Those Annoying/WTF/Really??? Pregnancy Comments

katietopaz · January 2015

Mine hasn't been about my weight (yet) but I had a fun set of conversations in the weeks leading up to Christmas. I was involved in a Christmas production, and every time the hair/makeup gal would see me, she'd comment that I looked tired, or like I wasn't feeling well. This was before she knew I was pregnant. After the third or fourth rehearsal when she commented, "You're looking so tired!" I responded sarcastically, "Yeah, you mention that every time you see me." She didn't take the hint.

It gets better. Fast forward to a week-ish later, my pregnancy became more publicly known to the production group. She has the balls to walk up to me and say, "I knew it! I didn't want to say anything but I thought you might look so run-down all the time because you were pregnant!"

I had no filter at that point. I responded, "No pregnant woman wants to hear that she looks tired all the time. It's not very flattering." Would you believe that she laughed and still wouldn't take the hint?

NanSee3 · January 2015

I've been hiding from people in general because of my always constant bitchiness thus I haven't had many comments. The one that sticks out was a few weeks ago:

"You're starting to look pregnant and not just fat." Thankuveramuch mom.

ldmw · January 2015

Had a complete random stranger (and creeper) ask if he could touch my belly in the airport. WTF? Who says that. I hope for his sake he was drunk.

When people find out what we're having, they say we have to try again for the other sex. Seriously? Let's just enjoy this baby no matter what the sex is. We wanted a healthy baby, not trying for a certain sex. And, let's get through this pregnancy first and enjoy the first few years of baby before we think about another.

ktzen3 · January 2015

The only comment that really bugged me is when my MIL and brother both separately reacted to our pregnancy announcement by saying, "wow you guys are like rabbits." F-U.

I've also had people ask me if we are Catholic. (We are not). As in it is only socially acceptable to have four kids if we are Catholic?? What?!

annerz22 · January 2015

A guy at the gym (doesn't work there, just works out in google glass and neon camo spandex) came up to me and told me that he's a personal trainer and he would be happy to help me with some ab work. He was serious. When I told him "actually I'm pregnant moron. Maybe you should take off your google glass and you could see that". He laughed and then told me he thought I just had a weird stomach thing going on and that he hopes my water doesn't break on the treadmill. WTF. I reported him to management.

Also, I've had FOUR people ask me if I'm naming August that because that's when we conceived him? Uuuh. Wut??

Morenajuliet · January 2015

I officially told one of my administrators that I was pregnant so I would be looking into which long term sub to get. He said he figured I was pregnant because I didn't look so good earlier in the year.Darn- having had a a 6 month old at that point I thought I was doing pretty well.

……men

kgabhart · January 2015

I've been annoyed for weeks with "How are you feeling?" questions and "Look at that belly! It's really growing!" comments.

But, the worst one so far for me has happened twice this week. The dreaded "you can't even tell you're pregnant" comment. Um, I realize that I had a little bit of a spare tire before getting pregnant. But most of my regular clothes haven't fit for a month or so.

That and the security guard at work last week who asked if I was still pregnant. When I asked why I wouldn't be, he smiled and said "sometimes things happen" before laughing hysterically. Somehow I failed to find the humor in it....

kgnordman · January 2015

Today, I had a woman come up to me and say "wow. You look more pregnant today than just yesterday."

Guess these could be in-law rants. When we told my MIL that we were expecting, she said "great you'll save money on beer." I said "what?" And she said "oh, you're still drinking. I guess a few every now and then." (I'm not drinking, but who the fuck says that?)

Ah and then when my DH told her we were having a girl. She texted me saying "how's he taking the news. He didn't seem too disappointed on the phone." Uh yeah...since it's the 15th century and we care out our heir and royal blood line.

rivers714 · January 2015

At a party when they realized I was pregnant This tool who had been flirty with me, even though he has a gf...

" so where's the dad?"

Probably expecting 'at work' or ' out' or whatever he was looking for trying to call me out

' not too sure, probably with his girlfriend "

And Rivers with the win ... Face expression priceless

seamama525 · January 2015

A coworker of mine and I are both pregnant and our pregnancies are only about a week apart. The other day an older coworker(who has no kids) said to me "wow you are bigger than her!" comparing our sizes. She is dead to me now

abstractualized · January 2015

My coworker told me I was eating too much and what I was eating was bad for the baby....
I was eating a salad with low cal dressing and chopped fruit

obimom · January 2015

mayflowers35 said:

My mom asks how the baby's doing and one day asked if he was growing. I told DH he was moving a lot the other day and he said "what's he doing?" If I why these questions annoy me. I don't fucking know what he's doing and I sure as hell hope he's growing but I don't have x-Ray vision people!

This.

My mom always asks "how is he doing?" ... Is this a for real question because I don't know. I like to think very well but thanks for reminding me I have no way of actually fucking knowing.

HeatherC21 · January 2015

babyfanta said:
I have been working for my boss since for 3 years. Ive known her since i was 9 because me and her daughter used to be really good friends.

So the other day I finally tell her I'm pregnant and she tells me she already knows. And ask me questions about how I feel and how my mother feels about the situation and just normal questions and then proceeds to ask

"Is the father going to stick around???"

What. The. Actual. Fuck.

And I just responded
Yeah well he has been my boyfriend for three years now. . .

I'm not married so maybe that's why she asked????
I could just be being sensitive but I thought that was really fucking rude.

While at dinner with a big group I got asked by a friend of a friend. "Oh I didn't know you were pregnant, do you know who the dad is?".....

I kind of laughed it off and said "I'm pretty sure" thinking maybe he was joking but then later when I really thought about it, I was shocked he even asked that question.

Btw I have been married for almost 2 years and been together for 6 years.

kaynix21 · January 2015

Wow. I'm with you all on many of these.

I'm sick of judgement on me wanting to cloth diaper, or breast feed, or people asking how I'm dealing with my husband being deployed while I'm pregnant and possibly not being here when the baby's born. What do you want me to say -- honestly? Don't ask stupid questions.

PutMeintheZoo · January 2015

Constantly from co-workers:

1. ''Is it moving??" = Feels so creepy when they ask this.

2. "You just have that pregnancy glow today" = In other words, they are trying to say something nice when I look bloated and pregnant?

autumn907 · January 2015

I'm a baker. So my favorite thing that's repeated to me is.
1) Oh don't lift that box I will get it ( only for them not to and I have to get it)

2) should you be standing this long go take a break ( mind you I only work 5 hours)

3) Don't squat down like that, you'll have your baby here!

I'm over here thinking, Geesh guys I'm pregnant not freaking dying....

ashleyandely · January 2015

So last week I was at a coffee shop and ordered.. A coffee. The lady behind the counter asked if I really should be drinking coffee. I don't understand some peoples nerve.

The other day when I told a co-worker the name I have picked out, her response was "sounds like a prescription drug"... Uh.

Also I get annoyed when people ask if I'm excited, too. :-w

nightdreamer98 · January 2015

I'm tired of people completely forgetting their manners just because I'm pregnant.

I had an acquaintance ask me if the babies were a mistake. She also saw our names on Facebook and offered an unasked for opinion on one of the names. I told her it wasn't her business and that we had already made up our minds (which you would've thought she could've figured out since there's also a picture of a onesie where I embroidered the name) she called me rude and I've quit talking to her.

One of my friends is driving me crazy by trying to tell me about pregnancy (she's never been pregnant) "too bad you can't have coffee" I can. "Remember only nonalcoholic drinks tonight" I had a little bit of wine. "You shouldn't find out the sex, God didn't give us a window into the uterus" um, yeah he did, it's called an ultrasound. She's worried that I'm not showing my cat enough attention. My cat is spoiled and practically smothered and I think will adjust to the babies. Then she comments on fb statuses and says "that's because they are your babies", or that they won't like veggies just because I don't. Also when I told her who the godparents were she asked why she wasn't the godmother. Or "are you excited yet?" Of course I'm excited. We tried to get pregnant.

fotocourtney · January 2015

We have a contractor out at our house today who saw me and said, "Oh my god, you look ready to pop! When are you due?" Not until May. Thanks a lot.

bscurt · January 2015

Someone told me they knew I was having a girl (before I told anyone) because girls take away their mother's beauty. I was speechless. Thanks b*tch!!

babymcb21 · January 2015

A coworker told me I had finally popped (even though I've been showing for a while, she's just incredibly unobservant), then said basically the same thing a day or two later, but with more exclamation. Like okay, did you think I was going to start to shrink now?? I'm only going to get bigger...

My MIL is also obsessed with asking how much weight I've gained. It's weird, because she's not one of those people who judges you by your weight, nor is she at all into fitness or healthy eating. But for some reason she acts like weight gain during pregnancy is 'one of those things' you should be tracking or talking about (she could probably tell you exactly how many pounds her and all her sisters gained with all of their kids). So she's asked me a million times, and every time I say "I don't know, I'm not really keeping track" I can't even remember my exact pre-baby weight, TBH. She's like "don't the doctors weigh you??" Yes, but that doesn't mean I'm figuring out my weight gain number after each appointment. If there's a problem, the dr will let me know. And it's really none of your business anyway....

ETA: MIL also insisted I was having a boy, because I was 'gaining all my weight in the back'...that wasn't even true, but thanks for telling me my ass is getting fat. My niece also heard this and thought it was later okay to tell me that I was 'only getting fat in the back'. 8-|

willadieselstm · January 2015

I get tired of my one male coworker saying we shouldn't go here or there for lunch because "I probably shouldn't eat that". I remind him every time that I can eat whatever I choose.

The other one bugging me now is everyone asking for babies name. I mean it's decided and my family knows. But why does every coworker or stranger want to know? And then tell me whether or not they like it? Or what would sound better? I might just start saying we haven't decided.

Ryder0406 · January 2015

When I first started telling people at work, this woman I barely know asked me 'So were you, like, trying or was it an oops?' Umm, excuse me?? Who asks that?? She knows I'm married, too.

And I've got lots of weight comments except they're about how 'small' I am. Like 'are you SURE you're pregnant?' And my favorite has been being told 'something must be wrong' since I've only gained 4lbs and I'm still wearing prepregnancy pants/jeans. Wow, thanks for implying my baby isn't ok... Just because I'm smaller at 21 weeks than you ever were before you had kids, doesn't mean my baby isn't healthy!

babyrandolph2015 · January 2015

@Ryder0406‌ I've had the same comments about how there is "no way that I am 23 weeks along." One person at work even said "I think you're faking it" I hope he was joking. I just said well I guess you'll find out in about 4 months! Also when I was around 12 weeks or so a co worker of mine rubbed my non existent bump and asked if there was something wrong with my baby because I wasn't any bigger. After having my a/s on 12/31 and hearing what they found I seriously want to punch her in her face for even saying something like that. I know my baby girl will be fine but it's always scary when the scan is not 100% perfect

Ryder0406 · January 2015

@babyrandolph2015‌ Exactly! Before I had my AS I was pretty nervous, wondering is there actually something wrong with me or baby? Baby girl looked great and my MW even told me I was measuring perfect, just haven't 'popped' because I have 'good abs' (that made me and my DH laugh!). Still haven't popped and everyone keeps telling me 'Just wait', um yeah I AM waiting, I want a bump! Haha

SassFrass · January 2015

lgsdesigner said:

I was in the breakroom and spilled my cup over which spilled about 12 oz of water on the floor. I blushed embarrassed as about 15 people stared at me, then started to clean it up.

I was almost done when a female manager (who saw the spill happen) comes up to me as I’m crouched down cleaning and says “Ohhhh….NOOOO!!! What are you doing? You know crouching down like that is bad for the baby, right? I mean—you can really hurt him in there! What are you doing???!!!” I go “I am pregnant. Not handicap. I am perfectly capable of cleaning water off the floor. I am still a normal human being that can do normal human being tasks.” She turned red and walked out.

^^ yes this!

Today I cleaned out our car and vacuumed it and took it up to the corner convenience store, and one of my friends pulled up while I was cleaning the windows with the squeegee stuff and was like "shouldn't your husband be doing that? after all you are pregnant and can barely even bend over all the way right now" uhm thanks for the consideration, but I'm just pregnant, it isn't like I have a life threatening disability lol

peteresa · January 2015

ashleyandely said:
So last week I was at a coffee shop and ordered.. A coffee. The lady behind the counter asked if I really should be drinking coffee. I don't understand some peoples nerve.

The other day when I told a co-worker the name I have picked out, her response was "sounds like a prescription drug"... Uh.

Also I get annoyed when people ask if I'm excited, too. :-w

Ok, now I've got to ask, what are you naming your baby?

peteresa · January 2015

A neighbor of mine asked how my husband was adjusting to me being pregnant again I said he's doing alright he's just tired of my aches and pains, she then says "i bet he regrets getting you pregnant again and thinks it's a mistake"....I said oh no, our baby was planned and this baby isn't an "it", so there was no mistake"....she got real quiet all the sudden. The nerve of some people! She never could have kids so I think she's a jealous old lady!

vic8504 · January 2015

@kateamart... I probably would have flipped on them. DD's cord was wrapped around her neck 5 times. My doctors said it was just a freak thing since most babies twist and untwist in the cord all of the time.

I was at a training session with my manager and 3 other people and she looked over at me and said "WOW you are soo big already!! I don't remember you EVER looking that big with your daughter...."

I wanted soo badly to say F YOU. She has no manners what so ever.

jforneri · January 2015

A co-worker said to another co-worker that I "looked terrible" and that I probably shouldn't be doing my job because of "my condition" (it's a 9-5 desk job) and when the second co-worker came to tattle to me about it (thanks, I needed to know people in the office think I look terrible and can't do my job), I just rolled my eyes and said, "yeah, people have no filter for pregnant women..." to which she replied, "yeah, you just look really tired all the time! Not terrible!" Mmmmkthx

pinkiemo · January 2015

The only questions anyone should be asking us is:
1) "Can I get you a cheeseburger?"
and
2) "Would you like another cheeseburger?"

MusicGirl630 · January 2015

I'd really like to neck punch the next person who makes a comment concerning my age and having my first baby (I'm 37), even if it is the well meaning, "you know these days women have babies when they're a little older."
I am especially annoyed with the coworker who gave my husband a high five and says, "way to squeeze one in at the finish line, buddy". Fucker.

Edited: because bad grammar.

kby721 · January 2015

"Have you finished the nursery yet?" No, haven't even started it! Now stop asking me this question and making me feel like a bad mother!

Nicole2006 · January 2015

My favorite is the comment about looking or not looking pregnant. A coworker said to me this past week "You don't even look pregnant. Are you even wearing maternity clothes yet? You should start wearing them. I can't even tell you are pregnant. You don't look like it." Thank God for another coworker who chimed in for me because I was about to go off! I'm sorry you don't think I look pregnant and I'm not fat enough for you. My sincere apologies.

kmkd19 · January 2015

I know this is a positive comment and not rude at all but.... If one more person tells me, "Oh May is the best time to have a baby!" Im going to scream. It's a lovely thought but every single person who hears my due date says that.

Lauracox3 · January 2015

I have placenta previa. My mother in law made the comment "See I knew she shouldn't have been running while pregnant!" Yes, lady. All that running I did must have made my placenta run down my uterus. Idiot.

gherkins · January 2015

I'm so tired of the shocked looks I get when I tell people my due date is May 4. "Really? Are you having twins?" No! May is really not that far away and I've gained less than ten pounds, thank you. I'm really not that big.

Right after Christmas I had two people tell me I was only 3 months along and had six months to go. Um, no. December is over and I'm due at the beginning of May. So even if I'm 2-weeks over my due date, that's only 4 1/2 months away. Let's not make this seem any longer than it has to!

The absolute most annoying thing I've encountered is people trying to have a contest about how bad their pregnancies were. "At least you're not x, y, or z yet! So and so had this symptom from 20-weeks on!" You know what? How do you know I'm not having those symptoms? Why does it matter? Pregnancy is not easy. I hate it. I love my baby and I know she will be worth it, but it sucks. Just because I don't complain all the time doesn't mean I'm not miserable. And it doesn't make my pregnancy any easier or harder than anyone else's! We all will have different challenges, I don't get why we can't accept that and not make it some kind of competition.

lgsdesigner · January 2015

MusicGirl630 said:

I'd really like to neck punch the next person who makes a comment concerning my age and having my first baby (I'm 37), even if it is the well meaning, "you know these days women have babies when they're a little older." I am especially annoyed with the coworker who gave my husband a high five and says, "way to squeeze one in at the finish line, buddy". Fucker. Edited: because bad grammar.

@MusicGirl630 - Yes. I get that a lot, and am only 35. One woman said "Don't most people stop having kids at 30? I mean...are you sure you can do this?" I'm sorry-- WTF does that mean??

blankenbakerh · January 2015

lgsdesigner said:

MusicGirl630 said:

I'd really like to neck punch the next person who makes a comment concerning my age and having my first baby (I'm 37), even if it is the well meaning, "you know these days women have babies when they're a little older."
I am especially annoyed with the coworker who gave my husband a high five and says, "way to squeeze one in at the finish line, buddy". Fucker.

Edited: because bad grammar.

@MusicGirl630 - Yes. I get that a lot, and am only 35. One woman said "Don't most people stop having kids at 30? I mean...are you sure you can do this?" I'm sorry-- WTF does that mean??

I have been told on more than one occasion that I am getting too old to have children. I was even told by one of the nurses that I am right under the cut off line for " advanced maternal age". I just looked at her REALLY! I am only 33! On top of that we hear every time we have been pregnant "This is last one right" " Are you trying for your own baseball team". We have even had people tell us to get "fixed". My DH has been to told to get the big V, and I have been told I need to get a tubal. I understand people don't understand why on earth we would want more than 2 kids but we are a blended family and both of us come large families. DH is one of 5, I am one of 4. The craziest thing is we got a lot of these comments from our families and it's like aren't you the pot calling the kettle black!

ElleMuffin · January 2015

My husband's cousin announced "You brought the fat lady!" When i walked in the room. Seriously, I lost close to 50 pounds before i got pregnant and Im not even close to being at my pre pregnancy fatest! Who says that? "FAT" AND "PREGNANT" ARE NOT SYNONYMOUS!

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