I am of the opinion that it is not ok to post pictures of anyone (minor or not) in order to make fun of them or ridicule them. This already happened previously in this thread. I also don't like the people of walmart sites or anything similar. Sure some of the pictures can be funny and people make dumb fashion choices, but how would you like if someone took pictures of you and put them on blast?
I think it's hard not to get heated when someone makes a confession like this. I mean, you all have seen how I get when things turn to politics...
It's especially hard when someone makes a confession related to kids, and we all automatically think about how we would feel if someone did that to our kid.
I don't blame anyone for getting really upset. I have my own visceral reactions to certain things that people say. I've cried over confessions or statements people have made.
While I think the confession is out of control, I also think maybe this is a case where we can get her to re-consider (maybe?).
Maybe but...#tbneverforgets. I didn't have as passionate a reaction as others, but I was still a bit "WTF" about it. If she reconsiders, sure. "People may forget what you have said, but they'll never forget how you make them feel." Her words made a lot of people very upset and uncomfortable.
I by no means think I am the victim. I am just sitting here thinking about what I have thought was okay is in fact not. And about my administrators, they have engaged in this as well. I just did not think about it in the terms as you all have said.
@LJGS1010 I respect you a ton but I can't give her a chance. She's done this before on her last bmb. Nope. I'm done.
I respect that. I don't even know if I'll give her a chance. We can't force her off the board if she wants to try and clean up her mess, but no one is obligated to interact with her.
My hope is that, regardless of everything, that she will change her behavior.
If yall don't want me here, I will leave. I wanted to be apart of a board since Dec '13 died. But if I have offended too many and am not wanted to interact/participate in this board I will bow out as gracefully as possible. I made a horrible mistake, that I did not realize I was making. I apologize for all that I offended. That mistake will not be repeated.
Aaaaaand you'll never do it again, and tell everyone else at school how deplorable this is?
Wow... I literally have never thought of myself as a horrible human being. I care more about other people than I ever have about myself. I love my students and they love me. I go above and beyond for my kids. But now I am sitting here in tears because of the horrible things you guys are saying about me when you really don't know me. I went into special needs because I have two brothers that are very involved. Teachers here share videos all the time (my best friend happens to be a teacher... a special ed teacher at that) so she gets it. She teaches at a higher level than I do. I apologize for offending, making so many of you mad. That is not my intention. My intention is not to embarrass my students. These kids make me laugh, cry, and learn.
Listen. You may or may not be a fabulous teacher. You may or may not love your students. I'm not going to make that judgment, because I'm not in your classroom.
BUT -- if your BFF jumped off a bridge, would you? Two wrongs don't make a right. If many teachers are sharing videos of students, it's time for someone to step up and correct the behavior. Your intention may not be to embarrass your students, but if they knew what you were doing do you think they'd appreciate it?
I'm a lawyer. We have very strict ethical standards we are supposed to follow. I am constantly asking myself whether my clients would appreciate the way I am representing myself to third parties on their behalf. As a teacher, you are arguably in a situation where you should be held to an even HIGHER ethical standard. You are working with minors who cannot speak up for themselves. Take this as an opportunity to ask yourself whether you're living up to the type of teacher you want to be, and that parents and your school district expect you to be, when you do things like this.
Each time the student knew that they were being video-ed or photographed. I told them that I was taking the video/photo to send to their parents, and they straightened up. I will however, never do it again. I agree that it is not ok to do it because "everyone" else is... I came to this school less than 5 years ago (before then I still taught, but in a very different environment) and teachers (ALONG with admins) have done this since I came here. I guess I just thought it was normal because it is what I have been around. I honestly did not think of it in the terms that you guys are speaking of. Had I thought about it like that I wouldn't have.
So if everyone is drinking the kool-aid you just say "hey pour me a cup?"
So I find this unforgivable especially because it happened before. Clearly it will happen again. I am seriously about to gbcb over this. Maybe you all won't agree with me but this is my safe place so to speak and I won't stand for poison like this. Its not okay. Never will be okay but she will continue to do it.
@uncgirl6885 I'm sorry I told you to leave. This really has left a bad taste in mouth, but I know how awesome and supportive this particular group of girls is and I don't want to chase you off.
Please, please, please never do anything like this to your students again. If you love them the way you say you do, you'll at least show them that much respect.
I'm sorry you're going through a hard time personally.
DC once took a picture of LO and sent it to me... why? BecauseI asked them to... I missed his little cheeks and wanted a pick me up...
The difference I (the parent) was aware.
DC also takes pictures of LOs with a camera they have on site that stays in the center. They upload them to a online secure portal for us to view, or they print them out and post them around the room then send them home.
This is the only occurence I could ever imagine taking pictures is o.k... and I'm pretty sure we signed a consent form.
So I find this unforgivable especially because it happened before. Clearly it will happen again. I am seriously about to gbcb over this. Maybe you all won't agree with me but this is my safe place so to speak and I won't stand for poison like this. Its not okay. Never will be okay but she will continue to do it.
NOOOOOOOOOO. Stop that now, please.
Also, I don't post Phia pics on here (except that one time) as you may have noticed because I just don't trust this level of a public arena .
Andplusalso I'll never be comfortable putting pics of my kids up.
I mean, it's a public forum. You should be cautious putting up pictures of your child always, not just because of a specific FFFC.
I'd never post something that I don't mind people seeing. I'm very sceptic if social media in general. I didn't mean it like that just in a way that now I won't want to see what she has to say about stuff. It will make me sad and angry every time.
It's not a history that she and I have personally. No worries though. I think its time for me to be done anyways. I appreciate everything you ladies have done for me and @uncgirl6885 I don't hate you. Don't think youre being truthful but don't hate you.
@uncgirl6885 if I can make a suggestion, maybe just step back for a day or two.
As @LJGS1010 said, you may or may not live this down. I am not going to throw this in your face if we see you've been reformed. This was really upsetting for a lot of us so it might take some time before many of the ladies want to accept you.
I do mean what I said about this community. This is a very special group of women, many of whom have been flamed before, but licked their wounds and have become valuable members of the board.
I hate what you did. I'm very upset that any educator would think this is okay. Since you sound like you are starting to recognize why this is troubling I will give you another chance, but I can 't speak for all the girls here. Whether it not they choose to engage you and in what manner is entirely up to them.
And guys...you made our sick mod mod today. So you all need to sit down where you are and think about what you've done...and not leave our board while you do that. OK?! YOU HEAR ME?!?
And when Santa Claus squeezes his fat white ass down that chimney tonight he is going to find the jolliest bunch of assholes this side of the nuthouse.
You can't leave.
And when Santa Claus squeezes his fat white ass down that chimney tonight he is going to find the jolliest bunch of assholes this side of the nuthouse.
Its okay @tgrimes1980 they are right. I am leaving. But I think very highly of you ladies. I don't want or expect anyone to beg me to stay. It is in fact this one thread that is making me reevaluate and step away. It is the acceptance of the new poster. I cannot do it. I am not able. I won't come back to defend myself and I'm sorry that I've offended anyone.
And guys...you made our sick mod mod today. So you all need to sit down where you are and think about what you've done...and not leave our board while you do that. OK?! YOU HEAR ME?!?
I haven't cooked all week. Pete's fine with this because he's been eating all those meatballs I made for A last week, putting them on little slider brioche buns.
I should be prepping my moussaka but GDI if TB just doesn't always manage to derail me somehow.
To each their own, but I also don't understand the need to GBCB over this. Is one poster who gets you down enough to say goodbye to everyone else? Maybe take a break to get in a better place and rethink the potential impact of social media, but please don't everyone leave over this.
I think it's also important to tread slowly with new posters. I welcome new people to our group. Because of my job I had with my last BMB I didn't have much time at all to post and didn't really get very involved until my daughter was around the age of our N13 babies. So I know being late to a group does not = creeper (although some of you may disagree . But at the same time, this isn't a Delores situation, we were not betrayed by a long time poster with whom we had formed a relationship. Relax a little and please stay in our community.
And guys...you made our sick mod mod today. So you all need to sit down where you are and think about what you've done...and not leave our board while you do that. OK?! YOU HEAR ME?!?
Hallelujah, holy shit...where's the Tylenol?!
But seriously please no one I like leave?
OMG we are mind twins today!!!
I TOTALLY thought yours was in response to mine. Because I guess I'm a narcissit? LOL. But being mind twins is way better.
Man. All the feels. I can't even put anything into words right now that would remotely make sense -too sleep deprived. Just going to snuggle my little guy a little tighter here.
And guys...you made our sick mod mod today. So you all need to sit down where you are and think about what you've done...and not leave our board while you do that. OK?! YOU HEAR ME?!?
Hallelujah, holy shit...where's the Tylenol?!
But seriously please no one I like leave?
OMG we are mind twins today!!!
I TOTALLY thought yours was in response to mine. Because I guess I'm a narcissit? LOL. But being mind twins is way better.
So is anyone FB friends with her? I know we can't post personal info and I wouldn't want anyone to do that, but if anyone knows where she works I think this needs to be reported.
So is anyone FB friends with her? I know we can't post personal info and I wouldn't want anyone to do that, but if anyone knows where she works I think this needs to be reported.
Re: Ladies, time to come clean....
#LOLFITMAMA
#LOLFITMAMA
OOF.
#LOLFITMAMA
My hope is that, regardless of everything, that she will change her behavior.
If yall don't want me here, I will leave. I wanted to be apart of a board since Dec '13 died. But if I have offended too many and am not wanted to interact/participate in this board I will bow out as gracefully as possible. I made a horrible mistake, that I did not realize I was making. I apologize for all that I offended. That mistake will not be repeated.
Aaaaaand you'll never do it again, and tell everyone else at school how deplorable this is?
So if everyone is drinking the kool-aid you just say "hey pour me a cup?"
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
Please, please, please never do anything like this to your students again. If you love them the way you say you do, you'll at least show them that much respect.
I'm sorry you're going through a hard time personally.
Obviously this has nothing to do with today's events.
DC once took a picture of LO and sent it to me... why? BecauseI asked them to... I missed his little cheeks and wanted a pick me up...
The difference I (the parent) was aware.
DC also takes pictures of LOs with a camera they have on site that stays in the center. They upload them to a online secure portal for us to view, or they print them out and post them around the room then send them home.
This is the only occurence I could ever imagine taking pictures is o.k... and I'm pretty sure we signed a consent form.
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
Also, I don't post Phia pics on here (except that one time) as you may have noticed because I just don't trust this level of a public arena .
#LOLFITMAMA
As a skeptic I am in this boat... but I hope to be proved wrong by @uncgirl6885.
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
As @LJGS1010 said, you may or may not live this down. I am not going to throw this in your face if we see you've been reformed. This was really upsetting for a lot of us so it might take some time before many of the ladies want to accept you.
I do mean what I said about this community. This is a very special group of women, many of whom have been flamed before, but licked their wounds and have become valuable members of the board.
I hate what you did. I'm very upset that any educator would think this is okay. Since you sound like you are starting to recognize why this is troubling I will give you another chance, but I can 't speak for all the girls here. Whether it not they choose to engage you and in what manner is entirely up to them.
NO ONE IS GOING ANYWHERE.
(MOM IS YELLING)
#LOLFITMAMA
Having separation anxiety...
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
Hallelujah, holy shit...where's the Tylenol?!
But seriously please no one I like leave?
#LOLFITMAMA
And when Santa Claus squeezes his fat white ass down that chimney tonight he is going to find the jolliest bunch of assholes this side of the nuthouse.
#LOLFITMAMA
I should be prepping my moussaka but GDI if TB just doesn't always manage to derail me somehow.
#LOLFITMAMA
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
@mommyxtwo1113 ygpm
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
I thought that was me???
Kidding!!!
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
https://www.kptv.com/story/22090684/oregon-city-teacher-on-leave-after-snapchat-photo-sent-to-student
https://www.nj.com/middlesex/index.ssf/2014/12/edison_teacher_tenure_charges_tyler_van_pelt.html
And I know, personally, of another case in WV of a very similar situation where the teacher was terminated for the same things.
This isn't rocket surgery. It's unethical and from the sounds of things your entire district should be in some serious hot water.
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13
Yes. Me too.
I agree with this... where are our detectives?
Life began when I saw your face
I.J.C. born 11.3.13