Tuesday tomfoolery

BeebopandBuddy

melody921 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

@kelbel527's post hit home for me today. My DH is almost always the one to scrape the cars and get things ready to go by packing the cars in the morning. That said, even though he was busy doing that today, I was still grouchy with him bc he was not helping me at all before and after that to get the kids moving and out the door. When I told him I needed his cooperation in the morning, he got defensive.

I feel like sometimes we suck at communication. I say something, he takes offense. I ask for help, he points out all that he's already doing. It's not that I don't appreciate what he is doing (and I can admit that sometimes, yes, I need to back off a bit). But I feel like I get bogged down in so many stupid day-to-day tasks and I just need more help. We both work, we both care for the kids, but somehow I'm the one tasked with every errand from buying a bday gift to making sure we have paper towels. I handle the finances and all the communication/setting up of appointments with everyone from the daycare to the pedi to whatever repairman is needed. I guess I want a more even division of labor, but it's like he doesn't get how much time it's taking for me to handle this other BS.

Yes.  All of this.  100%.  DH has no idea how it feels to have to keep up with so many things.  He will say he knows, but he really doesn't because I am thinking about things that aren't even on his radar.  He's not worried about getting mini-pretzels for Maya's class or writing thank you notes for gifts or half a dozen other things that I do.  He seems to think that the world stops turning while he is at work and he can only focus on that.  If I did that, so many things would become unmanageable.

So what do you do @beebopandbuddy? I feel like this is a recurring point of contention for us bc every couple of months I snap and feel like I can't shoulder all this shit on my own anymore. But he goes into defensive/sarcastic mode with responses like "Well, if you think you do everything, than you just keep telling yourself that." It's like talking to a damn wall.

I try to make myself a to-do list and keep it in a common place (the kitchen island), where we can both see it.  I try to write the things I need to do on it, even the small ones.  That way, when something comes up that I think he should really be willing to do or volunteer for, I can have something physically there showing what's on my plate and it makes it a little easier to push it onto his.  It doesn't work all the time and I still end up doing the bulk, but it does come in handy.  If your H would do a common calendar app like Cozi, that would be a good way to pass things back and forth.  Mine refuses to look at it.  I think that if verbal communication isn't working, a visual can sometimes be a good option.

melody921

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

@kelbel527's post hit home for me today. My DH is almost always the one to scrape the cars and get things ready to go by packing the cars in the morning. That said, even though he was busy doing that today, I was still grouchy with him bc he was not helping me at all before and after that to get the kids moving and out the door. When I told him I needed his cooperation in the morning, he got defensive.

I feel like sometimes we suck at communication. I say something, he takes offense. I ask for help, he points out all that he's already doing. It's not that I don't appreciate what he is doing (and I can admit that sometimes, yes, I need to back off a bit). But I feel like I get bogged down in so many stupid day-to-day tasks and I just need more help. We both work, we both care for the kids, but somehow I'm the one tasked with every errand from buying a bday gift to making sure we have paper towels. I handle the finances and all the communication/setting up of appointments with everyone from the daycare to the pedi to whatever repairman is needed. I guess I want a more even division of labor, but it's like he doesn't get how much time it's taking for me to handle this other BS.

Yes.  All of this.  100%.  DH has no idea how it feels to have to keep up with so many things.  He will say he knows, but he really doesn't because I am thinking about things that aren't even on his radar.  He's not worried about getting mini-pretzels for Maya's class or writing thank you notes for gifts or half a dozen other things that I do.  He seems to think that the world stops turning while he is at work and he can only focus on that.  If I did that, so many things would become unmanageable.

So what do you do @beebopandbuddy? I feel like this is a recurring point of contention for us bc every couple of months I snap and feel like I can't shoulder all this shit on my own anymore. But he goes into defensive/sarcastic mode with responses like "Well, if you think you do everything, than you just keep telling yourself that." It's like talking to a damn wall.

I try to make myself a to-do list and keep it in a common place (the kitchen island), where we can both see it.  I try to write the things I need to do on it, even the small ones.  That way, when something comes up that I think he should really be willing to do or volunteer for, I can have something physically there showing what's on my plate and it makes it a little easier to push it onto his.  It doesn't work all the time and I still end up doing the bulk, but it does come in handy.  If your H would do a common calendar app like Cozi, that would be a good way to pass things back and forth.  Mine refuses to look at it.  I think that if verbal communication isn't working, a visual can sometimes be a good option.

He might be willing to do the common app. I don't want to have to remind him of stuff though. That's what annoys me even more than doing stuff on my own is if he says he'll pick up a bday card for SIL and then doesn't do it. We need a sit-down organizational meeting.

BeebopandBuddy

melody921 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

@kelbel527's post hit home for me today. My DH is almost always the one to scrape the cars and get things ready to go by packing the cars in the morning. That said, even though he was busy doing that today, I was still grouchy with him bc he was not helping me at all before and after that to get the kids moving and out the door. When I told him I needed his cooperation in the morning, he got defensive.

I feel like sometimes we suck at communication. I say something, he takes offense. I ask for help, he points out all that he's already doing. It's not that I don't appreciate what he is doing (and I can admit that sometimes, yes, I need to back off a bit). But I feel like I get bogged down in so many stupid day-to-day tasks and I just need more help. We both work, we both care for the kids, but somehow I'm the one tasked with every errand from buying a bday gift to making sure we have paper towels. I handle the finances and all the communication/setting up of appointments with everyone from the daycare to the pedi to whatever repairman is needed. I guess I want a more even division of labor, but it's like he doesn't get how much time it's taking for me to handle this other BS.

Yes.  All of this.  100%.  DH has no idea how it feels to have to keep up with so many things.  He will say he knows, but he really doesn't because I am thinking about things that aren't even on his radar.  He's not worried about getting mini-pretzels for Maya's class or writing thank you notes for gifts or half a dozen other things that I do.  He seems to think that the world stops turning while he is at work and he can only focus on that.  If I did that, so many things would become unmanageable.

So what do you do @beebopandbuddy? I feel like this is a recurring point of contention for us bc every couple of months I snap and feel like I can't shoulder all this shit on my own anymore. But he goes into defensive/sarcastic mode with responses like "Well, if you think you do everything, than you just keep telling yourself that." It's like talking to a damn wall.

Also, I try not to suggest that I do everything, but just say, I'm doing a lot and that I think if he can do x,y,z specific tasks, it would help.  DH likes if I tell him specifically what I need.  That annoys me more than anything sometimes because I feel like he should know, but he doesn't, so, if I want the help, that's what I have to do.  So annoying.

tyrannasaurusjess

Random: for those of you who shop at, or could shop at a Publix, I envy you. We took the kids to Atlanta and stayed just north of Nashville on the way back. I had to get some stuff so that's where I went. I was in heaven!! The deli is amazing! The aisles were beautiful! Everyone was so friendly, and there was so much selection! I had to walk around the entire store-- I was in awe. H said I'd been gone like an hour and I only ran out for peanut butter and bread. I have considered driving 6 hours for groceries more than once since we've returned.

hmp1

melody921 said:

Good morning, ladies! It's snowing here, so I start this day with a super important question: Does anyone own Sorel boots, and are they worth the price tag? Wondering if this is something I'll spring for next year as some of the styles are adorable.

I have a pair, the Caribou. I bought them last year online for our trip to MI and wanted something timeless as I will wear them like once a year and want them to last forever, lol. They didn't have my size when I ordered them so I sized up half size. Mistake, they are really big and they are heavy. I do like them though.

I shouldn't have hopped on their website to grab the pic. Now I want these.

melody921

hmp1 said:

melody921 said:

Good morning, ladies! It's snowing here, so I start this day with a super important question: Does anyone own Sorel boots, and are they worth the price tag? Wondering if this is something I'll spring for next year as some of the styles are adorable.

I have a pair, the Caribou. I bought them last year online for our trip to MI and wanted something timeless as I will wear them like once a year and want them to last forever, lol. They didn't have my size when I ordered them so I sized up half size. Mistake, they are really big and they are heavy. I do like them though.

I shouldn't have hopped on their website to grab the pic. Now I want these.

I want those second ones too! So cute.

Pokedot

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

@kelbel527's post hit home for me today. My DH is almost always the one to scrape the cars and get things ready to go by packing the cars in the morning. That said, even though he was busy doing that today, I was still grouchy with him bc he was not helping me at all before and after that to get the kids moving and out the door. When I told him I needed his cooperation in the morning, he got defensive.

I feel like sometimes we suck at communication. I say something, he takes offense. I ask for help, he points out all that he's already doing. It's not that I don't appreciate what he is doing (and I can admit that sometimes, yes, I need to back off a bit). But I feel like I get bogged down in so many stupid day-to-day tasks and I just need more help. We both work, we both care for the kids, but somehow I'm the one tasked with every errand from buying a bday gift to making sure we have paper towels. I handle the finances and all the communication/setting up of appointments with everyone from the daycare to the pedi to whatever repairman is needed. I guess I want a more even division of labor, but it's like he doesn't get how much time it's taking for me to handle this other BS.

Yes.  All of this.  100%.  DH has no idea how it feels to have to keep up with so many things.  He will say he knows, but he really doesn't because I am thinking about things that aren't even on his radar.  He's not worried about getting mini-pretzels for Maya's class or writing thank you notes for gifts or half a dozen other things that I do.  He seems to think that the world stops turning while he is at work and he can only focus on that.  If I did that, so many things would become unmanageable.

I feel the same way. Women are just multitaskers, men are clearly not. At  least not my DH. While I love him to pieces and he truly tries his best he has NO idea what I do on a daily basis to keep our family running smoothly. He'd lose it crap if he had to do it for one day.

BeebopandBuddy

melody921 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

@kelbel527's post hit home for me today. My DH is almost always the one to scrape the cars and get things ready to go by packing the cars in the morning. That said, even though he was busy doing that today, I was still grouchy with him bc he was not helping me at all before and after that to get the kids moving and out the door. When I told him I needed his cooperation in the morning, he got defensive.

I feel like sometimes we suck at communication. I say something, he takes offense. I ask for help, he points out all that he's already doing. It's not that I don't appreciate what he is doing (and I can admit that sometimes, yes, I need to back off a bit). But I feel like I get bogged down in so many stupid day-to-day tasks and I just need more help. We both work, we both care for the kids, but somehow I'm the one tasked with every errand from buying a bday gift to making sure we have paper towels. I handle the finances and all the communication/setting up of appointments with everyone from the daycare to the pedi to whatever repairman is needed. I guess I want a more even division of labor, but it's like he doesn't get how much time it's taking for me to handle this other BS.

Yes.  All of this.  100%.  DH has no idea how it feels to have to keep up with so many things.  He will say he knows, but he really doesn't because I am thinking about things that aren't even on his radar.  He's not worried about getting mini-pretzels for Maya's class or writing thank you notes for gifts or half a dozen other things that I do.  He seems to think that the world stops turning while he is at work and he can only focus on that.  If I did that, so many things would become unmanageable.

So what do you do @beebopandbuddy? I feel like this is a recurring point of contention for us bc every couple of months I snap and feel like I can't shoulder all this shit on my own anymore. But he goes into defensive/sarcastic mode with responses like "Well, if you think you do everything, than you just keep telling yourself that." It's like talking to a damn wall.

I try to make myself a to-do list and keep it in a common place (the kitchen island), where we can both see it.  I try to write the things I need to do on it, even the small ones.  That way, when something comes up that I think he should really be willing to do or volunteer for, I can have something physically there showing what's on my plate and it makes it a little easier to push it onto his.  It doesn't work all the time and I still end up doing the bulk, but it does come in handy.  If your H would do a common calendar app like Cozi, that would be a good way to pass things back and forth.  Mine refuses to look at it.  I think that if verbal communication isn't working, a visual can sometimes be a good option.

He might be willing to do the common app. I don't want to have to remind him of stuff though. That's what annoys me even more than doing stuff on my own is if he says he'll pick up a bday card for SIL and then doesn't do it. We need a sit-down organizational meeting.

I agree and I've tried to explain this to my H.  I'll ask him to do something and he says "Yeah, sure, just remind me on Thursday."  If I have to remind you then it is still on my plate.  Sometimes I make him set his own Outlook reminder on the stupid phone he is always staring at.  I think the full version of the app lets you set automatic reminders, like Outlook.  I'm really annoyed that my H won't do it and I'm definitely going to push it more when the kids get older. 

kdsmith43

tyrannasaurusjess said:

Random: for those of you who shop at, or could shop at a Publix, I envy you. We took the kids to Atlanta and stayed just north of Nashville on the way back. I had to get some stuff so that's where I went. I was in heaven!! The deli is amazing! The aisles were beautiful! Everyone was so friendly, and there was so much selection! I had to walk around the entire store-- I was in awe. H said I'd been gone like an hour and I only ran out for peanut butter and bread. I have considered driving 6 hours for groceries more than once since we've returned.

I live North of Nashville, where did you stay?

hmp1

MRoxy0628 said:

Yes, I have Sorels.  I just got them this year as a Christmas gift.  I used to just wear Uggs, but like others wanted some sturdy boots for sledding and playing outside with Lily.  The ones I have are huge and heavy, but I still think they look cute.  These are the ones I have:  https://www.sorel.com/womens-caribou-boot-NL1005.html?dwvar_NL1005_variationColor=281#q=caribou&start=2

eta: link

Should have kept reading, ha. Those are the ones I have too and they are so heavy!

AKB090609

melody921 said:

AKB090609 said:

Guys, there is ice on DD's bedroom floor; inside, heat is on no liquids/pipes are present in the room. Do I make the kids share the other bedroom? Why does odd stuff only happen when DH is OOT?

Does the room feel cold? That's so strange. I'd probably double them up until you can figure out where it came from.

MarisaKathleen said:

AKB090609 said:

Guys, there is ice on DD's bedroom floor; inside, heat is on no liquids/pipes are present in the room. Do I make the kids share the other bedroom? Why does odd stuff only happen when DH is OOT?

That's weird!  I'd make them share the other room until DH gets back.  Or until it warms up, which might be by July...

Her room is unfortunately the coldest in the house because it is over the garage, we have the heat cranked up to 68 at not because of it, but the fact that her floor is more than 30 degrees colder is crazy. I guess I'll just put her mattress on the floor of DD2's room for tonight.

Add this to reasons I want a new house!

melody921

Anyone have a chalkboard (like the kind you'd hang in a kitchen)? I want to get one but the PB one seems more expensive than necessary, so I'm seeking out other options.

hmp1

BobKat22 said:

My new years resolution has really ruined my bump time. I don't even know what Sore boots are. We don't get much snow. That ER trip I made that I decided was gas... actually was a severely diseased gallbladder. Surgery is soon to come. I don't have time for that crap! Or the money.

Oh no! T&P.

AKB090609

melody921 said:

Anyone have a chalkboard (like the kind you'd hang in a kitchen)? I want to get one but the PB one seems more expensive than necessary, so I'm seeking out other options.

We have a small (10x12) one from target, it came with legs to be freestanding or adhesive to put on a wall. They were near the dry erase boards.

hmp1

BeebopandBuddy said:

I had a terrible mom fail moment with Maya this morning.  I swear every damn thing is a fight.  I tried to avoid it by letting her wear a dress even though it's 28 degrees outside.  I got out her cable-knit tights, and a sweater.  Of course, she was over the moon about the dress but when I told her she had to wear the sweater and put socks on over her tights, she had a huge kicking meltdown.  I may have yelled "I'm so damn tired of fighting with you!".  I then had to leave her room and close the door because I was so angry.  She flipped and started screaming.  I had to give everyone a few minutes to cool off.  It was awful.  I did make up with her and do hugs and everything, but it definitely wasn't my proudest moment.

Oh, and then Ethan pooped as I was putting his coat on.  This morning sucked.

3 was a terrible year around here. The week of his 4th birthday was like a switch and he has been a different child since. FX for the same in your house!

BeebopandBuddy

melody921 said:

Anyone have a chalkboard (like the kind you'd hang in a kitchen)? I want to get one but the PB one seems more expensive than necessary, so I'm seeking out other options.

They had some cute ones at Michael's a while back.  Not sure what size you're looking for...

MRoxy0628

You all are so nice to get cards for your sister in-laws.  It's on my husband to get gifts for his family members and I get gifts for mine, especially for birthdays, for Christmas we help each other out.  I had a friend who would remind her husband to call his mother for her birthday and if she didn't, the husband would be miffed at her.  I always think about what my husband did before we got together and if he could do it then, he can do it now. 

I think we do an okay job of dividing up tasks around the house and I know there are times either of us get overwhelmed with all we have to do.  I think sometimes it's hard to see what the other is doing to help the household run smoothly (at least in our case). 

melody921

BeebopandBuddy said:

melody921 said:

Anyone have a chalkboard (like the kind you'd hang in a kitchen)? I want to get one but the PB one seems more expensive than necessary, so I'm seeking out other options.

They had some cute ones at Michael's a while back.  Not sure what size you're looking for...

I'm thinking 2 feet across by at least 1.5 high.

melody921

MRoxy0628 said:

You all are so nice to get cards for your sister in-laws.  It's on my husband to get gifts for his family members and I get gifts for mine, especially for birthdays, for Christmas we help each other out.  I had a friend who would remind her husband to call his mother for her birthday and if she didn't, the husband would be miffed at her.  I always think about what my husband did before we got together and if he could do it then, he can do it now. 

I think we do an okay job of dividing up tasks around the house and I know there are times either of us get overwhelmed with all we have to do.  I think sometimes it's hard to see what the other is doing to help the household run smoothly (at least in our case). 

I need to remind myself of this. Same goes for all the bills. But it's like he's grown to expect that I'll handle it. Meanwhile, no way on earth would he think to purchase a gift/card for my relatives without my saying, "Hey, you need a bday card for my mom."

willy_gert

I am right there with all of you on the DH struggles.  I feel like occasionally a light bulb goes on and he gets it, but those days are so few and far between.  My biggest gripe is that it would be nice to just have an occasional break.  I think DH realized this when we talked on Christmas and realized that the last time that I got to stay at home by myself without another person to worry about was before Luci was born.  He consistently gets days at home by himself, so it kind of woke him up to what I am dealing with. 

I didn't know that there was an app to share calendar/ tasks.  DH would be overwhelmed with all of my thoughts, tasks, and calendar information.....

BeebopandBuddy

willy_gert said:

I am right there with all of you on the DH struggles.  I feel like occasionally a light bulb goes on and he gets it, but those days are so few and far between.  My biggest gripe is that it would be nice to just have an occasional break.  I think DH realized this when we talked on Christmas and realized that the last time that I got to stay at home by myself without another person to worry about was before Luci was born.  He consistently gets days at home by himself, so it kind of woke him up to what I am dealing with. 

I didn't know that there was an app to share calendar/ tasks.  DH would be overwhelmed with all of my thoughts, tasks, and calendar information.....

LOL, I think that's why my DH won't look at it.  Ignorance is bliss.

I'm glad your DH is starting to understand though.  Maybe once you get through all of the struggles with illness you can make some real changes to give you a break.

MRoxy0628

melody921 said:

MRoxy0628 said:

You all are so nice to get cards for your sister in-laws.  It's on my husband to get gifts for his family members and I get gifts for mine, especially for birthdays, for Christmas we help each other out.  I had a friend who would remind her husband to call his mother for her birthday and if she didn't, the husband would be miffed at her.  I always think about what my husband did before we got together and if he could do it then, he can do it now. 

I think we do an okay job of dividing up tasks around the house and I know there are times either of us get overwhelmed with all we have to do.  I think sometimes it's hard to see what the other is doing to help the household run smoothly (at least in our case). 

I need to remind myself of this. Same goes for all the bills. But it's like he's grown to expect that I'll handle it. Meanwhile, no way on earth would he think to purchase a gift/card for my relatives without my saying, "Hey, you need a bday card for my mom."

That's why it's on me to get things for my family and him for his and it's from all of us.  I don't expect him to get things for my mom or brothers nor do I think he should expect me to.  Now if he asked me to order something or wants my input, sure. 

hmp1

tyrannasaurusjess said:

Random: for those of you who shop at, or could shop at a Publix, I envy you. We took the kids to Atlanta and stayed just north of Nashville on the way back. I had to get some stuff so that's where I went. I was in heaven!! The deli is amazing! The aisles were beautiful! Everyone was so friendly, and there was so much selection! I had to walk around the entire store-- I was in awe. H said I'd been gone like an hour and I only ran out for peanut butter and bread. I have considered driving 6 hours for groceries more than once since we've returned.

I usually go to Kroger because it is at the front of my neighborhood but Publix is just down the road and I like it because they have the car carts with the car up next to the parent instead of the ones with the car down in front of the cart that you can't turn. Also, they had Brownie Brittle like 6 months before Kroger got it. But I feel like my Kroger is easier to navigate. They have a great natural foods section all together so I can do all my box shopping there and then just hit the deli, butcher, bakery and go.

pharmer78

melody921 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

I had a terrible mom fail moment with Maya this morning.  I swear every damn thing is a fight.  I tried to avoid it by letting her wear a dress even though it's 28 degrees outside.  I got out her cable-knit tights, and a sweater.  Of course, she was over the moon about the dress but when I told her she had to wear the sweater and put socks on over her tights, she had a huge kicking meltdown.  I may have yelled "I'm so damn tired of fighting with you!".  I then had to leave her room and close the door because I was so angry.  She flipped and started screaming.  I had to give everyone a few minutes to cool off.  It was awful.  I did make up with her and do hugs and everything, but it definitely wasn't my proudest moment.

Oh, and then Ethan pooped as I was putting his coat on.  This morning sucked.

I struggle not to fight with DS most mornings. He's up at the crack of dawn on weekends, but weekdays all he wants to do is sleep. This is exacerbated by the fact that he doesn't stay the f in bed after I say goodnight. Today, he wouldn't get up, kicked me as I was trying to get him out of bed and was just generally a grouch. Yesterday was a similar experience. DH gets all, "I don't know why you don't just give him a little more time to wake up." I open his door, turn on his light and walk away. Five minutes or so later, I gently try to wake him, then begins the struggle. We obviously don't have all morning to get out the door. I told DH he could be in charge of getting him ready.

By the time we got to school, everyone was happy, so I'm sure Maya bounced back from the incident as well. Mornings are just hard sometimes.

Lila was/is a lot like your DS in the mornings, and an alarm clock really helped us with that.  We have a princess one that chirps and plays a song but it at least gets her out of bed to turn it off, without us having to be the bearers of bad news.

smb+jab

we have what they are calling a "dusting of snow" here and it has caused pure chaos!  the roads are a disaster and i have yet to see a  plow come through our street.  Both DH and I are working from home so that is a win.

We probabally go through close to two gallons of milk a week. However it makes me feel a bit better that others go through as much because some of our friends have told me we are nuts!

and i must confess i have never heard of Sorel's boots.  I just have a pair of rain boots i wear with thick socks to trudge through the mess from car to house /work etc

hmp1

AKB090609 said:

melody921 said:

AKB090609 said:

Guys, there is ice on DD's bedroom floor; inside, heat is on no liquids/pipes are present in the room. Do I make the kids share the other bedroom? Why does odd stuff only happen when DH is OOT?

Does the room feel cold? That's so strange. I'd probably double them up until you can figure out where it came from.

MarisaKathleen said:

AKB090609 said:

Guys, there is ice on DD's bedroom floor; inside, heat is on no liquids/pipes are present in the room. Do I make the kids share the other bedroom? Why does odd stuff only happen when DH is OOT?

That's weird!  I'd make them share the other room until DH gets back.  Or until it warms up, which might be by July...

Her room is unfortunately the coldest in the house because it is over the garage, we have the heat cranked up to 68 at not because of it, but the fact that her floor is more than 30 degrees colder is crazy. I guess I'll just put her mattress on the floor of DD2's room for tonight.

Add this to reasons I want a new house!

Sorry, that sucks. But cranked up to 68 made me laugh since that seems really cold to me. I crank our heat down to 69 at night and last night I bumped it up to 70 because I was cold. Our playroom is over our garage and it is noticeably colder in the winter too. Are you comfortable putting a heater in her room at night? 

pharmer78

hmp1 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

I had a terrible mom fail moment with Maya this morning.  I swear every damn thing is a fight.  I tried to avoid it by letting her wear a dress even though it's 28 degrees outside.  I got out her cable-knit tights, and a sweater.  Of course, she was over the moon about the dress but when I told her she had to wear the sweater and put socks on over her tights, she had a huge kicking meltdown.  I may have yelled "I'm so damn tired of fighting with you!".  I then had to leave her room and close the door because I was so angry.  She flipped and started screaming.  I had to give everyone a few minutes to cool off.  It was awful.  I did make up with her and do hugs and everything, but it definitely wasn't my proudest moment.

Oh, and then Ethan pooped as I was putting his coat on.  This morning sucked.

3 was a terrible year around here. The week of his 4th birthday was like a switch and he has been a different child since. FX for the same in your house!

For us, 4 was a continuation of 3, just with more attitude, but 5 has been great for the most part...she still has some "poor decision" moments, but overall, her behavior is much improved.

hmp1

melody921 said:

Anyone have a chalkboard (like the kind you'd hang in a kitchen)? I want to get one but the PB one seems more expensive than necessary, so I'm seeking out other options.

I made one. It floats around our house but is currently in the kitchen. I used the magnetic board from Ikea and covered it with chalkboard contact paper so I can use magnets on it too.

I have three of them but only covered one in chalkboard paper.

(google pic, not my house but these are the ones we have)

hmp1

pharmer78 said:

hmp1 said:

BeebopandBuddy said:

I had a terrible mom fail moment with Maya this morning.  I swear every damn thing is a fight.  I tried to avoid it by letting her wear a dress even though it's 28 degrees outside.  I got out her cable-knit tights, and a sweater.  Of course, she was over the moon about the dress but when I told her she had to wear the sweater and put socks on over her tights, she had a huge kicking meltdown.  I may have yelled "I'm so damn tired of fighting with you!".  I then had to leave her room and close the door because I was so angry.  She flipped and started screaming.  I had to give everyone a few minutes to cool off.  It was awful.  I did make up with her and do hugs and everything, but it definitely wasn't my proudest moment.

Oh, and then Ethan pooped as I was putting his coat on.  This morning sucked.

3 was a terrible year around here. The week of his 4th birthday was like a switch and he has been a different child since. FX for the same in your house!

For us, 4 was a continuation of 3, just with more attitude, but 5 has been great for the most part...she still has some "poor decision" moments, but overall, her behavior is much improved.

I was hoping it wasn't the Santa effect but so far so good! He still has his moments but he is much quicker to snap out of it now.

willy_gert

You guys will get a kick out of this.....  Guess who sent me a friend request on Facebook yesterday?

FIL

I asked DH if I looked dumb recently.  He said he didn't think so and then asked me why.  I told him that his dad asked me to be his facebook friend.  He didn't find it as funny as I did. 

melody921

smb+jab said:

we have what they are calling a "dusting of snow" here and it has caused pure chaos!  the roads are a disaster and i have yet to see a  plow come through our street.  Both DH and I are working from home so that is a win.

We probabally go through close to two gallons of milk a week. However it makes me feel a bit better that others go through as much because some of our friends have told me we are nuts!

and i must confess i have never heard of Sorel's boots.  I just have a pair of rain boots i wear with thick socks to trudge through the mess from car to house /work etc

I think we're living the same dusting today. It took FOREVER to get to work, and I almost slid into another car. I don't think anyone expected it to start as early as it did. 

melody921

hmp1 said:

AKB090609 said:

melody921 said:

AKB090609 said:

Guys, there is ice on DD's bedroom floor; inside, heat is on no liquids/pipes are present in the room. Do I make the kids share the other bedroom? Why does odd stuff only happen when DH is OOT?

Does the room feel cold? That's so strange. I'd probably double them up until you can figure out where it came from.

MarisaKathleen said:

AKB090609 said:

Guys, there is ice on DD's bedroom floor; inside, heat is on no liquids/pipes are present in the room. Do I make the kids share the other bedroom? Why does odd stuff only happen when DH is OOT?

That's weird!  I'd make them share the other room until DH gets back.  Or until it warms up, which might be by July...

Her room is unfortunately the coldest in the house because it is over the garage, we have the heat cranked up to 68 at not because of it, but the fact that her floor is more than 30 degrees colder is crazy. I guess I'll just put her mattress on the floor of DD2's room for tonight.

Add this to reasons I want a new house!

Sorry, that sucks. But cranked up to 68 made me laugh since that seems really cold to me. I crank our heat down to 69 at night and last night I bumped it up to 70 because I was cold. Our playroom is over our garage and it is noticeably colder in the winter too. Are you comfortable putting a heater in her room at night? 

I was going to suggest this as well. We have a space heater in DD's room bc she's over the garage and it's significantly colder than the rest of the house.

melody921

hmp1 said:

melody921 said:

Anyone have a chalkboard (like the kind you'd hang in a kitchen)? I want to get one but the PB one seems more expensive than necessary, so I'm seeking out other options.

I made one. It floats around our house but is currently in the kitchen. I used the magnetic board from Ikea and covered it with chalkboard contact paper so I can use magnets on it too.

I have three of them but only covered one in chalkboard paper.

(google pic, not my house but these are the ones we have)

I've never heard of chalkboard contact paper! Would that be easier than making it without chalkboard paint?

melody921

willy_gert said:

You guys will get a kick out of this.....  Guess who sent me a friend request on Facebook yesterday?

FIL

I asked DH if I looked dumb recently.  He said he didn't think so and then asked me why.  I told him that his dad asked me to be his facebook friend.  He didn't find it as funny as I did. 

So did you accept?

redneckmomma25

hmp1 said:

melody921 said:

Anyone have a chalkboard (like the kind you'd hang in a kitchen)? I want to get one but the PB one seems more expensive than necessary, so I'm seeking out other options.

I made one. It floats around our house but is currently in the kitchen. I used the magnetic board from Ikea and covered it with chalkboard contact paper so I can use magnets on it too.

I have three of them but only covered one in chalkboard paper.

(google pic, not my house but these are the ones we have)

Love this idea.

Pokedot

smb+jab said:

we have what they are calling a "dusting of snow" here and it has caused pure chaos!  the roads are a disaster and i have yet to see a  plow come through our street.  Both DH and I are working from home so that is a win.

We probabally go through close to two gallons of milk a week. However it makes me feel a bit better that others go through as much because some of our friends have told me we are nuts!

and i must confess i have never heard of Sorel's boots.  I just have a pair of rain boots i wear with thick socks to trudge through the mess from car to house /work etc

If you lived in the UP of Michigan we call our Sorels our normal everyday boots hahaha. It's nothing to see a woman dressed up for work in a dress with thick tights and Sorels!

 

hmp1

melody921 said:

hmp1 said:

melody921 said:

Anyone have a chalkboard (like the kind you'd hang in a kitchen)? I want to get one but the PB one seems more expensive than necessary, so I'm seeking out other options.

I made one. It floats around our house but is currently in the kitchen. I used the magnetic board from Ikea and covered it with chalkboard contact paper so I can use magnets on it too.

I have three of them but only covered one in chalkboard paper.

(google pic, not my house but these are the ones we have)

I've never heard of chalkboard contact paper! Would that be easier than making it without chalkboard paint?

I would imagine painting these boards would be hard because of the slick glossy surface. The contact paper was easy. I did have DH help a little to make sure I didn't get any bubbles. I have never used chalkboard paint but I have heard it takes multiple layers. The paper went on in a few minutes and I was done.

This is the one I bought. I also used it on their play table last year and it has held up great!

https://www.amazon.com/Con-Tact-Self-Adhesive-Chalkboard-18-Inch-6-Feet/dp/B000KKMO90

Pokedot

hmp1 said:

AKB090609 said:

melody921 said:

AKB090609 said:

Guys, there is ice on DD's bedroom floor; inside, heat is on no liquids/pipes are present in the room. Do I make the kids share the other bedroom? Why does odd stuff only happen when DH is OOT?

Does the room feel cold? That's so strange. I'd probably double them up until you can figure out where it came from.

MarisaKathleen said:

AKB090609 said:

Guys, there is ice on DD's bedroom floor; inside, heat is on no liquids/pipes are present in the room. Do I make the kids share the other bedroom? Why does odd stuff only happen when DH is OOT?

That's weird!  I'd make them share the other room until DH gets back.  Or until it warms up, which might be by July...

Her room is unfortunately the coldest in the house because it is over the garage, we have the heat cranked up to 68 at not because of it, but the fact that her floor is more than 30 degrees colder is crazy. I guess I'll just put her mattress on the floor of DD2's room for tonight.

Add this to reasons I want a new house!

Sorry, that sucks. But cranked up to 68 made me laugh since that seems really cold to me. I crank our heat down to 69 at night and last night I bumped it up to 70 because I was cold. Our playroom is over our garage and it is noticeably colder in the winter too. Are you comfortable putting a heater in her room at night? 

I LOL'd as well but cranked to us would be 72ish which is too hot. We keep out heat at 68 at night, 69-70 when we're home. We need a new furnace at some point. Let's just hope it's not any time soon.

hmp1

Here is what the magnet board looks like covered in the contact paper.

tyrannasaurusjess

kdsmith43 said:

tyrannasaurusjess said:

Random: for those of you who shop at, or could shop at a Publix, I envy you. We took the kids to Atlanta and stayed just north of Nashville on the way back. I had to get some stuff so that's where I went. I was in heaven!! The deli is amazing! The aisles were beautiful! Everyone was so friendly, and there was so much selection! I had to walk around the entire store-- I was in awe. H said I'd been gone like an hour and I only ran out for peanut butter and bread. I have considered driving 6 hours for groceries more than once since we've returned.

I live North of Nashville, where did you stay?

We stayed in Goodlettsville. We were hoping to make it a little farther but the kids had had enough of the car at that point.