Hello All-
I wanted to get some feedback on how others handled the in-law situation. This is my husband first born, I have an 8 year old from a previous marriage. I understand how excited my hubs, and his family are. It makes me happy they are excited to welcome this little girl into the world. However, learning from experience too many people in the room AFTER the baby is born is chaotic. I do not want to turn anyone away the day of...I'm having a second C-section so we will know the date. His family is very large, and tend to give their opinions, and recommendations. My husband thinks I'm over-reacting and only being mean...I keep trying to tell him that once she is born he is going to see where I am coming from. My family doesn't do this because we all know each others limits and guidelines.
My MIL is also a teacher so she'll be off all summer, and constantly jokes about moving in to help...I appreciate the help, but I also want my space....
How did everyone else handle situations like this?
Re: In Law limitation
Worst case scenario, you can always say the hospital only allows a certain number of visitors at a time (you can even check to see if that's an actual policy) so it may be better to just wait. At least then you won't have a ton of people trying to crowd into your hospital room!
I'm kind of mean, and i'd only do this if my husband was on board...but i'd give them a C-section date of about 2-3 days after your actual scheduled date and then call them after she's been born and you have a few hours to yourselves and be like "oops! she came early!" ;-)
my in-laws were at the hospital when my SIL's son was born...even though they live in states that are a 12 hour drive or 2 hour flight away. They were in that hospital with her almost the whole time she was there. I would prefer to not see anyone at the hospital, but would be fine with them stopping by. They always drive to see us (it's 8 hours) so i'm trying to negotiate with my husband that we won't call them to tell them i'm in labor until i'm about to start pushing...i figure that should give us a lead time of at least 6 hours. My parents will fly here, so i don't have to worry about them coming until a few days later. The in-laws keep asking when they should come, and insisting that they don't want to come too early or impose, but they said the same thing when SIL was pregnant, and then they hopped on a plane the second she told them she was in labor, so i don't trust them.
I would, however, let my MIL live with us for a few weeks afterwards. She loves to clean, and i hate it with the fire of a thousand suns, so it would be nice to have someone around to take care of that for me. ;-)
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