So here's my question! I bought nail clippers, and have also heard about mom's just biting their LO's nails off, but the nurse at my hospital said that there's a membrane attached the the nail so you're not supposed to trim them until they break off naturally. I don't want to question the medicine behind that, but has anyone had bad experiences trimming newborn's nails as a result of this membrane?
I've heard this too. The nurses at my childbirth class said that if the nails are stupid long its better to file them down.
My question - related to the laundry thread... Of course I plan on washing all my blankets, sheets, clothes... Anything touching baby. But should I also wash the mattress protector? It IS washable, but its going to be underneath a sheet and not on the skin?
Also, since the ewok will be sleeping in the pack n play for a while, is the thin(ish) pad that came with it enough? Or should I buy a mattress specifically for the pack n play, too? (And thus, a mattress protector for THAT)
For our pack n play we're not getting a mattress to go on top of the pad, but I did get a waterproof pad that lies on top of the pad and sheets. I figured that would be easier to clean than the pack'n'play pad itself.
Welp...someone dropped a poop in our hallway the other day walking to their room in labor. And we did not bat an eye and just cleaned it up and kept going. So theoretically it CANNOT get worse than that and no one cared. Don't stress, you will not lay a whole log on the table it's usually just teeny tiny pieces that are immediately cleaned up and most of the time you are none the wiser!
I'm sure I'll poop. Poop plays a central theme in my life so it only fits. And even the fact that it's in front of my coworkers and friends does not change the fact that I don't care.
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Has anyone had tummy issues with crawfish? I went to a crawfish boil a few weeks ago and it did not sit well with me. A reaction I have never had eating them before. I am going to another one tomorrow and hoping the same thing doesn't happen again... Maybe baby doesn't like them
I'm sure I'll poop. Poop plays a central theme in my life so it only fits. And even the fact that it's in front of my coworkers and friends does not change the fact that I don't care.
Mine, too! I was a K teacher for 6yrs, so poop happenings there, and my DH and I own a septic business. Poop pays.
@eeyorefan215 I'm from TX but live in CA and have had my fair share. They don't cause tummy issues so if you think you might have food poisoning call your doc.
I had gumbo the other week and didn't have any stomach issues but I thought baby was going to crawl out and bitch slap me for eating it. She.was.not.happy.
On the back labor question, I did some reading about prevention and the suggestions were to spend a lot of time of hand and knees, clean your baseboards, scrub all your floors. And to sleep on your left with your left leg straight and right leg bent and thrown across the left. The idea being to give a sunny side up baby a good saddle to fall into. Same resource said if you feel at the kicks and movement only in the front you may have a sunny side up baby but even if you don't these positions don't turn them the wrong way. In labor with back pain the only thing that helped me was to stay on my hands and knees to keep the baby off my spine. I'd try not to stress in advance about it, more likely than not you wont have it!
@eeyorefan215 I'm from TX but live in CA and have had my fair share. They don't cause tummy issues so if you think you might have food poisoning call your doc.
I had gumbo the other week and didn't have any stomach issues but I thought baby was going to crawl out and bitch slap me for eating it. She.was.not.happy.
Thank you for your reply I don't think it was food poisoning - no one else who ate at the party got sick. There are certain things that I just can't stand to eat anymore (like blackberries), and it makes me sad. I think I'll just partake in moderation next time
Watching my 4 month old nephew everyday along With my own kids is seriously taking a toll on me. Not to mention my sister only gives me 150 every two weeks. If that. For an infant. AND my smart mouthed 9 year old nephew. I swear if this kid comes over with an attitude after school I'll wash his mouth out. He calls me fatty and eats all my sons snacks and drinks his juice, and she never brings him anything. The baby just wants to be held all day and yea he's cute and I love him to death but I'm already carrying around 60 extra pounds. My bump takes up my lap and I'm so exhausted just from breathing I have no energy to function like a normal adult. I really want to tell her to shove it bc omg I am to my breaking point. I somehow manage to hold me tongue and just nod every Friday when she's supposed to pay me and puts it off. when I have this baby she is going to have to quit her job and wants to start keeping kids. I hate to say it but she's going to get exactly what's she's giving. I am understanding and she's family but getting up at 7 am for practically nothing after not sleeping well all night is getting old. Ugh rant over.
Edited for question: would you tell her to find someone else??
Watching my 4 month old nephew everyday along With my own kids is seriously taking a toll on me. Not to mention my sister only gives me 150 every two weeks. If that. For an infant. AND my smart mouthed 9 year old nephew. I swear if this kid comes over with an attitude after school I'll wash his mouth out. He calls me fatty and eats all my sons snacks and drinks his juice, and she never brings him anything. The baby just wants to be held all day and yea he's cute and I love him to death but I'm already carrying around 60 extra pounds. My bump takes up my lap and I'm so exhausted just from breathing I have no energy to function like a normal adult. I really want to tell her to shove it bc omg I am to my breaking point. I somehow manage to hold me tongue and just nod every Friday when she's supposed to pay me and puts it off. when I have this baby she is going to have to quit her job and wants to start keeping kids. I hate to say it but she's going to get exactly what's she's giving. I am understanding and she's family but getting up at 7 am for practically nothing after not sleeping well all night is getting old. Ugh rant over.
Edited for question: would you tell her to find someone else??
I would have a talk with her, outlining exactly what is bothering you and tell her that something has to change. I'd be most concerned about your nephew's disrespectful attitude, and I'd let her know that if that doesn't change in x amount of time, you will no longer be able to watch him.
ETA I also feel that she's taking advantage of you by paying only $150 every two weeks and it would be reasonable to tell her that, with your new baby coming soon, you'll need that to increase, but that could be a very awkward conversation and you need to decide if it's worth the potential consequences.
@SammeMotley yes. That's not enough money for all that stress. I hate 9 year olds. Have you told your sister what a jerk her son is? I would probably make her feel bad about her parenting by sharing with her how he treats adults and family but that's just me, you probably have more tact than me.
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So here's my question! I bought nail clippers, and have also heard about mom's just biting their LO's nails off, but the nurse at my hospital said that there's a membrane attached the the nail so you're not supposed to trim them until they break off naturally. I don't want to question the medicine behind that, but has anyone had bad experiences trimming newborn's nails as a result of this membrane?
They told my sister the same thing. I'm curious to see what my hospital says
Watching my 4 month old nephew everyday along With my own kids is seriously taking a toll on me. Not to mention my sister only gives me 150 every two weeks. If that. For an infant. AND my smart mouthed 9 year old nephew. I swear if this kid comes over with an attitude after school I'll wash his mouth out. He calls me fatty and eats all my sons snacks and drinks his juice, and she never brings him anything. The baby just wants to be held all day and yea he's cute and I love him to death but I'm already carrying around 60 extra pounds. My bump takes up my lap and I'm so exhausted just from breathing I have no energy to function like a normal adult. I really want to tell her to shove it bc omg I am to my breaking point. I somehow manage to hold me tongue and just nod every Friday when she's supposed to pay me and puts it off. when I have this baby she is going to have to quit her job and wants to start keeping kids. I hate to say it but she's going to get exactly what's she's giving. I am understanding and she's family but getting up at 7 am for practically nothing after not sleeping well all night is getting old. Ugh rant over.
Edited for question: would you tell her to find someone else??
I would have a talk with her, outlining exactly what is bothering you and tell her that something has to change. I'd be most concerned about your nephew's disrespectful attitude, and I'd let her know that if that doesn't change in x amount of time, you will no longer be able to watch him.
ETA I also feel that she's taking advantage of you by paying only $150 every two weeks and it would be reasonable to tell her that, with your new baby coming soon, you'll need that to increase, but that could be a very awkward conversation and you need to decide if it's worth the potential consequences.
I just keep telling myself It'll be over soon. Bad part is she knows how he talks to me. And before I had to have my fur baby put to sleep, he would kick him and be mean to him. I'm going to snap on him one day I'm afraid. She's told me to take care of the situation (spanking or whatever I wish), but I'm not about to wrestle him. He's 100 pounds easy and comes up to my neck. I'm 8 months pregnant. No way.
@SammeMotley yes. That's not enough money for all that stress. I hate 9 year olds. Have you told your sister what a jerk her son is? I would probably make her feel bad about her parenting by sharing with her how he treats adults and family but that's just me, you probably have more tact than me.
You're so right. It's not enough money. We live paycheck to paycheck and when she doesn't pay it messes up my account. I really want to tell her the business, but I selfishly need her watch DS while I'm in the hospital. AND I have to pay her 60$ a day. I wanna say uh put it on my tab.
@SammeMotley yes. That's not enough money for all that stress. I hate 9 year olds. Have you told your sister what a jerk her son is? I would probably make her feel bad about her parenting by sharing with her how he treats adults and family but that's just me, you probably have more tact than me.
You're so right. It's not enough money. We live paycheck to paycheck and when she doesn't pay it messes up my account. I really want to tell her the business, but I selfishly need her watch DS while I'm in the hospital. AND I have to pay her 60$ a day. I wanna say uh put it on my tab.
Whoa whoa whoa. Why would you pay her $60/day when you get $150/2 weeks? No. Put the 9 year old in his place. And tell your sister what's up.
@SammeMotley yes. That's not enough money for all that stress. I hate 9 year olds. Have you told your sister what a jerk her son is? I would probably make her feel bad about her parenting by sharing with her how he treats adults and family but that's just me, you probably have more tact than me.
You're so right. It's not enough money. We live paycheck to paycheck and when she doesn't pay it messes up my account. I really want to tell her the business, but I selfishly need her watch DS while I'm in the hospital. AND I have to pay her 60$ a day. I wanna say uh put it on my tab.
Whoa whoa whoa. Why would you pay her $60/day when you get $150/2 weeks? No. Put the 9 year old in his place. And tell your sister what's up.
And if she doesn't keep up with payments to you.....the best you should offer her is taking some $ off HER tab!
@SammeMotley yes. That's not enough money for all that stress. I hate 9 year olds. Have you told your sister what a jerk her son is? I would probably make her feel bad about her parenting by sharing with her how he treats adults and family but that's just me, you probably have more tact than me.
You're so right. It's not enough money. We live paycheck to paycheck and when she doesn't pay it messes up my account. I really want to tell her the business, but I selfishly need her watch DS while I'm in the hospital. AND I have to pay her 60$ a day. I wanna say uh put it on my tab.
Whoa whoa whoa. Why would you pay her $60/day when you get $150/2 weeks? No. Put the 9 year old in his place. And tell your sister what's up.
I would not put up with any of this! I am so mad for you! You are not the 9 year olds mother she is, thus it is not your responsibility to discipline him, it is hers! Putting that on you, as well as him eating your food? What she's paying you is probably just enough to pay for that! And that she has the nerve to ask you for 60$ a day?!?! Wow I'm getting worked up
@SammeMotley you seriously need to stand up for yourself here. Stop watching that little shit of a 9-year-old, first off - if she knows how he treats you and your home but acts like it's not her problem to deal with she obviously doesn't care and won't correct it even with some prodding. If you agree to continue watching the baby, neither of you should be paying each other anything. Frankly it's fucking ridiculous (excuse my French) to *maybe* pay you $150/2wks but turn around and demand $60/day. Screw all of that mess. You deserve WAY more respect from your own sister.
So here's my question! I bought nail clippers, and have also heard about mom's just biting their LO's nails off, but the nurse at my hospital said that there's a membrane attached the the nail so you're not supposed to trim them until they break off naturally. I don't want to question the medicine behind that, but has anyone had bad experiences trimming newborn's nails as a result of this membrane?
Our educator at the hospital suggested a nail file for the first few weeks. Also said bare hands better for nursing than mittens.I did buy nail clippers for later but packing the nail file for the hospital bag!
So here's my question! I bought nail clippers, and have also heard about mom's just biting their LO's nails off, but the nurse at my hospital said that there's a membrane attached the the nail so you're not supposed to trim them until they break off naturally. I don't want to question the medicine behind that, but has anyone had bad experiences trimming newborn's nails as a result of this membrane?
I've heard this too. The nurses at my childbirth class said that if the nails are stupid long its better to file them down.
My question - related to the laundry thread... Of course I plan on washing all my blankets, sheets, clothes... Anything touching baby. But should I also wash the mattress protector? It IS washable, but its going to be underneath a sheet and not on the skin?
Also, since the ewok will be sleeping in the pack n play for a while, is the thin(ish) pad that came with it enough? Or should I buy a mattress specifically for the pack n play, too? (And thus, a mattress protector for THAT)
I also bought a mattress protector to keep leaks at bay. It's too big because I must have misread the size but I threw it on anyway since it was cheap enough. I washed it beforehand since I was washing other items anyway!
It is really just enough to get groceries for a week. If that. I started out thinking I would just help her for a few weeks and wasn't worried about money but it's become a nightmare. She surprisingly paid me today and apologized for being late so many times. I will for sure bring up the $60/ day later. I just can't stand drama especially in my family. It would be nice to be able to relax and enjoy DS before DD gets here. But I keep trying to remind myself I'm being helpful and it'll come back to me. I just wish she'd listen when I tell her I'm gonna lose it on her kid.
So here's what I know based on the variety of questions in this thread: 1) an easy pregnancy has no correlation on an easy labor. I loved my first pregnancy and had a 45 hour labor. Back labor started when I was pushing and had an epidural do I couldn't really move around much to relieve the pain. My doula was also a certified massage therapist, and I didn't even want her touching that spot (for reverse pressure). I'm not going to lie, the pushing was the worst part (2hrs) because I was so tired and the back labor. 2) I didn't get stretch marks my entire pregnancy with my first, yet ended up getting them after labor and pushing. Wtf?! They did fade over time, but I felt gipped on that one. 3) are the first few weeks hard? Yes. DS was on oxygen 24/7 for two months too so that added a little something extra to it. I was a walking zombie, still working on getting my breast milk supply up, suffering from PPD, navigating so many unknowns, missing my friends and work, not bonding with DS, and so much more. I will tell you that it gets easier the more you do it. Ask for help, and find a routine. It's also ok to hibernate for a while until you get your bearings, but try to get out of the house for a walk once you've healed up some, that helped so so much. 4) LO's nails start to tear off naturally so I just helped with the process a bit and didn't use the clippers until later. I was still scared from the first time nicked him and made him bleed. I cried too.
Some additional things: 1) dealing with the circumcision once home was not fun. It kept scabbing, sticking to the diaper and then bleeding once I had to change it. I could not wait until that little ring came off. Using ointment finally helped, but I could tell it wasn't a blissful experience for him. Still glad I did it though. 2) the belly button/umbilical cord stump starts to really reak after a while. We were like wtf is that smell, would give DS a bath and still have that smell. After a closer sniff test...yep it was the rotting flesh of the cord. So gross. I couldn't wait until that thing came off. 3) The Happiest Baby on the Block book/method was our savior. Check the video out from your library or buy it/read the book. 4) the other book I recommend is A Girlfriends Guide to Surviving Motherhood. Great insights and funny so it's an easy read.
Lost my mucus plug this morning...don't worry I didn't take a picture lol. I am starting to get nervous. I read that just cause you lose it it could still be like 2 weeks away from labor. I just wanna know if anyone else has experienced this?
I've been losing pieces for a month. It basically means nothing.
Here's a question, women who are breech, how did you find out? I asked my doc if she knew my baby's position at my 32 week check up and she said she still couldn't tell by feeling around. I have no more ultrasounds scheduled so I'm just curious if that's how you found out
Here's a question, women who are breech, how did you find out? I asked my doc if she knew my baby's position at my 32 week check up and she said she still couldn't tell by feeling around. I have no more ultrasounds scheduled so I'm just curious if that's how you found out
My doctor could eventually feel the head down low. She wasn't completely sure though, so she grabbed an ultrasound machine and looked real quick. I wasn't schedule to have a ultrasound or anything, she just grabbed one from the hallway, and put it up for a few seconds to confirm that the head was down.
Welp...someone dropped a poop in our hallway the other day walking to their room in labor. And we did not bat an eye and just cleaned it up and kept going. So theoretically it CANNOT get worse than that and no one cared. Don't stress, you will not lay a whole log on the table it's usually just teeny tiny pieces that are immediately cleaned up and most of the time you are none the wiser!
I'm sure I'll poop. Poop plays a central theme in my life so it only fits. And even the fact that it's in front of my coworkers and friends does not change the fact that I don't care.
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Thank you @SammeMotley@aliciac2008 and @HayesRN13 !! I'm hoping at Monday's 34 week check up they'll be able to tell. I'd be nervous to go into labor blindly having no idea if my baby was in position but I guess the docs would figure it out by then.
Thank you @ngaines27 ! I think I still secretly wish they'd need to do an ultrasound to get a better look but if they could tell my girl is in the right position, I'd be even happier. I'll keep you guys posted if I get any other insight on Monday. Thank you lovely ladies!
I'm having a hard time understanding what contractions feel like. I've been told they feel like period cramps... But obviously way worse but I'm told you'll feel them in your belly & it feels like sharp pains... So I guess my question is how exactly are you supposed to know if it's just cramping or the actual thing? I cramp all the time but I'm sure I'm not in labor. Also does it happen gradually or do you get the sharp pains and your like oh no gotta go!! Sorry for how stupid this question probably is, I know everyone experiences contractions differently but I just don't get how exactly you know
I have another question. ...so, I've heard that if it's not your first baby usually you don't drop until right before labor starts. But, for the past week everyone keep telling me I look like I've dropped. I guess it's not really a question per se but I'm wondering if anybody else is experiencing these comments or feel like they've dropped even though it's not a first pregnancy (along with the comments that I won't make it to my due date. Which I don't understand why people seem to think they really know when I will go into labor)
I have another question. ...so, I've heard that if it's not your first baby usually you don't drop until right before labor starts. But, for the past week everyone keep telling me I look like I've dropped. I guess it's not really a question per se but I'm wondering if anybody else is experiencing these comments or feel like they've dropped even though it's not a first pregnancy (along with the comments that I won't make it to my due date. Which I don't understand why people seem to think they really know when I will go into labor)
Almost everyone in my family has said I won't make it to June (due date June 2nd) because I'm "carrying SO low" I mean I don't feel like I've dropped any lower, to be honest I think I've carried him "low" my whole pregnancy... But yes I've gotten comments like that as well lol I guess it just goes with people trying to predict when it will happen lol
@lovethatcolosun I just wanted to add to some advice that "love colostrum" mentioned. If you are circumcising your son,ale sure to buy Vaseline at home. We put this at the front of the disappear to prevent sticking. In the hospital (if I remember correctly) they had an ointment that you used. We did this and had no problems. I think we were still doing this at our 2 week follow up with the Pediatrician and he was joking with my husband about it. DH was like "hey better to be be safe than sorry!".
This may sound crazy (or maybe it's normal?) but I think I'm more nervous about bringing our man home than I am about pushing him out of me.
Are the first few weeks really as tough as they say they are?
I think it's pretty individual. DH and I didn't have any baby experience. The night we got home DD started with the colic and we had no idea what to do. I also had a gallstone attack like a week after she was born and continued to have them weekly until I had my gallbladder out 8 months later. FYI it's apparently a pretty common thing after pregnancy that no one mentioned to me.
I'm having a hard time understanding what contractions feel like. I've been told they feel like period cramps... But obviously way worse but I'm told you'll feel them in your belly & it feels like sharp pains... So I guess my question is how exactly are you supposed to know if it's just cramping or the actual thing? I cramp all the time but I'm sure I'm not in labor. Also does it happen gradually or do you get the sharp pains and your like oh no gotta go!! Sorry for how stupid this question probably is, I know everyone experiences contractions differently but I just don't get how exactly you know
FTM here, but from what I understand you will KNOW! Contractions will come regularly and at increasing intervals. And the pain will be way more intense. Think the difference between "ow I'm cramping" and "oh my f'ing god it hurts".
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I'm sure I'll poop. Poop plays a central theme in my life so it only fits. And even the fact that it's in front of my coworkers and friends does not change the fact that I don't care.
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Poop pays.
I had gumbo the other week and didn't have any stomach issues but I thought baby was going to crawl out and bitch slap me for eating it. She.was.not.happy.
In labor with back pain the only thing that helped me was to stay on my hands and knees to keep the baby off my spine. I'd try not to stress in advance about it, more likely than not you wont have it!
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Edited for question: would you tell her to find someone else??
ETA I also feel that she's taking advantage of you by paying only $150 every two weeks and it would be reasonable to tell her that, with your new baby coming soon, you'll need that to increase, but that could be a very awkward conversation and you need to decide if it's worth the potential consequences.
I also bought a mattress protector to keep leaks at bay. It's too big because I must have misread the size but I threw it on anyway since it was cheap enough. I washed it beforehand since I was washing other items anyway!
1) an easy pregnancy has no correlation on an easy labor. I loved my first pregnancy and had a 45 hour labor. Back labor started when I was pushing and had an epidural do I couldn't really move around much to relieve the pain. My doula was also a certified massage therapist, and I didn't even want her touching that spot (for reverse pressure). I'm not going to lie, the pushing was the worst part (2hrs) because I was so tired and the back labor.
2) I didn't get stretch marks my entire pregnancy with my first, yet ended up getting them after labor and pushing. Wtf?! They did fade over time, but I felt gipped on that one.
3) are the first few weeks hard? Yes. DS was on oxygen 24/7 for two months too so that added a little something extra to it. I was a walking zombie, still working on getting my breast milk supply up, suffering from PPD, navigating so many unknowns, missing my friends and work, not bonding with DS, and so much more. I will tell you that it gets easier the more you do it. Ask for help, and find a routine. It's also ok to hibernate for a while until you get your bearings, but try to get out of the house for a walk once you've healed up some, that helped so so much.
4) LO's nails start to tear off naturally so I just helped with the process a bit and didn't use the clippers until later. I was still scared from the first time nicked him and made him bleed. I cried too.
Some additional things:
1) dealing with the circumcision once home was not fun. It kept scabbing, sticking to the diaper and then bleeding once I had to change it. I could not wait until that little ring came off. Using ointment finally helped, but I could tell it wasn't a blissful experience for him. Still glad I did it though.
2) the belly button/umbilical cord stump starts to really reak after a while. We were like wtf is that smell, would give DS a bath and still have that smell. After a closer sniff test...yep it was the rotting flesh of the cord. So gross. I couldn't wait until that thing came off.
3) The Happiest Baby on the Block book/method was our savior. Check the video out from your library or buy it/read the book.
4) the other book I recommend is A Girlfriends Guide to Surviving Motherhood. Great insights and funny so it's an easy read.
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