Depressed about weight gain

yasminhosny · January 2015

Im very happy im having a baby and everything. But im obsessing about my weight gain. Im 24 weeks and i gained around 7 kgs. My doctor told me it is a lot of weight to gain and encouraged me to watch it. All the weight is my ASS really. Is there a way to slow down the weight gain? Btw i dont eat junk food or sweets at all!

nursej519 · January 2015

Do you workout? That has helped me some.

yasminhosny · January 2015

Not much really. I take a walk once a week for one hour. Thats it!

blitzy23 · January 2015

I got lectured about my weight gain today. Not a fun feeling. I know I need to pull back on the after dinner desserts, because everything else I eat and drink is incredibly healthy. Is there any one thing you can decrease for now, and then can you add a bit more walking to your daily schedule? Don't be hard on yourself-babies are sucking the energy out of us!

yasminhosny · January 2015

Thanks a lot for being supportive. I will plan a walk 3 - 4 times a week. It is about time to move it.

breezyweezer · January 2015

Add in as many fresh vegetables and fruits as you possibly can. They are healthy and filling. Lean protein is great too. You say you don't eat sweets/junk but are you eating too much bread/pasta/potatoes etc? Because those things when not in moderation can pack on the pounds just as much.

Good luck to you and try not to worry about it too much. I just try to consciously think about everything before I eat it. Are these mozzarella sticks going to be the most nourishing things for my babies? Probably not, I think I will have an apple and some natural peanut butter instead.

Walking will be great for you. I walk 5 times a week and I think it is definitely helping me gain weight appropriately as well as keeping my BP good and just making me feel better overall.

cassietegtmeier · January 2015

Just getting home from my appointment and I feel like crying over how much I weigh. I've always struggled with my weight & before getting pregnant I was heavier. My dr hasn't said anything about it tho & my blood pressure is perfect so I guess I don't have anything to be concerned about. I just need to deal with it and be happy I have a healthy baby growing.

beezybaby · January 2015

You are going to gain what you are going to gain. If you are being remotely healthy try not to stress about it. If it is really an issue for you, like serious depression or anxiety, you can ask not to be weighed at doctor's appointments. One of the nurses with DD2 noticed that I showed major signs of anxiety as soon as we started moving towards the scale-nervous jitters, a little sweaty, and once, just because she was interested, she rechecked my blood pressure and found it had skyrocketed since she first checked it prior to her mentioning needing to weigh me. After that, no more weigh ins. The doctor would ask me how I felt, if I was maintaining health diet and staying active, and that was all. I would highly recommend it for anyone in the "normal range" of weight.

cassietegtmeier · January 2015

beezybaby said:
You are going to gain what you are going to gain. If you are being remotely healthy try not to stress about it. If it is really an issue for you, like serious depression or anxiety, you can ask not to be weighed at doctor's appointments. One of the nurses with DD2 noticed that I showed major signs of anxiety as soon as we started moving towards the scale-nervous jitters, a little sweaty, and once, just because she was interested, she rechecked my blood pressure and found it had skyrocketed since she first checked it prior to her mentioning needing to weigh me. After that, no more weigh ins. The doctor would ask me how I felt, if I was maintaining health diet and staying active, and that was all. I would highly recommend it for anyone in the "normal range" of weight.

Maybe I can ask to do this also. They are very nice about it and haven't said anything about my weight. I'm just super upset about it myself. I've never in my life been this heavy and I have 4 months to go still?! I'm crying.

mellemarie · January 2015

All these posts about weight gain almost make me want to second guess my doctor and obgyn... I've gained around 30lbs so far and neither are concerned at all. First tri I basically ate whatever I could keep down (mostly carbs), but now that I'm feeling better I've been able to eat more healthy foods and exercise regularly.

PP's have a lot of good suggestions to help with weight gain. Just remember that your body is going to gain what it needs for your baby, which is different for everyone. As long as your eating healthy and exercising there's not much else you can do.

sailaplay · January 2015

My midwives don't even weigh moms as part of their regular checks. I've gained over 20lbs at 22 weeks this time, gained almost 60 with the last one. I lost 35lbs in hospital after that though. You will gain what you need. If it is healthy weight , due to pregnancy, it will come off - especially if you're breastfeeding. Frankly, I think 10 of my 20 lbs is in my boobs!
Bottom line, don't worry about weight if you're living a healthy life.

MrsPDX · January 2015

At my last appointment I had gained 15 pounds (5 months), and I am fully expecting to have gained 20 by my next. I was only supposed to only gain 25, but oh well. I mean I am mostly belly, and feel great, so I guess I shouldn't worry too much. I would just try to think positively and avoid mirrors. Remember WHY you are gaining weight, you are growing a beautiful child inside of you! A teeny, tiny human! What a miracle!

And if you and your doctor are really worried, start replacing carb snacks with fruit and veggies as snacks, and adding more fruits and veggies to your main meals.

srdasce · January 2015

I'm right there with you! Wish we lived closer so we could encourage each other to walk!!

yasminhosny · January 2015

Thank you so much!!!! I feel im not alone in this now. I will try to cut down carbs a bit and walk more (yes i eat carbs a lot which i didnt do before getting pregnant). I would honestly say that some of the people around me are not supportive. I think that is an issue. And i need to stay away from negativity. My life is changing and it wont be skinny jeans and crop tops for some time and i need to accept that change. I will embrace it cos the baby deserves a healthy confident mother.

chertmm · January 2015

This is a tough spot for me too. Before I found out I was pregnant I was actively trying to lose weight. But now, I am trying to stay away from so many artificial/"fat free" foods. That automatically increases my daily calories. I also no longer take my ADD meds so I feel hungrier than before. At my 17 week appt, I had gained 11 lbs and my OB mentioned my weight. I go in next week for my 20 week appt, and I am terrified to see what I have gained. According to my home scale I am up another 5lbs. Doc only wanted me to gain 10 more TOTAL for the rest of the pregnancy. I feel terrible. I also feel like I am always hungry. I don't know what to do.

EntropicEpona · January 2015

Weight gain is such a huge mind f@#$. I spent so long trying to lose it, that finding a Zen about gaining a few pounds is pretty hard to come by. Really, the best advice is to just keep relatively active and eat as best you can. Your body will gain what it needs to gain. And allow yourself a treat every now and again so you can keep your sanity!

Also, if you're goal oriented or pressure motivated get some kind of a fitness tracker that gives you a visual idea about how much you should be moving. You'll find creative ways to make sure you get in those steps! (and attaching it to your dog doesn't count. LOL)

yasminhosny · January 2015

@chertmm‌ i feel you! I was never that hungry. Lets encourage each other to stick to healthy choices and walk several times a week. Sometimes i panic thinking what if i have no milk and i wont breastfeed, God! The weight will just stay maybe in my ass permenantely? Hopefully hopefully breastfeeding will help me lose the weight.

lgsdesigner · January 2015

After you have the baby, most will melt off rather quickly if you exercise during pregnancy, drink a good amount of water, and try to eat healthy 70-80% of your day. (as most pp's stated)

And remember too-- most women lose 15lbs right after birth, around 10lbs during breastfeeding (if you decide to go this route), and the rest will either slowly melt away or you will just have to diet a bit to lose it....but honestly...it isn't that big of a deal. You've got this!

Linds1083 · January 2015

I thought I had gained a lot with DD (I gained 35 lbs) but 1 week after having her, I weighed a few pounds off my pre-pregnancy weight. This is not to say that my body looked the same, but the weight did come off fast. So try not to worry about it because everyone is different.

Ana0927 · January 2015

I am almost 19 weeks and have put on 20lbs. With all three of my pregnancies, I have always exercised intensely and ate really healthy and still manage put on 40-60 lbs. During my 1st pregnancy I gained 10 lbs in one week alone! I just gain a lot of weight and I have come to accept that.

If and your doctor are worried I would start exercising with some walking or yoga. Go over your diet and see if there are any terrible things you eat that you can replace with healthier options.

Hang in there, I know its frustrating but try not to let it depress you!

kgnordman · January 2015

Well this question made me even more depressed about my weight gain. When I saw this title, I was like yes something I can relate to. Then it's someone saying they've gained 15.4 lbs in 24 weeks. I don't know your prepregnancy weight, but if you're in normal range, you haven't gained too much. I go by the Utah dept of health and at 24 weeks normal range is 11-18 lbs.

As someone that has gained more than expected, I can say I've weighed myself twice that have caused me to cry.

chertmm · January 2015

yasminhosny said:
@chertmm‌ i feel you! I was never that hungry. Lets encourage each other to stick to healthy choices and walk several times a week. Sometimes i panic thinking what if i have no milk and i wont breastfeed, God! The weight will just stay maybe in my ass permenantely? Hopefully hopefully breastfeeding will help me lose the weight.

Great idea. I am definitely trying to be more consciousness of what choices I make without starving. I am trying to consider how nutritious my foods are without obsessing about calories. There is plenty of room for improvement in my exercise habits, however.

sml72978 · January 2015

Everyone is different, that's the theme for today.

peteresa · January 2015

Hahaha, I have all of you beat...After 2 miscarriages I gained nearly 100 lbs and then I had my daughter, I worked out regularly after she was born and in 4 months lost 60 of those pounds, after this pregnancy I plan on working out regularly again and just not stressing about the weight gain, enjoy your pregnancy ladies and definitely don't stress, it will come off if you really want it to after baby is born! Enjoy!

Ps. I never actually focus on losing weight, I actually just focus on creating and implementing progressively difficult workouts to improve my strength and endurance, naturally the weight will drop off! In the past when I focused on "weightloss" I tended to gain weight!

marijaa333 · January 2015

7*2.2=15.2 lbs. Unless you were overweight to start, you are well within the normal range for 24 weeks. .

cassietegtmeier · January 2015

I have cried every day since my drs appointment because of my weight. I desperately want ice cream now but I'm telling myself no. I want a healthy pregnancy & I want a happy one. I just hope I can get past this struggle soon.

cassietegtmeier · January 2015

I just feel very fortunate to be having this baby at the beginning of summer rather than winter. I know summer I will be more motivated to get out and do things and I can take LO with me. If I were having him around now I would be doomed to sit home with him and gain more. I just have to keep looking on the bright side!

kfoucault55 · January 2015

I've had the opposite problem, so I get "yelled" at for that at the doctor!! I was 180ish when I got preggo, and I'm 20w and 2 days now, and I'm down 24lbs since becoming preggo-- BUT I can't eat anything that i usually eat. This little girl will let me eat fruit, veggies, nuts and yogurt. Any kind of bread, meat and potatoes makes me instantly sick.

With my last pregnancy, I lost the whole time too and with that one- gave birth to a 8lb baby.

With my first pregnancy, I was 19 yrs old- about 120lbs and gained 80+. And gave birth to a 6lb 12oz baby.

sml72978 · January 2015

Is it bad that I secretly wish my husband would gain a little baby weight so I don't feel like I am the only one getting big here?

ck4567 · January 2015

For those gaining more weight than the recommended, at least for myself, I have noticed that I over eat or eat junk due to anxiety. When I am anxious I feel like I have to DO something, and sometimes that something is eating delicious junk or too much food. I have started making a conscious effort to not "eat my feelings," and instead I go for a walk when anxious or say positive affirmations, read a positive book, or clean the house. I think this is helping me. I'm up 15 pounds, but I think I've got it under control now. It has been hard because I have so much anxiety this pregnancy. I used to just have a glass of wine...negative reinforcement, not the best, but it worked.....and since I can't do that anymore I have had to learn new coping skills, but I am adopting healthy coping mechanisms so that's good.

yasminhosny · January 2015

marijaa333 said:
7*2.2=15.2 lbs. Unless you were overweight to start, you are well within the normal range for 24 weeks. .

I weighed 56 kilos to start with. And my height is 165. The doctor keeps giving me the "look" of too much weight. And advised me to watch it. And mostly people around me are not supportive

yasminhosny · January 2015

cassietegtmeier said:
I just feel very fortunate to be having this baby at the beginning of summer rather than winter. I know summer I will be more motivated to get out and do things and I can take LO with me. If I were having him around now I would be doomed to sit home with him and gain more. I just have to keep looking on the bright side!

Very valid point!!

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melwdaugherty · January 2015

@yasminhosny‌ I totally feel your pain. I too have become reacquainted with my love for carbs. I would eat more veggies, but my palate has totally changed. I hate veggies right now- I love fruit, dairy, sweets, pasta, pizza, and Chick-fil-a, and Whataburger. I'm sure my Dr. would say something to me too but she is pretty laid back. I used to do Pilates 3-4 times a week and I have done it once all pregnancy. I need to get off my lazy ass. I would walk more if it wasn't so damn cold out. Okay- rant over. My point is that I totally relate to your situation and am going to try to exercise more as well:) You are not alone!

dj99 · January 2015

yasminhosny said:
Im very happy im having a baby and everything. But im obsessing about my weight gain. Im 24 weeks and i gained around 7 kgs. My doctor told me it is a lot of weight to gain and encouraged me to watch it. All the weight is my ASS really. Is there a way to slow down the weight gain? Btw i dont eat junk food or sweets at all!

This is actually not a lot of weight gain, I wouldn't stress too much about it.

yasminhosny · January 2015

@dj99‌ thank u for your kind words. Trying to cut on carbs though! Wish me luck

afavazza91 · January 2015

It's so hard to give advice on this! I agree with the other moms and mom's to be! Eat healthy, exercise, and most importantly, don't stress about it.

I wish I could say that I'm on the same page. I'm the opposite. I get yelled at every appointment for not gaining enough weight. I lost 12 pounds in the first trimester and have only gained 2 pounds since. I'm 20 weeks and 2 days pregnant and every appointment I pray that I gained enough weight. I have talked to other mothers around me as to why I'm not putting weight on easily and it was pointed out to me that I eat a lot of fruits and vegetables. They are what I crave and my go to snack.

While some moms might wish they were me, I wish I gained more! but your body will do what it needs to do to accommodate the baby!

good luck! I'm sure everyone will be just fine! weight gain is a small price we pay for a beautiful child we bring into the world to love and be loved.

MaryGraceRich · January 2015

I started out overweight. The dr said I should not gain more than 25-30lbs the entire pregnancy. At my 20wk appointment I was at 13lbs. I am 22 weeks now and refuse to get on a scale if I am not in her office.
Every time I go to her office she checks my bp. Its always on the high side. When the hospital checked it, it was much better. My husband is convinced its the scale that bugs me out and makes my bp leap up. They have even tried getting my bp before and after the weigh in and its still high.
I worry about my weight but I think about others that have gained more than myself with perfectly healthy babies. I try and keep that in mind.

Morenajuliet · January 2015

linegirl313 said:

Drink lots of water and get a pedometer! That's a great way to stay healthy and active regardless of whether or not you're pregnant. That's all I've got.

This sounds like a positive but simple thing to do to help curb your gaining a little although I echo everyone else saying that isn't too much at this point. While being pregnant isn't the time to begin a workout regiment, you should also try to make sure you aren't sedentary.

kgnordman · January 2015

Can I just say the woman that started this thread is obnoxious. You're 5'4 and started out at 123 lbs and you're depressed because you've gained "too much weight," which actually is in the normal range. Then you say people aren't being supportive. Uh...yeah...if I was around you, I wouldn't be supportive either. Vainity isn't cute.

yasminhosny · January 2015

kgnordman said:
Can I just say the woman that started this thread is obnoxious. You're 5'4 and started out at 123 lbs and you're depressed because you've gained "too much weight," which actually is in the normal range. Then you say people aren't being supportive. Uh...yeah...if I was around you, I wouldn't be supportive either. Vainity isn't cute.

Well. The doctor said my rate of weight gain is too much and by week 36-40 (with this rate) i will be gaining more than i should. Yes people aroud me arent moms or moms to be and so they do not understand what it is like to crave carbs and feel ur body change while ur watching. Really all the weight is in my ASS, thats the point. Anyway yes vanity is not cute, good thing im not vain. Call it pregnancy insecurities... It happens.

melwdaugherty · January 2015

kgnordman said:
Can I just say the woman that started this thread is obnoxious. You're 5'4 and started out at 123 lbs and you're depressed because you've gained "too much weight," which actually is in the normal range. Then you say people aren't being supportive. Uh...yeah...if I was around you, I wouldn't be supportive either. Vainity isn't cute.

I don't think the OP was being vain at all (vainity isn't a word). Her Dr. gave her cause for concern so she was voicing that. If you read the entire thread, the last thing she was trying to be was cute. We all can relate to this topic in some form or fashion. Reading your previous posts, it seems like you could relate as well. She wanted to know if that was normal or not and I appreciated her post.

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