Not liking the discussions about miscarriage...

ash413 · April 2015

First of all miscarriages are not contagious, most woman will have healthy pregnancies. Telling someone they are not allowed to post about their possible or confirmed miscarriage because it makes you nervous you will have one; is like saying you don't want to hear about someones sick mother because your afraid yours will die. Really?!?

Your insensitivity is astounding, you keep saying you have had a miscarriage as if that somehow justifies your comments. Nope post is still 100% shitty.

People should not have to censor themselves during such a difficult and isolating time just because you get anxious.

peachmuffin the loss boards are much slower because of shit that went down in January not because people are "selfishly" posting about their miscarriages on BMBs....nice try.

leslie523 · April 2015

Shocked this post went south, almost like it's happened before....

Oooh wait

BooBerry137 · April 2015

At the rate we're going I'm going to need an excel spreadsheet to keep track of all the BSC on this board. Whoa.

My jaw hangeth open.

birdieMila · April 2015

Preggy hormooooones ! We are here for support right?
But i do hope the hormones will come down in the next weeks

renrondeau · April 2015

I Hope people start being more considerate. Pregnant hormones or not.

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Kitta+1 · April 2015

The hormones might, but drama queens will be drama queens, lol. *gets the popcorn*

If I MC'ed, I'd likely post here at least once to say bye before heading over to the loss boards. Mostly so you guys know I didn't die or fall off the face of the earth - don't worry, you guys would never get that lucky. :P

Seeing the posts about MC makes me uncomfortable, too. I worry about it all the time - mostly because I won't really get another chance if this one doesn't go well. I get where OC is coming from, and I also would like to reiterate, she has as much right to post about what's bugging her as everyone else does.

That being said, I understand why they post those things and wouldn't tell the not to.

ash413 · April 2015

Embs33 said:
@BooBerry137 find something else to do with your time. Your close minded weigh in's on every post are exhausting. Don't you have multiple children to take care of?

How did this go from the insensitive remarks made by the OP and others to concern for the number and well being of another member's children.

Kellyj103 · April 2015

@Kitta+1 thank you for your post! The post above yours was... WOW!!! I completely agree with you, @Kitta+1 and now I'm sending lots of positive vibes towards @Lauraiaq because you truly don't deserve all that hate.

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Lauraiaq · April 2015

I wouldn't post my issues specifically so I don't stress another mother to be out. They have enough to worry about.. Just like I have never posted about any of my complications with past attempts..

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DrMommaDVM · April 2015

Embs33 said:
@BooBerry137 find something else to do with your time. Your close minded weigh in's on every post are exhausting. Don't you have multiple children to take care of?

Uhhh that seems out of nowhere and inappropriate. You are exhausted from reading the bump? You realize you can just put down the Internet, right? Plus, I like @BooBerry137 posts. She seems pretty spot-on from what I've seen.

LSRoo · April 2015

I think it's sad and disgusting that you really think people shouldn't post about their loss because it stresses YOU out. Could you be any more selfish? If you don't like it don't read it. I seriously hope you never have to go through a loss and need to seek support. I've been on the bump for 3 years now and I've never witnessed such insensitivity and selfishness.
And I second KARMA IS A REAL B.
Post its are officially out.

BooBerry137 · April 2015

DrMommaDVM said:

Embs33 said:
@BooBerry137 find something else to do with your time. Your close minded weigh in's on every post are exhausting. Don't you have multiple children to take care of?
Uhhh that seems out of nowhere and inappropriate. You are exhausted from reading the bump? You realize you can just put down the Internet, right? Plus, I like @BooBerry137 posts. She seems pretty spot-on from what I've seen.

This is the second time she makes comments like that, reports me, and I'm the one who gets warned.

LydianG · April 2015

I really feel like if posting losses is against BMB rules than the moderator will handle it. I'm pretty sure it's not though.

I think that posts like this don't help us get closer as a BMB. I think we should all be allowed to have opinions but we're apparently not at the point as a group to not be crappy to eachother on both sides when we get offended.

Lauraiaq · April 2015

@EllaStaxx I have gone through losses I have yet to bring one to term due to health conditions and I in no way said they shouldn't post they absolutely should on an appropriate forum.. Where they can get he support they need..

srotureau · April 2015

Wowza did I miss a lot while I was at work today! I'm a realist so I honestly don't care if someone posts about their MC. Miscarriages are a part of life, and you have virtually no control over it other than taking good care of yourself. Because I struggle with anxiety issues, I choose not to read many MC posts which is my personal choice. However, I'm in no position to make someone feel bad for reaching out if they need support. Who cares where they post, y'all? These women are in an emotional place, why would you want to shut them out? Again, these are my personal choices and opinions.

LSRoo · April 2015

Lauraiaq said:
@EllaStaxx I have gone through losses I have yet to bring one to term due to health conditions and I in no way said they shouldn't post they absolutely should on an appropriate forum.. Where they can get he support they need..

Because it makes YOU uncomfortable? What makes you so special that people can't share a loss because they might make YOU uncomfortable. You are a grown woman. Things happen in life. If you can't handle it don't read. Don't post a ridiculous thread that our loss moms might be reading. Way to kick people when down. Hope YOU feel better. It's all about you, right?

BooBerry137 · April 2015

Lauraiaq said:
@EllaStaxx I have gone through losses I have yet to bring one to term due to health conditions and I in no way said they shouldn't post they absolutely should on an appropriate forum.. Where they can get he support they need..

@Lauraiaq who are you to say that this is not the appropriate forum. Some of these posters have been posting here for weeks and are far more established than the likes of you. Some of us are actually getting to know one another, so they can get the support they need from posters they have gotten to know and like on their BMB.

Please stop trying to justify what you've said. There is no way. You really should just admit that you are completely in the wrong and apologize.

Lauraiaq · April 2015

This was taken to a level that it did not need to be brought too.. All I was saying was it brings back to many terrible memories of times that I have tried and have lost and gets me upset to see them.. sorry for putting my feelings out there.. my mistake..

asnada · April 2015

I'm repeating what a lot of other women have said here, but I'ma going to say it anyway. To the OP, I do, actually, understand where you are coming from here - reading about other women's miscarriages can be upsetting and/or alarming. However, this is why the board exists - to get support. Many of these women began here with active pregnancies (much like you and I) and now are suffering through a miscarriage. It's still a valid subject on this board, just because they have lost/or are in the process of losing a pregnancy doesn't mean they need to disappear to another board.

Also, unfortunately, miscarriage HAPPENS and it's common among women. Even in this day and age stigmas STILL exist about women talking about miscarriage - especially when in person. We shouldn't need to feel ashamed about it and made to feel we can't "bother" someone else about them. Other people's issues and/or concerns do not to be made yours, too. You can offer support or just not read it.

Sometimes, and especially when early in pregnancy, this is one of the few places women can come to for support.

It's easy to only see how these subject effect ourselves, but we need to extend our sympathy a little further.

ash413 · April 2015

asnada said:
I'm repeating what a lot of other women have said here, but I'ma going to say it anyway. To the OP, I do, actually, understand where you are coming from here - reading about other women's miscarriages can be upsetting and/or alarming. However, this is why the board exists - to get support. Many of these women began here with active pregnancies (much like you and I) and now are suffering through a miscarriage. It's still a valid subject on this board, just because they have lost/or are in the process of losing a pregnancy doesn't mean they need to disappear to another board.
Also, unfortunately, miscarriage HAPPENS and it's common among women. Even in this day and age stigmas STILL exist about women talking about miscarriage - especially when in person. We shouldn't need to feel ashamed about it and made to feel we can't "bother" someone else about them. Other people's issues and/or concerns do not to be made yours, too. You can offer support or just not read it.
Sometimes, and especially when early in pregnancy, this is one of the few places women can come to for support.
It's easy to only see how these subject effect ourselves, but we need to extend our sympathy a little further.

This exactly

LSRoo · April 2015

BooBerry137 said:
At the rate we're going I'm going to need an excel spreadsheet to keep track of all the BSC on this board. Whoa.

My jaw hangeth open.

Seriously. It's way too early for all of the BSC. I have been in 3 BMBs and I've never experienced a group of woman like this.

BooBerry137 · April 2015

Me, this entire thread.

gapeachrn · April 2015

@BooBerry137 I die.
I'm too speechless to even comment.

peachmuffins · April 2015

The official board bully booberry is taking down peoples usernames so she can hunt us down and passive agressively harass us later, like bullies like to do when someone is outlandish enough to have a different opinion, i would document every nasty reply she makes to you from now on and report her and her band of mean girls for harassment from now on.

LSRoo · April 2015

peachmuffins said:
The official board bully booberry is taking down peoples usernames so she can hunt us down and passive agressively harass us later, like bullies like to do when someone is outlandish enough to have a different opinion, i would document every nasty reply she makes to you from now on and report her and her band of mean girls for harassment from now on.

Here we go throwing around the word bully again.

peachmuffins · April 2015

EllaStaxx said:

peachmuffins said:
The official board bully booberry is taking down peoples usernames so she can hunt us down and passive agressively harass us later, like bullies like to do when someone is outlandish enough to have a different opinion, i would document every nasty reply she makes to you from now on and report her and her band of mean girls for harassment from now on.
Here we go throwing around the word bully again.

My experience with bullies is that they get all put out at the WORD bully like its not real. Just... Like you just did right there.

BooBerry137 · April 2015

peachmuffins said:
The official board bully booberry is taking down peoples usernames so she can hunt us down and passive agressively harass us later, like bullies like to do when someone is outlandish enough to have a different opinion, i would document every nasty reply she makes to you from now on and report her and her band of mean girls for harassment from now on.

You do realize that what you are suggesting is, in fact, harrassment and against the TOU.

The post-it comment is a very long-standing joke around TB.

CGarciaRivas · April 2015

Doesn't it seem hypocritical to tell the OP to not read posts she doesn't like and to be supportive when you all clicked on this post that you don't like JUST to make her feel bad and tell her you don't like her post? There's really no need for all this foaming at the mouth. All you had to do was ignore the post.

Liberty1025 · April 2015

peachmuffins said:
The official board bully booberry is taking down peoples usernames so she can hunt us down and passive agressively harass us later, like bullies like to do when someone is outlandish enough to have a different opinion, i would document every nasty reply she makes to you from now on and report her and her band of mean girls for harassment from now on.

Haaha, who are the "band of mean girls"? Do they wear pink on Wednesdays?.

peachmuffins · April 2015

BooBerry137 said:

peachmuffins said:
The official board bully booberry is taking down peoples usernames so she can hunt us down and passive agressively harass us later, like bullies like to do when someone is outlandish enough to have a different opinion, i would document every nasty reply she makes to you from now on and report her and her band of mean girls for harassment from now on.
You do realize that what you are suggesting is, in fact, harrassment and against the TOU.

The post-it comment is a very long-standing joke around TB.

It's not harassment if there's a legitimate grounds to report you for bullying and harassment. So now you're trying to bully me into NOT reporting you?

Liberty1025 · April 2015

peachmuffins said:

BooBerry137 said:

peachmuffins said:
The official board bully booberry is taking down peoples usernames so she can hunt us down and passive agressively harass us later, like bullies like to do when someone is outlandish enough to have a different opinion, i would document every nasty reply she makes to you from now on and report her and her band of mean girls for harassment from now on.
You do realize that what you are suggesting is, in fact, harrassment and against the TOU.

The post-it comment is a very long-standing joke around TB.
It's not harassment if there's a legitimate grounds to report you for bullying and harassment. So now you're trying to bully me into NOT reporting you?

A public call out Encouraging people to "report her and her band of mean girls for harassment" is 100% bullying, btw

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BooBerry137 · April 2015

peachmuffins said:

BooBerry137 said:

peachmuffins said:
The official board bully booberry is taking down peoples usernames so she can hunt us down and passive agressively harass us later, like bullies like to do when someone is outlandish enough to have a different opinion, i would document every nasty reply she makes to you from now on and report her and her band of mean girls for harassment from now on.
You do realize that what you are suggesting is, in fact, harrassment and against the TOU.

The post-it comment is a very long-standing joke around TB.
It's not harassment if there's a legitimate grounds to report you for bullying and harassment. So now you're trying to bully me into NOT reporting you?

Except that you are the one harrassing me and calling me names.

LSRoo · April 2015

peachmuffins said:

EllaStaxx said:

peachmuffins said:
The official board bully booberry is taking down peoples usernames so she can hunt us down and passive agressively harass us later, like bullies like to do when someone is outlandish enough to have a different opinion, i would document every nasty reply she makes to you from now on and report her and her band of mean girls for harassment from now on.
Here we go throwing around the word bully again.
My experience with bullies is that they get all put out at the WORD bully like its not real. Just... Like you just did right there.

No what you are doing is down playing the actual problem this world has with bullying. Simply saying you find someone's post offensive and wrong is not bullying.

LSRoo · April 2015

CGarciaRivas said:
Doesn't it seem hypocritical to tell the OP to not read posts she doesn't like and to be supportive when you all clicked on this post that you don't like JUST to make her feel bad and tell her you don't like her post? There's really no need for all this foaming at the mouth. All you had to do was ignore the post.

I'm not going to ignore it because as a loss mom I find it hurtful and offensive.

BooBerry137 · April 2015

Liberty1025 said:

peachmuffins said:
The official board bully booberry is taking down peoples usernames so she can hunt us down and passive agressively harass us later, like bullies like to do when someone is outlandish enough to have a different opinion, i would document every nasty reply she makes to you from now on and report her and her band of mean girls for harassment from now on.

Haaha, who are the "band of mean girls"? Do they wear pink on Wednesdays?.

I don't know about any mean girls, but I wear pink on most days. I just happen to really like it.

peachmuffins · April 2015

EllaStaxx said:

peachmuffins said:

EllaStaxx said:

peachmuffins said:
The official board bully booberry is taking down peoples usernames so she can hunt us down and passive agressively harass us later, like bullies like to do when someone is outlandish enough to have a different opinion, i would document every nasty reply she makes to you from now on and report her and her band of mean girls for harassment from now on.
Here we go throwing around the word bully again.
My experience with bullies is that they get all put out at the WORD bully like its not real. Just... Like you just did right there.
No what you are doing is down playing the actual problem this world has with bullying. Simply saying you find someone's post offensive and wrong is not bullying.

No, but telling the original poster to not read stuff she doesn't like and not comment on it and then clicking on her post specifically to flame her is hypocritical and it's bullying. Take your own advice ladies.

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