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LushC
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If you could tell a newbie anything...
LushC
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Once upon a time there was this great newbie blog post that was filled with awesome TTGP information. It was a one stop shop for all the FAQs.
To the regs on this board, thank you for all your patience and kindness to answer the same questions over and over. I don't know how you do it, but I as another poster mentioned on another thread I really admire your willing to continue to share knowledge without getting annoyed by all the repeat questions.
That being said, I was wondering if anyone would be willing to post "if you could tell a newbie anything..." messages here on this thread?
For instance; answers to questions your tired of answering (or tired of seeing being asked), links to FF tutorials, recommendations, general info (like why we prefer pink dye tests, etc.), advice on how to fit into the culture here, etc.
If this is an idea y'all like, I volunteer to compile everything into one post and ask the admins to sticky it.
To the regs on this board, thank you for all your patience and kindness to answer the same questions over and over. I don't know how you do it, but I as another poster mentioned on another thread I really admire your willing to continue to share knowledge without getting annoyed by all the repeat questions.
That being said, I was wondering if anyone would be willing to post "if you could tell a newbie anything..." messages here on this thread?
For instance; answers to questions your tired of answering (or tired of seeing being asked), links to FF tutorials, recommendations, general info (like why we prefer pink dye tests, etc.), advice on how to fit into the culture here, etc.
If this is an idea y'all like, I volunteer to compile everything into one post and ask the admins to sticky it.
This discussion has been closed.
Re: If you could tell a newbie anything...
My advice: Please use the search function and read past threads!!!!
Step Two: while you're waiting for it to arrive, sign up on FF and start watching the tutorials
When those phantom symptoms come, remind yourself over and over again that if you are pregnant enough to have symptoms, you are pregnant enough to turn a test + (which is impossible at 4,5,6 DPO because your body doesn't recognize anything is different yet). Also remember that you only have about a 20% of conceiving each cycle. Prepare yourself for a battle, because getting pregnant isn't necessarily as easy as they would have you believe in high school health class.
Finally, don't waste money testing with expensive HPTs. Stock up on Internet cheapie tests like Wondfos, so you don't have to feel bad when you inevitably test obsessively as you're getting the first couple cycles under your belt. But seriously, buy TCOYF and start temping.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/58d258
impatience =/= infertility and honesty/differing opinions/directness =/= being mean/bullying
This is because the length of your cycle is determined by the cycle day that you ovulate. The time period between your period and ovulation is variable between women and between cycles of one woman. It is called the follicular phase. You could ovulate on day 8 or day 35, even if you have "always" ovulated on day 14. But the time period after ovulation is consistent. The average among all women is 10-16 days. But for an individual, it is usually consistent within a day.
For example, if your luteal phase is 12 days and you ovulate on cycle day 12, your period will come on day 24. If you ovulate on cycle day 30, your period will come on day 42.
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
TTC #2: Oct 2017, BFP 12/19/17, CP 12/22/17
BFP 2/20/18 - EDD 10/31/2018
Sorry. Home Pregnancy tests can now pick up a very small amount of hcg. If a women didn't test positive until late, she either (1) didn't follow the directions on the test (2) ovulated later or (3) this is a story handed down from 20 years ago when tests weren't as sensitive.
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
TTC #2: Oct 2017, BFP 12/19/17, CP 12/22/17
BFP 2/20/18 - EDD 10/31/2018
First, it is impossible to have symptoms before implantation. After fertilization occurs, it takes 7-9 days to travel down the Fallopian tubes, implant, create hcg and cause symptoms. Before that the baby is just a ball of cells floating free in your body.
Second, it is really common to have phantom symptoms when you start to ttc and pay extra attention to every twinge. It happens to everyone. But it doesn't mean you're pregnant.
Third, the only way to know if you're pregnant is to take a test. Symptoms cannot tell you.
2010: Infertility
October 2015: missed miscarriage #2 at 11 weeks (trisomy 22)
Acronyms
Everyone soon realizes that we speak in our own language, using acronyms. This can be confusing; however, here are a few common ones for those new to the board...
2WW - Two Week Wait
AF - Aunt Flo (menstruation)
AMA - Advanced Maternal Age
BD - Big Deed (baby making sex), also Baby Dance
BCPS - Birth Control Pills
BETA - another term for HCG, blood pregnancy testing
BF or BF’ing - Breastfeeding
BFN - Big Fat Negative (pregnancy test result)
BFP - Big Fat Positive (pregnancy test result)
CD - Cycle Day
CM - Cervical Mucus
D&C - Dilation and Curettage
DD - Dear/Darling Daughter
DE - Donor Eggs or Donor Embryos
DH - Dear/Darling Husband
DOR – Diminished Ovarian Reserve
DPO - Days Past Ovulation
DS - Dear/Darling Son
EWCM - Egg White Cervical Mucus
HCG - Hormone Detected by Pregnancy Tests. Human Chorionic Gonadotropin.
HPT - Home Pregnancy Test
IRL - In Real Life
IUI - Intra-Uterine Insemination
IVF - In Vitro Fertilization
FET - Frozen Embryo Transfer
FMU - First Morning Urine
FRER - First Response Early Response
FX - Fingers Crossed
GL - Good Luck
IF - Infertility
LMP - Last Menstrual Period
LO - Little One
MC - Miscarriage
NTNP - Not Trying, Not Preventing
O - Ovulation
OPK - Ovulation Predictor Kit
PG - Pregnant, or pregnancy
POAS - Pee on a Stick (taking a home pregnancy test)
PP - Previous Poster
RE - Reproductive Endocrinologist
RPL - Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
T&Ps - Thoughts and Prayers
TTC - Trying To Conceive
US or U/S - Ultrasound
For a comprehensive list of acronyms, please visit the Resolve website glossary.
Symptom spotting will make you crazy. Without enough hormones to turn a test you wont have symptoms. It is most likely that you are a) coming off bc and your body is making hormons for itself b) that youve never paid so much attention to your body and are noticing things you never would have prior to ttc.
Sure, getting pregnant the month you cone off bc is possible but it is most likely going to take awhile for your body to adjust to being off of it. A 28 day cycle on bc doesnt mean you have a perfect 28 day cycle, they were controlled by the pills. Your cycle length can vary. Your cycle is perfect until its not. Reading about the follicular and lueteal phase will help you to wrap your mind around that
Our Angel: EDD: 05/11/17. MC at 6 weeks
Baby #2- EDD: 07/18/17
Maybe I missed the point of this thread
Um...thank you so much for posting this. I become a member a while back but just started seriously browsing the board today. I was so confused! LOL!!
Kiddo #1 = 10 cycles of trying, 1 CP and is now a toddler
You just made life so much easier for me.
TTC #1 - Nov '14
DS born 10/18
I know it was mention that if you did everything you needed to do to conceive you still have a 20% chance of it happening.
What I think was missing (and if I was wrong oops) is with that it can take up to a whole year for a HEALTHY couple to conceive. So if it's been 3 months and you feel like something is wrong, there might not be anything wrong. Once that year is up (6 month if you are 35 or older) is when you need to go seek opinions from a doctor such ad an Reproductive Endocrinologist
@BHEAT14.
Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/58d258
BUMP
DS - 02/21/2016
A lot of them say "I've been lurking the board...." No, if you had, you would not be posting this to begin with! %-(
My Ovulation Chart
Diagnosed with PCOS: Summer 2007
Married: July 2013
Began TTC: June 2015
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/58d258
My Ovulation Chart