Goodbye and good luck (loss)

SarahLM0806 · January 2015

I went in for my 10 week appointment yesterday and the ultrasound showed a perfect little 10 week baby with no heartbeat. They said because the size and everything was perfect for the date that it must have happened within the last day or so. Now it is my choice to wait for natural miscarriage or opt for a D&C which may impact future fertility. It took me over a year to get pregnant (previous loss with ectopic left me with one tube). Any advice from those who have been in my shoes is appreciated. And maybe this belongs on a different board. I don't know. Not thinking clearly right now.

jesselayne8 · January 2015

I'm sorry for your loss.

Miz_Liz · January 2015

I am so sorry for your loss! I had a miscarriage back in November, and I am so sorry you are going through this, especially after a tough year. Talk to your Dr to find out what is right for you (and obviously let yourself heal emotionally however is right for you). I hope you have a speedy recovery and we see you back soon! T&P **hugs**

katers79 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss.

mara005 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss.

As for advice about how to miscarry is to go with your gut feeling. The first time I knew I didn't want to do it naturally and it was a very good thing I didn't, I lost to much blood in the ER and had to be rushed into hospital.

I also had an ectopic with a tube loss just over a year ago. I would suggest going to see an RE when you are ready to try again. I've been pregnant twice since my ectopic, one was concieved naturally and was another loss, and this pregnancy was helped with clomid and seems to be going well.

Many ((hugs)) and take care of yourself.

sunshinemama2b · January 2015

So sorry for your loss

chavemann10 · January 2015

I'm so sorry! Thoughts and Prayers for you!

cowboys2009 · January 2015

No advice to offer but want to say I am sorry for your loss

preppywife · January 2015

very sorry for your loss

Kath1083 · January 2015

I am so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage in September and was convinced to go the d and c route. I was able to concieve 5 weeks later and my primary care doctor told me it could have helped with conception. Either way take care of yourself.

LuluRM · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. My heart breaks for you

You have all of my sympathies and prayers. Take care of yourself xo

vtgoodspeed · January 2015

Wish you weren't going through this. I have no advice other than to tale care of yourself. Hope all goes well for you in the future.

ssmith2006 · January 2015

So sorry for your loss.

sconniegrl · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss! Sending many thoughts and prayers your way!

prairiedreams · January 2015

So sorry.

I have had two natural MC, but never had the opportunity for a D&C. My thought is always ask a lot of questions either way.

Give yourself time to heal and rest- I felt very blue after my last MC as the hormones left my body.

jrthomas14 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss

bashfulbird · January 2015

Very sorry for your loss, T & Ps for you and yours.

dkizz82 · January 2015

I am so sorry for your loss.

Seh114 · January 2015

So sorry for your loss!

mrsb30 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss.

WSatisfiedP · January 2015

I'm sorry for your loss. I say go with your gut also

imahuthnow · January 2015

So sorry, please take care of yourself! ❤️

ambercdc · January 2015

Very sorry for your loss

Dajart4 · January 2015

So very sorry for your loss.

jlsweets · January 2015

So very sorry for your loss

sandrabrooke · January 2015

Oh my gosh, I am so sorry

abbycjones · January 2015

Sorry for your loss :-( Sending thoughts and prayers. Take care!

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4foxsake · January 2015

That really really sucks. I'm very very sorry for your loss.

ckvan2001 · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss. T&P are coming your way! I had a miscarriage in August, I opted for the D & C because emotionally I don't think I could have handled it happening on it's own. The loss was hard enough and having to wait for when it might happen was too much to think about and handle. I wanted something that could put a little bit of closure on the miscarriage as quickly as possible. With that being said, you have to do what is right for you.

SarahLM0806 · January 2015

I kind of feel the same way, that it might be emotionally easier to just have it over with. The doctor said it could be 4-6 weeks until it happens. Not knowing is tearing me up. Thank you all for the kind words. It helps more than you know.

ann_jeremiah · January 2015

You need to choose what feels best for you... In August my I had a fetal pole that stopped developing at 5w6 days at almost 10 weeks my body had not recognized it. I was given the choice of waiting, taking meds to start the process or have a D&C. I new emotionally I needed to have it be done so that I could move on and not wait each day, hour, second for the miscarriage to start. And to know I could be anywhere when it would start and what would I see... I knew, for me, I couldn't do it.

MissV22C · January 2015

T&P, such sad news. I agree, it's best to have it helped along so you can grieve it properly and recover. A friend decided to have it occur naturally and ended up spending weeks holding out hope that just maybe the sonographers were wrong. She only really began to grieving properly once the miscarriage happened, delaying the process of moving forward. Wishing you all the best once you're ready to try again.

CaliforniaDream87 · January 2015

Sorry for your loss. The decision is really up to you. I opted for a D&C both times as I couldn't just "wait". It was the perfect choice for me.

GL in whatever you decide.

cookiedough22 · January 2015

I'm sorry for your loss.

malamaza · January 2015

Im so sorry for your loss. Sending lots of T&P your way....

ars093s · January 2015

I'm so sorry for your loss.

laurennowa · January 2015

I am so very sorry for your loss. When I had my miscarriage, my doc told me that I could do it naturally, but that it might not be a "complete" miscarriage and she would have to go in anyway to prevent infection. Just something else to think about. I hope you are taking good care of yourself in this time.

SarahLM0806 · January 2015

@laurennowa He said that was a possibility and talking to others it sounds like so many end up having the D&C anyway. Thank you for your story!

hcook321 · January 2015

So sorry for your loss, praying for you

manning&m · January 2015

I'm so sorry. I had a miscarriage back in September but the natural process already started happening. I think it helped me a little more with grieving. Do what is best for you and take good care of yourself. Sending prayers your way ❤️

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