Who knows your news?!

AngelEsshaki

Hi Everyone,

I am just curious if anyone is telling special VIPs yet? I am 5 weeks and my husband really wanted to tell his mom, I was okay with that because they/we are very close with her. I will definitely wait until the 12 week mark to announce to the world but just wondering if any of you have told certain special people? I am considering telling my sister-in-law... she is a mother of 4 and just had her fourth in March! I just think it would be nice to have someone to talk about all the different changes we are experiencing!

So... who are your special VIPs?

Mamabeagle

If you want someone to talk to while keeping your secret, just come talk to us!

5 weeks 1 day, DH best friend and girlfriend know, our parents know, my 4 closest girlfriends know. I suck at secrets.

In two weeks he's going on a bachelor cruise to Mexico and will probably tell his guy friends.

ChipMonster

My parents and brother know (but only because I had to go back to work and I work with my mom and she would've known that something was up. I wouldn't have told them otherwise.)
My closest work friends know and one of my cousin-in-law knows. That's about it. I will probably tell some of my best friends when the time seems right...

jennyboom39

Everyone at work knows-I had to let them know as I am a Manager in fast food and I stopped lifting anything too heavy. My whole family knows as well as DH's...we're not good at keeping these things quiet.

vvitchhazel

I'm 7w4d and little by little we've been revealing to some VIPs. I wanted a strong support system of something happened, so my parents found out the day we got our BFP. I also told 3 of my cousins and an aunt, because we're very close--like sisters and a second mom. Not to mention, one of my cousins just had a baby at the end of March and another is due in November. We told his parents and brother on Mother's Day and my brother the following day. I told my coworkers right away because I manage a very small health bar with one bathroom and I just wanted to be upfront about it. My partner told two of his coworkers, two of his friends, and his uncle and partner because he's hoping it'll help with a job opportunity. One of my friends guessed because I turned down a beer and I'm a terrible liar who always says yes to craft beer. We're waiting until at least 12 weeks to do the big announcement, but I feel okay telling people here and there. No regrets!

Monilee1017

I told my parents, in laws, grandparents and siblings. My parents and in laws already told aunts, uncles and cousins. I don't care and did the same with my other two. I figure the more people who know the more prayers the baby gets.

Someone asked me why I tell early and won't I be upset if I have a miscarriage and I said I will. But I would be upset even if people don't know and now people will know why. Miscarriages don't need to be kept secret. My family is very open and we talk about these things. DH's family doesn't.

amayc

We told my parents and sisters as soon as I took the test.  My husband told his best friend and business partner and we waited for his mom to visit this past weekend to tell her in person.  Everyone else is going to have to wait.  My husband and I knew we needed to tell those listed now because they will be our support system if something were to happen.

abbi1995

My parents my closest friends my partner and her closest friends.

boxers&bling

Only DH knows right now. I'm 4w4d so still super early. We plan to tell my parents at 8weeks bc it's their anniversary. This will be the first grand baby on both sides so I'm ready to tell both sets of parents as I know they will be crazy excited!! Will probably tell my best friends this weekend bc the secret is killing me!

Brianna0915

Our parents and siblings know, and two of our best friend know but that's it until 12 weeks

Knottie1433440300

3 of our friends know! We will tell our parents after the first appointment if everything looks good!

vvitchhazel

abbi1995 said:

My parents my closest friends my partner and her closest friends.

Pardon me if I'm prying, but how did your parents take it? I know you were worried about telling them awhile back.

vvitchhazel

@Monilee1017 That's kind of how we feel. We're not announcing it to the world, but god forbid, if something does happen, I don't want to suffer in silence.

Paige6410

Parents and grandparents. Close friends and my work.

Heron422

Told DH, mom, and bestie when I got a positive test, then dad and in laws once we got a positive US! Keeping mum until 12w when we are going to snail mail announcements to close family only.

rubber ducky07

A couple of friends have guessed but other than that, we haven't told anyone. I'll bee 9w on Friday and I have my first appointment on Thursday. So we plan to tell our families this weekend!

MrsTeacher25

My parents, in-laws, my grandmother and our siblings know. I also had to tell one of my grade partners because I have to keep leaving my classroom to pee! Haha! That's it though.  We have an ultrasound on June 8. If that is good, we will tell some close friends and our principals (we are both teachers). Other than that we are waiting until the 13 week mark or so.  

bkc92

My parents, in/laws, our best friends, and my sister know.

mamaksweez

NO ONE but my husband!!! We told our family at 13 weeks with our first and the rest of the world on our Christmas card about 2-3 weeks later.

Actually I told a waitress at a pizza place to make sure I didn't order anything I shouldn't eat.

AngelEsshaki

These are my thoughts as well. At this point, it is in God's hands and I want prayers for the little one! I don't mind people knowing, I would never want to go through this experience along, good or bad! I am going to wait until my first ultrasound on Friday (I will be 5weeks 2 days).. only because it doesn't feel real yet!! 

Thank you for your response!

svartola

boxers&bling said:

Only DH knows right now. I'm 4w4d so still super early. We plan to tell my parents at 8weeks bc it's their anniversary. This will be the first grand baby on both sides so I'm ready to tell both sets of parents as I know they will be crazy excited!! Will probably tell my best friends this weekend bc the secret is killing me!

I am 4w5d! We are in the same boat! First grand baby on both sides! I told my best friends ( can't keep a secret either) and my husband told his family since they live far away in Canada. We are going to tell mine this weekend in person after my doctor's appt this Friday! We are too excited to keep the secret in!

sjames2

3 of my friends know. One actually is pregnant also. 7 days behind me. We will be telling our parents after our first appt of June 8. If, God forbid, something does go wrong before then we will tell our parents then. Our moms tend to ask so many questions that it drives us crazy plus they add worry that I already worry enough.

emzy86

I have only told my husband and 1 best friend. Oh and I told my GP tonight at work. We want to hold out until 10 weeks but it is a struggle because my colleagues are onto me as I'm constantly sick, my parents are going to be onto me because I'm having dinner with both and inlaws on the weekend and meal time is not so good! Even my little sister aged 12 asked me if I was ok!

willashbaby

My Mom, two childhood friends, my Grandmother, and several close coworkers. The coworkers would have known something was up anyway so it was easier to just tell them. I'm glad I did too because I have people to talk to about all of this and if things go wrong I'll have people who know. We're saving everyone else for awhile later.

boxers&bling

svartola said:

boxers&bling said:

Only DH knows right now. I'm 4w4d so still super early. We plan to tell my parents at 8weeks bc it's their anniversary. This will be the first grand baby on both sides so I'm ready to tell both sets of parents as I know they will be crazy excited!! Will probably tell my best friends this weekend bc the secret is killing me!

I am 4w5d! We are in the same boat! First grand baby on both sides! I told my best friends ( can't keep a secret either) and my husband told his family since they live far away in Canada. We are going to tell mine this weekend in person after my doctor's appt this Friday! We are too excited to keep the secret in!

Oh I hear ya! This secret is killing me! I want to tell every rando I see on the street but I pull myself together lol. Super jealous your appt is so early.. I have to wait until the very end of June. My hospital won't see me until I'm 10 weeks... Boo. My MIL lives pretty far away as well so we were trying to decide how to tell her. What did you do with your husbands parents? Just pick up the phone and tell them?? I'm thinking that's what we will probably do.

bmmims

Immediate family and several friends know.  The friends were supposed to be kept a secret but a family member decided they couldn't keep a secret.  I wouldn't had been so mad if it were some of my closest friends that found out.

Now were keeping it more under wraps as there are some medical issues that have arisen per my blood work and we are going to see a maternal fetal specialist on June 12 when I will be 11 weeks.

Now were thinking it will be closer to 20 before we make a public announcement.

hplunkett2883

We have told everyone. His job knows, mine knows only because I couldn't hide my MS. Our moms, dads and siblings. I have not and will not post anything about it on Facebook though, Maybe after the baby is born then I will post one little pic and announce to the world.

Jenbug116

My parents and in laws know. I have 4 close friends who also know. Otherwise immediate family will find out over the 4th of July because we will be together and I will be 13 weeks. Probably won't announce to social media til around 20 weeks, if at all.

mamaksweez

I'm kind of surprised by how many people are telling already!

bdamico123

My best friend, my family, and his mom and grandmother. Also my boss, because I felt like I needed to tell her since I was so sick all the time. DH is getting really antsy to tell his friends, I was wanting to wait until 12 weeks, but I think we may tell after our first appt. at 9 weeks! Its so hard to keep it a secret.

bdamico123

Hey why isnt my ticker working

DaphneMoon1

My parents and 1 friend knows. We are announcing this weekend to the immediate family. We are 8 weeks and have seen the heartbeat on ultrasound.

mwalters13

We are 6w 5d along & have told our families & have told some of our closest friends. (Most of the friends who know have children & we were told early on with them as well.) I have only told one coworker for now, just so someone is aware. It's nice to have the ones who do know aware, because I have people I can talk to about what is happening. I say go with what feels right to you.

chica25

We are 5W1D my hubby and my mom know (I couldn't keep the secret from her) she's SUPER excited also my hair stylist, and the photographer that's doing our pregnancy announcement We will wait till father's day to tell my in laws. I bought a bib that says: I love my grandma and grandpa. This will be their first grandchild. I'm do excited!!! It's hard to keep this secret tho. I won't announce it in social media until probably 15W. I already had my first appt but my u/s is not until mid June so I want to wait for that first. The only symptoms I have right now is sore boobs and fatigue. I go to bed by 7:30 or 8 o'clock now. Can't wait to hear our baby heart's beat

mvhyde

DH knows (of course). My mom knows. In the past I tell her as soon as I have a BFP. 

My MIL and my Brother and SIL know. That's cus I am going to visit my aunts this weekend and don't think I can keep it from them (seeing as I am behaving like a slug with food poisoning). 

claireloSC

We have told anyone we would want to talk to about a miscarriage, if that happened. A lot of people know we were TTC and struggling so it felt right to us. So we have told our siblings and our closest friends. They were all really excited for us and it's great to have their support and understanding.

Sovvy

A couple friends, my birth photog and a few people from a group I know off TB (on FB). 

Vamason89

I feel like I've told everyone!! Ours parents, best friends, and aunts/uncles/cousins all know. We have lived in 3 states during the course of our 4.5 year marriage so we have friends all over and it didn't feel right to not have them in the loop! I know I would want their support of it ends in a miscarriage anyway so that's fine. Posting to social media will wait until the second trimester though!

thismplsgirl

I've told my 3 best friends but we won't share with family until after our ultrasound tomorrow. I'm 8 weeks, 2 days and have had 2 miscarriages since our second daughter was born in July '13. My dad and DH's parents were a complete wreck after my second miscarriage in late Jan of this year. We decided that they shouldn't have to suffer so much so we will only tell them if things are looking good.
Our policy had previously been to share with family right away but since everyone deals with tough situations differently, we decided to wait this time. We have 2 healthy daughters and will be happy even if we can't have another but hope for good news to share!

babybluu

Since this is was our very first pregnancy, and for personal reasons, we announced to everyone very soon. I'm 8+3 today and everyone knows already. We announced the day after Mother's Day. It's not something I personally wanted to hide. For future pregnancies I may change my mind. However, this felt right for us right now. It seems to be unpopular to announce so early now but we love and accept all the support we have right now. Just goes to show how different everyone is

AngelEsshaki

babybluu said:

However, this felt right for us right now. It seems to be unpopular to announce so early now but we love and accept all the support we have right now. Just goes to show how different everyone is

It's so good to hear this attitude. I do not plan on announcing on social media at all until baby is born but I want to share this with my close friends and family. More prayers is fine by me!