We are not pregnant yet but since day one DH and I have kept a list of names we love and update it at least once a month. One pattern we have noticed was using boy names for girls and vis versa. Opinions?
For example: for a girl we are set on (for the moment) Ronan. Possibly Ro for short.
Re: Gender name swap
However, I also think that a name shouldn't complicate a child's life, so naming a child something typically masculine can cause all sorts of confusion for the child's future.
So I try to find girl names that are simple, yet still make it obvious that she is a SHE. For example, Jade, Paige, Regan, Tess, Neve, Maeve, and Carys are all names that sound more masculine while still being feminine. Maybe Sloane instead of Ronan?
The op asked for opinions. They were given. If you can't handle someone not liking the things you like, maybe the internet isn't the best place for you.
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OP, I think Ronan would definitely work on a girl, but if you end up feeling it's just too masculine I would suggest Rowen for a similar sound and the same NN. It's adorable and it isn't uncommon for girls, either, so she'd do just fine growing up with it.
At the end of the day, parents should love the names they give their children...even if no one else does!
We do not blow smoke in here. Our opinions are what they are. If you don't like them, too bad. We're not being rude, we're just giving our opinions... because you asked for them. Honestly, the general consensus on this topic is that parents giving masculine names to girls come off as trying too hard. It's a trend that most of us are not into, so we're not going to support it. And, sorry, but this has just been covered so many times that by now our tone may come off as harsh, but in reality it's still just blunt honesty.
I'm not being rude. I couldn't care less what you name your child, just as I'm sure you won't care what I name mine. But you asked for opinions so you're getting them. Just roll with it and if you still stand by your choice then go ahead and use it. But if you are asking because you want to know what kind of reactions the name will get, this forum is showing you. You either care or you don't. The key is to not take it personally. Everyone has their opinions, and you yours. Don't whine about it.
At the end of the day, parents should love the names they give their children...even if no one else does!
Too bad none of the names mentioned in this post are remotely feminine.
And if hearing that causes you to have a hissy fit, the person telling you a name is masculine isn't the one with the problem.
You also cannot hear tone from a written post (in most cases) so it's really your own defensive attitude that is the problem.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
I am one of the few who actually likes boy names for girls, but I don't care for Ronan for a girl. Rowen is cute though & still could have Ro for a NN.
As for the drama- ignore it. Some people get off on being the name police around here.
DD1 born 5/24/10.
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DD2 born 5/14/13.
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TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
No, I don't. Not at all.
This is totally going to make me sound elderly, but I think my love of boy names for girls goes all the way back to the show Sisters. There was 4 sisters & they all had girl names with boy NNs: Alexandra was called Alex; Theodora, Teddy; Georgiana, Georgie; and Francesca, Frankie.
I have loved boy names for girls & also very feminine FNs with masculine NNs ever since.
DD1 born 5/24/10.
Missed M/C at 14 wks Feb 2012.
DD2 born 5/14/13.
Missed M/C at 9 wks July 2015.
Not saying I plan on using a unisex or masculine name on a girl (my top choice is actually very feminine) but offering another reason it may appeal to some people other than being "cool." If it's not your style that is fine, everyone has different tastes and perspectives.
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It's part of the reason I always suggest people name their child things like Alexander instead of Alex, Frances instead of Fran, Beatrice instead of Bea, etc. It gives the kid more options to go by later in life, and more of a say in their identity.
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