so i thought this could be a fun idea for a thread.
just wondering what your SO does that is a major pet peeve that happens more than once.
my DH likes to improvise if a dish he needs is dirty. such as using a tupperware lid as a plate or using the actual container as a bowl (not talking about leftovers either) so instead of washing what he needs, he just dirties more dishes. and he doesnt rinse his dishes either.
or
he will wear a new clean shirt for all of 20 minutes, then takes it off and puts it in the dirty laundry hamper.
drives me crazy.
Re: Just for Fun-SO Pet Peeves?
Cares more about how organized and clean his tool box is than picking up his trail of crap he leaves around the house (socks, shoes, dirty dishes, work papers, wrappers, and electronics to name a few). Drives me nuts!
Also snores and sleep talks/walks.
My DH takes forever to put his clothes away after I haul them downstairs, wash them, dry them, fold them, and then put mine and DS1's away (and I'll do DS2's when he gets here)...I have to nag him 2-3 times...its' not like he doesn't see them.
Oh and then he makes comments when I do whites which is 2-3 weeks to make it worth a load....like oh good you are finally doing whites...um hello you have legs, arms, and a brain, since the whites are 95% yours...you do a load if you need them that bad...then says oh well I don't so that is why I didn't say anything...except you just said something...OY!!!!
I can probably go on about a lot of his OCD tendencies...so I'll just leave it here.
Upon further reflection I think I'm actually pretty terrible at avoiding passive aggression! It just drives me crazy.
Prime example - hubs purchased a made to order zippo for our 10 year anniversary. Its pretty sweet. Its been missing ALL winter long. He's been bugging me about it all winter long. "Have you seen my zippo?" "Hey when you vacuumed the couch did you find the zippo?" "You didn't find the zippo in those clothes you washed, huh?" Anyways. So, he found the zippo this weekend that just passed. WHILE RAKING UP LEAVES IN THE BACKYARD. And as soon as I saw him pick it up off the grass and look at it wonderingly, I remembered the last time I had seen it last. In the fall, during our Irish wake for Fun, out by the firepit. He lit a smoke, and tossed it to his chair, and it bounced off and I said "you better get that, we'll lose it" and he basically dismissed me, probably reassuring me he would get it in a minute, and forgot about it in the grass. Where it sat until leaves fell on it, and snow fell on the leaves, and winter came and passed us by.
Sure, babe. Just put anything anywhere. Its fine. :-w
Also letting the dog do whatever he wants because as he says "but he's so cute!" -- I'm in for serious trouble when this baby is born.
He will wake me up just so I can help him find things in the morning. I'll be so exhausted and he makes it seem like I'm the one who lost his glasses/wallet/keys/phone or whatever it is. The other day I found his glasses in the dogs bed, like, come on!
Also, his socks. They are EVERYWHERE. On the bathroom floor, in the living room, in all MY drawers (how?!), in the bed, and once I found a pair on the kitchen counter! Why why why! I want to light them all on fire one day.
One more thing! I have to give him a tour of the kitchen every single time I grocery shop otherwise he just won't even notice all the food I got. He'll go starving before he'll take the effort to just find something to eat. I'll be like
"Oh, I bought tons of stuff for sandwiches" and he'll be mad that I didn't tell him! OPEN YOUR EYES. It's not like I'm hiding it from him.
Ok I'm done. I love him so very much but I think he's still 12 years old.
DH has plenty of habits, but to be fair, so do I. One I find hilarious is that DH gets really mad if I "walk in front of him." Which I do if we need to scoot over to share the sidewalk with someone (what else am I supposed to do?) or if I want to check out a store window. He tries to walk in front of me to show me how annoying it is... But I just slide over or slow down. Not sure what the big deal is. He can be such an only child sometimes, needing his own space and own things.
The dishwasher has been unknown territory for years. Not sure why lol
...so close, yet so far!
The other thing that really irritates me is that fun always comes first for him. This basically comes down to how we were raised. At my house, I wasn't allowed to go to friends' houses, play barbies, etc. until I'd finished all my chores and my homework. It taught me how to prioritize and to this day, my work comes before the stuff I do for fun. At DH's house, as long as stuff eventually got done, he could do whatever he wanted. So now getting him to put helping me with chores and studying for his CPA exam before the xbox is a huge struggle. The studying improved a bit after he failed the first part back in October and we had a talk about how by not studying he basically threw $300 down the toilet (wouldn't have minded him failing if he'd studied, but he only did sporadically) and now he's learned that sometimes he needs to put the xbox away if it's causing too much of a distraction. But the play-then-work thing really gets under my skin.
FWIW, I absolutely do things to irritate him too - off the top of my head, I'm much more confrontational and I'm bossy
I've learned not to say anything. No matter how I approach the subject of him cleaning up after himself he thinks I'm nagging. Good god!! I just want a little respect! I take care of our son, cook, clean, take out the trash, shop for groceries on a super tight budget, do all of the laundry, walk the dog...I feel more like a nanny/maid than a SAHM. I bust my pregnant ass cleaning all day then he comes home and trashes the place in less than 5 minutes. He doesn't notice when the house is clean but of course he makes comments when it's messy. I can't wait until this baby girl arrives!! Maybe he'll realize how much work it is to keep a house clean while also taking care of a toddler.
PS... I love all of these complaint threads!! They give me a way to bitch about my DH! I really do love him but sometimes I just need to vent, especially now that I have zero patience!
We don't recycle (tried and failed to establish that routine yearrrrs ago) so there is NO reason to not put an empty can in one of the two trash cans we have in the kitchen. There will be two or three cans on the counter and I'll end up throwing them away, like, "what are you saving these for?!"
He doesn't put any other trash on the counter. All other trash goes in the can like normal. I think this is so weird! Haha
and he snores. i wanna shake him when he falls asleep before me
Those who cringe at us-- I guess we're just trashy people!
I do recycle when I'm out in public and there are bins available. I feel guilty if I don't. But my own trash?
Edited, I missed some words
If I ever need to hide something from DH I'm putting it in the pantry or the back of the frig.
Our house is on the market, so we won't have to deal with the snooty HOA for long. :-)
He also complains I never buy work lunch food for him at the grocery store but when I do he never eats it! Freakin' cold cuts, wasting away in the fridge and I can't even eat them right now!
He also sheds his clothes after work in random rooms and just like.... Leaves them there. Dude, you have like 85 hampers in your possession!
Lastly, he is obsessed with old tools. Like goes to yard sales and buys them. He has dozens of chisels, maybe a hundred. He gets excited to look up the values and tell me the history of the tool and such. It's like a very boring Antiques Road Show. I'm irrationally bothered that he spends our money on this, even though it's not a lot of money. But when I see like 30 chisels, I just sigh and move on. At least his hobbies are nerdy and not like, hanging out at bars!
But he's still the best guy, really.
Also along the lines of leaving stuff laying around whenever he does go to pick DD up (and in all fairness he has been better only 2 missed times so far this month) he lets her coat socks and shoes lay on the floor right inside the front door- the coat sleeves inside out the shoes flung in multiple directions even though there's a coat hook literally right beside the door! Whenever I get home from work I'm always picking up a coat and putting away shoes and tossing socks in the hamper!
He is a really great guy and works really hard so it's nice to have a place to complain without going off on him!