There can be instances where safety can be a concern and I needed to let them know in case a student needed to be removed. My hands are now tied of those kinds of situations.
My mom and dad know as well as a few other family members. We are waiting to tell his parents and sister after our appointment next week. We got together some cute reveal gifts for them . I was too ecstatic to not call up mine right away and blab.
And we each told our 3-4 closest friends. We understand the risks of announcing early, but we feel that if something does happen, those who know are going to be the supportive group of people that we may need, God forbid something tragic happens.
My husband and that's it! I'm not quite ready to confide in anyone else... I want to become as educated in pregnancy as I can before I start getting advice from people (everyone's an expert!)
@sjames2 I totally feel what you're saying about your mom!
I found out the morning that I left to fly to NJ to visit a close friend of mine, and I told her right away (5 weeks) because it would be my only opportunity to tell her in person! Told a close friend that I work with at 6 weeks, telling parents/grandparents at 8 weeks after our dr. appt tomorrow! The rest of the world will find out after our pregnancy announcement photos are done, I'm not set on waiting for the 12 week mark, and we will likely announce by week 10.
I'm 6wks 1 day, and we were planning to wait to tell our parents and close friends until after my first appointment at 9wks. But one of DH's aunts figured it out last weekend, so now all of his aunts probably know. I've been so sick this weekend that DH told me this morning that he thinks I should just go ahead and tell my parents. So I'm probably going to tell my best friend later today and break the news to my parents tomorrow. It's my dad's b-day tomorrow, so I think that will be special. I was wanting to do a special reveal with an u/s pic for them, but oh well. Life happens.
Me: 30 DH: 35
TTC #1 - Jan 2015
BFP on 5/13/15 DD born 1/24/16 TTC #2 - Jun 2017 BFP on 8/24/17
Re: Who knows your news?!
Married: 7.23.11
DD:10.17.12
EDD #2!:1.17.16
I thought it would be tough, but we're enjoying keeping the news to ourselves. With DS we told everyone at 5 weeks, so this time it's been really nice to adjust to the news privately.
I've told - my family, my two best friends, my boss, one girl from work bc she needed me to watch her cat over the summer.
My SO has told the two people he works with and his mom and sister.
I'm waiting until I'm 12wks or as close to it as possible as long as I can hide it to tell everyone. I like my little secret
I told my 2 best friends the day I got the BFP
And I had to tell coworker because I bartend at a restaurant and can't lift kegs or cases of beer etc. Also have been sick at work multiple times.
I'm 7 weeks we'll probably wait for any kind of social media announcement, like maybe when we find out the gender. Extended family we plan on slowly telling them at BBQ ' S on 4th of July I'll be about 11wks
Also, I asked my mother not to put it on Facebook. She said she wouldn't. She's not excited at all. But she put up a post the other day pretty much announcing it. So much for a secret.
Married: 07.14.14
BFP: 04.05.15
as i have had a lot of nausea i have also told my immediate boss at work as it is great to have him alongside and understanding the situation
we are going to wait until 12 weeks to do the "big announcement" and i cant wait!
We plan on telling both sides of the family in July.
We plan to make a big announcement to my family in late June, and his family in early July.
@sjames2 I totally feel what you're saying about your mom!
DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17