@mamaburdin2010 I'm going to wait. And if/when I become pregnant I will be pregnant, happy, and I will discuss it with my BF and we will figure out the steps we need to take to be able to provide well for our child, and we'll go from there.
Ladies and gentleman - we have a winner!!! Best of luck on your journey. Glad to hear you are considering your future children's welfare above your own wants.
Ladies and gentleman - we have a winner!!! Best of luck on your journey. Glad to hear you are considering your future children's welfare above your own wants.
@missteacherlady16 No offense or anything, but you can think what you want. It is very real. I'm going to go back on my pills tonight, take an hpt in a few weeks just to be sure that I'm not pregnant (unless I get my period, then I won't even bother), get a job, move in with my BF, and when we're ready again I will TTC in a minimum of 6 months if my BF is ready as well by then.
@heawilliams Trust me. I'm waiting. I'm going back on my pills tonight, I'm going to take a hpt in a few weeks just to be sure that I'm not pregnant (unless I get my period, then I won't even bother with a test), I'm going to get a job, move in with my BF, and then in a minimum of 6 months if we're both ready then my BF and I will TTC again, and if we're not ready then I will wait longer.
@heawilliams Trust me. I'm waiting. I'm going back on my pills tonight, I'm going to take a hpt in a few weeks just to be sure that I'm not pregnant (unless I get my period, then I won't even bother with a test), I'm going to get a job, move in with my BF, and then in a minimum of 6 months if we're both ready then my BF and I will TTC again, and if we're not ready then I will wait longer.
Please follow the proper instructions on your BCPs. You cannot just go back on them in the middle of a cycle. Please use other protection until AF arrives and then start your next pack.
@kyleneum13 Oh, yes. Of course. I'm going to read the little booklet before taking anything to make sure it's still ok for me to catch up. I know I can take two a day until I catch up for 3+ days missed. I can't remember the maximum number of days missed that I can do that. But I'll read the booklet first before doing anything.
He's not controlling or abusive. If he was I would've left him a long time ago. He's a certified waste water treatment operator. Or something along those lines.... He's a water guy. He's stable in his job. He's got some money saved up for hospital bills, accidents, etc. We looked at the finances. We can afford it. We'd be able to get by. We just wouldn't be able to splurge and buy a playground or something big for a kid. But we'd definitely be able to afford toys, clothes, food, diapers, etc.
I understand though. Maybe it is best to just wait.
Thanks for clarifying. Based on previous comments I thought you might be dating Christian Grey. Glad that you are listening to PP and waiting.
Me: 30 DH: 35
TTC #1 - Jan 2015
BFP on 5/13/15 DD born 1/24/16 TTC #2 - Jun 2017 BFP on 8/24/17
He's not controlling or abusive. If he was I would've left him a long time ago. He's a certified waste water treatment operator. Or something along those lines.... He's a water guy. He's stable in his job. He's got some money saved up for hospital bills, accidents, etc. We looked at the finances. We can afford it. We'd be able to get by. We just wouldn't be able to splurge and buy a playground or something big for a kid. But we'd definitely be able to afford toys, clothes, food, diapers, etc.
I understand though. Maybe it is best to just wait.
Thanks for clarifying. Based on previous comments I thought you might be dating Christian Grey. Glad that you are listening to PP and waiting.
@kmcconnell22 Lol you're welcome. Yeah, no. He's extremely sweet. I love him to death! He takes really good care of me (even though we're not yet living with each other). He always makes sure I'm fed when I'm hungry, and he'll buy me little things here and there. When I'm sick he takes care of me by making sure I'm resting and he'll make me soup. I don't have any shorts for this summer so in two weeks he's going to take me shopping at the local mall for my birthday so I can get some shorts so I don't die during the summer lol. So, yeah. He's very sweet. And he makes me laugh, so that's good
It might feel good to also take care of yourself you know. If you are sick, rest! Hungry? Eat! Need shorts? go get some with your bad self. Is independence still a "thing"??
Edited because spell check is overrated when at work
@Embuzz247 If I were to give the main reason reason I'd get torn apart even more.
So, I'll give one of the other reasons. My boyfriend and I have discussed it a lot. And we both know and feel that we are ready to have a child. I've always wanted to be a young mom. I'm ready for the responsibility of a baby, and so is my boyfriend.
Omg. Seriously. I'm not going to be nice or pretend to. Do you know the responsibility of being married, paying bills, having a job that supports a family?!? What the hell is it with girls trying to play house and get KTFU and then end up complaining how they are alone when they get left. Don't be stupid. For the love of God this exact crap is why I pay so much in taxes so I can take care of other people. Grow up. Get married. Get your own place. Get a life. Then get pregnant. Or go get KTFU away from this forum bc I just can't deal with idiots. [-X
@Fuzzy228 Um. I think you should have read through ALL the comments and everything before commenting. This is already all taken care of. I'm waiting. No need to flip out, and get frustrated. I'm waiting.I've said that I have no idea how many times now, but yes. So, chill. I'm waiting until I get a job, and move out. By then my BF and I will probably be engaged. He's been talking about engagement and getting married. So, yeah.
And if you don't want to deal with 'idiots' then why do you even bother commenting or reading 'idiots' posts? You can avoid all that simply by stop reading or not commenting. Or both. Just saying.
I'm so late to the party and am still on page 3...but come on guize, his job is reliable! He works at McDonalds and he's practically already making $15 an hour.
@kmcconnell22 Lol you're welcome. Yeah, no. He's extremely sweet. I love him to death! He takes really good care of me (even though we're not yet living with each other). He always makes sure I'm fed when I'm hungry, and he'll buy me little things here and there. When I'm sick he takes care of me by making sure I'm resting and he'll make me soup. I don't have any shorts for this summer so in two weeks he's going to take me shopping at the local mall for my birthday so I can get some shorts so I don't die during the summer lol. So, yeah. He's very sweet. And he makes me laugh, so that's good
What a weird thing to say? Why do you need your bf to feed you and buy you shorts?
@TheBorg7of9 I don't need him to. He just does it because he wants to. I tell him he doesn't have to worry about it, and he says he wants to buy me things because he likes to. I'm running low on money, so I don't want to spend it on shorts right now. And yesterday it was really hot outside, and he asked me why I was wearing pants and not shorts since it was so nice out, and I told him I didn't have any shorts. Then he told me he'd buy me some for my birthday. I told him he didn't have to, and that I'd get myself some, but he said he wanted to buy them for me. He insisted, so I accepted. And what mean he makes sure I'm fed when I'm hungry is when we're out and about hanging out he'll occasionally ask if I'm hungry. And when I am he'll ask me what I would like, and he'll go through McDonalds and get a fry or take me out to icecream, or he'll take me out to dinner. He doesn't do that often. Just sometimes.
@TheBorg7of9 I don't need him to. He just does it because he wants to. I tell him he doesn't have to worry about it, and he says he wants to buy me things because he likes to. I'm running low on money, so I don't want to spend it on shorts right now. And yesterday it was really hot outside, and he asked me why I was wearing pants and not shorts since it was so nice out, and I told him I didn't have any shorts. Then he told me he'd buy me some for my birthday. I told him he didn't have to, and that I'd get myself some, but he said he wanted to buy them for me. He insisted, so I accepted. And what mean he makes sure I'm fed when I'm hungry is when we're out and about hanging out he'll occasionally ask if I'm hungry. And when I am he'll ask me what I would like, and he'll go through McDonalds and get a fry or take me out to icecream, or he'll take me out to dinner. He doesn't do that often. Just sometimes.
It's very cute that he is looking out for you. It does remind me of things I thought were important when I was a teenager. But honestly, being a good father and husband really goes WAY beyond running out for ice-cream or buying you some clothes.
@Embuzz247 If I were to give the main reason reason I'd get torn apart even more.
So, I'll give one of the other reasons. My boyfriend and I have discussed it a lot. And we both know and feel that we are ready to have a child. I've always wanted to be a young mom. I'm ready for the responsibility of a baby, and so is my boyfriend.
Omg. Seriously. I'm not going to be nice or pretend to. Do you know the responsibility of being married, paying bills, having a job that supports a family?!? What the hell is it with girls trying to play house and get KTFU and then end up complaining how they are alone when they get left. Don't be stupid. For the love of God this exact crap is why I pay so much in taxes so I can take care of other people. Grow up. Get married. Get your own place. Get a life. Then get pregnant. Or go get KTFU away from this forum bc I just can't deal with idiots. [-X
OP may have said some ignorant things, but you just did as well. This is gross. People on assistance are not "idiots" who take all your money. You know why you pay taxes? You pay them so that your community doesn't become a ghetto. You pay them so schools, roads, and cops are well funded. You pay them so that your struggling neighbor can keep their head above water, gets a chance, and eventually gets their feet back on dry land. The vast majority of people in assistance have at LEAST one job, are not taking drugs, and work their butts off in hopes to get OFF assistance.
I'm repeating what everyone else said but I feel like you're not grasping it. You are 20! You have no job, live with your parents, are on their insurance, and MAYBE want to live with your boyfriend? Not to mention he sounds controlling, like really though. It's great he has a job, but I can assure you it's probably not enough for you to stay home. Have you thought about child care? Expenses? All the things you need PRIOR to having a baby? The costs of prenatal care and delivery!?
You have no business trying to have a baby at 20 years old. Sure, people make it work, but the odds are stacked against you. It is a selfish, immature, frankly stupid decision.
@Fuzzy228 Um. I think you should have read through ALL the comments and everything before commenting. This is already all taken care of. I'm waiting. No need to flip out, and get frustrated. I'm waiting.I've said that I have no idea how many times now, but yes. So, chill. I'm waiting until I get a job, and move out. By then my BF and I will probably be engaged. He's been talking about engagement and getting married. So, yeah.
And if you don't want to deal with 'idiots' then why do you even bother commenting or reading 'idiots' posts? You can avoid all that simply by stop reading or not commenting. Or both. Just saying.
@antoto Thanks for somewhat standing up for me. I'm still young and learning. Honestly, I haven't turned 20 yet. But I'm saying I'm 20 because my birthday is in a couple weeks. I'm close enough to 20, so I just round up my age to 20 instead of saying "I'm 19, but I'm turning 20 in 2 weeks." That being said, I am still young, and I'm still learning.
@antoto Thanks for somewhat standing up for me. I'm still young and learning. Honestly, I haven't turned 20 yet. But I'm saying I'm 20 because my birthday is in a couple weeks. I'm close enough to 20, so I just round up my age to 20 instead of saying "I'm 19, but I'm turning 20 in 2 weeks." That being said, I am still young, and I'm still learning.
Girl, we all get baby fever. My thoughts: You are freaking out of your gourd if you actually try to have a kid before you're 24/25. I seriously hope you take a lot of the great advice that has been given to you here.
@Fuzzy228 Um. I think you should have read through ALL the comments and everything before commenting. This is already all taken care of. I'm waiting. No need to flip out, and get frustrated. I'm waiting.I've said that I have no idea how many times now, but yes. So, chill. I'm waiting until I get a job, and move out. By then my BF and I will probably be engaged. He's been talking about engagement and getting married. So, yeah.
And if you don't want to deal with 'idiots' then why do you even bother commenting or reading 'idiots' posts? You can avoid all that simply by stop reading or not commenting. Or both. Just saying.
If I married the guy I dated at 20...
OH GOD. *dies* Or the guy I dated at 22... or the one at 23...
@antoto Thanks for somewhat standing up for me. I'm still young and learning. Honestly, I haven't turned 20 yet. But I'm saying I'm 20 because my birthday is in a couple weeks. I'm close enough to 20, so I just round up my age to 20 instead of saying "I'm 19, but I'm turning 20 in 2 weeks." That being said, I am still young, and I'm still learning.
@27alex Sighhhhh... Ok, here I go again with saying this. I don't know how many times I've said this already, 50 at least (or it feels like I've said this that many times). I'm. Not. Going. To. Try. To. Conceive. I. Changed. My. Mind. I. Am. Waiting.
I'm waiting. So, don't worry.
And he brought the whole marriage thing up. Not me. It actually caught me by surprise. And in case you didn't read what my boyfriend does as a job he's a water guy. I can't remember his exactly job title. But he gets paid $20/hr. I KNOW that that could support my family. My parents supported a family of 4 on LESS than that, so I know it's doable. Anyway, yeah. He brought the marriage thing up. I really like him, and I can see it working out. And he isn't controlling at all. He's the exact opposite. If he was controlling, I would have dumped him a long time ago.
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TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
No offense or anything, but you can think what you want. It is very real. I'm going to go back on my pills tonight, take an hpt in a few weeks just to be sure that I'm not pregnant (unless I get my period, then I won't even bother), get a job, move in with my BF, and when we're ready again I will TTC in a minimum of 6 months if my BF is ready as well by then.
Trust me. I'm waiting. I'm going back on my pills tonight, I'm going to take a hpt in a few weeks just to be sure that I'm not pregnant (unless I get my period, then I won't even bother with a test), I'm going to get a job, move in with my BF, and then in a minimum of 6 months if we're both ready then my BF and I will TTC again, and if we're not ready then I will wait longer.
Oh, yes. Of course. I'm going to read the little booklet before taking anything to make sure it's still ok for me to catch up. I know I can take two a day until I catch up for 3+ days missed. I can't remember the maximum number of days missed that I can do that. But I'll read the booklet first before doing anything.
DD born 1/24/16
TTC #2 - Jun 2017
BFP on 8/24/17
I LOL like for real!
Lol you're welcome. Yeah, no. He's extremely sweet. I love him to death! He takes really good care of me (even though we're not yet living with each other). He always makes sure I'm fed when I'm hungry, and he'll buy me little things here and there. When I'm sick he takes care of me by making sure I'm resting and he'll make me soup. I don't have any shorts for this summer so in two weeks he's going to take me shopping at the local mall for my birthday so I can get some shorts so I don't die during the summer lol. So, yeah. He's very sweet. And he makes me laugh, so that's good
Is independence still a "thing"??
Edited because spell check is overrated when at work
I've had issues with taking care of myself in the past, but I've been getting much better at it
Continue this personal growth, sister. Continue this personal growth.
Me: 32 Hubby: 31
Married 12/29/12
Started TTC July 2014
Miscarriage August 2014
Emmett born February 2016
Expecting Baby #2 in August 2017
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Um. I think you should have read through ALL the comments and everything before commenting. This is already all taken care of. I'm waiting. No need to flip out, and get frustrated. I'm waiting.I've said that I have no idea how many times now, but yes. So, chill. I'm waiting until I get a job, and move out. By then my BF and I will probably be engaged. He's been talking about engagement and getting married. So, yeah.
And if you don't want to deal with 'idiots' then why do you even bother commenting or reading 'idiots' posts? You can avoid all that simply by stop reading or not commenting. Or both. Just saying.
I shall. I shall, indeed
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
Lol. Don't worry, it gets better. And thanks for reading through this whole thing before chewing me out. It means a lot
I don't need him to. He just does it because he wants to. I tell him he doesn't have to worry about it, and he says he wants to buy me things because he likes to. I'm running low on money, so I don't want to spend it on shorts right now. And yesterday it was really hot outside, and he asked me why I was wearing pants and not shorts since it was so nice out, and I told him I didn't have any shorts. Then he told me he'd buy me some for my birthday. I told him he didn't have to, and that I'd get myself some, but he said he wanted to buy them for me. He insisted, so I accepted. And what mean he makes sure I'm fed when I'm hungry is when we're out and about hanging out he'll occasionally ask if I'm hungry. And when I am he'll ask me what I would like, and he'll go through McDonalds and get a fry or take me out to icecream, or he'll take me out to dinner. He doesn't do that often. Just sometimes.
You've heard what I've done, not what I've been through.
If you were in my shoes, you'd fall the first step."
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
*edited
Yeah, for now. Until I move out and have a job, then I will get my own plan.
Oh. Great. Can't wait.
I understand.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
OP may have said some ignorant things, but you just did as well. This is gross. People on assistance are not "idiots" who take all your money. You know why you pay taxes? You pay them so that your community doesn't become a ghetto. You pay them so schools, roads, and cops are well funded. You pay them so that your struggling neighbor can keep their head above water, gets a chance, and eventually gets their feet back on dry land. The vast majority of people in assistance have at LEAST one job, are not taking drugs, and work their butts off in hopes to get OFF assistance.
Edited for clarity- the posts are coming in fast and it's difficult to accommodate timing!
You have no business trying to have a baby at 20 years old. Sure, people make it work, but the odds are stacked against you. It is a selfish, immature, frankly stupid decision.
Thanks for somewhat standing up for me. I'm still young and learning. Honestly, I haven't turned 20 yet. But I'm saying I'm 20 because my birthday is in a couple weeks. I'm close enough to 20, so I just round up my age to 20 instead of saying "I'm 19, but I'm turning 20 in 2 weeks."
That being said, I am still young, and I'm still learning.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
Sighhhhh... Ok, here I go again with saying this. I don't know how many times I've said this already, 50 at least (or it feels like I've said this that many times).
I'm. Not. Going. To. Try. To. Conceive. I. Changed. My. Mind. I. Am. Waiting.
I'm waiting. So, don't worry.
And he brought the whole marriage thing up. Not me. It actually caught me by surprise. And in case you didn't read what my boyfriend does as a job he's a water guy. I can't remember his exactly job title. But he gets paid $20/hr. I KNOW that that could support my family. My parents supported a family of 4 on LESS than that, so I know it's doable.
Anyway, yeah. He brought the marriage thing up. I really like him, and I can see it working out. And he isn't controlling at all. He's the exact opposite. If he was controlling, I would have dumped him a long time ago.
I am taking the advice. No worries.