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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    If I can read right you ladies were the first people to be telling people not to write stupid questions on the forum. Just because you lot think it's a stupid question doesn't mean everyone will, but hey ho you've been here longest so you must be right and you can try and dictate what other women want to ask. People wouldn't be saying anything to you if you just kept negative opinions to yourselves and stopped putting people down for asking a question which for their own reasons they have decided this might be a way to get some advice. why not just feel proud that people wanted to try and get advice off you people rather than digging them down and making them feel stupid? It's pathetic and childish. This isn't a playground where you have to form little cliques. If it's supposed to be a community then act like it. Be welcoming. Be kind. By all means be honest, but don't be a fucking arsehole to people. It's not necessary and that's where a lot of this has stemmed from. I don't think the OP asked a stupid question. She wanted some advice without being made to feel like an idiot. If you can't give advice, don't write anything then there isn't any problems is there?
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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    Oh yes you caught me out. Silly me.
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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    I'm also @lpinup‌ and every other member who thinks you ladies are bullies. I tried so hard to not let it be obvious.
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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    edited January 2015
    Think that then. I've already said before I have no interest in being part of your "community" so doesn't really matter to me who you think I am. It must be difficult though hearing from several different people outside of your precious community that don't want to conform on this site as you do. But you're right yes. There's obviously some sort of conspiracy. I'm the OP everyone, you ladies are just too smart for me.
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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    I'm sure I was told the "community" is the ladies who have been here since day 1 which I haven't so I'm not really participating in that. It's been made clear the only people allowed into this community is people who have been here for months and months since the start of their pregnancies. I can add as many replies to this thread as I like and still not want to be a part of the community.
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  • HayleyBug55HayleyBug55 member
    flyinghigh89 said:

    I'm sure I was told the "community" is the ladies who have been here since day 1 which I haven't so I'm not really participating in that. It's been made clear the only people allowed into this community is people who have been here for months and months since the start of their pregnancies. I can add as many replies to this thread as I like and still not want to be a part of the community.

    The community is anyone who contributes to it. Doesn't matter if they joined 2 seconds ago. If they are contributing in a positive manner they're part of the community. You came on here and instantly told people not to comment and keep scrolling. Take your own advice next time. You instantly came on here and decided to be a WK. That's not how it normally goes. Usually people join, lurk for a little bit to learn how things work, then they become active.
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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    edited January 2015
    You have done some very excessive research. As for the acronyms, it's not hard to pick up what they mean. I've read enough threads to use common sense and piece it together. I was also not the only person who said you ladies made OP feel stupid, so obviously that other member is me too. Il defend anyone who I think is being bullied unfairly, it's human decency. And it seems to be the same people who leave nasty, rude replies to threads from lots of different members and quite frankly it's disgusting to see and yes it's bullying. I'm not just defending one person, it's been a general defending of these "stupid questions" which you ladies have so much hatred for has it not? This thread had one of the most replies from you ladies which is why I chose to write my feelings on it. Is that all ok by you?
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  • HayleyBug55HayleyBug55 member
    scgmama said:

    Wtf why won't this thread DIIIIIEEEE??

    WK. Everywhere.
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  • HayleyBug55HayleyBug55 member
    I wish I could gif on mobile. :( I'd have so much more fun.
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  • Dannylion24Dannylion24 member
    scgmama said:


    HayleyBug55 said:

    I wish I could gif on mobile. :( I'd have so much more fun.

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    Thank you! Been wondering that myself
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  • lpinuplpinup member
    Bloody Nora! What is going on here! Just to clarify I am a real person live in London, im not some fake account but I do agree entirely with @flyinghigh89‌ with everything she has said! I'm sorry @HayleyBugg85‌ but you have contradicted yourself so much it so many ways I just have no words, you say everyone has an opinion yet goes off on one with your little gang of overly passionate friends when someone says something you find "uneducated or stupid" and then have a go at them. Then when bitching about the sort of things people put up you put something about asking people about names for your baby, we'll if we're gonna go all out I think that's the most ridiculous thing to put up who cares what you call your baby that's your choice, ask google! Exactly the sort of comments you and your friends have written about other people in past posts! It's just not nice is it! So think before you speak you haven't been on this very long yourself who gives you the right or authority to carry on like this.. Bloody hell chill out this is just turning into a comedy sketch now.
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  • lpinuplpinup member
    Another thing I find seriously concerning is how much time do you ladies have on your hands.. Ummm you do know you're having a baby, why are you lot wasting your time on this nonsense. If this community means so much try be welcoming and nice! Not hard or is being nice something you didn't get taught..
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  • HayleyBug55HayleyBug55 member
    edited January 2015
    lpinup said:

    Bloody Nora! What is going on here! Just to clarify I am a real person live in London, im not some fake account but I do agree entirely with @flyinghigh89‌ with everything she has said! I'm sorry @HayleyBugg85‌ but you have contradicted yourself so much it so many ways I just have no words, you say everyone has an opinion yet goes off on one with your little gang of overly passionate friends when someone says something you find "uneducated or stupid" and then have a go at them. Then when bitching about the sort of things people put up you put something about asking people about names for your baby, we'll if we're gonna go all out I think that's the most ridiculous thing to put up who cares what you call your baby that's your choice, ask google! Exactly the sort of comments you and your friends have written about other people in past posts! It's just not nice is it! So think before you speak you haven't been on this very long yourself who gives you the right or authority to carry on like this.. Bloody hell chill out this is just turning into a comedy sketch now.

    =)) you don't pay much attention do you? Read the baby naming thread again. You'll see it was posted awhile back and bumped by a WK, like yourself. We were all finding out the sex of our babies around that time and I'm pretty sure that was my first post ever. The "stupid" post are the ones that you should be asking your damn doctor. WE ARE NOT DOCTORS. PEOPLE DO NOT NEED TO ASK US MEDICAL QUESTIONS! How hard is that to understand? Yeah, some of us spend alot of time on here. Why are you "concerned with how much time we have on our hands"? I'm on bed rest with a few others and some ladies need a break at work. Our whole life should not stop just because we're about to have babies. I was taught to be nice. I was also taught how to use COMMON SENSE .And can I just add that this thread finally died down when you decided you'd pop back up and say something? In your own words "who gives you the right or authority to carry on like this?" Just let the damn thread die down (like it already had) ;)
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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    Yes @lpinup‌ do as your told, it's only the hierarchy of this community who are allowed to comment and give opinions about anything and everything and when they want us to stop we should God damn it! @HayleyBugg85‌ you're very selective about which medical Questions are allowed to be answered nicely because you happen to maybe have a valid answer for them. You're not kicking off on the shingles post about it being a medical question, but it most definitely IS a medical question. Let's keep these rules consistent shall we?
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  • HayleyBug55HayleyBug55 member
    flyinghigh89 said:

    Yes @lpinup‌ do as your told, it's only the hierarchy of this community who are allowed to comment and give opinions about anything and everything and when they want us to stop we should God damn it! @HayleyBugg85‌ you're very selective about which medical Questions are allowed to be answered nicely because you happen to maybe have a valid answer for them. You're not kicking off on the shingles post about it being a medical question, but it most definitely IS a medical question. Let's keep these rules consistent shall we?

    :-bd you got it dude ;) Alright, I'm done with this post. Y'all keep commenting if you want. :)>-
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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    Retreating because you know I'm right with my last post and now you feel like the stupid one? good riddance.
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  • lpinuplpinup member
    Hahahahahaha @flyinghigh89‌ how ironic is it a 18 year old throwing around the orders.. Think perhaps @HayleyBugg85‌ should maybe set up her own pregnancy app seeing as she has so much to say!
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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    edited January 2015
    @lpinup‌ I agree completely! Then @HayleyBugg85‌ you can make as many different rules about how you run a site as you like and you can moan about how people use your site as much as you like, and you can be as rude and patronising as you like, yay!
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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    If @HayleyBugg85‌ can dish it out then she can bloody take it too. she's giving just as good as she's getting so it's not the same. And my nurses will tell me to come in or ring etc when something is wrong, that's fine. It's not what you say it's how you say it which is the problem.
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  • JessicaH1020JessicaH1020 member

    @flyinghigh89 the problem is that this is a forum.  You can't tell the tone or intention of a poster by reading "Call your doctor" on a screen.  So how can you sit here and definitively accuse people of being rude or bullying from a three word sentence?  

    Also, I'm not saying that @HayleyBugg55 can't take it.  She's a big girl and I've seen her take on several trolls in this community without needing a WK to rescue her.  I'm just pointing out your hypocrisy.    

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  • scgmamascgmama member
    edited January 2015
    lpinup said:

    Another thing I find seriously concerning is how much time do you ladies have on your hands.. Ummm you do know you're having a baby, why are you lot wasting your time on this nonsense. If this community means so much try be welcoming and nice! Not hard or is being nice something you didn't get taught..

    Oh I have plenty of time. I've gone from a full-time student, single working mom of twins to now happily engaged, SAHM of twins and two SS's. I KNOW HOW TO MANAGE MY TIME. It's a super cool talent.

    As for trying to be nice lets do a recap shall we! ;)

    OP listed a bunch of symptoms and then asked if her baby is coming early, I could ask magic 8 ball but nobody really knows. She got all upset when people were like omg call your doctor.

    You came along and wheeee! WK to the rescue!! But then you go and say something like oh, must be an American thing cuz we don't play nice on the playground or something... (more like OP blamed being young on being uninformed, big no-no and insulting to young mothers *cough* like me! *cough*).

    [eta:OP said the American thing, the rest remains solid.]

    ANYWHO, then another WK shows up and is like, " I refuuuuse to let this shit die," and revives everything in long argument format which I was honestly way too lazy to read (not that I didn't have time, I have time).

    And now we're here saying it's either too hard to be nice or something we weren't taught... Look through your own posts. You haven't been a saint either so again back to you saying to try to be nice...

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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    When people are saying "if you were really concerned you'd do this" it's making out like because people haven't done things the way you might've it's wrong. That's extremely derogatory and patronising. That's what was said right at the beginning of the thread if you look back. Also, that was the OP who said about the American thing, not @lpinup‌ or myself.
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  • scgmamascgmama member
    flyinghigh89 said:

    When people are saying "if you were really concerned you'd do this" it's making out like because people haven't done things the way you might've it's wrong. That's extremely derogatory and patronising. That's what was said right at the beginning of the thread if you look back. Also, that was the OP who said about the American thing, not @lpinup‌ or myself.

    Oh darn, I guess I lumped all of you together! Silly me.

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  • lpinuplpinup member
    It's all about the way things are saId and frankly lady some of you girls didn't just say call a doctor you also added how she was stupid, uneducated and basically silly for even asking and to ask google and not bother this "community" ummmm what's nice about that??? If you had just said call your doc and left it at that then I wouldn't of said anything but it's all the other sarcastic immature and rude comments that follow.. Things like "and you are"? Ummmm im sorry but if you think that's how you talk to people accusing people of building fake profiles too is something you call being nice then you really have no idea love.
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  • JessicaH1020JessicaH1020 member

    @flyinghigh89 that takes me back to my entire point of the Labor and Delivery nurses telling me, "If you're really concerned enough to call, then you should just come in and get checked out."  The same applies to the OP.  If she's concerned enough to make a post, pick up a phone and call your doctor.  I personally did not see the Labor and Delivery nurses as being derogatory and patronizing.  I took it as someone who was concerned enough about me and my child to tell me to come in and get checked out so they could make sure we were both okay. 

    And if it makes me a "bully" to tell someone to call their doctor, then whatever.  I'll wear that badge proudly.  It's much better than sitting here, playing internet doctor and actually telling someone who might be at risk that it's probably nothing, just chill out, keep us posted and here's some creepy internet hugs. 

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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    Not what you say once again, how you say it. Shall I say that again?
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  • lpinuplpinup member
    These people are never going to get it because they are just plain rude and know no better it's a shame really hit you can't help people like that love... The runners of this community will eventually block people like them so they stop with their nasty ways.. As they already are looking over their shoulders from the comments ive seen on other posts!
    Just carry on giving advise and support to those you can as leave these very sad ladies to their exclusive group! @flyinghigh89‌ :) x
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  • scgmamascgmama member
    flyinghigh89 said:

    Not what you say once again, how you say it. Shall I say that again?

    I feel like this only really applies in person where another can really hear how you're saying it. On the interwebz it normally just helps to ask, this is how I perceived what you said, is this what you mean? Rather than just saying omg you're soooo mean!

    The only thing that was said about OP is that age is no excuse as to why a person is uninformed. If someone said uneducated, okay well then that term would be incorrect (you can dig for that, I'm not feelin' it). Unless you don't read the other threads you might have noticed that there's a TON of drive by threads with medical questions and other things that can't be answered. The medical questions that get better responses are the ones that ask for experiences or that ask for a general discussion. Not, is my baby coming early? Does this mean I'll dilate more? Is this normal?

    As for the, and you are? Probably directed to someone who isn't OP who comes in WK'ing away. You're not protecting OP she's long gone, you're just stirring up some drama.

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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    edited January 2015
    People do care because they keep replying, like you do. Stop replying and the thread will die, simple.
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  • flyinghigh89flyinghigh89 member
    awww I've been told on! Ouch.
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