Hello, let me introduce myself first..
For the first 30 years of my life, everything was smooth and worry-free. I was my parents’ most beloved child, found my true love in college, and happily married him after graduation.
At work, I was my boss’s most valued employee. Whenever I was in charge of a project, colleagues would inevitably say, “Oh, then I’m totally at ease.” I was constantly named “Employee of the Year,” with generous bonuses every year.
Later, I started my own business. Within just three months, I had broken into the market and started making money. By the fifth month, I was earning twice my previous salary. Growth was steady month after month. Right when the business needed more hands, I serendipitously met an amazing partner, and the company reached a whole new level.
Really, it seemed like at every step, whatever I needed, a pair of hands would always place it right in front of me, just in time.
My Two Girls: Ellie & Mia
Meet Ellie, My Firstborn
In 2020, my husband and I decided to have a child. After trying for over a year, we finally got the news in 2021 that a little one was on the way. In 2022, we welcomed our first child, Ellie. She made me a mother.
She is utterly adorable—big eyes, rosy skin, chubby little hands. Every time I look at her, I can’t help but give her a kiss. She is pure joy, and I love her more each day.
But as a first-time mom, I faced unprecedented difficulties. The postpartum tearing wouldn’t heal, and the pain was excruciating. Clogged milk ducts made my breasts hard as rocks. The severe sleep deprivation… And what was even more crushing was that, with zero parenting experience, I was clueless when faced with her unexplained wailing, night terrors, refusal to nurse, constipation, diarrhea, fevers… I desperately searched online, longing for one accurate, truly useful answer!
It was during this time that I thought, once I make it through this “dark” path, I must leave a light on for other new moms.
And Then Came Mia
Ellie had just turned one when I got pregnant again. In 2024, we welcomed our second daughter, Mia.
Completely different from Ellie, Mia is a great eater and sleeper. Although she had her fussy moments in the first two months, starting almost from month three, she became super easygoing. She feeds on schedule, gradually sleeps through the night, loves her solid foods, and adapted quickly when I had to stop breastfeeding due to mastitis.
This made me realize just how vastly different babies can be! It made me even more determined to write about my experiences.
Why I Had to Start This Blog
The Catalyst: A Life Pivoted
After Mia was born, my business also began to decline sharply. I had no choice but to close it and become a full-time mom. My work no longer involves Excel and Word, but instead revolves around changing diapers, washing bottles, making baby food, and managing household chores…
This has been a monumental challenge for me. All my past achievements seem irrelevant now. Managing two young children has brought me a sense of frustration I’ve never known before.
The Daily Reality
They are always fighting over things. When one is in my arms, the other immediately demands to be held too. When I try to cook, Ellie wants me to read her a book. When I attempt to load the washing machine, Mia has a diaper blowout, and I must drop everything to change her…
By the time I finish all that, I see the cup of hot coffee on the table has gone cold again. And it’s not until evening that I remember, “Oh my goodness, the clothes are still in the hamper, unwashed!”
Of course, being a mom is filled with happiness, but that doesn’t negate how hard it is.
My Promise to You
Because I’ve walked this path myself, I won’t just tell you how joyful motherhood is, like many websites do. I want to share my real, unfiltered experiences so every new mom can find a “companion” here.
I want to tell you: you are not alone. What you’re going through, I’ve been there too. Your breakdowns, your helplessness, your moments of losing control—I’ve had them all. You don’t need to feel guilty. This is just a small, necessary stretch of the journey for every mom.
My Hope for This Space
I really want to share my parenting experiences—not just the warm, glowing moments, but to honestly document the pitfalls I’ve stumbled into, the tears I’ve shed, and the “survival wisdom” I’ve scraped together in utter exhaustion.
The Goal: A Mom’s Toolkit
I hope this blog becomes a “mom’s toolkit,” filled not with vague theories, but with:
- Practical Tips: Like how to quickly figure out why a baby is crying, tried-and-true methods for dealing with clogged ducts, or how to efficiently manage the daily grind with twins (or two under two) solo.
- Pitfall Avoidance Guides: Sharing the baby products I regret buying the most, and those “game-changer” parenting hacks. Letting you know which parenting anxieties you can let go of, and which principles are worth holding onto.
- A Community for Moms: I hope my stories connect me with more moms like you. We can cheer each other on in the comments, share our own tricks, turning the storms we face alone into a journey we walk together.
The Bigger Vision
My previous career taught me to analyze data, solve problems, and optimize processes. Now, I’m applying all those skills to this new “position” of Mom. I want to prove that a mom’s value is absolutely not confined to the home. The mindset, resilience, and creativity we built in our careers can shine just as brightly—perhaps even brighter—in this more complex, long-term “project” of raising humans, and can even be transformed into a force that helps others.
My hope is simple: that every mom who opens this blog can let out a sigh of relief and say, “So it’s not just me.” Then, she can find a bit of practical info, a dose of comforting solidarity, and return to her sweet, chaotic mom-life with a little more confidence and a little less weight on her shoulders.
This road? Let’s walk it together.
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Re: Weekly appt check-in (week of 5/25)
Last week at 36.2 wks our OB stated baby girl Jordyn is measuring the same size of a FullTerm baby@7.4 lbs. 90th% tile via US, OB stated if Jordyn goes to 40 wks she'll definitely be over 9lbs. (OB happens to be one of Texas OBGYN Super Doctor's) so I'm pretty sure she's pretty spot on if not 1-2 oz off. Since our OB is so awesome she referred us out for a second opinion just to make sure her calculations are correct. Keep in mind Im not diabetic, very healthy all testing, blood pressure have been great through out our entire pregnancy as well as Group B strep have come back Negative so there isn't really cause for concern for me or babies health, my cervix was very soft but no dialation just yet (happy to know because once I start to dialate it doesnt stop, referring to my previous three pregnancies). My Partner and I conceived through Fertility so our EDD leaves no room for error, which our OB then stated so Im wondering after this stage 2 US tomorrow will OB try and schedule induction!!! Baby Jordyn is in the vertex presentation and nurse said she has dropped lower in to my pelvic so I have been walking, eating delicious spicey food and making love none stop with Hubby. Hubbies Birthday is May 29th that would be awesome if she came by then.
Not sure what to think just looking forward to both appointments this week, I will update as information comes in...
2nd round exp 8/20/18.
So I opted to see the midwife that delivered my son. She checked baby's heartbeat, size, and then checked me. I am still 60% effaced and almost 3cm. She was a little more rougher than my doctor this time around and afterwards feeling a little crampy. She even said my cervix has moved to the front.
But her, my doctor, and even the receptionist doesn't think I'll make it to my 39 week appointment.
Just in case though I scheduled it at 4pm on June 3rd (my prediction for LO's bday was June 4th
But apparently, I have a "cervix of steel." No dilation at all, which I'm happy about. Hang in there a little longer babies.
Also, the nurse called me "surprisingly agile" for almost 36 weeks with twins. That made me giggle.
My weekly BPP this morning. Had to do a little maneuvering to get baby moving, but all is well, passed 8/8.
Next week I'll get the swab and another growth scan. C section still set for June 22nd.
~~~ EDD for Baby #2 6/28/15~~~~
It sucks even more since they didn't seem to care about me still having spells of strong contractions and my appointment schedule got all messed up because next week is already booked for most normal slots. I managed to get squeezed in for Thursday but still not cool.
Baby's head is still down, his heartbeat is great, no concerns with my BP.
Been having iron issues all along, causing racing heart rate, dizziness, etc, but I'm alright feeling like this for a few more weeks as long as baby is ok!