I'm so extremely done with feeling cramped in this damn house. There is NOT enough room. Two bedrooms and DH's grandma is in one of those bedrooms. Granted, ours splits to make it sort of like two bedrooms, but that still doesn't cut it. Our house is falling apart before our eyes. His grandma has had it since like 1969 and NOTHING has been updated or remodled. His mom left us to pick up the fucking slack and I'm not about it. With a baby girl on the way.. I'm officially done buying his grandmas things. That should be up to his mother, grandmas daughter. Before she left she bought her things and NOW it's all on DH's paycheck and that's about to change real quick. Our responsibility is our daughter. Point blank period. I'm done feeling ran over!
What about you ladies?
Re: Monday Bitchfest!
My rant may make me sound like a jerk, but I'm tired of my Mom acting like me and my DH are rich. Yes, our total household income is about double my parent's total household income. We also live in one of the most expensive cities in the country, and our rent (for a small apartment nowhere near center city) is more then double their mortgage, and we both put ourselves through school, so we pay some serious student loan debt each month. I think that all that, on top of a high cost of living in general, pretty much evens us out.
We have a monthly budget which we closely follow, and as soon as child care factored in, any monthly savings we've had is going out the door. And yet my mom cannot help but comment on it every time we see her. Whenever we go out with my parents, we always either pick-up or split the bill, which is always a bit awkward. We paid for our own wedding. My sister is hosting a shower for us, but my mom doesn't really approve because she doesn't think we should be expecting other people to buy us stuff for the baby. It's just so unbelievably awkward and I know getting on my DH's last nerve, but I have no clue how to broach the subject with her. End rant.
I hate my job. A lot of people do, but I really fucking hate mine. I slacked too much and now I'm having to do school late (28 years old and going to college with a new baby on the way, oh lord) and so I'm stuck at a job that I am not proud of at all. I work in a call center in a tech support department and my boss is the biggest bitch on the planet.
I want nothing more than to tell her to fuck off and shove this job where the sun doesn't shine, but I do make decent money that I could totally use for the next 3 months.
Another bitch of mine is that I'm in a 1 bedroom apartment with a 75lb dog who drives me up the wall. He was a rescue and he had previously been used as either a bait dog or a fighting dog, but I'm leaning towards bait dog because we have had him around other dogs and he does great. Hes just got fear issues and that scares the shit out of me and I won't allow him around LO once shes born. Hubby doesn't get that the dog is damaged goods and thinks that the dog will react just fine to the new baby, but who knows if he will or not. I'm not risking it. Also, for the record hes been around babies and small children and does great and is gently. I think I'm just overly nervous about it.
I am exhausted from a weekend of cleaning, purging and rearranging to prepare our house for sale. I have a ton to do at work but can hardly think straight I am so tired.
Today I signed up for my 5th March of Dimes walk in honor of my micro premie neice and nephew and I am probably being sensitive but I cannot stand when people hope their babies arrive early. I hope those of you who do this just don't know that what your wishing for or how so many others hope and pray for baby to stay put till they are fully developed so they can have a better and easier life. Even 4 weeks early is often too early and babies lungs can still need further development - we want these babies to bake as long as they need! Rant over
Fuck him too!
Now it's snowing again. Let's hope I don't get my car stuck again. Because if it gets stuck this time, I'm going to say fuck it and walk away.
On another note, I have to redo 2 rooms before baby gets here. My sons new room he's moving into and the nursery. I keep asking DH to just start taking the shelving off the walls to start the process and he ALWAYS seems to have an excuse. One day, I'm just going to attempt it my damn self.
Woke up cleaned house took dd to school ran over 3 hours worth of errands then...
Spent over an hour in walmart attempting to do our baby registry just to deal with incompetent, lazy, disrespectful employees... And apparently they don't think you can do a registry in store despite what they advertise in store and online. I gave up with the girl we were talking to and left angry and frustrated...called the walmart in the next town over they said come in we will take care of your registry, drive 25 mins over there and all their scanners were magically broken.. Like really?
Told DH I'm ready to go home and relax for the rest of the day after picking up DD (which might I add he made us late to picking her up from school) Well apparently he had different plans, such as dragging me to the fishing shop, going to goodwill to "look around", and grocery shopping as a whole family.. Ahhh I have zero patience today and it sounds rediculous these are things we normally do all together but today I feel like curling up in a ball and crying. And NOT being at the grocery store lol.
MIL is alwaaaays right. And I guess dh and her came to some sorta agreement behind my back?! I never talk to her, I'll send him to do that job
Today is my birthday and even though we don't have a lot of money right now, my husband will be taking me to dinner tonight.
Well, he got off at 4 and then has a family business that he goes to until 6 or 6:30 and then comes home. Well every Monday they have a meeting up there and please keep in mind that its just my husband, his dad, and his brother. Both of them hate me, but whatever...kinda unimportant right now.
@mrsphillips610 You have every right to be annoyed with your DH! He should be home supporting you and helping you not acting like a single frat boy! You are better than me because the first time my DH rolled into my house at 2/3am after being out drinking the sh&@ would hit the the fan! We would be having what I call a good ole fashion talking to. It's time to grow up! You are having a child together and he is as much a part of that as you are. You need to sit him down and tell him what you expect of him as a father and husband. You need to let him know that you are not comfortable with his actions and ask him why he is doing it. I would also tell him that you are not going to tolerate such inconsiderate behavior. He can do with it what he wants but it's important he knows how you feel, your expectations, etc. Its also equally important that you know his. I mean you did not get pregnant by yourself. I hope things get better!
@MissRissx3 I am really sorry you are having to deal with that! I hope thing get worked out soon!
My Monday Bitch: Really just an extension from the weekend. We moved my MIL out of the house to her new place ( she has a lot of stuff enough to fill a 3br house) and then had to move our stuff out of storage, paint a bedroom while trying to unpack. Needless to say I am exhausted and sore! I had contractions and cramping pains yesterday from over doing it. No where done with packing. Did I mention that while she moved into a freshly clean place, I am here left to clean up a huge mess!!!! I am going to be scrubbing floors, baseboards, bathrooms, etc. for days:( I have cleaned most of it but every time I think I am getting close to done it's like nope! Also my kids have been going BSC for the last 2-3 months because their granny was around. It's not her fault but it just messed up their routines and has them all out of sorts! I feel like I am never going to get anything ready for this baby because the house is in such chaos! I haven't done the first thing to get ready for her other than pick up stuff I am borrowing from a friend and buy a co-sleeper. We still have to get a crib and everything else we need. We are buying it all because we gave everything away thinking our DS was the last baby. Since we have other children I am not planning nor would I ever expect anyone to buy us anything for this baby. So while I know we are purchasing everything it's just stressful because stuff isn't cheap! Lol!
So sorry!!! Happy Birthday to you though!