I'm scared to give birth

mamasitabonita · March 2015

Thank you ladies. I am blushing

yessirio · March 2015

Now this thread is great! Yes it can happen u can poop when u r pushing the baby out! It happened to me twice lol n guess what first time I was sooooo embarrassed but after baby came out I totally forgot lol
Anyway what I'm trying to say is don't even think about it just think about when baby is in ur arms ( who cares about poop) lmao

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mathesq0 · March 2015

I am a FTM and I am nervous but I know I was built to handle pregnancy (rare circumstances excluded). I'm not worried about poop.....I may have the stomach flu to thank for that. I was stuck in a car for 2 1/2 hrs with my husband....I think I had to have him pull over 12 times....or more to throw up...I also had an issue while stuck in traffic that resulted in throwing away underwear.....If my husband can love me and not judge me while sick....and being comforting....I'm guessing giving birth to our child will go about the same. Just trust that your partner loves you and knows you are human....and you likely won't see the other people in the room ever again...and as others have said.....When you are in a situation like that....There are more important issues to deal with.

mill1020 · March 2015

Jenten810 said:
And to add to what @WDDCH said, from my experience they were just little rabbit turds (as my DH described it), it's not like your going to push out the biggest poop of your life trying to get the babe out.

Jenten810 said:

@preggersinparis, appreciation of poop humor is a prerequisite for parenting.

@mamasitabonita, assuming you're not a troll, everyone is afraid of that, whether they admit to it or not. But unless you have poorly-controlled gestational diabetes and push out an 11-lb first baby, you probably won't have a third-degree tear (or worse) like that. I do know one person who did, but it's very rare.

I have an awesome story for you, if you like poop stories. So, with my second child, my water broke and I didn't even have my hospital bag packed yet or anything (although I really should have; I was almost 39 weeks). We were really focused on throwing stuff together at the last minute, and feeding our toddler before we left for the hospital. So, on the way to the hospital, it occurs to me that I'm starving and haven't had anything to eat. And at this point I was a little worried that they weren't going to feed me (can't remember my exact reasoning) once we got to the hospital. We stopped at Carl's Jr on the way, and I ate a huge meal (wasn't even having contractions). Fast forward a few hours, and somehow they accidentally bring me two food trays in labor and delivery. I proceed to eat both of those, because why not. Guess what happened during active labor? The nurses call it the play doh poop factory. Oh well. I have absolutely no shame now, or ever again.

Sweetpea192 · March 2015

Ok, so I know going into labour & giving birth is a scary & daunting thing but you got pregnant. How did you think baby was going to come out? You will more than likely poop yourself giving birth. It happens nothing you can do about unfortunately. Millions of women give birth daily if our bodies could not cope with it we wouldn't be able to bare children. Yes labour hurts yes all you dignity will go out the window but at the end of all that.. You will have a baby. We have 6months before all this happens don't stress about it now.. For now I'd say enjoy & embrace your pregnancy.

indogbeersiveonlyhadone · March 2015

viwwo said:
I was under the impression that everyone poops themselves while giving birth.... No?

I was under the same impression, whilst also peeing... Hahaha I watched my mom give birth to both of my brothers... Both happened and the nurses and Drs are totally use to it so they don't make a big deal out of it.
However, I'm totally taking/getting ANY drugs they will give me and I will go into the hospital in labor chanting "give me he juice, give me the juice" juice being an epidoral hahsha my first brother my mom didn't have one and my second brother she did and the second go around the birthing process seemed much more enjoyable for my mom hahaha and my second brother was 9 pounds 11 ounces and she gave birth vaginally!!! I think were all a little scared of it being FTMs but once he time comes we just want that baby out hahaha

Duckybears · March 2015

When I had DS I was one of the last in my birth month club to get an "outside baby." Leading up to the big day everyone in the group was posting their birth stories in detail which really helped me! It gave me an idea of what all could happen during labor. I learned a lot from real experiences which gave me peace of mind.

aprilmay92 · March 2015

I definitely thought the OP meant she was afraid of "not being able to hold her caca" after childbirth, not during. During labor is definitely a logical fear lol

v1wwo · March 2015

(Here we go)

barrelocarol · March 2015

@viwwo YOU ARE MY KIND OF GAL!!!

I am ACHING from how long I've been laughing at the word caca! I don't know that I've ever seen it in writing. I am laughing like a 4 year old boy!!!

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missliz53 · March 2015

Sweetpea192 said:
Ok, so I know going into labour & giving birth is a scary & daunting thing but you got pregnant. How did you think baby was going to come out? You will more than likely poop yourself giving birth. It happens nothing you can do about unfortunately. Millions of women give birth daily if our bodies could not cope with it we wouldn't be able to bare children. Yes labour hurts yes all you dignity will go out the window but at the end of all that.. You will have a baby. We have 6months before all this happens don't stress about it now.. For now I'd say enjoy & embrace your pregnancy.

Obviously we got pregnant knowing that we were going to have to go through labor at the end, but that doesn't make it any less scary or embarrassing. Yes, we know that millions of women give birth, but not everyone gets a happy ending. Please don't invalidate anyone's feelings. The whole point of this site is to support each other.

thefuturemrsdaniel · March 2015

I'm a STM. Before my first I was so scared of labor I didn't want to get pregnant. Once I was I was like well guess I have to get over it. Once it started I want scared cause all I wanted was this huge boy out! (8lbs 12oz 9 days early ) . The only thing that made me nervous was after the guy did my epidural he goes "oh you have scoliosis? " I said yes. He goes "oh well this may only work on half of you " . Happily it worked on all of me haha I have no idea if I pooped. I didn't ask nor did I want to know haha

twinamato · March 2015

missliz53 said:

Sweetpea192 said:
Ok, so I know going into labour & giving birth is a scary & daunting thing but you got pregnant. How did you think baby was going to come out? You will more than likely poop yourself giving birth. It happens nothing you can do about unfortunately. Millions of women give birth daily if our bodies could not cope with it we wouldn't be able to bare children. Yes labour hurts yes all you dignity will go out the window but at the end of all that.. You will have a baby. We have 6months before all this happens don't stress about it now.. For now I'd say enjoy & embrace your pregnancy.
Obviously we got pregnant knowing that we were going to have to go through labor at the end, but that doesn't make it any less scary or embarrassing. Yes, we know that millions of women give birth, but not everyone gets a happy ending. Please don't invalidate anyone's feelings. The whole point of this site is to support each other.

yeah and some of us got pregnant by accident...

Jeanne & Dustin · March 2015

I'm embarrassed now of the thought of pooping, but w/e, it happens. What I'm most afraid of is tearing and feeling the Dr. stitch me up. I hate needles so much and (at the moment) am fine with natural birth, but if I don't get an epidural, will I feel the Dr. stitch me up if I tear??! I'm more afraid of that than pushing baby out.

missmandah · March 2015

If I don't have a c-section my sister is coming into the room while I give birth. (My SO is cool with it) and she promised me she won't tell me if I crap or not lol

KYmama9286 · March 2015

Jeanne & Dustin said:
I'm embarrassed now of the thought of pooping, but w/e, it happens. What I'm most afraid of is tearing and feeling the Dr. stitch me up. I hate needles so much and (at the moment) am fine with natural birth, but if I don't get an epidural, will I feel the Dr. stitch me up if I tear??! I'm more afraid of that than pushing baby out.

They will give you a shot of local anesthetic so you don't feel it. The shot is just a quick pinch and not too bad then you just feel a bit of tugging. I promise in the moment you'll be so enamored with holding your new baby you won't really even notice.

bpv101283 · March 2015

I don't know if I pooped or not. I told my hubby he couldn't look last time and he expressed sadness at not seeing his son come out a few times over the past two years. I think this time I'm going to tell him to go for it. Lol. Whatever, we both felt so amazing once he was out.

Shaniseford · March 2015

mamasitabonita said:
This is my first pregnancy. I'm so scared that my butthole will be cut and that I will not be able to hold my caca anymore.

aprilmay92 said:
Because every woman I know who's ever had a child regularly shits herself? I hope you're just being a troll and not serious.

I have literally just read this and wow I'm struggling not to wet myself, this response ahaha!!!

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barrelocarol · March 2015

Here's one

booksandcleverness81 · March 2015

You've got some time to prepare yourself, so do some research on methods or mindsets that might help you in birth like hypnobirthing (even if you aren't going natural, the pain control and focus on birthing without fear can be helpful). Knowing what to expect and taking the mystery out of it will help you feel more comfortable. There is a lot of evidence that fear and panic actually increases pain and slows progress during labor, so the more calm and positive you are could possibly make your birth easier and less painful. It's got a lot to do with the hormones you release during labor. Something to think about! I would also suggest The Business of Being Born if you want to hear some more traditional knowledge on birthing.

Also, as odd as it seems, oiling your lady bits for a couple months before birth and birthing on all fours will help prevent tearing.

You'll be fine, just remember that your pain can make you powerful, you don't have to be helpless during the process!

jmacd22 · March 2015

I'm a STM and also scared. My first went past due date and I had to be induced then have a c-section because I still wouldn't dilate. Ended up being in labor for 28 hours

Since I had a c-section with first my doctor is giving me the option to try natural or schedule c-section but honestly scared of both. Still undecided on it. When I told my husband my labor story even he asked why would I want to do it again. I must say that even though you go through the pain in the moment with time it just becomes a memory and having children is worth every minute of it.

bmolson1 · March 2015

First, I HIGHLY recommend the Bradley Method for those of you who want to feel more prepared and who are scared of the epidural vs pain.
Before my first was born, I was super nervous about tearing and kept insisting I would do anything to avoid stitches. Well, the doctors heard me, they tried to use compresses and counter pressure etc, but I still tore. It was a slight tear and I'm not even sure how many stitches I got. But here's the thing, it wasn't the worst thing in the world. I hated having the stitches but I only ever needed Advil to help with the pain and, honestly, it was ok. You're going to be fine!!! Pooping during and after are weird, but you'll deal with that too. I think it's totally normal to be scared and just know that you're built for this. It's the most natural thing that women have been doing forever.

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