Hi ladies! I am migrating over from another forum looking for others that are in similar situations. The other boards I have been on just did not have an active 2IF following and my two infertile friends don't want children, so they really don't get it.
Sooo to introduce and a little background (most in my siggy)... MH and I have been TTC #2 for me (#1 for him) since April 2013. Prior to that we used a very poor version of the timing method as birth control turns me into a raging bitch that throws any object nearby, or a sobbing mess. In January 2014 we self-referred to an RE after MH regular doc told him we weren't getting KU due to his low testosterone, likely causing low count. After initial testing it was determined he has tons of active swimmers and I have weak ovulation (this determination was made by serial progesterone levels at 7dpo). Basically every 28 days I release the most craptastic egg ever, and IF it happens to fertilize, the embryo stops developing soon after.
At the moment- waiting for appointment next week with RE to review remaining labs he did after the recurrent losses. So far the only lab they have called about was Vitamin D, and I started a supplement. If our karyotyping is normal, we will start another medicated cycle late March.
My question for you guys-- how do you deal with the constant questions about "when are you going to have another one?" and "I'm surprised you aren't pregnant by now!" I get these questions so much at work.. There is a coworker that is KU who stopped by my office giggling to tell me about her dream where we were both KU together.. (I just said "oh really.. hmm..." and flipped her off when she closed the door. My friends and family that know tiptoe around these subjects to extreme degrees that make it even worse.
Intro...and short rant... complete
Two years, two losses and three IUIs...
We are having TRIPLETS!
EDD 1/26/16
GGB born November 2015!
Re: Newbie Intro (loss mentioned)
We haven't had that question recently- people asked a lot more when DS was younger (he is 5). But when it does come up, I am just open about how we've been trying and that statistically, the chances of "just relaxing" have a <1% chance of helping me get pregnant again.
As to your question, I'm pretty honest with people when they ask and tell them we have had multiple losses. It can be harsh but it's pretty effective at stopping the conversation. Usually the people that ask are people I don't care about so I don't mind if it makes them uncomfortable.
Dx: Me: Recurrent Pregnancy Loss; DH: Low Morphology (2%)
BFP#1: MC 3/1/11 at 6w1d - EDD 10/21/11
BFP#3: MC 2/8/14 at 4w5d - EDD 10/13/14
BFP#6: CP 11/6/14 at 4w2d - EDD 7/14/15
IVF #1 with ICSI & PGS: May/June 2015, ER 6/3/15, 17R/17M/15F
IVF #2 with ICSI & PGS: July 2015, ER 7/16/15, 16R/11M/9F
PGS results = 6 normal embryos (4 boys, 2 girls)
FET 9/23/15 = BFFN
TTC #3 since June 2013
BFP #1 7/21/2013--EDD 3/30/14--D&C 9/24/13
BFP #2 1/28/14--MC 2/7/14
IUI #1 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
IUI #2 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
IUI #3 5mg Femara + trigger = BFN
@ellebelle2384 we had our labs drawn in Jan and appt scheduled 3 weeks from then.
However I have an online account with the lab and was notified this AM I could view them. All mine are neg or not flagged except the Vitamin D which was low at 24. DH has to use a different lab due to insurance and they won't release results, we'll get those at the appt.
Thanks for the welcome! Happy to be joining and active forum!
Two years, two losses and three IUIs...
We are having TRIPLETS!
EDD 1/26/16
GGB born November 2015!
Good luck!
Kid #1 - 09/03/12
Hysteroscopy #10 - scar tissue grew back reblocking my right tube
#11 or IVF with scarring still inside?
1 lone embryo from September 2016 retreival, dx with Trisomy 16, starting fresh