Today was my 19 week appt.. When I went into the room with the ultrasound tech I told her immediately we didn't want to know, I told her we were going to do a huge gender reveal party and gave her a slip of paper to circle boy or girl on it and then to put it into the envelope so I could give it to the baker and he was going to make the cake blue or pink inside and it be a huge suprise, she thought it was very cool, I asked her to please tell me when to close my eyes or look away when it was time to look for the gender, She said ok no problem... About 5 minutes into the ultrasound she goes "Its a boy!!!".. I looked at her in horror, she then panicked and said OMG I'm SO SORRY, In all my years I've NEVER done that. I started bawling my eyes out, I am so sad I feel like I just got the greatest surprise ripped away from me. She started crying freaking out that she was going to get in trouble from the doctors in the office.. I felt bad for her because I don't know if she could lose her job or get in big trouble but at the same time NOTHING is going to bring back the excitement my husband and I were going to have together with our friends and family.
My husband still doesn't want to know, I feel like I'm carrying such a weight an am so depressed. I'm not normally a surprise person but have been waiting literally since I found out I was pregnant to do this and now i'm devastated
Has anybody else gone through this, any comforting words to help me would be greatly appreciated
Re: Told the ultrasound tech we didn't want to know the gender but she accidentally told us... :(
Sorry to offend your delicate snowflake sensibilities. You don't get to request only "comforting" replies on a message board, so you might as well know that some people's response to your post will be a giant eye roll. There are thousands of couples out there who would give anything to have a healthy baby. Perhaps think about them and how lucky you are when you're moaning about the fact that your party won't go exactly how you planned.
Well I have never been on a message board, I just assumed it would be filled with mature women (wrong I guess) who all share a bond of motherhood. Thanks for your input, I guess I just learned less 101 of message board rude people.
Sorry about your party, but Jemho isn't the only one majorly eye rolling your 'problems'.
I'm siding with JemHolo. You are acting like a toddler who was told no candy before dinner. So you found out several days/weeks early. It's a party. Parties never go as planned, and it's time as a mother you realized that. Crap happens. It's ok to be sad, but devastated because she slipped up? You make it out like you have never spilled a secret or said something you shouldn't have.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
Lots of people on these boards and on this earth have real problems and need real words of comfort. As far as I can tell, your biggest problem is ENT (extreme narcissistic tendencies).
YOU are not the only one who has had a rough time in life. I still say get over it, it's just a party.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
You make plans, and God laughs.
I hope one day you realize how lucky you are.
Formerly known as Kate08young
August '18 Siggy April Showers:
Married: 7/22/14
Baby L: 8/4/2015 August 2015 Moms
Baby E: 11/18/2016 December 2016 Moms
TTC #3 08/2017 BFP 11/27/2017.
Twin B lost 11/22/2017, Twin A doing well.
Clearly you women just want to gang up on people like a bunch of high school kids, If I could figure out how to stop getting notifications and delete this I would gladly.
That is not her post...different poster, same situation.
I'm dissapointed because of how much money has been spent on a party where I'm going to fake a surprise... But I'm sure I will hear "Wow you should be happy to have a party we cant even afford a cake"...
I can't win explaining my feelings so why try.
This is even more true in the medical field, where services are just as targeted (If not more so) to what patients need as to what they want. An US tech is there to provide a specific service - scanning your baby to make sure it's developing properly. Plenty of techs play along with the gender reveal stuff because they are nice people, but please don't confuse that with the service you're actually paying them for, which is infinitely more important. Your $262 pays for the scan, not the gender reveal assist. If you want to procure gender services from a company that is targeted at your gender reveal experience, pay for an elective ultrasound.
People forget that an AS isn't to find out the gender. That's a fun extra bonus, but there is a medical purpose to the procedure, people!
I really miss the old bump. Where this "sparkly/shitting rainbows and butterflies" and "you're supposed to be supportive and not mean" crap didn't exist without a flaming episode.
I always wonder how the shitting rainbows group parents. If their kids do something stupid do they tell them, or do they validate it? "Oh sweetie, it's ok to have thrown Sammy's birthday cake on the ground. I'm sure lots of people would have been disappointed that he got to have a spider-man party before them. You just keep tantruming until you feel better."
YES definitely, I have got some pretty harsh responses myself but it all is for the better in the end, because sometimes the advice you don't want to hear turns out to be the best. And if some of the women are a little "extra" I just try not to pay them much attention and keep it moving. So what happened with the "old bump" people? did most of the women leave the site?
I like you though. You take advice with thick skin. You seem like a smart girl. As a FTM, it's important to research and find what methods work best for you. Yes, advice is great but it's also about going in with your eyes wide opened. Parenting is hard. That's why I feel like it's important to be honest here. No sugar coating needed