Hi! So I have 3 days of Positive opks? My SO and I DTD the day before the 1st and also every single day (about 24 hours apart due to schedules) of the 3 Positive opks. Today I got a negative?
Is that normal to get 3 days of them? Just wondering if that has happened to anyone else?
My last cycle was the first time I've ever used OPKs, and I got 2 days of positives (I very well may have had 3, but we traveled the next day, so I didn't get a chance to test).
Me: 26, DH: 41
Colin Patrick born on 4/29 via emergency C-section following 41-week induction
It also depends on the type of opks you're using. I've used two types of opks and one I had 5 days of positive opks and the other I only had 1 positive opk.
No need for attitude Jags8. Just trying to be modest. There is no reason to say anything about how I worded my post. If you don't like it, simply move on and don't comment.
No need for attitude Jags8. Just trying to be modest. There is no reason to say anything about how I worded my post. If you don't like it, simply move on and don't comment.
"Thanks for the head's up, @Jags8! I'm new to this board so I haven't quite figured out the best terminology to use. One more term down, many more to go! I'll get it eventually!"
Your questions and responses will be much better received that way. You're welcome.
When I was using OPKs, I exclusively used digitals because it took the guesswork of whether it's a true positive or not. However, they're much more expensive and line tests can also be just effective. I believe most of the ladies here used Wondfos, which are super cheap test strips you can buy online. Try Amazon or eBay. You can test twice a day, if you'd like and not break the bank! You can also get a giant box of Wondfo pregnancy tests, too.
Its best to temp and use opks. Opks are good for a second ovulation confirmation. But opks alone just aren't reliable because you can get so many positives. I check my cm, cervix and use opks and temp and when it all lines up I know I ovulated.
No need for attitude Jags8. Just trying to be modest. There is no reason to say anything about how I worded my post. If you don't like it, simply move on and don't comment.
There's nothing "immodest" about saying sex. This is a TTC board. Aside from some of the 18 year-olds who may not yet know how things work, we all know that sex is involved. Don't get an attitude with someone who is clueing you in on how things work here.
Me: 30 DH: 35
TTC #1 - Jan 2015
BFP on 5/13/15 DD born 1/24/16 TTC #2 - Jun 2017 BFP on 8/24/17
No need for attitude Jags8. Just trying to be modest. There is no reason to say anything about how I worded my post. If you don't like it, simply move on and don't comment.
Um no, that's not how that works here.
This is the internet. Say sex, again, we're all adults.
Why does it matter to anyone how I termed it? If you understand what I meant then what is the issue ? Does it change your answer for me? No, probably not. So again, if you feel as though it effects you negatively in some way, then please just move on.
Also it is just a common abbreviation that I have seen used and have used on other boards. This is the first time I have ever encountered anyone taking an issue with it.
Why does it matter to anyone how I termed it? If you understand what I meant then what is the issue ? Does it change your answer for me? No, probably not. So again, if you feel as though it effects you negatively in some way, then please just move on.
Also it is just a common abbreviation that I have seen used and have used on other boards. This is the first time I have ever encountered anyone taking an issue with it.
When I was using OPKs, I exclusively used digitals because it took the guesswork of whether it's a true positive or not. However, they're much more expensive and line tests can also be just effective. I believe most of the ladies here used Wondfos, which are super cheap test strips you can buy online. Try Amazon or eBay. You can test twice a day, if you'd like and not break the bank! You can also get a giant box of Wondfo pregnancy tests, too.
In my post I said that I got 3 positives. I know that they were positives for sure. So the dollar store brands work just fine. I was just wondering if that was a normal thing.
I did a little more research myself, and found out its pretty common. But thanks for the advice.
And in reference to your earlier response about my reply to Jag. It was rude of anyone on here to troll me about my terminology. As I stated in the reply above, it doesn't change the answer to my question so I don't know why someone even brought it up to me. I won't be polite to people that are obviously nit-picky and not.polite to me. If you don't like that, again, I strongly encourage you to move on from the post
Its best to temp and use opks. Opks are good for a second ovulation confirmation. But opks alone just aren't reliable because you can get so many positives. I check my cm, cervix and use opks and temp and when it all lines up I know I ovulated.
When I was using OPKs, I exclusively used digitals because it took the guesswork of whether it's a true positive or not. However, they're much more expensive and line tests can also be just effective. I believe most of the ladies here used Wondfos, which are super cheap test strips you can buy online. Try Amazon or eBay. You can test twice a day, if you'd like and not break the bank! You can also get a giant box of Wondfo pregnancy tests, too.
In my post I said that I got 3 positives. I know that they were positives for sure. So the dollar store brands work just fine. I was just wondering if that was a normal thing.
I did a little more research myself, and found out its pretty common. But thanks for the advice.
And in reference to your earlier response about my reply to Jag. It was rude of anyone on here to troll me about my terminology. As I stated in the reply above, it doesn't change the answer to my question so I don't know why someone even brought it up to me. I won't be polite to people that are obviously nit-picky and not.polite to me. If you don't like that, again, I strongly encourage you to move on from the post
I think you're missing the point here. You're coming into an established community with rules and preferences. The ladies who have commented regarding your terminology are letting you know the expectations of the community and how to avoid these comments in the future. If you don't like their responses or preferences of the community then you also have the choice to ignore the comments and move on.
I am 25. I am an adult and therefore can speak the way I choose. I just don't see why I have to say "sex" to make anyone happy? It's not like you didn't know what I meant or what I was saying and it had nothing to do with my post so, don't know why it was brought up?
I am 25. I am an adult and therefore can speak the way I choose. I just don't see why I have to say "sex" to make anyone happy? It's not like you didn't know what I meant or what I was saying and it had nothing to do with my post so, don't know why it was brought up?
Because this is an established community...where we say sex. I'm not sure why you're missing the point.
I am 25. I am an adult and therefore can speak the way I choose. I just don't see why I have to say "sex" to make anyone happy? It's not like you didn't know what I meant or what I was saying and it had nothing to do with my post so, don't know why it was brought up?
Actually it did take me a minute to understand what DTD meant. And correcting you on terminology is not trolling. Trolling is continuously making offensive posts to try to get a rise out of others.
We use abbreviations to shorten words we have to say a lot. Cycle Day becomes CD, days past ovulation becomes DPO. Sex is three letters. We don't need an abbreviation for it. We don't need a code word to be "modest" because we are adults, and sex is a major part in becoming pregnant.
When I was using OPKs, I exclusively used digitals because it took the guesswork of whether it's a true positive or not. However, they're much more expensive and line tests can also be just effective. I believe most of the ladies here used Wondfos, which are super cheap test strips you can buy online. Try Amazon or eBay. You can test twice a day, if you'd like and not break the bank! You can also get a giant box of Wondfo pregnancy tests, too.
In my post I said that I got 3 positives. I know that they were positives for sure. So the dollar store brands work just fine. I was just wondering if that was a normal thing.
I did a little more research myself, and found out its pretty common. But thanks for the advice.
And in reference to your earlier response about my reply to Jag. It was rude of anyone on here to troll me about my terminology. As I stated in the reply above, it doesn't change the answer to my question so I don't know why someone even brought it up to me. I won't be polite to people that are obviously nit-picky and not.polite to me. If you don't like that, again, I strongly encourage you to move on from the post
No one was trolling you sweetheart. You assumed she had a bitchy tone but I don't see that she used her bitchy font. Two things to consider/remember when you are participating in an online forum:
1. You can't dictate how people will respond to your post
2. Try not to read too much into words since you cannot instinctively know the tone of the author
To be sure, I changed my font color to pink/purple so this would seem less threatening to you :-bd
I am 25. I am an adult and therefore can speak the way I choose. I just don't see why I have to say "sex" to make anyone happy? It's not like you didn't know what I meant or what I was saying and it had nothing to do with my post so, don't know why it was brought up?
I don't understand why the idea of an online community having it's own norms is so difficult for people to understand. Think about when you go over to a dinner party at an acquaintance's house for the first time. What's one of the first things you do (or should do)? You take a minute to see how they do things in their home so that you don't offend them or make an idiot of yourself. You ask if they are a "shoes on or off" household. Maybe they don't drink alcohol, maybe they don't swear in their home. You don't know these things at first, and a polite person takes the time to get a feel of their "norm" before dropping the F-bomb or asking for a beer.
Me: 30 DH: 35
TTC #1 - Jan 2015
BFP on 5/13/15 DD born 1/24/16 TTC #2 - Jun 2017 BFP on 8/24/17
OP, we're not trying to scare you away or "troll" you - this place is actually extremely helpful and supportive if you can accept the personality of this community.
The thing is, when you come in and ask a repetitious question without taking the time to lurk, it rubs us the wrong way. It's almost like you're saying "I am too important to take the time to do basic research myself and my questions should be answered immediately" - whether this was your intended thought process or not. Remember, this is an online forum, so even if you have the best intentions, it may not be inherently obvious to the rest of us. Let me tell you my story so that you know that this is coming from someone who was more or less in your shoes not that long ago.
I came to TB midway through my 4th cycle. I realized that TTC was harder that I anticipated and I needed help. But I'm a working girl: I'm a teacher and I have a second job and I take 12 graduate credits a semester. I barely have time to stay on top of my laundry. Sure, I lurked a little. But I didn't spend enough time lurking and as a result, I didn't find exactly what I needed. So I made a post, because to me, my question was valid and important, and I just didn't have "the time".
I got flamed. I never knew I could be so angry at a bunch of anonymous people on the internet! I dug in my heels and I got defensive. I thought "these women are bitches" among some other rather nasty thoughts. It took FOREVER for my thread to die. Or at least it felt like it. Instead of leaving, which I contemplated, I decided to lay low.
I gave out loves. I commented "congrats" for BFPs and "sorry for you loss" on MCs/CPs. But most of all, I just read. I learned a lot. I saw the same questions, questions I had asked, being asked over and over again. I saw posters pussy-footing around terms like sex, cervix, vagina - grown women! Then I got it. And I felt like a huge asshole. I even contemplated making a new account so I could start fresh because TB never forgets. I can never apologize enough to the helpful ladies here for how childish I initially acted.
The point is, I wish I had taken the time to lurk as is suggested, as I suggest to newbies, before diving in - this is a wonderful, supportive group of ladies. But...the personality is distinct. They will tell you how it is. They will give you facts - they will comfort you if comfort is due. They offer support and sound advice. And they know how to have fun even given some stressful times. But you cannot expect any of these things unless you are willing to take criticism, lurk, and offer support as well. It's a two-way street - It's really that simple.
tl;dr - put on your big girl pants, roll with the bunches, and join our cult.
I had a sort of similar situation @missteacherlady16 ! It wasn't here, it was a long time ago in the Infertility board. I had JUST started getting active there when I found out about a BFP. Wrong place to announce it. I was Roose Bolton'd and flayed alive. Definitely learned my lesson and in retrospect, I definitely did not handle that appropriately. I had been trying just as long/has the same issues as those ladies but they didn't know me! But I apologized, deleted my post & moved on. The TB ladies are awesome, full of snark & the most supportive I've ever seen! You just can't ask for support and not give it, everyone here is going through a hard journey.
Second thing, I used the First Response OPK & once I got a YES+, I stopped testing. So I get confused when I see folks test for more & get positives for like 3 days in a row or however long. I haven't seen a lot of folks use that brand, I have to buy another this cycle.. Maybe I'll get the clear blue (not advanced?).
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I had a sort of similar situation @missteacherlady16 ! It wasn't here, it was a long time ago in the Infertility board. I had JUST started getting active there when I found out about a BFP. Wrong place to announce it. I was Roose Bolton'd and flayed alive. Definitely learned my lesson and in retrospect, I definitely did not handle that appropriately. I had been trying just as long/has the same issues as those ladies but they didn't know me! But I apologized, deleted my post & moved on. The TB ladies are awesome, full of snark & the most supportive I've ever seen! You just can't ask for support and not give it, everyone here is going through a hard journey.
Second thing, I used the First Response OPK & once I got a YES+, I stopped testing. So I get confused when I see folks test for more & get positives for like 3 days in a row or however long. I haven't seen a lot of folks use that brand, I have to buy another this cycle.. Maybe I'll get the clear blue (not advanced?).
First, LOL to the above bolded.
Second, I agree with PPs. OP, please don't feel that we are "trolling" you. This is a GREAT community with an insane amount of useful knowledge. Before I came here I was on the etiquette board on TheKnot. These two boards remind me a lot of each other (and I actually occasionally see several of the same people overlapping like me). I haven't gotten flamed on this board yet, but DEAR GOD did I get flamed the first time I posted on the etiquette board. I learned a really important lesson about how these boards (all boards) really should be approached with an open mind. Take it all in for a few days before you dive in. It's a lot like becoming friends with a large group of ladies who already have known each other for a long time. The first few times you hang out you kind of watch and listen and figure out what the "climate" is.
This community is extremely smart, and also real as fuck. These ladies will give you the BEST advice around, but they also will be the first to tell you to get your head out of the clouds.
I really hope you stick around, OP. This community is awesome.
As for your question, I typically wait for my first positive OPK and stop testing after that, although now I might start continuing to test. OPKs simply show if you are having a surge of luteinizing hormone. Sometimes we have these surges without ovulating afterwards. I've heard of ladies having this surge at different points during the month. I definitely suggest you get into temping, which will give you a much better idea of your cycle. If you do start to temp I hope you stick around because these ladies are PROS. Also, try picking up a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility. That book is my gd bible.
I had a sort of similar situation @missteacherlady16 ! It wasn't here, it was a long time ago in the Infertility board. I had JUST started getting active there when I found out about a BFP. Wrong place to announce it. I was Roose Bolton'd and flayed alive. Definitely learned my lesson and in retrospect, I definitely did not handle that appropriately. I had been trying just as long/has the same issues as those ladies but they didn't know me! But I apologized, deleted my post & moved on. The TB ladies are awesome, full of snark & the most supportive I've ever seen! You just can't ask for support and not give it, everyone here is going through a hard journey.
Second thing, I used the First Response OPK & once I got a YES+, I stopped testing. So I get confused when I see folks test for more & get positives for like 3 days in a row or however long. I haven't seen a lot of folks use that brand, I have to buy another this cycle.. Maybe I'll get the clear blue (not advanced?).
First, LOL to the above bolded.
Second, I agree with PPs. OP, please don't feel that we are "trolling" you. This is a GREAT community with an insane amount of useful knowledge. Before I came here I was on the etiquette board on TheKnot. These two boards remind me a lot of each other (and I actually occasionally see several of the same people overlapping like me). I haven't gotten flamed on this board yet, but DEAR GOD did I get flamed the first time I posted on the etiquette board. I learned a really important lesson about how these boards (all boards) really should be approached with an open mind. Take it all in for a few days before you dive in. It's a lot like becoming friends with a large group of ladies who already have known each other for a long time. The first few times you hang out you kind of watch and listen and figure out what the "climate" is.
This community is extremely smart, and also real as fuck. These ladies will give you the BEST advice around, but they also will be the first to tell you to get your head out of the clouds.
I really hope you stick around, OP. This community is awesome.
As for your question, I typically wait for my first positive OPK and stop testing after that, although now I might start continuing to test. OPKs simply show if you are having a surge of luteinizing hormone. Sometimes we have these surges without ovulating afterwards. I've heard of ladies having this surge at different points during the month. I definitely suggest you get into temping, which will give you a much better idea of your cycle. If you do start to temp I hope you stick around because these ladies are PROS. Also, try picking up a copy of Taking Charge of Your Fertility. That book is my gd bible.
Love me some game of thrones!!
I actually started temping this cycle, first time! And I didn't know about getting multiple surges until this board, however I didn't get my surge until CD23 & cycle ended CD36, so I'm fairly confident it was probably a true surge for that use. I'm excited to temp this month and get actual confirmation though. I asked my doctor last Friday the best time to use the OPK because I kept reading 2pm but she actually said 4pm was better. So I'll try that this round.
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Re: 3 days of Positive opk?
DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17
"Thanks for the head's up, @Jags8! I'm new to this board so I haven't quite figured out the best terminology to use. One more term down, many more to go! I'll get it eventually!"
Your questions and responses will be much better received that way. You're welcome.
HSG: Sept 2014, clear tubes
Dx: MFI - Low motility, morph, count (Aug. 2014); Hypothyroidism (May 2015)
Moved to IUIs October 2014
IUI #1 w/ injections: Nov 2014- BFN
IUI #2 w/ injections: Jan 2015- BFN
IUI #3.1 w/ injections: Feb. 2015, cancelled due to cysts- 10 days BCP
IUI #3.2 w/ injections: Feb/March 2015- BFN
IUI #4 w/ 100mg Clomid + Injections: August 2015- BFN
IUI #5 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: September 2015- BFN
IUI #6 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: October 2015 - Cancelled due low response
Moved to IVF May 2016
Retrieved 18 eggs on 05/27/2016, 13 were ICSI'd, 9 made it to day-five transfer
Transferred 2 beautiful day-five embryos on 06/01/2016, froze 7
BFP 4dp5dt on 06/05/2016! Line continued to darken beautifully!
EDD: February 17, 2017
Beta #1: 92
Beta #2: 305
Ultrasound #1 - one baby!
Ultrasound #2 - saw heartbeat!
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HSG: Sept 2014, clear tubes
Dx: MFI - Low motility, morph, count (Aug. 2014); Hypothyroidism (May 2015)
Moved to IUIs October 2014
IUI #1 w/ injections: Nov 2014- BFN
IUI #2 w/ injections: Jan 2015- BFN
IUI #3.1 w/ injections: Feb. 2015, cancelled due to cysts- 10 days BCP
IUI #3.2 w/ injections: Feb/March 2015- BFN
IUI #4 w/ 100mg Clomid + Injections: August 2015- BFN
IUI #5 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: September 2015- BFN
IUI #6 w/ 5mg Femara + Injections: October 2015 - Cancelled due low response
Moved to IVF May 2016
Retrieved 18 eggs on 05/27/2016, 13 were ICSI'd, 9 made it to day-five transfer
Transferred 2 beautiful day-five embryos on 06/01/2016, froze 7
BFP 4dp5dt on 06/05/2016! Line continued to darken beautifully!
EDD: February 17, 2017
Beta #1: 92
Beta #2: 305
Ultrasound #1 - one baby!
Ultrasound #2 - saw heartbeat!
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DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17
This is the internet. Say sex, again, we're all adults.
DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17
Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/58d258
Maybe we should start saying "if you're old enough to do it, you should be old enough to call it sex"
Also it is just a common abbreviation that I have seen used and have used on other boards. This is the first time I have ever encountered anyone taking an issue with it.
I did a little more research myself, and found out its pretty common. But thanks for the advice.
And in reference to your earlier response about my reply to Jag. It was rude of anyone on here to troll me about my terminology. As I stated in the reply above, it doesn't change the answer to my question so I don't know why someone even brought it up to me. I won't be polite to people that are obviously nit-picky and not.polite to me. If you don't like that, again, I strongly encourage you to move on from the post
Me (26) Him (27)
21 cycles TTC
Yep! They are where all the generic medications are in the dollar store. Sometimes they are hidden. They are usually in a pink or white box.
I bought them by the boat load. Haha! Cheap and they worked for me so, if no BFP this month then I will keep using them!
Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/58d258
We use abbreviations to shorten words we have to say a lot. Cycle Day becomes CD, days past ovulation becomes DPO. Sex is three letters. We don't need an abbreviation for it. We don't need a code word to be "modest" because we are adults, and sex is a major part in becoming pregnant.
I did a little more research myself, and found out its pretty common. But thanks for the advice.
And in reference to your earlier response about my reply to Jag. It was rude of anyone on here to troll me about my terminology. As I stated in the reply above, it doesn't change the answer to my question so I don't know why someone even brought it up to me. I won't be polite to people that are obviously nit-picky and not.polite to me. If you don't like that, again, I strongly encourage you to move on from the post
No one was trolling you sweetheart. You assumed she had a bitchy tone but I don't see that she used her bitchy font. Two things to consider/remember when you are participating in an online forum:
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17
The thing is, when you come in and ask a repetitious question without taking the time to lurk, it rubs us the wrong way. It's almost like you're saying "I am too important to take the time to do basic research myself and my questions should be answered immediately" - whether this was your intended thought process or not. Remember, this is an online forum, so even if you have the best intentions, it may not be inherently obvious to the rest of us. Let me tell you my story so that you know that this is coming from someone who was more or less in your shoes not that long ago.
I got flamed. I never knew I could be so angry at a bunch of anonymous people on the internet! I dug in my heels and I got defensive. I thought "these women are bitches" among some other rather nasty thoughts. It took FOREVER for my thread to die. Or at least it felt like it. Instead of leaving, which I contemplated, I decided to lay low.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
I had a sort of similar situation @missteacherlady16 ! It wasn't here, it was a long time ago in the Infertility board. I had JUST started getting active there when I found out about a BFP. Wrong place to announce it. I was Roose Bolton'd and flayed alive. Definitely learned my lesson and in retrospect, I definitely did not handle that appropriately. I had been trying just as long/has the same issues as those ladies but they didn't know me! But I apologized, deleted my post & moved on. The TB ladies are awesome, full of snark & the most supportive I've ever seen! You just can't ask for support and not give it, everyone here is going through a hard journey.
Second thing, I used the First Response OPK & once I got a YES+, I stopped testing. So I get confused when I see folks test for more & get positives for like 3 days in a row or however long. I haven't seen a lot of folks use that brand, I have to buy another this cycle.. Maybe I'll get the clear blue (not advanced?).
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04
Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/58d258
I actually started temping this cycle, first time! And I didn't know about getting multiple surges until this board, however I didn't get my surge until CD23 & cycle ended CD36, so I'm fairly confident it was probably a true surge for that use. I'm excited to temp this month and get actual confirmation though. I asked my doctor last Friday the best time to use the OPK because I kept reading 2pm but she actually said 4pm was better. So I'll try that this round.
LFAF February Siggy Challenge - "Favorite TV/Movie Couple"
DD: 10/17/13
TTC#2 Actively: 10/14, NTNP: 01/14
Left-Sided Hydrosalpinx (cause: genetic abnormality, TREATED 11/16)
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/396b04