Tuesday tomfoolery

tyrannasaurusjess · January 2015

melody921 said:

Anyone have a chalkboard (like the kind you'd hang in a kitchen)? I want to get one but the PB one seems more expensive than necessary, so I'm seeking out other options.

I use chalkboard paint on everything and have never had any issues. Flower pots, boards, picture frames, books... I would probably chalkboard paint my kids if need be. I use Martha Stewart's version, but I'm sure most work just the same.

kdsmith43 · January 2015

tyrannasaurusjess said:

kdsmith43 said:

tyrannasaurusjess said:

Random: for those of you who shop at, or could shop at a Publix, I envy you. We took the kids to Atlanta and stayed just north of Nashville on the way back. I had to get some stuff so that's where I went. I was in heaven!! The deli is amazing! The aisles were beautiful! Everyone was so friendly, and there was so much selection! I had to walk around the entire store-- I was in awe. H said I'd been gone like an hour and I only ran out for peanut butter and bread. I have considered driving 6 hours for groceries more than once since we've returned.

I live North of Nashville, where did you stay?

We stayed in Goodlettsville. We were hoping to make it a little farther but the kids had had enough of the car at that point.

Well, you were in my backyard! That is my local Publix. Glad you enjoyed it

Hyaline · January 2015

hmp1 said:

melody921 said:

hmp1 said:

melody921 said:

Anyone have a chalkboard (like the kind you'd hang in a kitchen)? I want to get one but the PB one seems more expensive than necessary, so I'm seeking out other options.

I made one. It floats around our house but is currently in the kitchen. I used the magnetic board from Ikea and covered it with chalkboard contact paper so I can use magnets on it too.
I have three of them but only covered one in chalkboard paper.
(google pic, not my house but these are the ones we have)

I've never heard of chalkboard contact paper! Would that be easier than making it without chalkboard paint?

I would imagine painting these boards would be hard because of the slick glossy surface. The contact paper was easy. I did have DH help a little to make sure I didn't get any bubbles. I have never used chalkboard paint but I have heard it takes multiple layers. The paper went on in a few minutes and I was done.
This is the one I bought. I also used it on their play table last year and it has held up great!
https://www.amazon.com/Con-Tact-Self-Adhesive-Chalkboard-18-Inch-6-Feet/dp/B000KKMO90

I believe you also have to pick either the magnet paint or the chalkboard paint--I think I read crafters' blogs who said that chalkboard paint cancelled the magnet effect if they tried to layer both. I don't know if it would cancel out the magnet board, but it might.

pharmer78 · January 2015

@tyrannasaurusjess, that little licky face of your daughter's on your siggy is so adorable! Makes me want to hand her an ice cream cone!

MRoxy0628 · January 2015

@dimples12 I totally understand and I think you trying to make changes (if you don't like the way it is) is all you can do. I think there are a lot of people who just accept something even if it's not the way they want it to be. I am thankful that my husband didn't have those expectations coming in.

On another topic, my cheeks are windburned from very minimal exposure to the cold. I'm annoyed by this, because not only do I probably look silly, but my cheeks feel warm.

kelbel527 · January 2015

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

@kelbel527's post hit home for me today. My DH is almost always the one to scrape the cars and get things ready to go by packing the cars in the morning. That said, even though he was busy doing that today, I was still grouchy with him bc he was not helping me at all before and after that to get the kids moving and out the door. When I told him I needed his cooperation in the morning, he got defensive.

I feel like sometimes we suck at communication. I say something, he takes offense. I ask for help, he points out all that he's already doing. It's not that I don't appreciate what he is doing (and I can admit that sometimes, yes, I need to back off a bit). But I feel like I get bogged down in so many stupid day-to-day tasks and I just need more help. We both work, we both care for the kids, but somehow I'm the one tasked with every errand from buying a bday gift to making sure we have paper towels. I handle the finances and all the communication/setting up of appointments with everyone from the daycare to the pedi to whatever repairman is needed. I guess I want a more even division of labor, but it's like he doesn't get how much time it's taking for me to handle this other BS.

Yes. All of this. 100%. DH has no idea how it feels to have to keep up with so many things. He will say he knows, but he really doesn't because I am thinking about things that aren't even on his radar. He's not worried about getting mini-pretzels for Maya's class or writing thank you notes for gifts or half a dozen other things that I do. He seems to think that the world stops turning while he is at work and he can only focus on that. If I did that, so many things would become unmanageable.

So what do you do @beebopandbuddy? I feel like this is a recurring point of contention for us bc every couple of months I snap and feel like I can't shoulder all this shit on my own anymore. But he goes into defensive/sarcastic mode with responses like "Well, if you think you do everything, than you just keep telling yourself that." It's like talking to a damn wall.

Also, I try not to suggest that I do everything, but just say, I'm doing a lot and that I think if he can do x,y,z specific tasks, it would help. DH likes if I tell him specifically what I need. That annoys me more than anything sometimes because I feel like he should know, but he doesn't, so, if I want the help, that's what I have to do. So annoying.

I'm just now getting back to this post. We have been working on this same issue for several years. I feel like we've hit a bit of a groove in the last year, but still don't have it down. At a minimum, we have less, "why don't you do anything?" fights. That's probably why I felt so shitty for being mad at him for not going above and beyond. I know he does a ton (which includes freezing his ass off 3-4 times a day to take the dogs out in the winter). So, I try to be as grateful as possible.

Division of labor has really helped for us. I often remind him that taking care of bills/money/appointments takes up more time than he realizes, but he offsets it by taking care of a lot of stuff around the house as well. We have an inside/outside rule. He does everything outside the house (cars, lawn, snow, garage, landscaping), and I am responsible for most inside (except laundry and day to day kitchen cleaning). I also do all bills/money stuff.

I often ask him to help make phone calls and set up appointments, but he does need to be reminded. He won't remember to buy a birthday gift or RSVP to a party, but if I ask, he'll usually do it. It's annoying that he doesn't keep all this stuff in his head like I do, but I've just learned to accept that and remind him when needed. Now, reminding also doesn't annoy him, so that helps.

We have a family email address and gmail calendar. We both get those emails sent to our phone and calendar on our phones. Anything I put on the family calendar pops up on his phone to remind him. We also get many school/house emails in our family account, so it helps us make sure we're both in the loop on things.

kelbel527 · January 2015

dimples12 said:

melody921 said:

MRoxy0628 said:

You all are so nice to get cards for your sister in-laws. It's on my husband to get gifts for his family members and I get gifts for mine, especially for birthdays, for Christmas we help each other out. I had a friend who would remind her husband to call his mother for her birthday and if she didn't, the husband would be miffed at her. I always think about what my husband did before we got together and if he could do it then, he can do it now.

I think we do an okay job of dividing up tasks around the house and I know there are times either of us get overwhelmed with all we have to do. I think sometimes it's hard to see what the other is doing to help the household run smoothly (at least in our case).

I need to remind myself of this. Same goes for all the bills. But it's like he's grown to expect that I'll handle it. Meanwhile, no way on earth would he think to purchase a gift/card for my relatives without my saying, "Hey, you need a bday card for my mom."

I know that you all's approach, @MRoxy0628‌, is healthier and my ideal. However, DH's family cycle is hard to break. His momma does everything almost and his dad works. When we are in, she waits on the boys hand and foot. DH knows not to expect that but he still doesn't volunteer to pitch in enough (because he is primary provider), or give me a break, or buy me a Mother's Day present (because I'm not his mom - his words). It's frustrating for sure. Each year, it gets a bit better as conversations happen, I stop reinforcing the cycle, etc. however, it's exhausting. I do send outlook appointments FTW. PS I'm on iPad, so forgive formatting and grammar. Please.

I thank God everyday that we've definitely broken the cycle of what DH grew up with. His Mom did everything. When we started dating, I was shocked to watch everyone get up from the dinner table without clearing a single thing from the table and just expected his Mom to do it. Once I voiced my opinion, DH started helping his mom more and it's just grown from there. He knew from the get-go that I was nothing like his Mom. (And I'm pretty sure she secretly judges me for it, but that's another story).

MarisaKathleen · January 2015

Every relationship is different. My DH and I each have specific "jobs" when it comes to house things. He does the things I don't want to do---take out the trash, clean cat box, most outdoor maintenance things, etc. I cook, do the laundry, pay all of our household bills (except our mortgage and his car...those are his bills) and schedule appointments, babysitters, etc. We never had a conversation about any of these things, they just sort of happened and we've stuck with them.

I'm lucky that my DH is for the most part very thoughtful. If I'm parked outside, he'll move my car into the garage before he goes to work. He always carries the hampers up the 2 flights of stairs so I don't have to & he always gets up and gets me ice cream after the kids go to bed if I'm buried under a pile of cats. He doesn't do things like buy flowers at random, or schedule big, romantic dates, but I really appreciate the little things he does.

BeebopandBuddy · January 2015

kelbel527 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

@kelbel527's post hit home for me today. My DH is almost always the one to scrape the cars and get things ready to go by packing the cars in the morning. That said, even though he was busy doing that today, I was still grouchy with him bc he was not helping me at all before and after that to get the kids moving and out the door. When I told him I needed his cooperation in the morning, he got defensive.

I feel like sometimes we suck at communication. I say something, he takes offense. I ask for help, he points out all that he's already doing. It's not that I don't appreciate what he is doing (and I can admit that sometimes, yes, I need to back off a bit). But I feel like I get bogged down in so many stupid day-to-day tasks and I just need more help. We both work, we both care for the kids, but somehow I'm the one tasked with every errand from buying a bday gift to making sure we have paper towels. I handle the finances and all the communication/setting up of appointments with everyone from the daycare to the pedi to whatever repairman is needed. I guess I want a more even division of labor, but it's like he doesn't get how much time it's taking for me to handle this other BS.

Yes. All of this. 100%. DH has no idea how it feels to have to keep up with so many things. He will say he knows, but he really doesn't because I am thinking about things that aren't even on his radar. He's not worried about getting mini-pretzels for Maya's class or writing thank you notes for gifts or half a dozen other things that I do. He seems to think that the world stops turning while he is at work and he can only focus on that. If I did that, so many things would become unmanageable.

So what do you do @beebopandbuddy? I feel like this is a recurring point of contention for us bc every couple of months I snap and feel like I can't shoulder all this shit on my own anymore. But he goes into defensive/sarcastic mode with responses like "Well, if you think you do everything, than you just keep telling yourself that." It's like talking to a damn wall.

Also, I try not to suggest that I do everything, but just say, I'm doing a lot and that I think if he can do x,y,z specific tasks, it would help. DH likes if I tell him specifically what I need. That annoys me more than anything sometimes because I feel like he should know, but he doesn't, so, if I want the help, that's what I have to do. So annoying.

I'm just now getting back to this post. We have been working on this same issue for several years. I feel like we've hit a bit of a groove in the last year, but still don't have it down. At a minimum, we have less, "why don't you do anything?" fights. That's probably why I felt so shitty for being mad at him for not going above and beyond. I know he does a ton (which includes freezing his ass off 3-4 times a day to take the dogs out in the winter). So, I try to be as grateful as possible.

Division of labor has really helped for us. I often remind him that taking care of bills/money/appointments takes up more time than he realizes, but he offsets it by taking care of a lot of stuff around the house as well. We have an inside/outside rule. He does everything outside the house (cars, lawn, snow, garage, landscaping), and I am responsible for most inside (except laundry and day to day kitchen cleaning). I also do all bills/money stuff.

I often ask him to help make phone calls and set up appointments, but he does need to be reminded. He won't remember to buy a birthday gift or RSVP to a party, but if I ask, he'll usually do it. It's annoying that he doesn't keep all this stuff in his head like I do, but I've just learned to accept that and remind him when needed. Now, reminding also doesn't annoy him, so that helps.

We have a family email address and gmail calendar. We both get those emails sent to our phone and calendar on our phones. Anything I put on the family calendar pops up on his phone to remind him. We also get many school/house emails in our family account, so it helps us make sure we're both in the loop on things.

This post sent up a flag for me because, in a lot of cases, my irritation comes from me being overwhelmed, but it also comes from me feeling like he doesn't appreciate it/isn't grateful/takes it for granted. It has become so ingrained (sp?) that I will take care of all of these things and I get frustrated that everything is mine by default and only his by choice or assignment.

willy_gert · January 2015

melody921 said:

willy_gert said:

You guys will get a kick out of this..... Guess who sent me a friend request on Facebook yesterday?
FIL
I asked DH if I looked dumb recently. He said he didn't think so and then asked me why. I told him that his dad asked me to be his facebook friend. He didn't find it as funny as I did.

So did you accept?

No, No I did not!

kelbel527 · January 2015

MarisaKathleen said:

I'm lucky that my DH is for the most part very thoughtful. If I'm parked outside, he'll move my car into the garage before he goes to work. He always carries the hampers up the 2 flights of stairs so I don't have to & he always gets up and gets me ice cream after the kids go to bed if I'm buried under a pile of cats. He doesn't do things like buy flowers at random, or schedule big, romantic dates, but I really appreciate the little things he does.

This is totally us. He will never do any grand gestures. But he will let me sleep in on a Saturday morning (trying to keep the kids quiet), or grab a bottle of my favorite wine at the store, or clear off my car at work. In the last year, I've worked really hard on thanking him more frequently for the little things, so he hopefully continues to do them.

kelbel527 · January 2015

BeebopandBuddy said:

This post sent up a flag for me because, in a lot of cases, my irritation comes from me being overwhelmed, but it also comes from me feeling like he doesn't appreciate it/isn't grateful/takes it for granted. It has become so ingrained (sp?) that I will take care of all of these things and I get frustrated that everything is mine by default and only his by choice or assignment.

I would talk to him about this. I've made a point of acting more grateful for those things, because he said something once in a fight that really hit home and made me realize that I do take these things for granted. DH is way better at appreciating me. He often says things like, "you're a super mom" or "awesome wife." It's usually in passing, but it means a lot.

Tell your DH that it would mean a lot of he showed appreciation for what you do and it of course goes both ways. It's so easy to get in a rut when you're used to each other always doing the same things.

kelbel527 · January 2015

@pharmer78 - You've given me hope today. Age 4 was totally a continuation of 3 which was worse than 2. Brody turns 5 in 15 days, and I have seen some improvement over the last month, but I am praying that 5 is our turning point!!

melody921 · January 2015

BeebopandBuddy said:

kelbel527 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

This post sent up a flag for me because, in a lot of cases, my irritation comes from me being overwhelmed, but it also comes from me feeling like he doesn't appreciate it/isn't grateful/takes it for granted. It has become so ingrained (sp?) that I will take care of all of these things and I get frustrated that everything is mine by default and only his by choice or assignment.

This about sums it up. I know I'm very fortunate that DH is hands on with the kids and helps with cooking/dishes/laundry. But when it comes to other "jobs," errands, etc., he doesn't even think about it. Now that I really think about it, I can see that we never shifted anything when I went from working part-time to full-time. I kept all the same tasks and running around that I used to get done on my two days off with DS.

melody921 · January 2015

@MarisaKathleen love the new siggy! What cuties.

kelbel527 · January 2015

Speaking of DH's not doing things...

Mine forgot to call school to let them know that Brody was sick and wouldn't be coming in today.

Now I'm trying to decide if I should be annoyed that it took them until 1pm to contact us. What if something had happened??

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

What's up. @BobKat22‌ glad you went in! Hope all goes well!

They had to do a stress test today for the baby. All seems ok but she is low on the number of heartbeat accelerations she is supposed to have. I have to go in tomorrow for another monitoring session. I had 17 missed calls when I came out! I am exhausted and all I want to do is take a nap. I am telling myself I can close my eyes for 20 min but I ate way too much for lunch and it hurts to lay down. Damnit me, QUIT EATING SO MUCH.

kelbel527 · January 2015

tinyhumantoe said:

What's up. @BobKat22‌ glad you went in! Hope all goes well! They had to do a stress test today for the baby. All seems ok but she is low on the number of heartbeat accelerations she is supposed to have. I have to go in tomorrow for another monitoring session. I had 17 missed calls when I came out! I am exhausted and all I want to do is take a nap. I am telling myself I can close my eyes for 20 min but I ate way too much for lunch and it hurts to lay down. Damnit me, QUIT EATING SO MUCH.

Hope everything is ok! And try to get some rest!

tyrannasaurusjess · January 2015

pharmer78 said:

@tyrannasaurusjess, that little licky face of your daughter's on your siggy is so adorable! Makes me want to hand her an ice cream cone!

If you gave her an ice cream cone, I assure you she would not lick it as gracefully as that picture shows. It'd be everywhere in 0.2 seconds.

But she is awfully cute

And this is basically the only face she makes all day!

pharmer78 · January 2015

melody921 said:

@MarisaKathleen love the new siggy! What cuties.

I was thinking the same thing!

MarisaKathleen · January 2015

It's only 1:50 on Tuesday. I don't even have anything else to waste time on this week. I've edited & futzed with my pictures from Christmas, solved the only student issues I had, paid bills, sent out the email invites for our annual baseball game, and used all my lives in Soda Saga.

At least tomorrow and Thursday I have quite a few meetings.

I got so into the Valentine's day thread that I started looking for valentine's to make on Pinterest before I realized:

1. I have no need for any of them

2. Unless I'm bringing a project to work, I have no time to make anything at home

3. By the time Nancy is in school and will need these, I can't imagine the restrictions they'll have. No nuts, no wheat, no red40, no candy, no cupcakes, etc. and I get sad.

hmp1 · January 2015

MarisaKathleen said:

It's only 1:50 on Tuesday. I don't even have anything else to waste time on this week. I've edited & futzed with my pictures from Christmas, solved the only student issues I had, paid bills, sent out the email invites for our annual baseball game, and used all my lives in Soda Saga.

At least tomorrow and Thursday I have quite a few meetings.

I got so into the Valentine's day thread that I started looking for valentine's to make on Pinterest before I realized:
1. I have no need for any of them
2. Unless I'm bringing a project to work, I have no time to make anything at home
3. By the time Nancy is in school and will need these, I can't imagine the restrictions they'll have. No nuts, no wheat, no red40, no candy, no cupcakes, etc. and I get sad.

DH is out of town so at night I have been picking out Easter basket stuff. We don't really do Valentine gifts to the kids but I was thinking about getting them some cute slippers this year so I wasted some time looking for those too.

Pokedot · January 2015

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

It's only 1:50 on Tuesday. I don't even have anything else to waste time on this week. I've edited & futzed with my pictures from Christmas, solved the only student issues I had, paid bills, sent out the email invites for our annual baseball game, and used all my lives in Soda Saga.

At least tomorrow and Thursday I have quite a few meetings.

I got so into the Valentine's day thread that I started looking for valentine's to make on Pinterest before I realized:
1. I have no need for any of them
2. Unless I'm bringing a project to work, I have no time to make anything at home
3. By the time Nancy is in school and will need these, I can't imagine the restrictions they'll have. No nuts, no wheat, no red40, no candy, no cupcakes, etc. and I get sad.

DH is out of town so at night I have been picking out Easter basket stuff. We don't really do Valentine gifts to the kids but I was thinking about getting them some cute slippers this year so I wasted some time looking for those too.

I don't even know what month Easter is in this year...

AlinnJo · January 2015

@redneckmomma25‌ I am right there with you. Quinn was up for 2 hours last night just laying awake in the chair with me. I tried to put her back in her crib and she started freaking out. As we payed there I just kept wondering over and over again what will happen when we have a newborn. I've always been the one to get up at night since I SAH and was breastfeeding. She doesn't want my H. She wants me. it gives me anxiety.

hmp1 · January 2015

Pokedot said:

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

It's only 1:50 on Tuesday. I don't even have anything else to waste time on this week. I've edited & futzed with my pictures from Christmas, solved the only student issues I had, paid bills, sent out the email invites for our annual baseball game, and used all my lives in Soda Saga.

At least tomorrow and Thursday I have quite a few meetings.

I got so into the Valentine's day thread that I started looking for valentine's to make on Pinterest before I realized:
1. I have no need for any of them
2. Unless I'm bringing a project to work, I have no time to make anything at home
3. By the time Nancy is in school and will need these, I can't imagine the restrictions they'll have. No nuts, no wheat, no red40, no candy, no cupcakes, etc. and I get sad.

DH is out of town so at night I have been picking out Easter basket stuff. We don't really do Valentine gifts to the kids but I was thinking about getting them some cute slippers this year so I wasted some time looking for those too.

I don't even know what month Easter is in this year...

I don't either, I just know it is the next thing to buy for and I get bored at night. I spent too much on pre-orders for spring/summer stuff so I need to do something shopping related that isn't actually spending money for my fix

kelbel527 · January 2015

redneckmomma25 said:

I woke up in the middle of the night in an absolute panic over having two kids. I just don't know how I will be able to handle it. I really need to work on myself over the next couple months. I just don't know how I will have enough patience for two kids. I know asking for help and whatever you need to do for DD. I don't know. Feel like I am just not going to be able to be a good mother for a while.

I was terrified of having two kids. I wasn't sure if I had enough patience, love and energy for two little boys. I was definitely in survival mode for quite awhile. 2+ years later, both kids are alive and thriving. So I haven't screwed up too bad yet!

(Easier said than done) But try not to worry about it right now. Just take as much you-time as possible and enjoy one on one time with G before your little guy arrives. You'll do great with 2.0 - and when if it gets overwhelming, ask for help!

melody921 · January 2015

Pokedot said:

hmp1 said:

MarisaKathleen said:

It's only 1:50 on Tuesday. I don't even have anything else to waste time on this week. I've edited & futzed with my pictures from Christmas, solved the only student issues I had, paid bills, sent out the email invites for our annual baseball game, and used all my lives in Soda Saga.

At least tomorrow and Thursday I have quite a few meetings.

I got so into the Valentine's day thread that I started looking for valentine's to make on Pinterest before I realized:
1. I have no need for any of them
2. Unless I'm bringing a project to work, I have no time to make anything at home
3. By the time Nancy is in school and will need these, I can't imagine the restrictions they'll have. No nuts, no wheat, no red40, no candy, no cupcakes, etc. and I get sad.

DH is out of town so at night I have been picking out Easter basket stuff. We don't really do Valentine gifts to the kids but I was thinking about getting them some cute slippers this year so I wasted some time looking for those too.

I don't even know what month Easter is in this year...

April 5

AKB090609 · January 2015

hmp1 said:

AKB090609 said:

melody921 said:

AKB090609 said:

Guys, there is ice on DD's bedroom floor; inside, heat is on no liquids/pipes are present in the room. Do I make the kids share the other bedroom? Why does odd stuff only happen when DH is OOT?

Does the room feel cold? That's so strange. I'd probably double them up until you can figure out where it came from.

MarisaKathleen said:

AKB090609 said:

Guys, there is ice on DD's bedroom floor; inside, heat is on no liquids/pipes are present in the room. Do I make the kids share the other bedroom? Why does odd stuff only happen when DH is OOT?

That's weird! I'd make them share the other room until DH gets back. Or until it warms up, which might be by July...

Her room is unfortunately the coldest in the house because it is over the garage, we have the heat cranked up to 68 at not because of it, but the fact that her floor is more than 30 degrees colder is crazy. I guess I'll just put her mattress on the floor of DD2's room for tonight.

Add this to reasons I want a new house!

Sorry, that sucks. But cranked up to 68 made me laugh since that seems really cold to me. I crank our heat down to 69 at night and last night I bumped it up to 70 because I was cold. Our playroom is over our garage and it is noticeably colder in the winter too. Are you comfortable putting a heater in her room at night?

Before we had kids wr kept the house at 62 at night 'so the pipes wouldn't freeze' DH is stingy with the heat...

I worry that she will get burned (or burn the house down) with a space heater, but I think I will give one a try and see if she can leave it alone.

Hyaline · January 2015

I feel productive...I started painting the guest bedroom.

I primed one wall and one door.

Three walls, two doors, and three windows to go.

Oh, and then painting.

But when I only have DD's nap to work with, it's gonna be a long project. I'm considering hiring a sitter for Saturday morning so I can knock out a bigger chunk.

Hyaline · January 2015

kelbel527 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

This post sent up a flag for me because, in a lot of cases, my irritation comes from me being overwhelmed, but it also comes from me feeling like he doesn't appreciate it/isn't grateful/takes it for granted. It has become so ingrained (sp?) that I will take care of all of these things and I get frustrated that everything is mine by default and only his by choice or assignment.

I would talk to him about this. I've made a point of acting more grateful for those things, because he said something once in a fight that really hit home and made me realize that I do take these things for granted. DH is way better at appreciating me. He often says things like, "you're a super mom" or "awesome wife." It's usually in passing, but it means a lot.

Tell your DH that it would mean a lot of he showed appreciation for what you do and it of course goes both ways. It's so easy to get in a rut when you're used to each other always doing the same things.

I'm sure you've read that "If You're the Default Parent" article that floated around the facebookwebs, but if not--it's kinda nail on the head for our housework and parenting split. DH read it (without me asking him to or pointing it out) and stopped in the middle to come find me and thank me.

Which was nice.

But I feel like we could still do better on not "defaulting" to me for all the cooking, cleaning, bill-paying, gift-buying, household need attending stuff. DH helps when I ask about a specific task, but if I suggest that our divide could maybe be addressed, he gets really defensive because he reads it as "You don't do anything." No, he does a lot--but there's a lot more that needs to be done.

PenelopePond · January 2015

Hopefully I will go back and catch up on all of this.

The last couple weeks have really made me realize how much staying home really sucks the life out of me. It's pathetic. I've been taking naps everyday and I'm still exhausted. I have no motivation, and rarely get anything done. I have no idea how I did this for so many years. It allowed me to be so unnecessarily lazy. Class starts back on Thursday, so hopefully I'll come back out of zombie mode.

Sean had his first day of daycare today (or "cool" if you ask him(school)). I was so worried because he's a rough and tough kid. He's not too good at going down for naps, and he can be a picky eater. Apparently he at all of his lunch (and he was the cleanest), he took a nap with no problem, and he played really well with the other kids. I know it was only the first day, so it could all change, but for now I'm so relieved.

redneckmomma25 · January 2015

Easter is April 5th. I'm due April 9th. I need to make sure I have basket stuff ready for Grace a head of time! Never even thought of that. Also, Easter is normally held at my SIL's which is an hour from my house....hour and 20 minutes from the hospital. Never considered that either.

MommaP12 · January 2015

@Melody921 if you want a "fancy" chalkboard, check TJMaxx/Homegoods/Marshalls. I saw some there that had nice frames around them but we already have a corkboard in our kitchen so I passed.

However, I went to Ikea a couple weeks and have something to return so I'll be buying the magnetic board @hmp1 has and contact papering it for our playroom!

We are finally getting our second floor set! the entire floor is getting painted - all three bedrooms, the stairwell, and the play area and we'll be moving into the rooms and finally get organized after living here about 7 months. The kids really need their own rooms and I need the playroom set up so my first floor can be for grownups only. I spent way too much at Ikea and the Container store last week, but my sanity has no price, right??

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

Ermahgerd DH just picked W up from daycare almost an hour early and is dropping her off and going back to work late (he has the 4wd truck). So no heads up that my already short work day is getting a toddler thrown in early! Blah!

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

@redneckmoma25 I freaked out for a little while too, I forget at what point in my pregnancy. Now I have some huge delusion that I'm going to be a pro. I'm sure I'll freak out again in 3 weeks haha

hmp1 · January 2015

tinyhumantoe said:

@redneckmoma25 I freaked out for a little while too, I forget at what point in my pregnancy. Now I have some huge delusion that I'm going to be a pro. I'm sure I'll freak out again in 3 weeks haha

Once you get past the point of worrying that #1 will kill #2 if they are left in the same room without you, it gets a lot easier

My kids really are the best of friends and it is so great on Saturday mornings when I can sit back on the couch and sip my coffee while they play with each other.

redneckmomma25 · January 2015

I'm more worried about that first really hard sleep deprived month before your body adjusts. I'm worried about not having the patience I need to give G and a NB. I know I have to do it. I have no choice but I'm pretty stressed about it. G is also just in about terrible 2 stage so she's difficult at the moment. It's hard to see being able to deal with a nb with how she is at the moment.

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

hmp1 said:

tinyhumantoe said:

@redneckmoma25 I freaked out for a little while too, I forget at what point in my pregnancy. Now I have some huge delusion that I'm going to be a pro. I'm sure I'll freak out again in 3 weeks haha

Once you get past the point of worrying that #1 will kill #2 if they are left in the same room without you, it gets a lot easier My kids really are the best of friends and it is so great on Saturday mornings when I can sit back on the couch and sip my coffee while they play with each other.

I am most looking forward to this!! How old was J when you had L?

27boo · January 2015

I am already worried about going back to work after little brother is here. I went back at 6 wks with Aria and it was very hard, but I was so tired at that point that I think I was just in a daze. This time, I won't be going back until just over 4 months and I'm scared that I will have a much harder time handling it.

kelbel527 · January 2015

27boo said:

I am already worried about going back to work after little brother is here. I went back at 6 wks with Aria and it was very hard, but I was so tired at that point that I think I was just in a daze. This time, I won't be going back until just over 4 months and I'm scared that I will have a much harder time handling it.

I had a much harder time going back the second time. Leaving two kids was tough and after 3 months I had finally gotten into a little bit of a groove with the boys. That said, it didn't take long to get back into the routine of working with the kids in daycare. 4 months will be an awesome maternity leave!!

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