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June 2015 Moms
HoosOnFirst
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Weekly worries and anxieties
HoosOnFirst
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It seems like we are all getting to that stage! What silly or not so silly things are worrying you?
For me:
1. I asked DH to count fingers and toes at birth because I haven't had an ultrasound since 20 weeks and "who knows what had happened since then?"
2. I'm worried I'll go into labor either at work or on my commuter train even though I'm working from home starting week 39.
3. I'm worried LO will have my nerve disease (50% chance). It's not degenerative or fatal but I still feel guilty.
4. I'm worried she still be blonde... Like what do I even do with a blonde kid lol? (See what I mean about silly?)
5. I'm worried my mom won't listen to my request and will show up while I'm in labor.
For me:
1. I asked DH to count fingers and toes at birth because I haven't had an ultrasound since 20 weeks and "who knows what had happened since then?"
2. I'm worried I'll go into labor either at work or on my commuter train even though I'm working from home starting week 39.
3. I'm worried LO will have my nerve disease (50% chance). It's not degenerative or fatal but I still feel guilty.
4. I'm worried she still be blonde... Like what do I even do with a blonde kid lol? (See what I mean about silly?)
5. I'm worried my mom won't listen to my request and will show up while I'm in labor.
Re: Weekly worries and anxieties
2. I'm also really nervous that baby is going to come while DH is on an audit for work. He audits places up to 1.5 hours from our apartment, and when he goes on audits he carpools with his co-workers and boss, so basically he leaves when his boss feels like leaving. So... what happens if I go into labor at noon on a work day when they're out in the middle of nowhere? thankfully I think DH finally decided that he's going to start driving by himself, but I would still prefer if he stayed at the office for the next few weeks (which is itself 40 minutes from us, so still not ideal). Thank God babies *usually* take hours to arrive!
3. The root of all my anxiety: when will baby get here?!!!! This is driving my control freak self crazy. And unfortunately there is no solution to this one.
I'm worried about going into labor and needing to be at the hospital before my parents arrive to take care of DS. They live about 3 1/2 hours away. I have two back up plans for friends to come over to watch him, but it still freaks me out.
My biggest worry is transitioning from one kid to two. How will my DS who will be 3 shortly after DD's birth handle everything? How will his sleep be affected, what will his level of jealousy be, will he be nice and gentle with her, will he feel left out....oh the list goes on and on. :-SS
I'm also worried about the fact that I was recently (within the last 2 weeks) diagnosed with Sjogren's syndrome, which is an autoimmune disease. Apparently there are 2 different strands, A and B and I have A which I learned could cause complications with the baby's heart. What could happen is the nerve endings could become damaged during development and the electrical currents would not be able to full pass from one end of the heart to the other. I saw a specialist and he said that since baby's heartbeat is so strong (and is consistently strong) we don't need to worry about it, if they had known that I had it around 18-24 weeks that's when they would have done additional testing. I'm still just worried something may not be right, plus my OB mentioned that we will have to watch for a rash as there is a tiny chance he could develop lupus
I also tested positive for GBS and hope that I get to the hospital in time to get the proper antibiotics in me for long enough that I don't have to worry about that on top of everything else!
Most of this stuff is just my over-active hormones taking control as I've talked to all my medical professionals and they've assured me everything is going fine with him but I still can't help but worry!
:-S
I don't feel any symptoms that suggest I'm close, but I'm worried they'll find something (like low fluid, high bp, etc).
I'm 34 weeks, 5 days. Hang in there a little longer, babies!!!
I'm worried about going into labor at home and scaring my son.
I'm worried our childcare won't respond or be available when we need them.
I'm worried my daughter won't love me. Ridiculous, I know. But my family is so messed up, all I can think is that she won't like me and will resent me.
I'm worried she'll have red hair and look like my MIL.
I'm worried she'll be just like me.
He said this same thing actually happened in the 80's with diclegis. And it was pulled and now clearly it's back! So no worries.
A) I worry that my baby will have Eosinophilic esophagitis (sp) (allergy cells attack the throat) @laurendutch because my husband has it and I won't be able to feed him anything........ Bleh.
C) I'm sometimes afraid I will not be able to handle being a mom. Like that I'll forget him in the car or some crazy shit like that!
Ok so now that I've expressed these. Back to trying to be positive today!
1) My MIL throwing a fit because she won't be invited into the delivery room and I'm having my mom and husband in there
2) I will be one of the few moms that go from starting labor to baby delivered in less then an hour
3) A breeched baby
4) I will go into labor before 38 weeks
Also I'm with @Kresla on my MIL freaking out. She has acted calm
And collected so far but has asked a lot of questions about who will be in the delivery room. Um, not you!
I'm worried that baby's lungs won't be fully developed or will have respiratory issues from him being in my toxic cholestasis womb for 10 weeks! I'm an L&D nurse at a high risk hospital with one of the best nicus in ny but I just want to be able to experience the joys of birth that I see my patients have! I'm also more worried about my husband than me if the baby does need nicu time!
I'm also worried about my dogs with the baby. I have 2 siberian huskies one who I know will be fine but the other was a rescue we've had about a year and is a bit rough sometimes and doesn't realize how big he is! My hubs and I have been working with him a lot and took a training class but he just turned 2 and is just a little wild and The rescue organization thinks there was some abuse and neglect before we got him. I would be devastated if it didn't work out with him and the baby and we had to give him back to the rescue and my other dog would be so depressed too! They are best friends!!
Thanks for the vent!
This dream pretty much sums up my anxieties -
1) that DH is not going to be able to make it for labor & delivery because we just found out yesterday that his chief is sending him up to be on duty at a location that's almost 3 hours away, maybe even 4 considering there is a ferry schedule to contend with, for the next 2-3 weeks. So, every day that he is at work (2 days on, 2 days off), until about a week before my EDD, he will be 2-4 hours away (or farther, as they patrol out from that location northward)
2) that I'm going to go into labor early and not be prepared. I have held off buying a lot of clothes and swaddle blankets because I have been told that some local ladies are going to gift me stuff like that. I have bought SOME onesies, and I have a few swaddle blankets, but I'm sure it isn't sufficient should baby come today. I've been planning to wait another week then buy some more swaddles and onesies
3) my team green curiosity is getting the better of me. AND that I'm waffling back to thinking I may have a boy, thanks to the Angry Pregnant Ladies thread and all of you with girls reinforcing the OWT about moodiness. A boy, a girl, whatever... But both DH and I have been thinking (my Dr calls it my maternal instinct) we're having a girl for so long it will be a bit of a mental adjustment.
And lastly, not in my dream -
I'm frightened that I'm going to muck up this whole thing.
Also I'm afraid my GD has messed up baby girl for life and she will develop type 2 diabetes in youth and hate me forever.
I'm terrified that something will happen to the baby and that I won't be able to handle it. I've been blessed with an easy pregnancy and it's like I'm waiting for something to go wrong.
I suffered from panic attacks years ago and they came back for a bit about a year after I lost my mom, so I'm worried about anxiety after I have the baby. Then, I worry that I'm going to make him an anxious kid which I don't want.
Mostly, as some of you have said, I'm worried about messing up somehow. I guess I'll just pay for his therapy later....
1.) My fiancé works an hour and a half away but his commute can sometimes take two and a half hours because of traffic. I'm really worried that I'll go into labor and have to go to the hospital without him.
2.) My GBS test was positive so now I'm worried about not getting to the hospital in enough time to get the antibiotics.
From what I've read, I'm not alone in having these two particular worries. So thank you, ladies, for sharing your own concerns. Knowing I'm not the only one out there does help a little!
I am really sorry your husband has to be so far away during that time! If it wasn't creepy I would literally mail you swaddle blankets!!!!!! Thinking of you!
I also am GBS positive and I worry that I won't make it to the hospital in time to get the full dose of antibiotics!
Thanks for this post! It was nice to get that off my chest!!
I don't envy the folks who work in that office. I had such a hard time getting someone on the phone, I thought the line must be out of service; I kept getting a busy signal. Finally called the mayor's office and she told me I was the 6th or 7th person she'd talked to today who said the same thing, but that the line was working and you just had to keep calling until you got through. She said the summons had just been mailed out for the month so EVERYONE was calling. Having never been called for jury duty in any other city I've lived in, I don't know if this is just Memphis, or if other cities have similar issues.
@VanessaE19 I'm sorry for your worries. Sending you positive vibes and prayers that he will be there.