Good vibes thread, 5/15-22, for mamas and families with extra challenges and opportunities

virginiaunicorn11 · May 2015

Are you going through something that requires some extra medical attention? Baking that bun from bed or forced to reduce your activity? Did LO arrive early, and is getting stronger with some NICU support? Is your family going through some things right now, requiring some extra strength?

Feel free to post here, so we can keep you at the forefront of our minds, and offer support, prayers, etc. I am thinking of several of you in particular, but do not want to tag you in case you aren't up for sharing. My thoughts are with all you ladies who have shared some of your challenges here or in other threads in the past. xo

KarasTwin · May 2015

I posted earlier this morning on the symptoms thread about my FIL, but thought I'd update here. Just talked to DH and they are about to do an echochardiogram (sp?l. They stopped the blood thinner for about an hour because it was thinning too much. They are treating him as priority so hopefully we'll know something soon. Thanks for all the love, thoughts and prayers, ladies!

Mommaswizz · May 2015

Sending lots of positive thoughts and prayers for you and your family @KarasTwin !!

bosleyb · May 2015

After my water resealed I was sent home from the hospital.....unfortunately, I only made it a week before my water started a slow leak. I was immediately delivered at 34 weeks and 3 days and she did great and is breathing and eating like a rockstar. Can't believe my little 34 weeker is breastfeeding. We hope to go home tomorrow after only a three day hospital stay. After a 3 week hospital stay after my water ruptured the first time, going home looks pretty awesome!

mommydlc · May 2015

I'll give an update. I'm still contracting 24/7 (darn you irritable uterus) and in bed rest. Now to just too things off a bit yesterday my blood pressure was low so I have to keep an eye on that and I tested positive for Group B Strep. This pregnancy has been kicking my a$$ I only have 2 1/2 weeks left until my c-section, yay!

On a happier note tomorrow (Saturday) is my sons 1st birthday party even though his birthday is on Tuesday, so I'm excited about that even though I can't do much at the party it will be nice to get my mind off of everything.

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

@KarasTwin best wishes for your FIL! Sounds like he is in good hands, I hope he recovers soon!
@bosleyb congrats on your LO! I'm sure you are glad to be going home soon

bosleyb · May 2015

So much for thinking we might go home tomorrow. My OB thinks I am getting an infection in my incision. Despite the fact that he gave me two rounds of IV antibiotics around the c-section time. So now I am on high infection watch, he marked the redness line with a pen and asked the nurses to check to see if it has spread later tonight.

ngaines27 · May 2015

bosleyb said:
So much for thinking we might go home tomorrow. My OB thinks I am getting an infection in my incision. Despite the fact that he gave me two rounds of IV antibiotics around the c-section time. So now I am on high infection watch, he marked the redness line with a pen and asked the nurses to check to see if it has spread later tonight.

Oh no!! Sorry to hear this. Hopefully, if it is infected, it was caught early and will be quickly resolved.

virginiaunicorn11 · May 2015

bosleyb said:
So much for thinking we might go home tomorrow. My OB thinks I am getting an infection in my incision. Despite the fact that he gave me two rounds of IV antibiotics around the c-section time. So now I am on high infection watch, he marked the redness line with a pen and asked the nurses to check to see if it has spread later tonight.

Aw, that sucks. Here's hoping the infection fades quickly. Be kind and patient with your body, if you can. Sending big hugs! And congrats again on Bebe!!

devyns2nd · May 2015

bosleyb said:
So much for thinking we might go home tomorrow. My OB thinks I am getting an infection in my incision. Despite the fact that he gave me two rounds of IV antibiotics around the c-section time. So now I am on high infection watch, he marked the redness line with a pen and asked the nurses to check to see if it has spread later tonight.

I hope it clears up quick. I can't imagine having an infected incision and caring for a new born. I'm glad baby is doing so well though.

lovethatcolosun · May 2015

Thinking of all you wonderful ladies and sending good vibes your way. @KarasTwin any update on your FIL?

bowloforanges1327 · May 2015

@bosleyb So happy to hear baby is doing well. Hope the infection isn't to serious since they seemed to catch it early. Sending you lots of prayers and healing vibes!

bowloforanges1327 · May 2015

I am supposed to be induced Monday at 37 weeks 4 days. I am having a lot of anxiety about being back in a hospital and starting to worry about not being able to appreciate this experience. Hopefully her delivery will be pleasant and uneventful!

Additionaly, after a month of handling things really well both my 5 year old daughter and 3 year old son have been back sliding when it comes to coping with their younger brothers death. Between that and the new babys impending arrival we have had such a terrible week at home and school. My daughters teacher wants her in counseling ASAP and I am struggling to find a local therapist who deals in greif for children as young as her. My son just needs constant attention which is hard to give completely right now.

I am so happy to welcome the new baby but also terrified that leaving my older 2 right now is just going to make things worse. I want to do the right thing for everyone but I just feel stretched so thin.

Greif is so weird and hard to navigate especially when life just keeps speeding past and you have to keep up! I am sure Miles is watching out for us during it all and probably giggling a little at me thinking I have any kind of control over things. I know it would be best to just take a deep breath, let things happen and deal one step at a time, but that is easier said than done. Thanks for letting me vent!

virginiaunicorn11 · May 2015

Am still thinking of you, too, @bowloforanges1327 and hoping this pregnancy home stretch is as easy on you as possible

ETA: my post cross posted with yours above - I didn't see it until more than 24 hours later. I am sorry if this came across as inappropriate in response to your post. You sound like you are all handling everything as a family, and as best as can be expected. Will continue thinking of you each day, and hoping your daughter and family and you get all the counseling and support to get you through this terrible and bittersweet time. Xo

klkonwi · May 2015

Thinking of all you mommas. Hang in there

rklinge0 · May 2015

I have been in l&d all night. Not going into labor but they kept me for observations. My bp was super high due to some anxiety at the office so they sent me here, it has been pretty good since then. Although i will admit that a few times this week i have felt it rise over stupid things.
The one good thing that has come out of it is that apparently those contractions I have been complaining about for the past few months are real. They aren't strong enough and most aren't long enough to start labor, but it makes me feel better knowing I am not crazy.
I ended up getting diagnosed with late onset gd this week, so my ob said induction between 38 and 39 weeks.

rklinge0 · May 2015

@bowloforanges1327 so sorry you are having to go through this. I can't even imagine the mixed emotions right now. I will be thinking about you.
@bosleyb congrats on the baby and I hope the infection clears up quickly so you can get back home.
@KarasTwin so sorry to hear about your fil. I will be thinking of your family. Keep us posted.

foxa319 · May 2015

Thinking about you @bowloforanges1327, what you and your family are going through, I can't even imagine! My FIL is a child psychologist who particularly treats young children for grief counseling and children who have been physically and sexually abused- so there are people out there! Where are you located?

@rklinge0 maybe it's time to give up working or decrease hours if it's affecting your health? Have the dr's mentioned anything about that?

My bile acids and LFTS have both decreased this week which is good but they seem to do that every other week for some reason then shoot back up, so I'm set for June 3rd to be induced at 36+3. Just hoping little mans gonna be ready! I have a growth scan this week and am curious as to what their estimate is now! For my husbands sake I hope baby is at least 6 lbs when born. He has only held one baby (our nephew) who was 8.5lbs when he was born and my hubs kept commenting on how tiny he was! Lol oh men!

Hope all you other ladies are doing well this week! ❤️

karaelaine1991 · May 2015

Praying for positivity for all of you! You'll be in my thoughts this weekend, please keep us updated when possible!

KarasTwin · May 2015

He tolerated the femoral cath procedure well and currently has it in till around noon today in an attempt to break up the clots. He can't sit at more than a 15° incline or move his right leg for a minimum of 20 hours when they recheck. Hopefully it will have done its job, if not they'll leave it another 10 hours before checking. The max time is 40 hours total and if it doesn't work then I'm not sure what they'll do. He hadn't eaten all day Thursday because he felt so bad so last night he finally got to eat. He's been begging for food, drink, and a dip. They gave him Xanax last night to help him rest and relax some. They think the clots are related to his diabetes and the fact that he drives a lot for work and doesn't move around enough. His right lung was 60% full of clots and the left 30%. There was also a small clot behind his left knee cap and the right side of his lung was enlarged due to pumping so hard. I really pray this wakes him up to eating healthier and taking better care of himself since his first grandchild will be here soon and his daughter is getting married in September. Thanks for all the thoughts and prayers, ya'll! I will try to keep you posted

rklinge0 · May 2015

It wasn't at work, it was at the dr office because I feel like every time I go in they tell me something else is wrong.
But my job ended on the 6th, so I have been only subbing two to three days a week in between ob visits.

Westypet · May 2015

I'm thinking of all you ladies this week. Positive vibes and prayers flooded your way, bumpies.

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

I've been thinking of you @bowloforanges1327 and continue to wish you and your family well. ❤

@KarasTwin continued thoughts for your FIL

@rklinge0 glad your work schedule sounds like its winding down and you hopefully get a chance to relax.

Best wishes to all of you and any other mamas having a hard go of it recently

MaliKaela · May 2015

I've really been struggling the last couple of weeks and I am especially having trouble the last couple of days. I've mentioned this in passing before, but I have fibromyalgia and deal with constant back pain even when not pregnant. It has been getting worse the farther along I get and it is now to the point where I can only get out of bed when I take the pain meds. The doctor prescribed low dose vicodin. I feel really guilty about having to take narcotics and I so hope its not hurting my little dude. I can only take two pills a day. And they last 4 hours each. So basically I get in about 10 hours of awake time a day. The rest of the time I try to sleep or read in bed.

I am 37 + 2 and I want him to come already. I know it's best if he incubates for a couple more weeks but I am getting so depressed. I know we have all beaten to death the fact that dilation and effacement do not indicate impending labor, but my doctor said i'm 2 cm and 80% and I guess I got my hopes up that I would go into labor soon. Again, rationally I understand that these things don't mean anything but I guess I can't help but hope. Every twinge and I think maybe this is it. My dr. will induce at 39 weeks. Personally, I would rather not do this but I just can't take the pain anymore. I guess I am realizing I just need to resign myself to 2 more weeks of misery instead of constantly being disappointed.

I'm sorry for this long, whiney post. I probably sound like a total brat. I am so lucky to even get to have a baby, and I know that. It's just been so hard and i'm so tired of crying. It has been such a nice diversion to have this board to check in on (multiple times per day!). I know none of you can solve this for me, but thanks for letting me vent. : )

klkonwi · May 2015

@mcknzzee oh babe! Hang in there. If you stop by my depression thread you will see that you are so not alone. I know fibromyalgia is different than depression but causes it a lot of times. It sucks to be cooped up in the house and unable to get around! I will be thinking of you!

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

@mcknzzee that sounds really, really rough. Chronic pain is terrible, and can really bring any situation down. Best wishes for you to be comfortable for the next two weeks until you meet your LO, and hopefully you'll be more comfortable once your bump isn't throwing off your whole groove

virginiaunicorn11 · May 2015

mcknzzee said:
I've really been struggling the last couple of weeks and I am especially having trouble the last couple of days. I've mentioned this in passing before, but I have fibromyalgia and deal with constant back pain even when not pregnant. It has been getting worse the farther along I get and it is now to the point where I can only get out of bed when I take the pain meds. The doctor prescribed low dose vicodin. I feel really guilty about having to take narcotics and I so hope its not hurting my little dude. I can only take two pills a day. And they last 4 hours each. So basically I get in about 10 hours of awake time a day. The rest of the time I try to sleep or read in bed.

I am 37 + 2 and I want him to come already. I know it's best if he incubates for a couple more weeks but I am getting so depressed. I know we have all beaten to death the fact that dilation and effacement do not indicate impending labor, but my doctor said i'm 2 cm and 80% and I guess I got my hopes up that I would go into labor soon. Again, rationally I understand that these things don't mean anything but I guess I can't help but hope. Every twinge and I think maybe this is it. My dr. will induce at 39 weeks. Personally, I would rather not do this but I just can't take the pain anymore. I guess I am realizing I just need to resign myself to 2 more weeks of misery instead of constantly being disappointed.

I'm sorry for this long, whiney post. I probably sound like a total brat. I am so lucky to even get to have a baby, and I know that. It's just been so hard and i'm so tired of crying. It has been such a nice diversion to have this board to check in on (multiple times per day!). I know none of you can solve this for me, but thanks for letting me vent. : )

You do NOT sound like a brat. Be kind to yourself. Vent all you want here. Big hugs

laurendutch · May 2015

This will sound really silly but I have to take my son in for an endoscopy on Monday. It's something that we have to do several times a year. Here's the silly part...he's going to have to miss his Teddy Bear Picnic at preschool. Usually, it wouldn't be a big deal but I'm pretty sure his twin brother will be talking about it. My heart is already breaking for my little guy!

KarasTwin · May 2015

mcknzzee said:
I've really been struggling the last couple of weeks and I am especially having trouble the last couple of days. I've mentioned this in passing before, but I have fibromyalgia and deal with constant back pain even when not pregnant. It has been getting worse the farther along I get and it is now to the point where I can only get out of bed when I take the pain meds. The doctor prescribed low dose vicodin. I feel really guilty about having to take narcotics and I so hope its not hurting my little dude. I can only take two pills a day. And they last 4 hours each. So basically I get in about 10 hours of awake time a day. The rest of the time I try to sleep or read in bed.

I am 37 + 2 and I want him to come already. I know it's best if he incubates for a couple more weeks but I am getting so depressed. I know we have all beaten to death the fact that dilation and effacement do not indicate impending labor, but my doctor said i'm 2 cm and 80% and I guess I got my hopes up that I would go into labor soon. Again, rationally I understand that these things don't mean anything but I guess I can't help but hope. Every twinge and I think maybe this is it. My dr. will induce at 39 weeks. Personally, I would rather not do this but I just can't take the pain anymore. I guess I am realizing I just need to resign myself to 2 more weeks of misery instead of constantly being disappointed.

I'm sorry for this long, whiney post. I probably sound like a total brat. I am so lucky to even get to have a baby, and I know that. It's just been so hard and i'm so tired of crying. It has been such a nice diversion to have this board to check in on (multiple times per day!). I know none of you can solve this for me, but thanks for letting me vent. : )

Not bratty at all....Prayers mama!

AlyLynn07 · May 2015

My MIL had a routine mammogram on Wednesday and they found 2-3 suspicious masses and a significantly enlarged axillary lymph node.. Not good. She has a biopsy scheduled for Monday, but it takes at least 4 days for the pathology results to come back. The waiting game is so frustrating. Would really appreciate prayers for accurate results and good news of course.

MaliKaela · May 2015

@klkonwi @mellymar @amark11 @KarasTwin. Thank you all so much for the kind words. It really means a lot right now.

KarasTwin · May 2015

Update on FIL. He's doing well, the shorter time worked and he even got to get up and walk around some yesterday. He's only on blood thinner and fluids through IV and as soon as a regular room is available he'll be able to move into there from critical care. They say if everything goes well he'll get to come home on Tuesday. He's planning to get a new primary care physician (thank God, because the one he's been seeing is an idiot) and also seeing an endocrinologist about getting on a healthy diet for his diabetes and being on blood thinner requires a certain diet. Thanks everyone for your kind words, thoughts, and prayers!

Keeping the rest of you ladies having a tough time in my prayers, as well!

KaLikeAWind · May 2015

@KarasTwin that's great news about your FIL!

@AlyLynn07 best wishes to your MIL

lovethatcolosun · May 2015

Thanks for the update @KarasTwin. Glad things are moving in the right direction and he has a plan for recovery/new diet.

@devyns2nd any news on the kittens?

devyns2nd · May 2015

bowloforanges1327 said:
I am supposed to be induced Monday at 37 weeks 4 days. I am having a lot of anxiety about being back in a hospital and starting to worry about not being able to appreciate this experience. Hopefully her delivery will be pleasant and uneventful!

Additionaly, after a month of handling things really well both my 5 year old daughter and 3 year old son have been back sliding when it comes to coping with their younger brothers death. Between that and the new babys impending arrival we have had such a terrible week at home and school. My daughters teacher wants her in counseling ASAP and I am struggling to find a local therapist who deals in greif for children as young as her. My son just needs constant attention which is hard to give completely right now.

I am so happy to welcome the new baby but also terrified that leaving my older 2 right now is just going to make things worse. I want to do the right thing for everyone but I just feel stretched so thin.

Greif is so weird and hard to navigate especially when life just keeps speeding past and you have to keep up! I am sure Miles is watching out for us during it all and probably giggling a little at me thinking I have any kind of control over things. I know it would be best to just take a deep breath, let things happen and deal one step at a time, but that is easier said than done. Thanks for letting me vent!

I am so sorry this happened. My two year old brother died in a house fire when I was six and my brother was three. My mom handled it the wrong way and I just want to say you are unbelievably strong. You are a wonderful mother and no matter how hard things get your babies will appreciate your sacrifice one day. We would have been lucky to have a mother as strong as you. And again I am so sorry your family is experiencing this.

devyns2nd · May 2015

mcknzzee said:
I've really been struggling the last couple of weeks and I am especially having trouble the last couple of days. I've mentioned this in passing before, but I have fibromyalgia and deal with constant back pain even when not pregnant. It has been getting worse the farther along I get and it is now to the point where I can only get out of bed when I take the pain meds. The doctor prescribed low dose vicodin. I feel really guilty about having to take narcotics and I so hope its not hurting my little dude. I can only take two pills a day. And they last 4 hours each. So basically I get in about 10 hours of awake time a day. The rest of the time I try to sleep or read in bed.

I am 37 + 2 and I want him to come already. I know it's best if he incubates for a couple more weeks but I am getting so depressed. I know we have all beaten to death the fact that dilation and effacement do not indicate impending labor, but my doctor said i'm 2 cm and 80% and I guess I got my hopes up that I would go into labor soon. Again, rationally I understand that these things don't mean anything but I guess I can't help but hope. Every twinge and I think maybe this is it. My dr. will induce at 39 weeks. Personally, I would rather not do this but I just can't take the pain anymore. I guess I am realizing I just need to resign myself to 2 more weeks of misery instead of constantly being disappointed.

I'm sorry for this long, whiney post. I probably sound like a total brat. I am so lucky to even get to have a baby, and I know that. It's just been so hard and i'm so tired of crying. It has been such a nice diversion to have this board to check in on (multiple times per day!). I know none of you can solve this for me, but thanks for letting me vent. : )

Don't feel bad. I would probably take an induction now and I'm only 36 weeks. Self cathing is getting so painful I can barley stand it. Added pain makes pregnancy rough. I thought it was bad with DD but I can really tell how broken down my body is this time. It's not bratty! I applaud you for wanting to wait it out.

Frogger5 · May 2015

laurendutch said:
This will sound really silly but I have to take my son in for an endoscopy on Monday. It's something that we have to do several times a year. Here's the silly part...he's going to have to miss his Teddy Bear Picnic at preschool. Usually, it wouldn't be a big deal but I'm pretty sure his twin brother will be talking about it. My heart is already breaking for my little guy!

Oh, no! Why don't you have a teddy bear picnic at dinner time, too? The one who was at school can tell you all what to do and the one who had to miss it could have some other special role. Eat on the living room floor on a blanket if it's not nice out!

laurendutch · May 2015

Frogger5 said:

laurendutch said:
This will sound really silly but I have to take my son in for an endoscopy on Monday. It's something that we have to do several times a year. Here's the silly part...he's going to have to miss his Teddy Bear Picnic at preschool. Usually, it wouldn't be a big deal but I'm pretty sure his twin brother will be talking about it. My heart is already breaking for my little guy!
Oh, no! Why don't you have a teddy bear picnic at dinner time, too? The one who was at school can tell you all what to do and the one who had to miss it could have some other special role. Eat on the living room floor on a blanket if it's not nice out!

Thanks! That's a great idea! Right now the one going to preschool is sad that he can't go to the hospital...go figure! But that's also bc we aren't really talking about preschool in front of his brother. DH actually asked if he can go and was surprised when I said that he couldn't...like do you really think a 4 year old wants to hang out at the hospital for four hours? Plus, I need to concentrate on my son coming out of anesthesia. Sometimes, he reacts well, sometimes he doesn't. Allergies and auto immune diseases can stink sometimes!

MrsFriede · May 2015

My thoughts are with everyone here. After having a pretty decent and uneventful pregnancy (other than developing cholestasis) I ended up having my water break and delivering my twins at 34w4d. The NICU is hard, my boys are doing well but the stress on me and DH is ridiculous. My heart goes out to people who have premies who are even younger....

lovethatcolosun · May 2015

@bowloforanges1327 I've been thinking about you and your family a lot lately. I think that you are an amazing mom with such strength and courage. The grief you all must be going through at different ages and stages of life has got to be one of the most challenging things to face as a mother, wife, and human. Your grace through the whole thing leaves me in awe. I wish you peace and comfort as you transition into this next step with your newborn. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

@MrsFriede congratulations on your newborn twins! Sending you strength and patience as you navigate this time in the NICU. So many emotions must be at the surface with you and your DH as you spend the days there. At least you know you are in good hands and you have a lot of people sending you thoughts and prayers. Keep us posted on their progress.

@laurendutch how sweet that his brother wants to be with him too. I love @Frogger5 idea of doing something special when you are all together. Hope everything goes well with the procedure.

@mcknzzee I hope you can find some relief soon. Days probably feel like months right now, especially being so close to the end. Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

AlyLynn07 · May 2015

An update on MIL.. Biopsy showed cancer in both breast masses they tested and the axillary lymph node. I don't have many more details, except that she is scheduled for more scans/testing. Even though we were trying to prepare ourselves for this, it's still so hard to hear it confirmed. Praying for the best possible outcome given the circumstances, but I know it will be a long road ahead regardless. Thanks for all your thoughts, prayers and kind words.

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