so my mom has offered to throw me a baby shower. She had planned to make it a picnic with just my family and invite the guys and kids too to make a shower/family reunion type thing. She had also planned on inviting my mil/fil/sil and her boyfriend. This has made my DH angry as he feels his whole family should be invited and that my family is excluding his. I don't feel it's my moms responsibility to pay for a shower for his whole side of the family. She was nice enough to offer for this one and just our family alone will be close to 50 people at her house. No one on his side has offered and I'm completely fine with that. Help!
Re: Shower drama!!! Help!!!
My mil and sil threw a separate shower for their family/friends...it was large, about 40 people. It was lovely if them to do that for us. Is it inconvenient for us to have to travel up north for two separate events? Sure. But it's the least we can do when people have been so generous.
The bottom line is that the host decides the guest list. What your mom is doing is fine. If someone in your husband's family offers, you can have an additional shower for his relatives.
If his family wants to host something then great but they can't expect your mom to host so many. If they want to give gifts they will. They don't need a shower to do that.
I knew I only wanted to have 1 shower, so i made sure my Mom & sister would include all of my in laws (if it came down to head count, I would want them included before my mom's guest list expanded). As soon as it was mentioned my MIL of course offered to help pay for half... since this is the case, she is now creating a guest list for her side.