37 weeks and frustrated with everything

skye3110 · May 2015

Have had enough of being pregnant and had enough of people. I've had severe morning sickness from 4 weeks and I'm still vomiting daily which has taken a huge toll on me physically and mentally and I've gotten to the point I just want to scream and cry all the time. Feel like no one understands how hard it's been, I gave up my job at 12 weeks as I was too sick and have been stuck at home since then. My friends that have kids haven't been any real support as they don't really understand just how sick I've been, I try to talk to them about it and they compare their pregnancy or make me feel bad about complaining. Sometimes I just want someone to listen to me while I complain that I've been throwing up non stop for days! Or a hug! My best friend of 14 years stopped talking to me in February for reasons I still don't know and it's been so hard not having her to talk to. I love my partner but I just wish he'd step up a bit more and help out. Feel like I've got the weight of the world on my shoulders and no help or support.
I'm hoping the way I'm feeling will pass and once my princess is here I can start to feel like a person again and start building myself back together.
I feel so awful complaining when I should be grateful that I have a beautiful miracle growing inside me but it has been the hardest 9 months of my life and getting so near to the end of it all my coping mechanisms are diminishing.

klkonwi · May 2015

We have several threads this would go under. Please look through them. We have one titled "angry pregnant ladies" we have daily symptoms and weekly randoms. If your just in your 9th month And just now started posting then introduce yourself on one of those threads. Most of us have shared our life stories over this 9 mo period.
Also there's a depression thread.

mishmardhiono · May 2015

I think you need to deal with these feelings now before bub comes along otherwise I think this will have the potential to manifest it's self and make the next phase really difficult. I don't know how you should deal with it, counsellor, writing down your thoughts & burning them, yoga, swimming anything but everything is goig to become more severe and extreme I think when you have hormones raging, sleep deprivation and a feeling of being in an the deep end.

Good luck, I hope you can find what will help but don't continue on like this. You've taken a big step talking about it.

msnelson38 · May 2015

Hang on in there honey. I definitely know exactly how you feel. This has been the loneliest pregnancy for me..I mean, I still have friends around and they try their best to act interested but at the end of the day with me being tired all the time, with leg cramps that have me walking like I'm 80 and not able to partake in alcoholic beverages my social calendar is non existent to say the least. I spend a lot of time alone with time to think and feel pretty down most of the time and no one really gets it even when i do express myself..All I can say is hang in there you're almost at the end of the tunnel where a beautiful baby is waiting for you :-)

klkonwi · May 2015

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kbbtah · May 2015

@klkonwi yes. Just YES.

kmama2013 · May 2015

So sorry you are having such a rough time. I agree with finding someone to talk to like a counselor. A friend of mine is havin g a similar pregnancy as you and throwing up daily multiple times a day and I know she is just miserable

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

I'm 36 weeks and my stuffed nighttime snugglebunny Peter needs surgery on his foot.

klkonwi · May 2015

This must be the kind of support your looking for ?!

klkonwi · May 2015

@mellymar don't worry I'll send flopsy,mopsy, and cottontail to come comfort him during the surgery.

btm013 · May 2015

Guys, the poor girl is about to lose it and needs some support. Let's try to help.

I'm sorry you are going through this. We've all hit a breaking point in the pregnancy at some point and as @klkonwi said, if you check the symptoms and anxiety Thread you will see you are definitely not alone. Mine was Monday of this week. I was
Inconsolable over something that was out of my control. By Wednesday I had such anxiety about giving birth and having a child I actually thought "ok, I've changed my mind!!" Haha.

I agree with others that you need to talk to someone about it and you definitely need to let your SO know about your concerns in regards to him stepping up. All of this building up inside is not healthy and could lead to PPD.

I'm not sure where you live but if the weather is getting nice out, try to take short little walks or even just sit in the sunshine for a bit. Still socialize with friends who don't aggravate you. Go out to dinner with your SO. Netflix a comedy. Try To distract yourself as much as possible. You are in the homestretch!! Baby will be here soon and we will all be here to help build you back up!

MrsWiggleWaggle · May 2015

My solution is funny gifs....this will so be my kid and when it happens I'm gonna be like ¯\_(ツ)_/¯. Seriously I don't think mommy panic ever ends. Don't expect to get your baby and be all good again. Prepare for anxiety now, if that means support from a professional or friends and family then that's what it means.

Also remember that your princess beautiful miricle or what're you call her will at some point disappoint you, shit or puss all over you, piss you off and make you want to die. Don't put so much pressure on the kids presence to be the notice that makes everything better...she won't. So get help.

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

Well said, @MrsWiggleWaggle! And ouch! That kid gets it in the head as the girl swings back over him, too! Yikes!

Not trying to diminish your feelings, OP. A lot of us are scared (including myself) and maybe thinking who knows what kinds of thoughts. Have a look around the board, we've recently talked about anxiety (which is a fairly recurring theme on daily symptoms), depression, anger, stress. Feel free to join into any discussions

In the meantime, here is a fearsome lion taking down a giraffe

Knottie64157109 · May 2015

@btm013 totally! The lack of compassion makes me sad. Your response was perfect. I find when I hit a brick wall walks work very well.

Best of luck to you @skye3110 , if you live in So Cal message me and I can go on a walk with you.

NotISaidtheCat · May 2015

Have you spoken to your doctor about how much you're throwing up? Because it sounds like Hyperemesis Graviderum (look it up) and that can be extremely serious. I'm surprised you've apparently gone this long without treatment, though there isn't much that can be done now. Ask about Zofran.

ETA: I absolutely get how you feel, HG really does take a huge toll mentally as well as physically, especially when no one gets that it isn't just morning sickness. Still, I can't diagnose you, so you need to talk to your doctor. Keep track of your vomiting in case he doesn't initially take you seriously (sadly, this happens a lot, too) so you can get whatever treatment is appropriate for you at this time. Also seek counselling if you need it, don't just expect all the negative emotions to go away once you've delivered. Good luck.

skye3110 · May 2015

I came on here yesterday in the hope of finding some form of support and understanding and instead I ended up feeling worse than to begin with.
I don't have much of a support system and I tried to reach out to people I thought may understand and support rather than shut people down and make them feel bad about themselves.
I'm well aware of hyperemesis graviderum, I was told I had it at 8 weeks and have tried every treatment possible and nothing really has helped. I am seeing doctors and councillers but seeing I live in a small country town in Australia I was recommended to go online to connect with people that may understand being no one has even heard of HG here before.
Thank you to those that had kind words, I really do appreciate it in the midst of the negative.
We should be supporting each other not tearing each other down and making people feel worse when they're already pretty fragile.
It's been made pretty clear I've come to the wrong place for support and friendship.

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

Hold on now. What part of 'have a look around' and 'feel free to join discussions' was not welcoming? And @NotISaidtheCat *was* trying to help you by talking about HG.

I'm gonna say it again, have a look around and you'll see that a lot of us are feeling down or are dealing with medical issues that are making it a tough road. Join into these discussions. In daily symptoms ladies are talking about throwing up and aches and pains... There ARE people here to relate to, but you would know that if you had looked around to begin with. This is a source of frustration for posters (when people dont look around), and for you as well cause you are missing out on the good stuff by not having a look around first. It would really benefit you to have a look around. Use the search button to look up anxiety or vomiting. We talk about these things over and over. There IS sharing of ideas and commiseration. But again, you have to look around to know that.

Wishing you well with your little one and hope you get some kind of relief from your vomiting

lovethatcolosun · May 2015

I'm sorry you have to deal with HG my cousin had it and it was awful. Just try to focus on the fact you only have three weeks left!!! Check the other specific boards on The Bump. There may be one that relates perfectly to what you're going through. With that said I hope you stick around and read through a lot of the threads that are on here, you may find someone that you really connect with. After being a part of this group for a while you will see that we like thread organization, sarcasm, laughter, and above all support. I know it may not feel a lot of support on your particular thread, but we've had a lot of new comers in the last two weeks that have not spent the time to read through some threads that might directly relate to what they're going through. Please take a few minutes to go through a few pages of the board and see if you can find some threads you like. Wishing you well.

NotISaidtheCat · May 2015

skye3110 said:

I'm well aware of hyperemesis graviderum, I was told I had it at 8 weeks and have tried every treatment possible and nothing really has helped. I am seeing doctors and councillers but seeing I live in a small country town in Australia I was recommended to go online to connect with people that may understand being no one has even heard of HG here before.

Well excuse me for reading what was basically a vent with a list of symptoms and worrying for your health. You didn't tell us you knew you have HG and I was worried you weren't being treated for something potentially life threatening. Sorry you already know all about it (but didn't think to tell us that)! Excuse me for offering up what knowledge and advice I have to give after enduring three HG pregnancies, two of which nearly killed me because no one understood that I wasn't just being a weenie about regular morning sickness.

The other users are right, there were more appropriate threads for your post than an entirely new one. Threads where you would have gotten the sympathy and made the connections you want. You could have even found some here by reaching out via personal message to those of us who disregarded the redundancy of your post rather than reprimanding us en masse.

virginiaunicorn11 · May 2015

skye3110 said:
Have had enough of being pregnant and had enough of people. I've had severe morning sickness from 4 weeks and I'm still vomiting daily which has taken a huge toll on me physically and mentally and I've gotten to the point I just want to scream and cry all the time. Feel like no one understands how hard it's been, I gave up my job at 12 weeks as I was too sick and have been stuck at home since then. My friends that have kids haven't been any real support as they don't really understand just how sick I've been, I try to talk to them about it and they compare their pregnancy or make me feel bad about complaining. Sometimes I just want someone to listen to me while I complain that I've been throwing up non stop for days! Or a hug! My best friend of 14 years stopped talking to me in February for reasons I still don't know and it's been so hard not having her to talk to. I love my partner but I just wish he'd step up a bit more and help out. Feel like I've got the weight of the world on my shoulders and no help or support.
I'm hoping the way I'm feeling will pass and once my princess is here I can start to feel like a person again and start building myself back together.
I feel so awful complaining when I should be grateful that I have a beautiful miracle growing inside me but it has been the hardest 9 months of my life and getting so near to the end of it all my coping mechanisms are diminishing.

So let's see... You've alienated your best friend of 14 years who won't even explain why. Your friends don't want to hear it, and your husband also can't help. So you turn to internet strangers, and amid their positive statements, you focus on the negative, attack the woman who asked about your physical symptoms, and throw a tantrum about how we should all be supporting each other.

You're a real peach. Call a therapist. Maybe it's not everyone else. Maybe it's you. Hope you get some help for that nasty chip on your shoulder.

Westypet · May 2015

Hyperemesis Warriors group on FB is a great support group that's specific to HG. These ladies suffer from mild to severe HG and provide lots of insight.

It helped me when I was suffering weeks 4-30.

A general message board like this may not give you the specific help/support you need. Try an HG specific group. Good luck!

HayesRN13 · May 2015

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47923ang · May 2015

Can we leave this poor girl alone and let the thread die? Is salt on the wound necessary?

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