Normally, I'd post this in the Baby Shower thread...but a lot of the moms posting there are not of a like-mind and just tell me not to be so rigid in what I plan to use for my baby.
For your Shower, how do you let people know that you won't be using just any old baby products, but rather the specific ones you have researched (type A stuff-researcher and list maker, right here!), and/or fair trade and organic products from local herbal soap stores, ie. baby soaps and baby oils?
In my family, my mom is really the only one who understands my crunchy-ness, but I have tons of 'veteran' moms who are almost insulted that I refuse to use the products they used on their babies. 'I'm sorry, but I live and breathe natural foods and products, and I know exactly what is in Johnson & Johnsons, and other 'typical' brands.' Run of the mill diapers are the worst! I could never put such chemical-ridden things on my baby! I will use Honest Co. and maybe 2 other wholesome diaper brands, that is it! All others gifted to us, will be sold via Ebay or donated...or returned!
I figured the Eco threads would be a good place to ask about this...I know you can't control what folks gift you, but is there any non-rude way to let them know that you won't be using products that have traces of chemicals and toxins...like BPA/BPS in plastic bottles, etc.? (We will only use glass bottles!)
Or do I have to smile and nod at my Shower and return everything and lie when people ask where their gifts are?
-First time hippie mama
Re: Eco-Baby Shower
You seem so hell bent on getting the answer you want and there's always an excuse to everything that I'm confused as to why you continue to ask. Why don't you just do what you want and send a pamphlet with your invite giving strict guidelines for gifts.
I was looking for real advice and answers. There are tons of moms out there like me, and it's not about dictating anything!
Registries are for this very reason!!!
You want specific stuff you put it on the list. That's why they made registries so people could get that they want.
I'm really not sure of a better way to tell friends or family I want this stuff and not that stuff.
If people get you items not on the registry that's on them. They went out of the box and if you don't like it they should understand if you return it.
So my plan for now is to be suggestive with my registry. By registering for natural products, wood/metal/natural fabric instead of plastic and cloth diapering supplies instead of disposables. Hopefully people will get the hint and buy off the registry. This will probably mean I'll be making some returns lol but I'm not going to feel too guilty for returning/selling/donating something that I truly will not use, that I don't want just taking up space.
I would say stick to your ethics but also be considerate of the people who have been generous enough to give you things. People can be really sensitive about this stuff especially if they feel like you're passing judgement on them(not that I think you are) for not using natural organic product with their kids.
On Amazon registry you can even put the item & name of store where to get it (a link) for the local herbal soap stores.
Most of my family knows I'm like this so I'd like to think they will understand.
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Met: 08/2001 ~ Dating: 07/2004 ~ Engaged: 11/2009 ~ Married: 06/2011
TTC: Since 09/16 ~ BFP 10/28/16 ~ EDD 7/5/17
Team Pink * Canadian Bumpie