I really don't want to get political but I'm curious to see how things will go with this next election. Hilary Clinton was the one to push FMLA in the 90s. Wondering how her stance will be in the election. Also, curious to see how the wage gap (between males and females) will play out too
Yeah, that will be interesting to see. I just hope I see less of those annoying ass commercials (from all sides and candidates). I know that won't happen, but a gal can hope
I made sure to get short term disability when I started my new job so I'll get 6 weeks paid for a vaginal delivery or 8 weeks paid for a c-section. I plan on taking two weeks in addition to whatever I'm getting paid, so I'll either be out 8 weeks or 10 weeks once our little one gets here. Although I'd love to be a SAHM I don't think I could mentally handle it. My husband and I have discussed the possibility of me eventually going to part-time, but that would be the lowest I'd be willing to go.
I know every couple/family is different, but If he's the only one bringing in $$ I may feel guilty or feel like I have to ask before I spend any money. Plus, I just love to shop
US family policy is a large part of why DH and I have decided to stay in Europe, at least until LO starts kindergarten. It's a different world here and the support for pregnancies and new families, at every level and institution whether private or political, is just amazing. Not perfect, but a vast improvement, from my perspective.
I am in a situation where I can take up to 6 months off, half of it paid. I dually report to an American woman (who I love and is perfectly reasonable) and a British man (ditto, he's awesome). She wants me back in 3- max. 4 months and he says anything less than the full 6 is ridiculous.
this topic is one im so back and forth about.. as things are right now i only see MH for about an average of 2 hours a day after i get off work. he works mornings and i work nights, we never have the same days off either, both of our jobs are just above minumum wage, but he did just get a full time position at his job so his pay increases faster and now we get benefits as well. i know if i become a SAHM he will feel a little more stressed about providing for us, and if i go back to work, not only will i be miserable because i dont really like the field im in.. but i wont ever get to see my family as a whole. im so torn, MH and i are trying to come up with ideas of things we can do to make extra money if i do stay at home. but so far nothing great/guaranteed to make money -_-
I wont go on leave until a week before my due date, but now my hours are being cut back. Im not too happy about it, but my DH is super excited about it. I actually sneak to stay on the clock longer!!!! I guess I should try to relax while I can!
I want to quit working completely today!! I am so frustrated with people. Have a client that claimed she couldn't get ahold of me (we spoke last night at length) and brought up my pregnancy challenges to our corporate office.
She brought up my previous hospitalizations (before she was even a client) and tried to use that as reasoning for wanting to pay less money. She wasn't even part of the picture when they happened!
My pregnancy has not affected my work performance-- and it shouldn't be used as a weapon against me or leverage for someone to pay less money. My fault for opening up and "bonding" with this client.
Now I fear I'm seen as unreliable, when I spent quite a bit of time developing a reputation (justly deserved) as being a go-to girl.
I want to throw my hands up in the air and scream.
I want to quit working completely today!! I am so frustrated with people. Have a client that claimed she couldn't get ahold of me (we spoke last night at length) and brought up my pregnancy challenges to our corporate office.
She brought up my previous hospitalizations (before she was even a client) and tried to use that as reasoning for wanting to pay less money. She wasn't even part of the picture when they happened!
My pregnancy has not affected my work performance-- and it shouldn't be used as a weapon against me or leverage for someone to pay less money. My fault for opening up and "bonding" with this client.
Now I fear I'm seen as unreliable, when I spent quite a bit of time developing a reputation (justly deserved) as being a go-to girl.
I want to throw my hands up in the air and scream.
That's all such bullsh*t. I hate when other women especially pull this crap - they should really know better.
I am a self employed attorney with my own private practice. I was hospitalized a few days ago after my water ruptured. And I will continue to be hospitalized until delivery, just not sure when that will be, the goal is to make it to 34 weeks, but the docs are concerned about having to deliver sooner because of preeclampsia. Meanwhile, my poor secretary has been left scrambling trying to get the courts to adjourn hearings, reassign court appointed cases, etc. I have quite a few contracts with the court where they pay me monthly and I do not know what they are going to do while I am off for a month or two. If they don't pay me and I have to still pay my secretary, money is going to be tight! I just had to pay $10,000 in taxes between personal and payroll taxes. And our septic at our house is failing. Now I am hospitalized and unable to work meet with clients, etc. So this is definitely going to be financially straining for our family. Thankfully hubby has a job which has great health benefits, so while I'm sure the medical bills will pile up, they will be manageable later on to pay. Once baby is born i will likely go back to work within 3 weeks solely for financial reasons. But I brought DD to the office with me and court when she was born and can do the same with this one. I just hope with having a c-section that I feel ok going back so soon.
I want to quit working completely today!! I am so frustrated with people. Have a client that claimed she couldn't get ahold of me (we spoke last night at length) and brought up my pregnancy challenges to our corporate office.
She brought up my previous hospitalizations (before she was even a client) and tried to use that as reasoning for wanting to pay less money. She wasn't even part of the picture when they happened!
My pregnancy has not affected my work performance-- and it shouldn't be used as a weapon against me or leverage for someone to pay less money. My fault for opening up and "bonding" with this client.
Now I fear I'm seen as unreliable, when I spent quite a bit of time developing a reputation (justly deserved) as being a go-to girl.
I want to throw my hands up in the air and scream.
That's all such bullsh*t. I hate when other women especially pull this crap - they should really know better.
I am a self employed attorney with my own private practice. I was hospitalized a few days ago after my water ruptured. And I will continue to be hospitalized until delivery, just not sure when that will be, the goal is to make it to 34 weeks, but the docs are concerned about having to deliver sooner because of preeclampsia. Meanwhile, my poor secretary has been left scrambling trying to get the courts to adjourn hearings, reassign court appointed cases, etc. I have quite a few contracts with the court where they pay me monthly and I do not know what they are going to do while I am off for a month or two. If they don't pay me and I have to still pay my secretary, money is going to be tight! I just had to pay $10,000 in taxes between personal and payroll taxes. And our septic at our house is failing. Now I am hospitalized and unable to work meet with clients, etc. So this is definitely going to be financially straining for our family. Thankfully hubby has a job which has great health benefits, so while I'm sure the medical bills will pile up, they will be manageable later on to pay. Once baby is born i will likely go back to work within 3 weeks solely for financial reasons. But I brought DD to the office with me and court when she was born and can do the same with this one. I just hope with having a c-section that I feel ok going back so soon.
I can't add much here except I wish you a ton of luck and you will get through it! I somehow feel most of us J15 ladies are in similar boats. Ugh, I hate money! Well, I like it, I just don't have any!
Fortunately I'm pretty well set for the leave. Maybe I'm just tired and hormonal this week but I've realized this week that PG actually has affected my work performance and it's had me bummed.
The last year we spent TTC put me in a really low place where I kinda checked out of life - My office is a baby factory and was a particularly hard place to be. That was followed by the 1st trimester brain mush/anxiety, now to be followed by three months off.
So, this week my boss mentioned that he'll making some changes in the the department when a colleague retires this summer. Should be be a good opportunity in there for me, if I'd actually been rocking this job like I should (being pretty overqualified), instead of just coasting through. Kind of disappointed in myself. Although, on the other hand, I'm grateful to have been able to get by in such a low pressure job, instead of failing somewhere more demanding.
Me-37, DH-38
Married in 2006, TTC #1 since Jan 2012
Baby Boy born June 1, 2015
He settles her in her home as a happy mother of children, praise the Lord! (Psalms 113:9)
And the peace of God, which surpasses all understand, will guard your heart and mind in Jesus Christ (Philippians 4:7)
Lucky for me, here in Qatar we get 50 calendar days (almost 7 weeks) paid maternity leave (by law). And since it will be during Ramadan, I will also get 3 holiday days. I can then use any paid leave that I have (I get 30 days/year) and my casual leave days (3 days/year). Anything after that will be unpaid.
I am planning on just doing the maternity leave (+3 extra holiday days) and then returning. Lucky for me, LO will be with my MIL when I return to work and I'm only a 5-10 minute drive from their house so I will be able to go there during lunch to nurse and see him.
Also, by law, for the first year after baby is born, all mothers get 1 hour extra off work (not deducted in pay) to nurse. I can chose to come into work late or leave early or take a longer lunch.
Married: 28 August 2014 BFP #1: 11 October 2014 EDD: 22 June 2015 -- updated DD: 20 June 2015
Hey guys just an update : I got approval from both necessary higher-ups to work from home one day/week through December! (So first 4 months after I return from leave).
Hooray!
This will take a lot of stress off me as I juggle day care hours, pediatric appointments, international work calls and and commuter train schedule constraints.
I am beyond excited. I just found a daycare in town that will work with my hectic ever-changing schedule. AND it's cheaper by about $200 than other ones I went to. Now I can stop losing sleep over day care.
TTC: 1/2014
BFP: 9/24
EDD: 6/8/2015
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I am beyond excited. I just found a daycare in town that will work with my hectic ever-changing schedule. AND it's cheaper by about $200 than other ones I went to. Now I can stop losing sleep over day care.
Congrats! I think we just nailed down one as well that is super flexible and also significantly cheaper than others. I feel like we won the lotto right now!
I'm in education, so I hope I make it to my due date so I don't have to take maternity leave because that would result in losing pay once sick and personal days are used up and paying my employer's portion for insurance.
There is also so much to finish between now and the end of the school year so I hope I don't have to go out terribly early because I would hate to leave my team in a bad position.
I'm probably going back to work end of July/ early August. I have a feeling I will be working from home even before then because people will be dong my camp that I created last summer and I am sure questions will arise. I also may have to stop by summer school to check on certain students and make sure everything is going well. Honestly my students become my own; I always worry about them!
Re: Leaves, work schedules, related career anxieties!
I know every couple/family is different, but If he's the only one bringing in $$ I may feel guilty or feel like I have to ask before I spend any money. Plus, I just love to shop
I am in a situation where I can take up to 6 months off, half of it paid. I dually report to an American woman (who I love and is perfectly reasonable) and a British man (ditto, he's awesome). She wants me back in 3- max. 4 months and he says anything less than the full 6 is ridiculous.
TL;DR? i have no idea what im going to do.
She brought up my previous hospitalizations (before she was even a client) and tried to use that as reasoning for wanting to pay less money. She wasn't even part of the picture when they happened!
My pregnancy has not affected my work performance-- and it shouldn't be used as a weapon against me or leverage for someone to pay less money. My fault for opening up and "bonding" with this client.
Now I fear I'm seen as unreliable, when I spent quite a bit of time developing a reputation (justly deserved) as being a go-to girl.
I want to throw my hands up in the air and scream.
BFP #1: 11 October 2014
EDD: 22 June 2015 -- updated DD: 20 June 2015
Hooray!
This will take a lot of stress off me as I juggle day care hours, pediatric appointments, international work calls and and commuter train schedule constraints.
There is also so much to finish between now and the end of the school year so I hope I don't have to go out terribly early because I would hate to leave my team in a bad position.
I'm probably going back to work end of July/ early August. I have a feeling I will be working from home even before then because people will be dong my camp that I created last summer and I am sure questions will arise. I also may have to stop by summer school to check on certain students and make sure everything is going well. Honestly my students become my own; I always worry about them!