Moms of 1 or more, lets give the FTMs our favorite little gems of knowledge. Edited*

willowprincess · January 2015

My advice is just CTFD. There's so much "advice" out there that you will end up stressing yourself out over minor things. Do you really think your kid is still going to be waking to nurse or sucking on that binky or refuse to eat anything not pureed at 16? No. These are minor issues that are generally not worth stressing over. You know you, you know your kid, and you do what works. We are all going to be raising our kids so differently, but chances are they will all still grow up to be great people. There's more than one way to parent so don't stress. You got this.

leenziepops · January 2015

I'm not sure what OP wrote originally before she edited. But I remember I starred this thread to read again when I progress into third trimester. I thought there was plenty of great advice in it.

https://forums.thebump.com/discussion/12483760/unsolicited-advice-for-ftms-goes-here#latest

GASuzuki · January 2015

@OfficiallyHollyC‌ I'm not kidding when I say I would love to sue Dr. Sears. His Baby Book convinced me my DD would get out of the bed in her own time. Lies!!! Lol!

AmberC311 · January 2015

@leenziepops‌ thanks for the link! I forgot about that thread!

OMGTree · January 2015

My advice would be, don't get too set on your birth plan. If you want a natural birth, great! But don't deny yourself an epidural because you are hell bent on your birth plan, if you need it, get it. Also things change, plans change and it's ok. You can write up a birth plan but remember it's just a plan and you have to roll with the punches. Especially if you are a ftm, you haven't been through labor before and everyone is different. Just do what feels right to you. I hear so many ftm who say oh well my sister, mother, whoever had an easy labor so I should too. Yeah that doesn't always happen so don't be to hard on yourself and don't have your expectations too high.

PongoLePond · January 2015

Just a few things I've learned over the last 14 months...

1) Go pee BEFORE you check on the baby. It only takes a second and you'll be glad you did.

2) All parenting styles are valid and work for some people. Just do your research first and make sure it's something you want to commit to.

3) It's ok to be lazy for a day. Not feeling the sink full of dishes and full basket of laundry today? It will be there tomorrow. Sometime your sanity is more important than a clean spoon.

4) The only other thing I can think of that hasn't already been covered is don't forget to communicate with your SO. I'm really bad for this and those times lead to long periods of unhappiness for everyone. If you need help, ask. What's the worst that could happen? Your spouse won't leave you for asking him to do the dishes so you can nap.

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