When are you telling your family?

chefswife27 · February 2015

OK, I'm only 4 weeks pregnant (due October 29), but I am totally chomping at the bit to tell my family and close friends that I'm pregnant!. I know I should wait to make the news public, and I want to do that for people with whom I'm not super close, but, when are you ladies telling your family (parents, grandparents, siblings, etc.)? I don't know if I'll be able to wait until the first trimester is over, let alone until my 8 week ultrasound.

KHTW · February 2015

Our best friends alewady know. We are telling the parents after the 12week scan

sal5011 · February 2015

My 3 best girlfriends know, but we are waiting until 3/17 (about 10 weeks) to tell parents and siblings. Won't tell "general public" until 12 weeks or more.

AnnikaD20 · February 2015

We have the first ultrasound scheduled at 9 weeks, and we'll probably go public shortly after that. I want to hear the heartbeat first.

ALK2008 · February 2015

We have told everyone lol I can't keep it in. We told his parents when we went on a trip there right around the time we found out, we told my parents before that and because my family cannot keep anything to themselves we had to tell my brothers and extended family.

We also told our close friends a few weeks later and just yesterday after our ultra sound we posted it to Facebook. I know it's super early to do all these things but I don't want to hide the joy of this baby. I truly believe that the more positive vibes and just excitement instead of worry will be a good thing. Plus I'm religious and like my MIL said "now that we know we can keep you and the baby in our prayers" so I know there are just a lot of people out there thinking about this little baby and keeping a good outlook on it is important to me.

I have also suffered a loss before but I feel it's nothing to be ashamed of and I would honestly hate to go through that alone. You can't help it when it happens, there isn't a magic trick to keeping the baby so my look on it is celebrate every second you have with it and just let the world love that little baby as much as you do.

casserole27 · February 2015

DH is chomping at the bit to tell everyone but I am not ready. We will probably tell our parents after my first appointment next week. I am thinking about telling the rest of our siblings and my grandparents on April Fools Day.... (April 2nd still pregnant) but I am a dork. Lol. Maybe at Easter when everyone is together. We'll see.

swelniak · February 2015

With our first, we told one set of parents at 6 weeks (because they were headed out of the country) and the rest after the 8 week check. This time, our "8 week" appointment was really at 6 weeks and we've told all of our parents/siblings. We'll be telling close friends after the 8 week check next week.

Chippercjm · February 2015

We finally told my parents last night at 5weeks once we got blood work back and HCG levels were good. We don't have an ultrasound for another two weeks but feel we wanted to celebrate the joy of this life God has brought us at any capacity! There is still the possibility something could happen after the first trimester so we are never really fully in the clear until the baby arrives. I am glad we shared as everyone has been praying and is very supportive and excited! Plus a huge weight was lifted off me and now I don't feel like I'm lying or keeping a secret anymore!

jenspeake · February 2015

I so far have only told my sister because I needed advice on what I should be doing and then DH told his parents. If my mom were alive I would have told her immediately! I'm waiting to tell the rest of my family after our first appointment next week (this will be my parent's 13th grandchild so they are over it already) and my boss. Since I know I will be getting an underwhelming response from my family I cannot wait to tell our friends because I know they will be shocked and happy! We are doing that on St Pat's Day! Cannot wait to spread the news!

chefswife27 · February 2015

@casserole27: that is hilarious!! I have a similar sense of humor.

I've told a few close girlfriends, but only because they were the only ones who knew we were trying.

Trying to think of creative ways to tell our families so I get more excited about the actual reveal. Hopefully I won't spill the beans earlier than our 8 week ultrasound, haha.

jillybean95 · February 2015

After 4 years of trying and insisting I wouldn't say anything until after 12 weeks, we ended up telling my parents at 5 weeks and the rest of our immediate family at 6 weeks. I was really going to hold strong on waiting til 12 weeks, but my husband travels for work, leaving me alone most of the time. So he wanted a network of people I could rely on, just in case something happened and he wasn't home. We are holding off on most friends (my best friend of 20 years knows), extended family, Facebook, etc until 12 weeks though. This Saturday is 8 weeks and he is telling his coworkers Monday, just in case he would have to rush home from out of town to get to me.

sev1126 · February 2015

I told my husbands mom (she is a nurse and lives locally) and my mom (she was in town on business but lives hours away and I wanted to tell her in person). I swore both of them to secrecy, even from our dads! I also had to tell my yoga instructor so she could modify for me during class, ha!

babyhussak112 · February 2015

We have told both sets of parents, my sisters and his sister and then my Aunts! It's too hard not to share the exciting news with close family! We are waiting to tell our 6 year old until after our 12 week check up, right now she just think I'm tired and sick which is why I'm sleeping a lot more

curfam4 · February 2015

We've told both sets of parents, and all of our siblings. We've both told a lot of coworkers, and I've told my boss (I have the best boss ever, and she was super excited). We've been trying for nearly 3 years, so when it finally happened, we pretty much told everyone haha. We aren't going to make it "facebook official" until closer to 12 weeks, though.

Rgriffin91 · February 2015

With our first, we waited until the second tri to tell anyone. But I was so surprised by this pregnancy that I told everyone close to me. If anything negative should happen, I know I'll have support.

on_the_move · February 2015

We are waiting until easter to tell imediately family (I'll be 13 weeks) then filtering down to extended family, close friends, Facebook after that. I had a miscarriage last summer right after I told my family early because we were visiting them from out of state. It was hard to have to turn around and say Nevermind.

furelise93 · February 2015

We're telling our parents after my first appointment in two weeks. I've already told two of my closest friends, but we won't make it "public" until closer to the 12 week mark! It's the hardest secret to keep!

mjhut · February 2015

My hubby and I have two little boys (5 & 8) and in August I had a missed miscarriage that was devestating to them (and me & hubby). After the mmc my obgyn found cancerous cells in my glands (didn't even know I had glands there, lol) so I had surgery in November, on jan 5th the obgyn gave the thumbs up to try again. When I peed on that stick I really couldn't even believe my eyes!!!! I was so excited!!!

Of course we were nervous to share our news (I wasn't expecting it so quickly) so we haven't told ANYONE yet!!! Which is super hard for me 1) because I'm so scared to lose this baby 2) because I love sharing news like this... But this is the plan for the grand reveal: we are taking a 9 week trip around the world with our boys. On the last set of pictures we will take some of the obvious bump and the boys pointing at it with a caption "bringing home a little extra" or "what happens in Paris doesn't stay in Paris" something like that. I will be 20 weeks when we come home. It will be easier to keep this secret once we are on our trip!!!!!

melanim · February 2015

Hey! I am 6 Weeks and have really strong morning sickness and just look and feel bad. It is our first and we would like to wait for 12th week to tell. So at this point i am lying to everyone...

Jonesy003 · February 2015

I'm due the 27th October & only my mum & best friends no! I have two previous daughters and told everyone at 6 weeks with those but waiting this time as everyone else things my youngest daughter is our last so when they get a picture of our daughters holding a board reviling our mummy is having a baby it will be a lovely big surprise

AricandAshley · February 2015

We are due October 19! I told my sister and my best friend as soon as I found out and my husband told his best friend. My sister in law is also pregnant and having her baby shower on March 7th, so we are going to wait until after that to tell our immediate families so we don't steal any of her thunder

. we are going to wait to make it public and tell extended family until after 12 weeks. This is our first pregnancy, so we are both nervous!!!

mrsmoser61116 · February 2015

We were going to wait to tell everyone after the first trimester but we had a rough start with some bleeding and several trips to the er, one that I had to leave work early for so I had to tell a couple people at work. Word spreads like wildfire around there and now some people know that we didn't want to know yet due to them knowing our families so we have to spill the beans earlier than planned so our families don't find out "through the grapevine". So tonight, we're meeting my mom, her boyfriend, and my sister for supper and telling them and slowly working our way around to the rest of the family from there.

deanna1313 · February 2015

My appt is March 2nd so I'm waiting until then to tell them. I also need to to plan a cute way to tell them. Maybe a big bro shirt for my son or something with the ultrasound picture.

I told our parents at about 6 weeks last time, but I'm still in shock right now so I'm keeping it quiet and letting it sink in.
For my extended family, my cousin has been trying to get pregnant since September so I'm holding off until Easter maybe in the hopes that she may have the chance to announce first. I'm really worried she'll be upset.

Tell everyone when you're ready! You don't have to follow first trimester rules if you don't want to. Do what right for you!

Jason&Erin82507 · February 2015

My first appointment is on Friday the 27th. Two days later we are taking the girls to Disney. My MIL is coming along to help. I bought these adorable custom t-shirts (on Etsy) that say "I have a secret" on the front and "Alexis is going to be a big sister" and "Hayden is going to be a big sister again" on the back. They have Minnie mouse on them to go with the "theme" since we'll be telling her in Disney! (Well more like the resort, but you get the point ) =-)I'll be 9.5 weeks. Everyone else I'll tell at the end of March when I'm 12 weeks.

BBaires · February 2015

It's been about a week and a half since we found out I'm preggers and it's our first kid so the whole when to tell thing feels huge!

My family has been bugging us for years to have a baby-- I'm 30 and he's 37-- but the didn't even know we were trying. Ideally, I'd like to wait until after our ultrasound in early March, but we just found out that in addition to the baby we're moving to Texas from California--in just a few weeks. Since we both want to tell the parents in person, this pushes up our timeline big time and we're telling my Mom and Step-dad tonight. Tomorrow is my Mom's birthday so I'm bringing a cake over that says "Happy Birthday, Grandma-to-be."

Here's hoping they all aren't mad at us for taking their grandchild three states away

We'll tell other family and friends in the coming weeks. I just can't wait until after first trimester to tell those closest to me because they're the first ones I'd call should something tragic happen. I will however like to keep it off social media as long as possible because that's mainly filled with "semi-friends" and colleagues/acquaintances who are key to my work.

Pink283 · February 2015

We told our family the day I got the positive test! I was just too excited to keep it a secret. I also told a couple close friends a few days later. If I were to miscarry, I would want the people close to me to know. It's nothing to be ashamed of.

arwestover3 · February 2015

We told everyone as soon as the first trimester was over for my first pregnancy, but then it almost made my pregnancy seem longer! Haha. This time we'll still tell parents early on but we want to wait for the big reveal until we find out the gender

plumpous · February 2015

I found out 2 weeks ago and I'm biting my tongue. I'm waiting for the first appointment when they take blood work to confirm but that's a week from now.
The day we found out my dad and sister teased me that I'm pregnant because I was eating pickles and I had to lie. Ugh it was killing me! And my mom had this chat with me how she told her mom immediately. And I was sitting there feeling guilty.

Idk, maybe they all figured it out and I'm waiting for nothing...

redpeacoat · February 2015

I just found out on Sunday....due 10/29. We are thrilled but plan to keep it to ourselves for a while. It's our third baby, plus we are potentially moving, and there's a big family wedding coming up in May. Maybe at our 8 week appt?

jbrisson1982 · February 2015

This is our first pregnancy so I only wanted a couple people to know but the husband told his parents and siblings. Everyone is really happy for us so it is a positive experience so far. Found out today that I am 5 weeks from my blood work results. ultrasound to be booked in two weeks.

skrey32 · February 2015

Yay! We have the same due date! I'm hoping to hold out until Halloween, but this is number 3 and our other babies each decided to come two weeks early!
Since I can't keep a secret, I have told all of my closest friends! We love away from our family and my parents are coming to visit this week. There's a website called photoboother and we're making a photo booth strip with each of us holding a number then me holding a 5 by my belly. It's also their anniversary, so I'm laminating it and wrapping it as a present for them. We'll be giving it to them this week (5 weeks). We'll tell the rest of our family and the public after my first appt!

Good luck with baby!

crystalpegram · February 2015

I'm going in for my first appointment next Wednesday, I've wanted to hold off telling anyone til the second trimester, but ive told my two best friends! I'm just so excited! I'm planning on telling my family (parents and sibling) next Saturday, but I keep second guessing myself!!!!

KStrong90 · February 2015

We are five weeks so just told my parents as we love in Kenya and we won't be back to the UK to see family until 13 weeks and I won't be able to make it that long. We are telling DH's parents in 4 weeks when they come out to see us. We are planning to hold a sign up at the airport when they come through the arrivals gate, saying ''you're going to be grandparents.' Is that too cringe?!

beaz82 · February 2015

The grandparents and closest friends know. We are doing a family pregnancy reveal photo shoot at 9 weeks and will make public sometime after that once we get our photo from the session back.

lilmagic00 · February 2015

Hey Chefswife we are due date twins I am telling my family in April....Best of Luck to you and your growing family

Beccas387 · February 2015

We told our parents and siblings at 5 weeks. We are waitung to tell all other family and friends more around 10-12weeks.

paigefilliater · February 2015

We told our parents immediately. My two best friends knew that day because my line was so faint I sent them a picture haha we will tell the world at 12 or so weeks. I couldn't keep joy in even though I know it's risky, but I want to celebrate every little moment.

serbrina83 · February 2015

We told our parents and siblings right away, but we are going to wait until the 2nd trimester to tell everyone.

rahrah82 · February 2015

My two best friends knew right away because I got a faint line last Thursday and sent them a pic, lol! My mother's 60th birthday is this coming Sunday, so we plan to tell my parents after her surprise party. My husbands parents will be at the party as well but we will break to them afterwards as well, when we can get them alone, and then swear everyone to secrecy until we are ready to tell everyone after 12wks. I have my doctor appointment in 3wks. but didn't want to wait that long especially with my mom's birthday right around the corner.

satori15 · February 2015

My MIL was out for a visit the day I got the positive so DH told her right away. Since she knew I told my parents and I also told one of my mommy friends. Mostly because her son was born when my LO is due so I wanted to share. I'm waiting until after 12 weeks for everyone else.

Ecat504 · February 2015

I told my 3 best friends and DF. We will probably tell his family around 12 weeks and my family the next time we see them after 12 weeks.

We'll make a FB announcement when we find out the gender

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