Depressed about weight gain

rosikiwi

Don't stress about it. Just eat good sized proportions and exercise a little-even if it's stretching or little weights in front if the tv.

kgnordman

melwdaugherty said:

kgnordman said:

Can I just say the woman that started this thread is obnoxious. You're 5'4 and started out at 123 lbs and you're depressed because you've gained "too much weight," which actually is in the normal range. Then you say people aren't being supportive. Uh...yeah...if I was around you, I wouldn't be supportive either. Vainity isn't cute.

I don't think the OP was being vain at all (vainity isn't a word). Her Dr. gave her cause for concern so she was voicing that. If you read the entire thread, the last thing she was trying to be was cute. We all can relate to this topic in some form or fashion. Reading your previous posts, it seems like you could relate as well. She wanted to know if that was normal or not and I appreciated her post.

My apologies for a typo. My B. I wrote this at 1130 pm. Thanks for pointing it out, you must be so busy since I've read many posts with grammar and spelling errors and if you're correcting vanity vs. vainity, you must have a field day on here. Maybe, I'm I was tired, hormonal, and just bitchy when I wrote this. For that, I apologize. When she wrote "depressed," I thought, oh maybe she was overweight/obese prepregnancy, which if the doctor said "I want you to gain 10 lbs this pregnancy, 15 lbs would make someone upset at 24 weeks." Then to find out 5'4", 123 lbs.

Then saying things like "crop tops aren't going to be in my life for awhile" and talking about limiting carbs. Why would you limit carbs? She said prior that she doesn't eat junk food. Almost every women in my life has had babies, I don't even know anyone that wears crop tops let alone mentions them when they're pregnant. Oh I did see a 16 yr old pregnant girl wearing a crop top in her third trimester. Second, if you go by healthy for your baby diets, you'd never even think of limiting your carbs.

Then, she said her doctor gave her the "look" that she's gaining to much and advised her to watch it. I highly doubt by her wording that the doctor sat down and was like, "I'm really concerned with how much you've gained recently, I want you to come back next month with a food journal and go over it with you." They don't just give a look and just say okay watch what you're eating. Obviously, I don't know her case (none of us do) maybe she lost 20 lbs her first trimester. Either way, by reading what she wrote (yeah, i did,) it all seemed vain to me.

When she said people around her not being supportive, all i could envision was a young woman bitching about 15 pounds and not being able to wear crop tops.

yasminhosny

@kgnordman‌ ))) I understand your point really. But again to clarify things, it is my first baby i dont know lots of things. My friends are in la la land so yes they could be a bit not understanding. And trust me when i talk about it with my mom, she snaps at me saying the most important thing is the baby and I have to accept body changes. Again, the weight is in my ass , i am up 3 sizes. This could be insignificant to you u but u have to understand that this can cause some insecurities to others, like me for instance. Lets just leave it here and try to be healthy. **having a grilled cheese sandwich for a snack, baby needs it**

melwdaugherty

kgnordman said:

melwdaugherty said:

kgnordman said:

Can I just say the woman that started this thread is obnoxious. You're 5'4 and started out at 123 lbs and you're depressed because you've gained "too much weight," which actually is in the normal range. Then you say people aren't being supportive. Uh...yeah...if I was around you, I wouldn't be supportive either. Vainity isn't cute.

I don't think the OP was being vain at all (vainity isn't a word). Her Dr. gave her cause for concern so she was voicing that. If you read the entire thread, the last thing she was trying to be was cute. We all can relate to this topic in some form or fashion. Reading your previous posts, it seems like you could relate as well. She wanted to know if that was normal or not and I appreciated her post.

My apologies for a typo. My B. I wrote this at 1130 pm. Thanks for pointing it out, you must be so busy since I've read many posts with grammar and spelling errors and if you're correcting vanity vs. vainity, you must have a field day on here. Maybe, I'm I was tired, hormonal, and just bitchy when I wrote this. For that, I apologize. When she wrote "depressed," I thought, oh maybe she was overweight/obese prepregnancy, which if the doctor said "I want you to gain 10 lbs this pregnancy, 15 lbs would make someone upset at 24 weeks." Then to find out 5'4", 123 lbs.

Then saying things like "crop tops aren't going to be in my life for awhile" and talking about limiting carbs. Why would you limit carbs? She said prior that she doesn't eat junk food. Almost every women in my life has had babies, I don't even know anyone that wears crop tops let alone mentions them when they're pregnant. Oh I did see a 16 yr old pregnant girl wearing a crop top in her third trimester. Second, if you go by healthy for your baby diets, you'd never even think of limiting your carbs.

Then, she said her doctor gave her the "look" that she's gaining to much and advised her to watch it. I highly doubt by her wording that the doctor sat down and was like, "I'm really concerned with how much you've gained recently, I want you to come back next month with a food journal and go over it with you." They don't just give a look and just say okay watch what you're eating. Obviously, I don't know her case (none of us do) maybe she lost 20 lbs her first trimester. Either way, by reading what she wrote (yeah, i did,) it all seemed vain to me.

When she said people around her not being supportive, all i could envision was a young woman bitching about 15 pounds and not being able to wear crop tops.

babyblue0501

I'm glad I'm not the only one obsessing about my weight. I lost 120lbs before getting pregnant, and have been forced to scale down my workouts. I went from 6 days a week to 2 or 3. From 1200-1400 calories a day to the recommended 2000. Couple that with an underactive thyroid, and I sit here at 24 weeks and 20lbs heavier. It's comforting to know that some of the ladies mentioned they lost a good amount of weight after baby, and with breastfeeding.

jesslfar

  I doubt there is a woman on here not worried about it, either worried they did gain, will gain or haven't gained.  I don't think there is a way around worrying about it.  If you are making healthy choices and are drinking plenty of water and are not consuming a lot of empty calories you are not thinking of like soda or juice, and are eating normal sized meals it is just what your body needs to do for this baby.  I eat exactly the same portions I did before which is not a lot, I eat few snacks and my diet is pretty much the same it always was (calories are probably better than before because I am eating more fruits and vegetables and not drinking wine) and I put on 9lbs.  The worst pregnancy weight wise I ever had was when I vomited daily until 12 weeks, I lost 20lbs by 12 weeks and somehow every single pound found me by 23 weeks even with not changing my diet at all from pre pregnancy, I had been on a whole foods, organic diet that was exactly what the doctor told me to eat and I gained it all and then some.

quirkyEM

15lbs isn't a lot if weight gain at 24 weeks! I've gained 20 at 21 weeks(and it's all in my butt too--not thrilled, but I'm eating healthy and walking regularly). Do not worry or obsess, we are growing a human, this is not the time for calorie counting.
Be healthy! Walk, eat right, take care of yourself.