Irrational FTM fears

Kriselizabethmei · January 2015

I'm a FTM, & that means im super paranoid about the silliest things. Yesterday dare I say it, I was afraid to poop...yes poop. Don't laugh at me

mamasue123 · January 2015

Not really afraid to poop, but I am afraid to sneeze. And the thought of sex scares me just a little. H said it freaks him out a little right now too, so we are holding off for a few days.

Every time I go to the bathroom though I think - please don't be blood, please don't be blood. Hope that goes away and doesn't last the whole pregnancy.

Kriselizabethmei · January 2015

mamasue123 said:
Nopeeeally afraid to poop, but I am afraid to sneeze. And the thought of sex scares me just a little. H said it freaks him out a little right now too, so we are holding off for a few days.

Every time I go to the bathroom though I think - please don't be blood, please don't be blood. Hope that goes away and doesn't last the whole pregnancy.

Yea...that too, checking for blood every time I pee!!!

Sarah52Beth · January 2015

I check for blood too. I watched "Marley and Me" yesterday and now I am scared for my first ultrasound. I worry I won't see that flicker of my baby's sweet little heart.

jen83182 · January 2015

My advice is don't watch anything on The health channels that have to do with super rare birth defects. Especially right before bed, and WebMD can cause more paranoia than good.

jen83182 · January 2015

This is my third too I still check for blood. This might go away for you after your first DR. visit. I'm not saying it will some people get over it after the first trimester when the MC risks drop. If you have any questions always ask your health care provider even if it seems silly. Chances are they have heard it before and can ease some worries that you have.

If it helps even moms that aren't first timers have irrational fears. Like mine right now is they aren't going to see anything in the sonogram and think this is all in my head.

korileighb · January 2015

Stm here and checking for blood alllll the time. And i had to lol at the sneezing, i was right there with my dd. I was sure i sneezed her out on more then one occasion.

DorkyMama · January 2015

I definitely check for blood every time I pee. I'm glad I'm not the only one.

XCrissCrossX · January 2015

I didn't have irrational FTM fears last time-- I think I was in a "nothing bad will ever happen to me" uneducated bubble. Plus, DS wasn't planned and being pg wasn't exactly great news.

Now, I know more so I'm kind of freaking out. Also time is going so. much. slower. this time.

goldpolkadot · January 2015

DorkyMama said:
I definitely check for blood every time I pee. I'm glad I'm not the only one.

Ditto.

tngrl3 · January 2015

I also constantly check for blood. I didn't worry so much with my DS, but after my MC, I'm kind of anxious. The insane amount of discharge does not help with my paranoia. I really wish I could take a good poop. The bloat is out of control.

jen83182 · January 2015

kanga915 said:
Wait for the first post partum poop. That's way scarier.

ETA: it was NBD but you will freak yourself out over it. Pro tip: Take the stool softeners.

Postpartum poop after c-section was the worst. I thought I was going to bust my stitches

DorkyMama · January 2015

Knottie0267790 said:

Wait for the first post partum poop. That's way scarier. ETA: it was NBD but you will freak yourself out over it. Pro tip: Take the stool softeners.
Postpartum poop after c-section was the worst. I thought I was going to bust my stitches

And I just dry heaved a little.

God damn it. I have a new irrational (or is it rational?) fear.

acorallo89 · January 2015

I'm also a FTM and get nervous every time I have to use the bathroom. The first thing I do is look for blood.

junebaby20 · January 2015

jen83182 said:

Wait for the first post partum poop. That's way scarier. ETA: it was NBD but you will freak yourself out over it. Pro tip: Take the stool softeners.
Postpartum poop after c-section was the worst. I thought I was going to bust my stitches

I honestly don't really remember my PPP after my csection. Most not have been that scary.

CruiseGirl28 · January 2015

I definitely checked for blood every time last time. I don't get to pee in peace right now, so I haven't had time to worry.

jen83182 · January 2015

jweinold said:

jen83182 said:

kanga915 said:
Wait for the first post partum poop. That's way scarier.

ETA: it was NBD but you will freak yourself out over it. Pro tip: Take the stool softeners.
Postpartum poop after c-section was the worst. I thought I was going to bust my stitches

I honestly don't really remember my PPP after my csection. Most not have been that scary.

Yes stool softeners are awesome but to get then to work you have to drink plenty of water. Just an FYI for people that really don't drink what they should

junebaby20 · January 2015

jen83182 said:

jen83182 said:

Wait for the first post partum poop. That's way scarier. ETA: it was NBD but you will freak yourself out over it. Pro tip: Take the stool softeners.
Postpartum poop after c-section was the worst. I thought I was going to bust my stitches

I honestly don't really remember my PPP after my csection. Most not have been that scary.
Yes stool softeners are awesome but to get then to work you have to drink plenty of water. Just an FYI for people that really don't drink what they should

I ate those like candy. My nurses were really good about making sure i was getting them.

vmcarbone · January 2015

FTM here too and I'm constantly checking for blood when I go to the bathroom. I also squeeze my boobs every morning. As annoying as sore boobs are, I like having some type of symptom. I also have to fight the urge to take another test every other day haha

edgandee · January 2015

I can relate to the crazy fears. I just found out I'm a little over 4 weeks when the doctors told us we would not be able to conceive without artificial insemination. I joined the Bump and read the signs of miscarriage. Huge mistake. Now, everytime I feel less crampy or my boobs don't hurt as much, I freak. I have my first ultrasound on 1/20 to make sure it's not eptopic since I only have one tube and ovary.

First time mom or not, this stuff is scary!

I have been able to poop, sneeze, and have had sex once with my husband. I was afraid to eat pepperoni on my pizza at lunch lol. It's going to be a long first trimester.

bhaley44 · January 2015

Thank goodness! I am constantly wondering if this cramping on occasion is okay or checking when I pee I have to wait until 2/1 for u/s and I have stopped reading signs of anything before I drive myself and hubby insane!

beansideirae · January 2015

my miscarriage happened right after sex, so even tho logically I know that was coincidence, I am terrified of sex this time around. and yes, I check for bleeding constantly. I'm also on zofran and scared it's going to somehow hurt the baby, even tho my doctor says it won't.

Kriselizabethmei · January 2015

I have an irrational fear of lunchmeat $:\$ ">

vmcarbone · January 2015

SnakeFisherBub said:

I have like zero symptoms. I'm a bit hungrier and a little more tired but I don't have sore boobs or even cramping/pulling in my ute. I'm totally afraid they are going to say uhh you're not pregnant. It's crazy because I know I'm still super early the symptoms will probably come. Also I took a digital test that came back yes and I've missed my period.

I keep telling myself to enjoy the next few weeks of little-to-no symptoms because I'll probably be cursing myself in a few weeks haha

barrelocarol · January 2015

I'm an FTM. My irrational fear - that I'm sleeping the wrong way and bothering the little blueberry.

cvh1975 · January 2015

vmc0514 said:

FTM here too and I'm constantly checking for blood when I go to the bathroom. I also squeeze my boobs every morning. As annoying as sore boobs are, I like having some type of symptom. I also have to fight the urge to take another test every other day haha

LOL...I'm right there with you! I do a boob check every morning, too.

Jen402 · January 2015

So glad I'm not the only one looking for blood every time I go to the bathroom and always checking my boobes. We have our first appt on Monday, so hopefully after that I'll feel better, but I am nervous that it's going to go bad.

Austria12 · January 2015

I'm absolutely paranoid of getting a DVT!

hunniebrie · January 2015

How about the first postpartum anything...that everything will fall out when you stand up; when you are convinced you peed pure blood; or when you tried to wipe yourself and you call the nurse because there's certainly more that needs to come out of you and they assure you it's just swelling. Holy moly! Sorry if I scared any FTM.

Austria12 · January 2015

Definitely a little freaked! But I find myself freaked Bout everything pregnancy encompasses now! I was so excited when I saw the positive test, and now I'm nervous!

hunniebrie · January 2015

Austria12 said:
Definitely a little freaked! But I find myself freaked Bout everything pregnancy encompasses now! I was so excited when I saw the positive test, and now I'm nervous!

Try not to worry, everyone's experiences are different. And if it was truly that horrible there would be no STM+.

caityrose · January 2015

Definitely checking for blood. And squeezing my boobs because they're only slightly sore. My constant mild cramps/pulling has subsided and my only other symptoms are mild ... Tired, peeing frequently but not a ton and some nausea feeling but no where near feeling super sick. It makes me worry but I'm trying to remain calm and hopeful that we will be lucky and everything will go smoothly.

obie1680 · January 2015

When I was FTM it's was the cramping and the spotting, so there was no sex for us for weeks in the 1 trimester. I was totally nervous but the spotting Which was a result of a yeast infection that I had no idea I had since it wasn't bothering me! It's natural to worry since all these changes to your body are new to you and also it's not about you anymore, so I would just say relax take a deep breath pregnancy can be scary sometimes but it's worth it in the end when you get to hold your baby!

mrscoefield · January 2015

This is #3 for me and I'm right there with you guys. I'm just now starting to get over the flu and a throat infection. I was running crazy high fevers so incredibly sick. Ugh. Scared is an understatement. I just wanna see that little heartbeat. It'll calm my nerves for a couple days at least.

jen83182 · January 2015

mrscoefield said:
This is #3 for me and I'm right there with you guys. I'm just now starting to get over the flu and a throat infection. I was running crazy high fevers so incredibly sick. Ugh. Scared is an understatement. I just wanna see that little heartbeat. It'll calm my nerves for a couple days at least.

The flu is a big one for me. I had the start of a uti and was trying to find someplace that wasn't packed with sick people. I ended up going to an urgent care that had no one in there and got in and out in about 30 minutes. My 1st OB apt I think I'm going to get the flu shot.

junebaby20 · January 2015

Laughing after your csection is insane. First day home and she shot poop at my h and across the room. I never laughed so hard and held my stomach because i was sure my insides would spill out. (they won't don't panic)

manu246 · January 2015

I had a little bit of spotting and I've been freaking out for the past 2 days. Dr Google is super unhelpful of course. Going for my first blood test and ultrasound tomorrow and praying for the best! I also do the boob thing constantly!

ladyeb15 · January 2015

Sneezing. And nothing in my veejayjay which means no sex till March for hubby. Sorry.....

Allie&Jesus · January 2015

So this is my first pg and I think I've spent too much time on Dr Google and have totally freaked myself out! Every time I pee I check for blood. I squeeze my boobs randomly throughout the day to make sure they still hurt. And I think in the last 2 weeks I've taken about 4 pregnancy tests. I'm sooooo scared of a MC and I know it's not super likely but still...I think I'll feel better after I see the heartbeat at the fort US:/

ravenclaw1 · January 2015

Do people really routinely squeeze their boobs?

MrsP924 · January 2015

Yup I keep checking for blood every time I per too. Also I'm slightly freaking out because my sister is coming from out of town for wedding planning things and next weekend is her bridal shower since she won't be back until April for the wedding. So I'm freaking out that MS is going to start at the shower and people are going to figure out why I'm sick. My whole family knows we've been trying for almost 2 years and have been seeking help with an RE so I feel like it would be hard to keep the secret. I keep telling my self no getting sick until after the shower keep it together! So nervous!

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