20 week ultrasound wrong?

Anfosterinc · February 2015

Had my 20 week ultrasound yesterday and I wanted to find out the sex of our baby. My husband is completely against finding out; The doctor had to quickly look for me while my husband kept his eyes closed. Baby had its legs closed together, and our doctor kept trying to get the baby to move. He mouthed "boy", but I couldn't see it at all. With my last pregnancy it was so easy to see that he was a boy. I asked the doctor to please look again and he did, and said "pretty sure"... what does that mean? It looked like nothing to me. I don't know if maybe I'm just in denial and hoping he is wrong because I really want a girl, or if there is a chance he is wrong? With my son, he said he was 90% sure it was a boy. Any thoughts? I will be happy for a healthy baby either way, but am I a bad person for wanting him to be wrong?

ChristyM87 · February 2015

If your doctor said that he is pretty sure then I would get the baby boy clothes out of the closet and start preparing for your new baby boy. Congrats

crunchymamaof2 · February 2015

Anfosterinc said:

Had my 20 week ultrasound yesterday and I wanted to find out the sex of our baby. My husband is completely against finding out; The doctor had to quickly look for me while my husband kept his eyes closed. Baby had its legs closed together, and our doctor kept trying to get the baby to move. He mouthed "boy", but I couldn't see it at all. With my last pregnancy it was so easy to see that he was a boy. I asked the doctor to please look again and he did, and said "pretty sure"... what does that mean? It looked like nothing to me. I don't know if maybe I'm just in denial and hoping he is wrong because I really want a girl, or if there is a chance he is wrong? With my son, he said he was 90% sure it was a boy. Any thoughts? I will be happy for a healthy baby either way, but am I a bad person for wanting him to be wrong?

There's always a chance they could be wrong. If you're at worried pay for an elective ultrasound. Otherwise trust your doctor.

Anfosterinc · February 2015

I trust my doctor. His facial expressions when he said pretty sure was what put me on the fence. It wasn't a positive pretty sure. More like a pretty sure with a question mark at the end.

PrimRoseMama · February 2015

I'm not sure if you are a bad person for wanting the opposite sex. I mean, passing disappointment, if you had your heart set on a girl-- is not uncommon. It's if you are getting seriously upset about it that I start to side-eye.

You could always pay at a boutique if you want to double check. There is always a chance that the doctor is wrong-- but I highly doubt it.

What troubles you about having a boy?

Anfosterinc · February 2015

I have a boy already and a little girl. She really wants a sister and I know she's going to be sad when she finds out it's a brother. I was hoping for a girl so that she's not the only girl in our family. She has all boy cousins and none of them want anything to do with her. Just heartbreaking to see and I always try to make her feel special and do special activities with her. It's not the same though. I had the same situation growing up and was hoping it would be different for her.

ChristyM87 · February 2015

Anfosterinc said:
I have a boy already and a little girl. She really wants a sister and I know she's going to be sad when she finds out it's a brother. I was hoping for a girl so that she's not the only girl in our family. She has all boy cousins and none of them want anything to do with her. Just heartbreaking to see and I always try to make her feel special and do special activities with her. It's not the same though. I had the same situation growing up and was hoping it would be different for her.

This goes both ways, what about your son being the boy in the family? You knew when you got pregnant that there was a 50% chance of a boy.

PrimRoseMama · February 2015

I know it must be difficult for your daughter, but maybe focus on trying to do group activities for all that are not gender specific? My daughter (3) gets on with kids of all kinds. In fact her favorite are the older boys in the neighborhood. She plays guns, swords & rides bikes with them. So it might be a good idea to try to encourage the boys to include your LO. Maybe talk to your siblings/the parents to work with their kids so it's not a "we don't play with girls" type environment-- which is how it sounds.

I don't really understand that particular dynamic because my all-boy cousins (and my twin brother) bummed with me (the only girl in the family) just fine. I climbed trees & played capture the flag etc. I had girlfriends but I never had the feeling the boys in my family excluded me. I'm sorry if your daughter feels excluded.

Perhaps this is an opportunity to work on the group dynamic? There is no guarantee a sister would be a built in playmate either, truthfully. That's a lot of pressure/weight to put on a baby.

It's ok, IMHO, to desire one sex over the other, but this particular reason seems odd to me. None the less, I'm sorry if it bums you out. Maybe the new brother will love hanging out with his sister & including her. His sex doesn't determine how he will treat her.

My son adores his sister & loves to play with her. I don't know how/if that will change as he gets older, but so far they are BFFs.

bbiutmcph · February 2015

Anfosterinc said:
I trust my doctor. His facial expressions when he said pretty sure was what put me on the fence. It wasn't a positive pretty sure. More like a pretty sure with a question mark at the end.

His facial expression was probably because you questioned him and asked him if he was sure. He was trying to look and quietly mouth to you what you were having while your husband had his eyes closed. You then questioned him. I'm sure if I was the doc I would have looked at you not all grins and smiles when questioned. However like PP nothing is 100% until you deliver. You have one of all ready and your daughter will be fine, it's a 50/50

tinktink20 · February 2015

With my first, the doctor said boy. He never showed me the money shot. He was wrong. If you didn't see it with your own eyes, I'd be hesitant to believe. Not that your doctor is bad, but it doesn't sound like he gave it a solid look. Mistakes happen.

PrimRoseMama · February 2015

tinktink20 said:
With my first, the doctor said boy. He never showed me the money shot. He was wrong. If you didn't see it with your own eyes, I'd be hesitant to believe. Not that your doctor is bad, but it doesn't sound like he gave it a solid look. Mistakes happen.

The fact that you refer to your baby's ultrasound as a "money shot" disturbs me. There are so many ways to describe viewing the ultrasound but this term is pornographic. 0.0

https://www.salon.com/2012/02/21/explaining_the_money_shot/

tinktink20 · February 2015

PrimRoseMama said:

tinktink20 said:
With my first, the doctor said boy. He never showed me the money shot. He was wrong. If you didn't see it with your own eyes, I'd be hesitant to believe. Not that your doctor is bad, but it doesn't sound like he gave it a solid look. Mistakes happen.
The fact that you refer to your baby's ultrasound as a "money shot" disturbs me. There are so many ways to describe viewing the ultrasound but this term is pornographic. 0.0

https://www.salon.com/2012/02/21/explaining_the_money_shot/

Sue me.

tinktink20 · February 2015

If you want to get your panties in a bunch over terminology, go ahead.
Money shot, money shot, money shot.

sweetmama101226 · February 2015

smeame14 said:

With my first, the doctor said boy. He never showed me the money shot. He was wrong. If you didn't see it with your own eyes, I'd be hesitant to believe. Not that your doctor is bad, but it doesn't sound like he gave it a solid look. Mistakes happen.
The fact that you refer to your baby's ultrasound as a "money shot" disturbs me. There are so many ways to describe viewing the ultrasound but this term is pornographic. 0.0 https://www.salon.com/2012/02/21/explaining_the_money_shot/
Sue me.
The maturity around here is aweful! Use the proper terminology- "money shot" is a terrible term for a baby's genitalia.

Horrible term! [-(

bbiutmcph · February 2015

tinktink20 said:
If you want to get your panties in a bunch over terminology, go ahead.
Money shot, money shot, money shot.

Seriously WTF

MOST people when they get pointed out to them a phrase is inappropriate, thank the person for letting them know and remove it from their vocabulary. Not act like a 5 year old and continue using it looking foolish

tinktink20 · February 2015

bbiutmcph said:

tinktink20 said:
If you want to get your panties in a bunch over terminology, go ahead.
Money shot, money shot, money shot.
Seriously WTF

MOST people when they get pointed out to them a phrase is inappropriate, thank the person for letting them know and remove it from their vocabulary. Not act like a 5 year old and continue using it looking foolish

FYI - it's not only a pornographic term. It's also used in the regular movie industry, referring to the shot that cost the most money or is very important.
So, money shot isn't always a dirty term. I stand by my usage.

bbiutmcph · February 2015

tinktink20 said:

bbiutmcph said:

tinktink20 said:
If you want to get your panties in a bunch over terminology, go ahead.
Money shot, money shot, money shot.
Seriously WTF

MOST people when they get pointed out to them a phrase is inappropriate, thank the person for letting them know and remove it from their vocabulary. Not act like a 5 year old and continue using it looking foolish
FYI - it's not only a pornographic term. It's also used in the regular movie industry, referring to the shot that cost the most money or is very important.
So, money shot isn't always a dirty term. I stand by my usage.

So a shot of a penis/vagina is what is most important? Gotcha.

tinktink20 · February 2015

bbiutmcph said:

tinktink20 said:

bbiutmcph said:

tinktink20 said:
If you want to get your panties in a bunch over terminology, go ahead.
Money shot, money shot, money shot.
Seriously WTF

MOST people when they get pointed out to them a phrase is inappropriate, thank the person for letting them know and remove it from their vocabulary. Not act like a 5 year old and continue using it looking foolish
FYI - it's not only a pornographic term. It's also used in the regular movie industry, referring to the shot that cost the most money or is very important.
So, money shot isn't always a dirty term. I stand by my usage.

So a shot of a penis/vagina is what is most important? Gotcha.

I think that is a pretty important shot..... Qualifies as a money shot.

bbiutmcph · February 2015

tinktink20 said:

bbiutmcph said:

tinktink20 said:

bbiutmcph said:

tinktink20 said:
If you want to get your panties in a bunch over terminology, go ahead.
Money shot, money shot, money shot.
Seriously WTF

MOST people when they get pointed out to them a phrase is inappropriate, thank the person for letting them know and remove it from their vocabulary. Not act like a 5 year old and continue using it looking foolish
FYI - it's not only a pornographic term. It's also used in the regular movie industry, referring to the shot that cost the most money or is very important.
So, money shot isn't always a dirty term. I stand by my usage.

So a shot of a penis/vagina is what is most important? Gotcha.
I think that is a pretty important shot..... Qualifies as a money shot.

How a child pees isn't that important and the term is still offensive and ridiculous to use. Glad to see you have your priorities straight though.

tinktink20 · February 2015

bbiutmcph said:

tinktink20 said:

bbiutmcph said:

tinktink20 said:

bbiutmcph said:

tinktink20 said:
If you want to get your panties in a bunch over terminology, go ahead.
Money shot, money shot, money shot.
Seriously WTF

MOST people when they get pointed out to them a phrase is inappropriate, thank the person for letting them know and remove it from their vocabulary. Not act like a 5 year old and continue using it looking foolish
FYI - it's not only a pornographic term. It's also used in the regular movie industry, referring to the shot that cost the most money or is very important.
So, money shot isn't always a dirty term. I stand by my usage.

So a shot of a penis/vagina is what is most important? Gotcha.
I think that is a pretty important shot..... Qualifies as a money shot.
How a child pees isn't that important and the term is still offensive and ridiculous to use. Glad to see you have your priorities straight though.

Thumbs up for you!!

PrimRoseMama · February 2015

Is it wrong that I completely expected this poster to not GAF about using a term like that for a baby's private areas? Lord only knows what she says to or about a toddler's body parts. I mean, what if someone overhears you use that type of language about a baby? The wrong person hears that & it could end badly.

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tinktink20 · February 2015

ladycersei said:

tinktink20 said:
If you want to get your panties in a bunch over terminology, go ahead.
Money shot, money shot, money shot.
Oops, my bad. I thought I was on a message board with adults. Must've ended up in Kindergarten instead.

Is anyone else sad that someone with this maturity level will be responsible for raising a human being?

I hope it makes you even sadder to know that I will be responsible for 3 kids soon!! And we might even have a fourth!!

PrimRoseMama · February 2015

tinktink20 said:

ladycersei said:

tinktink20 said:
If you want to get your panties in a bunch over terminology, go ahead.
Money shot, money shot, money shot.
Oops, my bad. I thought I was on a message board with adults. Must've ended up in Kindergarten instead.

Is anyone else sad that someone with this maturity level will be responsible for raising a human being?
I hope it makes you even sadder to know that I will be responsible for 3 kids soon!! And we might even have a fourth!!

Cool story, bro.

missmychard · February 2015

You guys have no sense of humor! You might find that term offensive but I will chime in and say that you're not speaking for all of mankind. I didn't give the term "money shot" a second thought.

rklinge0 · February 2015

I wouldn't worry about your daughter being disappointed about having a brother. I am one of 3 and the only girl, I loved it. I tend to get along with guys more than girls but it does come in handy. If I ever need something fixed, I have enough guy friends or brothers that will do it for me.
With one girl there shouldn't be this big competition. My sil and her sis literally are having a race to see who can get pregnant 1st, they had to out do eachothers weddings, and engagement rings. That wasn't an issue for me and my bros.

PrimRoseMama · February 2015

noobmama83 said:
You guys have no sense of humor! You might find that term offensive but I will chime in and say that you're not speaking for all of mankind. I didn't give the term "money shot" a second thought.

Wait-- so we are supposed to find a grown woman using an off-color, inappropriate term for a baby's genitals amusing? One that is usually & most often reserved for adult males ejaculating on a female's body?

I'm sorry, I have an awesome sense of humor. This-- this is not at all humorous. Can you please, explain it to me like I'm five? Because I don't see something like that used to describe a baby's parts at all funny.

It's not a cutsie term like preggo or totes-- I can't believe we are being labeled as sticks in the mud for not joking about porno terms & ultrasounds. Words matter, man.

missmychard · February 2015

@PrimRoseMama‌ -I didn't mean to offend you, honestly. I just feel like the outrage level is a bit high for the perceived offense. @tinktink20‌ already clarified that there is more than one definition of "money shot" and can be googled easily. I don't think it's fair to assume someone meant to bring porno references into the conversation.

tinktink20 · February 2015

noobmama83 said:
@PrimRoseMama‌ -I didn't mean to offend you, honestly. I just feel like the outrage level is a bit high for the perceived offense. @tinktink20‌ already clarified that there is more than one definition of "money shot" and can be googled easily. I don't think it's fair to assume someone meant to bring porno references into the conversation.

Thank you!

tinktink20 · February 2015

I trust Wikipedia.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Money_shot

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crunchymamaof2 · February 2015

tinktink20 said:

I trust Wikipedia. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Money_shot

Well that speaks volumes. And it's pretty shitty that, going by your definition, your child's genitals were the most important part of the anatomy scan. I must have missed at memo while making sure my baby had all her vital organs and was growing properly. Silly me.

tinktink20 · February 2015

crunchymamaof2 said:

tinktink20 said:

I trust Wikipedia.
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Money_shot

Well that speaks volumes. And it's pretty shitty that, going by your definition, your child's genitals were the most important part of the anatomy scan. I must have missed at memo while making sure my baby had all her vital organs and was growing properly. Silly me.

I do believe that for many women, seeing whether baby is a boy or girl, is a pretty huge deal. Of course everyone wants their baby healthy, but the bonus is seeing the money shot - the picture of what's between the legs.

Brooker25 · February 2015

It's probably a boy. The techs do this for a living and have experience to tell the difference. But hey , they are human and can make mistakes. I know two women that were told they were having the opposite gender of what they were really having. So hey, maybe there's a small chance but I wouldn't get your hopes up.

crunchymamaof2 · February 2015

Brooker25 said:

It's probably a boy. The techs do this for a living and have experience to tell the difference. But hey , they are human and can make mistakes. I know two women that were told they were having the opposite gender of what they were really having. So hey, maybe there's a small chance but I wouldn't get your hopes up.

Sex. Sex. Sex. You can't tell gender from an ultrasound.

bashfulbird · February 2015

noobmama83 said:

@PrimRoseMama‌ -I didn't mean to offend you, honestly. I just feel like the outrage level is a bit high for the perceived offense. @tinktink20‌ already clarified that there is more than one definition of "money shot" and can be googled easily. I don't think it's fair to assume someone meant to bring porno references into the conversation.

This.
When I hear money shot I, i think of a prize winning photo. Or someone scoring a point in sports. Different strokes for different folks. I would like to emphasize it was not @tinktink20 that mentioned porn in the first place.

PrimRoseMama · February 2015

Oh my goodness-- it's inappropriate to refer to a baby's crotch shot as a money shot. It's not winning a prize or even a legit reason to squee. It's like any other organ.

"Money shot" in reference to a penis or vulva is most certainly pornographic. Because it is. Add to this that you are talking about a baby. Is this real life? Like, there are really people out there that would argue that this nonsense is completely ok? /:) [-(

PrimRoseMama · February 2015

Since google seems more versed in the vernacular than some posters here...

I'm not a sicko because I pointed out that the term is pornographic. I am just aware.

Brooker25 · February 2015

crunchymamaof2 said:

Brooker25 said:

It's probably a boy. The techs do this for a living and have experience to tell the difference. But hey , they are human and can make mistakes. I know two women that were told they were having the opposite gender of what they were really having. So hey, maybe there's a small chance but I wouldn't get your hopes up.

Sex. Sex. Sex. You can't tell gender from an ultrasound.

Oh my get over yourself. Right now the gender of my baby is a boy and if he decides when he's older that He would like to be the opposite gender then he can and I'd be okay with that. . But as of right now, his gender is a boy. Thats all that needs to be said. I've seen previous replies from you correcting other women for using that term . Do what's best for you. You don't need to be correcting others. That's not even the point of this thread.

tinktink20 · February 2015

bashfulbird said:

noobmama83 said:

@PrimRoseMama‌ -I didn't mean to offend you, honestly. I just feel like the outrage level is a bit high for the perceived offense. @tinktink20‌ already clarified that there is more than one definition of "money shot" and can be googled easily. I don't think it's fair to assume someone meant to bring porno references into the conversation.

This.
When I hear money shot I, i think of a prize winning photo. Or someone
scoring a point in sports. Different strokes for different folks. I
would like to emphasize it was not @tinktink20 that mentioned porn in
the first place.

Glad some people have sense

PrimRoseMama · February 2015

Brooker25 said:

crunchymamaof2 said:

Brooker25 said:

It's probably a boy. The techs do this for a living and have experience to tell the difference. But hey , they are human and can make mistakes. I know two women that were told they were having the opposite gender of what they were really having. So hey, maybe there's a small chance but I wouldn't get your hopes up.

Sex. Sex. Sex. You can't tell gender from an ultrasound.

Oh my get over yourself.
Right now the gender of my baby is a boy and if he decides when he's older that He would like to be the opposite gender then he can and I'd be okay with that. . But as of right now, his gender is a boy.

Thats all that needs to be said. I've seen previous replies from you correcting other women for using that term .
Do what's best for you. You don't need to be correcting others. That's not even the point of this thread.

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