Please use the search feature

heawilliams · May 2015

Hello January Mommies!

Just a friendly reminder,

Before you post a question, please lurk around the board, even 2-3 pages back to see if your question has recently been answered.
If you haven't found your answer, please try using the search function.

If you're mobile, it is located at the bottom of the January 2016 thread (see attached file). If you're on the computer, it is located to the top right of the screen.

Here you can enter keywords and search past threads in which you may find the information you are looking for. Also, it will look on other BMBs so you can essentially see into the future.

Many of us are going through the same emotions, worries, and symptoms and have created several discussions about such. When we start several threads about the same topic, it busies up the board and makes it difficult for those who have a unique or new question to have it answered.

We are all excited to be here, to be pregnant and we all want to give the best possible advice and support that we can.

Best of luck to everyone throughout your pregnancy journey

(I would like to give a special shout out to @Embuzz247 for writing this post in the December 15 BMB. I updated some parts to add instructions. Thank you!)

@bumpadmin - can was also make this a sticky? Thanks in advance.

Edit: To make a sticky.

mollyj931 · May 2015

Lljbean · May 2015

Sooooooooooooo, I really can't post my own threads about my bloat, cramping, common symptoms?!

cyanope · May 2015

Yes!

Snoopylovesbelle · May 2015

:-bd

nicoleann21 · May 2015

laurabean22 · May 2015

This.

TinyDancer51510 · May 2015

Thank you!!!!!!!!!

Paige6410 · May 2015

Also, there's this new crazy thing called Google....

vvitchhazel · May 2015

Slow clap!

heawilliams · May 2015

Paige6410 said:
Also, there's this new crazy thing called Google....

I know right. I think it may be too hard for some to spell. GOOOOOOOOOOOOGLE or GGOOOGLEEEE or .....

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bspletzer · May 2015

People in this birth club are so rude i am sorry that some people are worried and just want answers without having to go onto a thing with 50 comments its a lot to go through. And yes they could look it up on google but isnt that what this is suppose to be used for? Support and question answering. Not saying this post is bad but the comments on this and other are just not needed

wlux · May 2015

bspletzer said:
People in this birth club are so rude i am sorry that some people are worried and just want answers without having to go onto a thing with 50 comments its a lot to go through. And yes they could look it up on google but isnt that what this is suppose to be used for? Support and question answering. Not saying this post is bad but the comments on this and other are just not needed

I think the previous posters have something people call a "sense of humor".

Please take that into consideration and join in the fun.

If all 300+ people on the BMB posted we would lose important questions, losses and things like that.... There is a reason to organize the insanity.

heawilliams · May 2015

bspletzer said:
People in this birth club are so rude i am sorry that some people are worried and just want answers without having to go onto a thing with 50 comments its a lot to go through. And yes they could look it up on google but isnt that what this is suppose to be used for? Support and question answering. Not saying this post is bad but the comments on this and other are just not needed

Stick around and you too will get frustrated by the same post over and over and over and over and over again. We are an understanding group of ladies that want to answer questions, but really find it a waste of time to answer the same question over and over... and you get my point. Using the search feature is quick and easy and saves everyone time.

I actually find it rude that people feel their needs are above others and just expect/demand answers to their questions without doing some of the foot work first. Most of these questions would be answered with just a quick search allowing regulars to spend their time answering new posts.

Do me a favor and read the thread titles for the last 6 pages and you will get my point.

bspletzer · May 2015

I am not saying its not a good thing to look but ive read quite a few posts today and people just say go look at another post. But for some people like me back in march when yes i want an answer right away because i was cramping and was scared and i had no one else to talk if someone would have been like go look here for the answer i would have been very hurt. And trust me i have a sense of humor but i dont find it funny. Im sorry im not here to argue i understand what your saying but it just irritated me seeing this stuff posted on everything

nicoleann21 · May 2015

bspletzer said:
People in this birth club are so rude i am sorry that some people are worried and just want answers without having to go onto a thing with 50 comments its a lot to go through. And yes they could look it up on google but isnt that what this is suppose to be used for? Support and question answering. Not saying this post is bad but the comments on this and other are just not needed

No one is telling people not to post about their symptoms or not to participate, on the contrary -- please do. We have a great symptoms thread every day and lots of other fun posts. If you have something unique going on you want to talk about, a GTKY, or even something that hasn't been brought up in a while go ahead and create a thread. Making your own symptoms post is going to take away from your experience -- you'll get less responses if your question was already brought up somewhere else and it clogs up the feed. We had 2 posts on the main page today about a lack of symptoms, 2 about nausea (which were stacked on top of eachother at a few points) and yesterday there were 3 in a row about measurement that were phrases almost exactly the same. This doesn't make for a smooth bump experience for anyone involved poster included.
So please participate, just be mindful of other people's experience and not just your own. This is a great and supportive community, post like this are just there to try to get everyone on the same page in order to get the most out of our experiences.

wlux · May 2015

bspletzer said:
I am not saying its not a good thing to look but ive read quite a few posts today and people just say go look at another post. But for some people like me back in march when yes i want an answer right away because i was cramping and was scared and i had no one else to talk if someone would have been like go look here for the answer i would have been very hurt. And trust me i have a sense of humor but i dont find it funny. Im sorry im not here to argue i understand what your saying but it just irritated me seeing this stuff posted on everything

I understand your irritation but if there are a bunch of the same posts your post might not get answered at all.

We don't want to completely ignore people that need answers and that's why we are letting them know where they might find piece of mind.

nicoleann21 · May 2015

whitneylux said:

bspletzer said:
I am not saying its not a good thing to look but ive read quite a few posts today and people just say go look at another post. But for some people like me back in march when yes i want an answer right away because i was cramping and was scared and i had no one else to talk if someone would have been like go look here for the answer i would have been very hurt. And trust me i have a sense of humor but i dont find it funny. Im sorry im not here to argue i understand what your saying but it just irritated me seeing this stuff posted on everything
I understand your irritation but if there are a bunch of the same posts your post might not get answered at all.

We don't want to completely ignore people that need answers and that's why we are letting them know where they might find piece of mind.

^^This. I think it's more welcoming to point someone in a direction that might help them rather then ignore them. Ignoring is way more discouraging.

jchristinhall · May 2015

It is a little hurtful to hear those comments. I was in the ttc board for 6 mos and thought they were really rude to newbies on there, so I was relieved to get to come to another group. And I have found the same thing here... This app has made me hesitant to post and/or ask questions because of the rude comments. If the questions are redundant or repetitious, just keep scrolling and maybe someone with a little more patience will answer our inquiries.

heawilliams · May 2015

bspletzer said:
I am not saying its not a good thing to look but ive read quite a few posts today and people just say go look at another post. But for some people like me back in march when yes i want an answer right away because i was cramping and was scared and i had no one else to talk if someone would have been like go look here for the answer i would have been very hurt. And trust me i have a sense of humor but i dont find it funny. Im sorry im not here to argue i understand what your saying but it just irritated me seeing this stuff posted on everything

I realize your not here to argue, but as PP mentioned to be ignored would have been worse.

I've been in your shoes. I have a 5 year old daughter and have had miscarriages. So I know what is coming down the road and what several of these ladies are feeling (including you). I had a CP in February. I started to bleed after visiting my doctors office. I was scared shitless. However, instead of letting fear get the best of me. I went to my initial BMB (Oct15) and searched for bleeding and I found the same answers over and over again. Instead of creating my own thread and pushing a new thread down, I took everyone's advise and called my Dr. Posting my own thread would have not only pushed down a newer relevant thread, but I would have gotten the same results (call your Dr).

We do want to help and we care about our future mommies, but why we refer them to other threads is for the above reason. It could have been answered in a previous post. Instead of shooting from the hip and just posting a thread, it works better in this community if research is completed first.

heawilliams · May 2015

jchristinhall said:
It is a little hurtful to hear those comments. I was in the ttc board for 6 mos and thought they were really rude to newbies on there, so I was relieved to get to come to another group. And I have found the same thing here... This app has made me hesitant to post and/or ask questions because of the rude comments. If the questions are redundant or repetitious, just keep scrolling and maybe someone with a little more patience will answer our inquiries.

I'm very sorry to tell you this, but several of the mommies on this board graduated from the TTGP board.

I don't know if your mobile, but to have to scroll down and go back pages just to see if a new question has been asked is a bit excessive/cumbersome/time consuming. It looks like you posted at the same time I did, so I hope you come back in and read my example. Hopefully it will shed some new light as to why repeat posts in themselves are selfish and rude.

However, if you feel this community is rude/mean, maybe this isn't the place for you. There are plenty of other pregnancy websites/forums out there that may cater to your personality (i.e. Glow, BabyCenter, Pregnancy.com, etc.).

jchristinhall · May 2015

Thanks @heawilliams , I will do just that. With my last pregnancy I used the BabyCenter app and never felt the hostility I have felt on this app from day one. I will be solely using that app from now on. Thanks and good luck to you all! Negativity is not good for baby.

kmcc14 · May 2015

jchristinhall said:
Thanks @heawilliams , I will do just that. With my last pregnancy I used the BabyCenter app and never felt the hostility I have felt on this app from day one. I will be solely using that app from now on. Thanks and good luck to you all! Negativity is not good for baby.

Paige6410 · May 2015

tinathefatlard · May 2015

This app is like it's own version of mean girls. You all are just thriving off of snark and drama.

katie0613 · May 2015

Wow what is this high school!! Get a grip everyone your about to be a mother, show some respect for people and stop being mean it is just unnecessary!

nicoleann21 · May 2015

Clearly the people who think this post is mean don't understand the message, so it's silly to argue about. Come play on the hot guy gif party, we can all be friends over there

heawilliams · May 2015

tinathefatlard said:
This app is like it's own version of mean girls. You all are just thriving off of snark and drama.

While I do like snark. It's the drama I don't like. Posting something like this is causing that ... Drama. So, welcome to the group.

LisaLelik · May 2015

God, there are some drama queens on here. And Paige6410, how old are you,16?

Paige6410 · May 2015

Oh for the love of...
If you've lost your sense of humor, we have a daily symptom check in, it seems that a lot of women have lost theirs being KU.

DaphneMoon1 · May 2015

For anyone who is upset about this post, look at the BMB ahead of us. All have very similar post stickied at the top of their threads. It's not mean to ask people to lurk. That's why there is a 72 hour wait before you post. The Bump agrees, it's a good idea to look around and get a feel for the board and read questions/answers that are posted for a few days. Several threads have been started when almost the exact same question is posted right below theirs.

What is rude, is to say, "I'm special, I deserve my own thread, and I don't have time to read other post". This is a community. If you only want the active members to answer your questions and you don't plan on participating, then this might not be the place for you.

Join in on the fun! There are several daily threads to participate in. And please don't be afraid to post. Sometimes adults disagree, it's ok, that's how we learn!

BlueWaffleSpeshul · May 2015

@heawilliams

heawilliams · May 2015

BlueWaffleSpeshul said:
@heawilliams

Right back at ya babe.

SparklesC · May 2015

Call me crazy, but I think maybe when someone is new to this group and they have something they want to ask, they figure the thing to do is post about it. I actually find it a little odd to go find someone else's post and go comment about your own symptoms or questions. I understand that is how this is SUPPOSED to work, but I think most women don't realize that when they are new and I agree people can respond in nicer ways.

Lljbean · May 2015

heawilliams · May 2015

SparklesC said:
Call me crazy, but I think maybe when someone is new to this group and they have something they want to ask, they figure the thing to do is post about it. I actually find it a little odd to go find someone else's post and go comment about your own symptoms or questions. I understand that is how this is SUPPOSED to work, but I think most women don't realize that when they are new and I agree people can respond in nicer ways.

^ THIS. This is why a thread titled "Please use the search feature" is a sticky and one of the top two threads. This thread was meant to alert new bumpies to how this community works. Now that this has been posted I hope new mommies will lurk more and use the search feature.

firebaby688 · May 2015

jchristinhall said:
It is a little hurtful to hear those comments. I was in the ttc board for 6 mos and thought they were really rude to newbies on there, so I was relieved to get to come to another group. And I have found the same thing here... This app has made me hesitant to post and/or ask questions because of the rude comments. If the questions are redundant or repetitious, just keep scrolling and maybe someone with a little more patience will answer our inquiries.

Lurker from TTGP, but I just wanted to say that we are

svnna94 · May 2015

It is true though, I found myself in the same position, seeking comfort, friends and support from the bump and its members, although what I got in response was how stupid I was for not "lurking" the board enough before asking questions. I didn't know signing up came with a bunch of rules and regulations, andbeing so new and not knowing the ins and outs of navigating the bump app, I didn't know there wereother boards to port to, or even how to look. Baby center it's very much the opposite, and i will probably be using that communication board over this one From now on as well. I've gotten 5x more POSITIVE feedback from those lovely ladies.

Spalex · May 2015

svnna94 said:
It is true though, I found myself in the same position, seeking comfort, friends and support from the bump and its members, although what I got in response was how stupid I was for not "lurking" the board enough before asking questions. I didn't know signing up came with a bunch of rules and regulations, andbeing so new and not knowing the ins and outs of navigating the bump app, I didn't know there wereother boards to port to, or even how to look. Baby center it's very much the opposite, and i will probably be using that communication board over this one From now on as well. I've gotten 5x more POSITIVE feedback from those lovely ladies.

Good for you

heawilliams · May 2015

svnna94 said:
It is true though, I found myself in the same position, seeking comfort, friends and support from the bump and its members, although what I got in response was how stupid I was for not "lurking" the board enough before asking questions. I didn't know signing up came with a bunch of rules and regulations, andbeing so new and not knowing the ins and outs of navigating the bump app, I didn't know there wereother boards to port to, or even how to look. Baby center it's very much the opposite, and i will probably be using that communication board over this one From now on as well. I've gotten 5x more POSITIVE feedback from those lovely ladies.

I'm glad you're intelligent enough to recognize this site may not be for you instead of trying to change a community. Good luck on your journey and have a happy and healthy 9 months.

bspletzer · May 2015

Im confused as to why this is the way it is? When i was was in the oct 2015 group it wasnt like this at all. So i feel like its your guys rules. And taking your "advise" i commented on one of the boards with a question and tried to help others with an answer and i was ignored on 2 separate boards because of the overload of people talking. So you guys dont have to answer my questions if you think i should lurk butni will post whatever i want. Because you guys arnt the boss.

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