My husband and I have big families and a large church community that will definitely want to throw us a shower or two for our first baby (due in August). However, we have a small home and are not at all interested in collecting a lot of stuff. I won't refuse a shower as I love the thought of celebrating with our friends, but I'd love to find a way to tactfully ask for either contributions to big items or absolute necessities like diapers and wipes. I know that may sound rude, but I feel it would be worse to not indicate our preferences and end up returning most of the stuff people get us.
In all honesty, I'd rather have guests make donations to help children in third-world countries, but I know we'd end up getting gifts anyway.
Any ideas?
Re: Avoiding an overload of gifts
Just graciously accept any and all gifts.
Resell/ donate/ give away what you can't/ don't want to keep.
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We got a ton of stuff that I just regifted or returned but then I used the credit to buy things I needed. I put a lot if clothes on the registry and then marked them as recieved so that people could see I already had plenty of them. I still got a few but that's the norm. I did get a few gift cards which was awesome.
As for a charitable donation, nobody should be offended to get an invitation that lists a registry and/or name of charity you like. Casually mention it to moms/siblings... I've found them to be great for spreding the word.
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