I'm just about 10 weeks pregnant. I was waiting until my next ultrasound at 12 weeks to tell people, just to make sure everything was going well. I told my mother and my in laws a few weeks ago though, and asked them not to tell anyone until my husband and i had a chance to. Well... my mother decided because she was "so excited" to tell all of her Co workers, my grandparents, my father's cousin whom she knows can not keep a secret and in turn told my whole father's side of the family before I got a chance to. (They are divorced. We are not super close, but call me crazy but I wanted to be the one to tell him fist hand) This is all making me so mad im convinced im just going to explode..
For weeks, I had told her not to say anything until i did. She said okay. But all she was focused on when she talked to me was how she couldn't wait to see my aunts reaction -because now her kids were not going to be the babies anymore- (which is such a Crazy and psychotic thing to say, She mentioned it to my husband and I several times. We told her that we were not having a baby for her to rub it in people's faces, or gloat over being the "youngest" ... what the hell does that even matter anyway??!) Now I can't help but think that she told my dads cousin on purpose out of spite so he'd find out through the grapevine, and not directly. I immeadiatly called her out on this and all she says is "really amanda??" Or "sooooo sorry for being excited" she never apologized nor does she see anything wrong with what she did. I'm so angry, hormanal and not feeling well on top of all of this. I'm not even sure if this is something i should be this angry about or if it's hormones. Thoughts?
Re: my mother told everyone I was pregnant
I would not be talking to her for a while if it were me. Probably wouldn't even give her the updates of how baby is doing... She can hear through the grapevine. That's just my opinion though...my mom and I never had the best relationship.
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This time I told him much later (and only because he was staying with us for a few days after surgery). And I announced on Facebook before he got the chance.
Things like, announcing the sex, telling when you're in labor, the birth of the baby... Etc.
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She didn't tell anyone (that I know of), but she did pressure me to tell family every time I spoke to her, which I found just as annoying!! I told her we wanted to tell my husband's father before anyone else. We told him at 9 weeks at Christmas, and when she called that day the first thing out of her mouth was "oh good you can tell grandpa now!" No, "how did they react?" Or even "how was Christmas?" I got mad, and then she guilt tripped me for "ruining this for her."
Parents: they are insane.
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