December 2015 Moms

Open Rant on DH, SO.. baby daddiesw/e..no judging

Ok some rules:
No judging, there may be curse words, not looking for support or solutions just want to bitch, everyone share. I know I'm not the only one

My DH is wonderful but I am so pissed off with so much of his crap, it's little things.
1. I bought a 50$ body pillow for me.. the pregnant one with the back problems. Why do I have to pry it from him every time I go to bed. Just leave it alone.
2. Stop touching my boobs. They are sore and I know they are bigger and he is excited but stop.
3. I'm pregnant not paralyzed. I don't need you to wash my back our feed me. But it would be nice if the dishes were done
4. I'm to hot (temp lol) to cuddle.
5. I'm not in the mood stop waving your boner around and poking me with it. I'm nauseous, I have a headache and a back ache, I'm bloated, constipated and worried about every cramp pain or fart.

Of course I'm not going to bitch out my poor husband bc he is trying but it feels good to let it out.
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Re: Open Rant on DH, SO.. baby daddiesw/e..no judging

  • colsen4colsen4 member
    lol I feel the same way. I just want my body pillow and some room to sleep without a boner in my back. Every morning he thinks it's a good way to try and wake me.
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  • @SoCalBeat sleep sexes lol. Do they get horn when we get pregnant. I too have been sleep sexed. All the time now and it wasn't as bad before.
  • Ugh, DH. This last and final baby was more my idea than his, so anytime I have a complaint his response is always, "well you asked for it."
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  • I have been asking DH for a month to call the contractor so we can figure out how much it's going to cost to make our house safer. He keeps saying he will, but I want to strangle him. I tried calling the contractor, but DH and him are friends and he'd rather talk to DH. Everyone else has a problem with DH wanting sex too much, but my situation is the other way around...I can't seem to get him to take his pants off when I want. He waits too long and I'm tired.
  • Same here ladies, for serious I need the dishes done so I can focus on keeping my rice cake in my belly for just a few minutes, stop grabbing my goodies. He's super excited about the baby and keeps asking about baby names, I'm excited too but can we have the conversation when it's not midnight and I have to get up at 5am??
  • Wow. I think you ladies are super lucky!! Mine wants sex all the time now, yes, but that's about it. He refuses to rub my back (I have adhesive spinal arachnoiditis that I can't take meds for anymore), or my legs during restless leg syndrome. I still do everything around the house except touch the litter box. I so wish he'd dote on me a little. I love him to death, and even before I got pregnant he's not really a doter, but geeze man, all I want is my back rubbed!! Wishing us all a healthy pregnancy. If anything, being pregnant has taught me how strong I really am.
  • Omg I came home and all my honey bunches of oats were gone. Lol you jinxed my cereal @enigmaanjel
    @Embuzz247 I'd probably punch my DH if he flicked my nipple bc they hurt so bad.
    @dtstokas I would die if I had to do all the house work. I can barley stand loading the dishwasher lol
  • Lol before I found out I was pregnant I was always begging my boyfriend for sex now that I'm pregnant he wants it all the time I'm at the point where I just wanna say no but I don't look.. And to get him to help me around the house is impossible.. He tells me I'm pregnant it happens.. Ok but since being pregnant I have had 3 bladder infections back to back, bronchitis and a yeast infection yeah I so wanna clean the house when I feel like crap all the time.. Plus he makes a bigger mess then my kids alone..!! So makes me wonder what is gonna happen when they put me on bed rest..!! Men can be so unbearable and unsensative
  • Razberii said:

    Omg I came home and all my honey bunches of oats were gone. Lol you jinxed my cereal @enigmaanjel
    @Embuzz247 I'd probably punch my DH if he flicked my nipple bc they hurt so bad.
    @dtstokas I would die if I had to do all the house work. I can barley stand loading the dishwasher lol

    Ooops sorry lol seriously though...do they not understand how serious a crime this is????
  • I love my husband so much but he drives me insane some days. He really has taken on a lot of the heavy duty tasks around the house, however, he doesn't understand "Don't touch my boobs" or why I'm so effing tired all day. Oh and he is constantly asking for a back rub. Ummmm hello?!?!
  • Love my SO to no end but he talked me out of buying a snoogle pregnancy pillow saying my body pillow was enough (it's SO not the same) but then yesterday spent $500 on a ps4 and a few games. I'm like really?!

    Then this morning I have a cardiology appointment across town and I asked him to come so I can drive in the carpool lane so it only takes 20 mins instead of an hour to get there with traffic and he tells me he wants to sleep in which I sooooo understand but now I had to wake up extra early to get there and I really just want to sleep. I feel like such a baby complaining about these things but damn these hormones!!
  • For real about the cuddling thing. My husband is like a freaking furnace. Stay on your side of the bed!!!!
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  • lalg28 said:

    My DH travels for work all the time. I'd just like to have him home even if he wanted sex all the time.

    Mine does too. I feel for you...It's really hard. Mine is only home on weekends. It would be so nice to have some help with my 1 year old during the week. Just one day would be so nice!

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  • sbost0118 said:

    Lol. I've got DH figured out. At night, we curl up to watch tv and of course he wants me to pay attention to his boner like always. And I'm like, my back is so sore! So as long as he rubs my back, I rub him! His hands never get tired anymore!

    I make this back rub deal often. It's a win win for sure.
  • SoCalBeatSoCalBeat member
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    Razberii said:

    Omg I came home and all my honey bunches of oats were gone. Lol you jinxed my cereal @enigmaanjel
    @Embuzz247 I'd probably punch my DH if he flicked my nipple bc they hurt so bad.
    @dtstokas I would die if I had to do all the house work. I can barley stand loading the dishwasher lol

    Haha I know what you ladies mean about cleaning. Even before I got pregnant, he never really helped me with house work even though I work twice as much as he does! Now I am working the same amount but I'm pregnant and I'm just so tired all the time. I like him most the time but when it comes to having to clean the house EVERYDAY because he's a neat freak; it just get's me pissed off that he doesn't offer to help or just automatically help. Ladies YOU are lucky you have the coveted DISHWASHER! We currently rent a 1950 house that has NO DISHWASHER and it just drives me insane having to do it 4 times a week! @amandaluv5 My husband does the same thing, he leaves more of a mess rather than helping me!
    With the whole "back-rub" thing, my husband has been using that to get sex out of me since we got married, he says that it because "he likes it when I feel good", I doubt it though! I know he does it for sex because he only does it after we haven't had sex for 1 day. My DH is a horny horn doggy; he needs sex about twice a day every day in order to be satisfied. Sadly he wasn't like this for the first 9 months I was with him, so I married the sex fiend without knowledge. After I was locked in - the sex was on. My vagina has been beaten up enough over the last 5 years, sex is the last thing on my mind! I personally the 4 days a week I give him now is a perfect compromise and is enough to keep any man from looking elsewhere.

    I usually just tell him, hey, I'm pregnant and I'm stressing out and have a lot on my mind.  I can't enjoy sex unless I have no distractions; right now that ain't happening, so you need to bear with me like I bear with you!

    @Katiemstar Mine calls his swinging boner his mating call too! Haha, how funny!
  • DH is both wonderful and the most annoying human being on the face of the planet ... all at the same time.

    My biggest grievance lately?

    Stop asking me what I want for dinner!!!! Prior to pregnancy we would email each other around noon or so to try and figure out what to make for dinner. Then one of us would pick up the ingredients on the way home. He's been doing that the last week or so and my response is always "I don't know." Sorry honey, but what sounds good at noon is NOT what is going to sound good at dinner time. It just isn't. I've explained that to him. I've let him know that the majority of the time he's probably going to be making his own dinner and I'll eat it if it sounds good and if not I'll be finding something on my own that does.

    He wants to be supportive and is like "well then just let me know what you want when you know." Honey, I MAY NEVER KNOW. It could be two minutes before dinner time and I could have absolutely no idea what I want to put in my mouth or what's going to stay down. Please, pretty please, just make food and don't ask me for input.

    Last night we decided on Thai food (that was a rough decision to begin with). Then he pulls out the menu from our local place and puts it in front of me and says, "what do you want?" The look on my face must have registered with him because he removed the menu and gave me like five choices instead of the entire menu. We finally settled on three things and when they arrived they weren't even what I wanted. I ate them, but I was not content at all.

    If he asks me today what I want for dinner, I'm not sure I'm going to be able to be pleasant anymore. Please don't ask me to make that decision!

    Rant over.
  • Everything on this post is my life right now ! Adding on that he always wants a BJ and I'm sorry but when I'm constantly naeseaous that Thing isn't going anywhere near my mouth!
  • My poor DH isn't really doing anything that I should really get pissed off about, but sometimes my hormones just start flying and he ends up as my punching bag.  The other day I told him that I was irritated by the way he was eating and he got so hurt! 
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  • DH is both wonderful and the most annoying human being on the face of the planet ... all at the same time.


    My biggest grievance lately?

    Stop asking me what I want for dinner!!!! He's been doing that the last week or so and my response is always "I don't know."

    He wants to be supportive and is like "well then just let me know what you want when you know."

    If he asks me today what I want for dinner, I'm not sure I'm going to be able to be pleasant anymore. Please don't ask me to make that decision!

    Rant over.

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  • Haha this post made me laugh because they're all seriously my life right now. From the boner "mating call" to having to hide all my favorite snacks so they don't get eaten! Literally have an empty box of cereal that I know he doesn't like filled with all my snacks so he doesn't see them lmao. And don't even get me started on him drinking my ginger ale and eating my saltines!
  • I wished DH would do some housework (particularly dishes!) and quit asking me to make dinner! Or telling me that I'm "too hard to please" when I say no to all suggestions because everything makes me want to puke. Ugh!! At least he's gotten a little better. I had a total breakdown one night (pregnancy makes me weepy), and he felt really bad, because I was so sick yet so hungry. He's finally doing some housework, but still wants to know what's for dinner. Eye roll. At least he gets that he's not "getting any" and just kisses my stomach at night before going to sleep.
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  • jjodomjjodom member
    Yesterday.
    I woke up at 5:30am to let the dogs out and feed them. I noticed that he left all the dirty dishes in the sink so I cleaned them. Lunch.. Same thing. Dinner comes, we eat and I get up to go pack (I travel for work). 30 minutes later, I walk in to the kitchen/living room and the minute he saw me he says " my head hurts I'm going to bed" and leaves the dirty dishes out AGAIN. If I cook, he should clean. If he cooks, I should clean. After I finished dishes for the 3rd time that day, I finally got in bed and situated and my husband says "oh did you do all the dishes? I could have done them" it took everything in me to just say " yeah I did them all" and not pick a fight.
  • I understand the no hubby at home. DH works 2 (sometimes 5 weeks) and only home for one. My DS will be two next month. I'm so tired! But, he's great when we comes home. He pretty much does everything, and let's me rest (and by rest I mean sitting in the BA b/c I've been nothing but nauseous this entire first tri-mester!
  • nik6499nik6499 member
    So I totally read OP comment about leaving the pregnancy pillow alone out loud to my DH and he just laughed, suggested I buy one so I stop using his pillow to create a makeshift for myself lol
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  • kyleneum13 same here! Except when I ask what he wants for dinner it's the "whatever you want babe" cause he thinks that's being supportive, etc but it's opposite. Give me a damn answer or idea. Nothing sounds good to me, but it still has to be ME that come up with everything. 
  • We were just sitting in the waiting room before being called back for our ultrasound and my wonderful husband played a video he recorded on his phone.....of me snoring!   [-(
  • nik6499 said:

    So I totally read OP comment about leaving the pregnancy pillow alone out loud to my DH and he just laughed, suggested I buy one so I stop using his pillow to create a makeshift for myself lol

    That's what we are here for, get those body pillows by any means lol. I do that with the other post, read them out loud to DH for extra validation lol.
  • This thread is hilarious and so true some of these post had me rolling cause my husband does the exact same things. I think we should make this a sticky thread. ;)
  • Lately I literally have been sick everyday and my boyfriend made a comment something that I would have normally just pushed off but i made a big deal out of it.. He looked at me and said he's come to the conclusion that I'm just gonna be sick this whole pregnancy.. Ok not a bad comment.. But at the moment it was the most selfies thing I have ever heard in my life and I snapped I said u try being pregnant.. He said he was sorry but really.. And lately the smell of things make me wanna barf he's been smoking these nasty cigars and I keep telling him how gross they smell.. Then he forces me to eat something.. Tells me he wants his baby to be strong lucky for him I haven't barfed yet but he will make me get something and it goes to waste because I can't eat it like ugh I told u I wasn't hungry.. And the sex thing is driving me nuts don't ask me to go down there with my mouth when I already want to barf.. Ugh men I wish for one day they had to feel our pain..!!
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