Mopey Monday

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

What's up, doc?

melody921 · January 2015

I'm here and nothing has blown up yet, so I'm calling this morning a win.

I realized today though that we really need a better plan for getting out of the house on time and without incident. I try to plan ahead as much as possible -- lunches are made the night before, clothes are picked out. But I have a hard time getting DS to get ready quickly in the morning, and not to get distracted. And then while he's either whining about the choice of breakfast or playing instead of getting ready, DD is removing her shoes and chucking her breakfast plate across the kitchen.

kelbel527 · January 2015

I'm so not ready for a 5 day week. On the positive side though, I got so much stuff done around the house this weekend, I'm really feeling organized and prepared. That feels good!

The one thing I was super behind on is Brody's birthday party, which is now happening in less than 4 weeks. We didn't get the date we wanted because I didn't plan enough ahead of time, and didn't realize how quickly bowling alleys fill up. I'm also behind on the invites, so now I may have to send one that I don't love because it will be done faster. The invite is fine, but I'm super picky about these things. #firstworldproblems

@Holly_1007 - How did Keagan's party go? We decided on a bowling party as well, any tips?

smb+jab · January 2015

Oh this is definitely a mopey Monday! i so don't want to be at work! After over two weeks off it was so hard to come back. Must find a new career that will pay me to stay at home!

and my random thought of the day. the guy sitting at the security desk here looks like he is 12 and wearing daddy's suit. I don't think he is going to "take down any intruders"! haha

melody921 · January 2015

This birthday party talk and a few invites we've received lately is making me wonder when I'm going to need to actually have a separate kid party for my kids. So far we've just been having parties at home with family and a few close friends who have kids.

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kelbel527 · January 2015

melody921 said:

This birthday party talk and a few invites we've received lately is making me wonder when I'm going to need to actually have a separate kid party for my kids. So far we've just been having parties at home with family and a few close friends who have kids.

We started at 4. But that's because Brody had a close group of friends from school and now most of our friends have kids. Plus I felt like the kids were getting bored just being at our house. So last year we did a small family get together at home (cupcakes) and a kid party at a play place. This year, I think I'm skipping the family get together (apartment-life problems, I'm sick of hosting) and just doing a bowling party. I'm inviting the grandparents to join at the bowling alley if they want.

Stasi · January 2015

Managed to lock myself out of the house this morning with my car half scraped (and coated in ice) with my cell phone and car scraper still inside, don't ask me how I did that!

Then I realized that I was supposed to leave an empty cooler on my porch for the mailman to leave all the mail we had held for the last two weeks in it...I wonder if I'll come home to a pile of mail on the ground soaked with snow?

It's 8 degrees out and 48 hours ago I was in 80 degree weather.

My son sleeps like absolute shit.

Despite all that, I'm still in decent spirits and remembering how lucky I am

kelbel527 · January 2015

melody921 said:

I'm here and nothing has blown up yet, so I'm calling this morning a win.

I realized today though that we really need a better plan for getting out of the house on time and without incident. I try to plan ahead as much as possible -- lunches are made the night before, clothes are picked out. But I have a hard time getting DS to get ready quickly in the morning, and not to get distracted. And then while he's either whining about the choice of breakfast or playing instead of getting ready, DD is removing her shoes and chucking her breakfast plate across the kitchen.

I hate mornings. Mondays are the worst too. We pack as much ahead of time as possible, but still run into the same problems.

I will tell you the one thing that made our mornings easier is that I stopped making Brody get dressed on his own. Now, I just don't care. He's perfectly capable of getting dressed, but if I let him do it, it would take 20 minutes. Plus, he's lazy, so he would prefer I do it. So, now it takes 2 minutes and avoids a fight in the morning.

We also let them pick whatever they want for breakfast (within reason) and keep on hand many options. Brody is in love with Special K cereal right now, so as long as he has that for breakfast, he eats nicely and doesn't wander away from the table.

Now...if I could get Aedan to stop running away from me while I am trying to get him dressed in the morning and stop leaving the breakfast table to play, that would be great.

ETA: Also? Aedan's favorite thing to do is to UN pack the items I have packed up for him for school. It drives me insane.

MRoxy0628 · January 2015

Yes, it is "rough" coming back to work after being off for two weeks and being able to sleep in nearly every day. I feel groggy. I also think I'm going to be pretty hungry today, but that's a good thing as I indulged too much over break. It will be good for me to not be able to snack on whatever I want all day.

I really enjoyed my time at home with Lily and I think she did too, but she was not sad about leaving me today. I know she was excited to see her daycare friends.

Pokedot · January 2015

I'm not ready to come back to work for a 5 day week. Teacher's here lucked out. School is closed due to wind chills. We're currently at -30*. Nothing makes you more ampt to stay in bed than a cold, wintery day.

I ended up with the flu bug this weekend. So Saturday I felt like death and did nothing. So thankful for DH who took care of B. Sunday I was on my own but I was feeling much better.

A quick way to lose a few lbs though. My pants fit better at least.

melody921 · January 2015

kelbel527 said:

melody921 said:

I'm here and nothing has blown up yet, so I'm calling this morning a win.

I realized today though that we really need a better plan for getting out of the house on time and without incident. I try to plan ahead as much as possible -- lunches are made the night before, clothes are picked out. But I have a hard time getting DS to get ready quickly in the morning, and not to get distracted. And then while he's either whining about the choice of breakfast or playing instead of getting ready, DD is removing her shoes and chucking her breakfast plate across the kitchen.

I hate mornings. Mondays are the worst too. We pack as much ahead of time as possible, but still run into the same problems.

I will tell you the one thing that made our mornings easier is that I stopped making Brody get dressed on his own. Now, I just don't care. He's perfectly capable of getting dressed, but if I let him do it, it would take 20 minutes. Plus, he's lazy, so he would prefer I do it. So, now it takes 2 minutes and avoids a fight in the morning.

We also let them pick whatever they want for breakfast (within reason) and keep on hand many options. Brody is in love with Special K cereal right now, so as long as he has that for breakfast, he eats nicely and doesn't wander away from the table.

Now...if I could get Aedan to stop running away from me while I am trying to get him dressed in the morning and stop leaving the breakfast table to play, that would be great.

ETA: Also? Aedan's favorite thing to do is to UN pack the items I have packed up for him for school. It drives me insane.

I was wondering this morning if I gave too many options -- cold cereal, oatmeal, waffles, yogurt and fruit. DS listened as I rattled off all the choices then said he wanted French toast, which was not an option, lol. I'm thinking of making him choose the night before or else just saying, "today you get oatmeal."

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

Our daycare posted her PAID days off. There are 32 NON-HOLIDAY days off. Any sick days or court days (she had 5 this year) will be in addition to those! WTF!

The three longer vacations will require us to find care for 5, 11, and 7 consecutive work days. I'm back to scheduling appointments to see more daycare centers. I'm sorry, I just think this is absolutely fucking insane.

Vacation:
Jan 21-27
May 29-June 12
July 24-Aug3
Sept 18
Dec 24-Jan 3

Holidays:
May 25
July 3 (LOL, didn't know July 3 was a holiday)
Sept 7
Nov 26-27
Dec 24-25
Dec 31 (LOL that NYE is a holiday)

I can't imagine any non-teacher families being able to work this out.

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

I got an egg mcmuffin and sausage mcmuffin on my way to work today.... one for bfast and one for lunch. I ate them both $:\$ "> and now I'm burping like a motherfreaker and might die of indigestion.

I can't wait until next winter when I buy a new snow-appropriate vehicle. I didn't like deciding today which "kid" I wanted in the safe car on these roads.

We chose the 4wd truck for me and the wombie since I have so far to drive.

Stasi · January 2015

tinyhumantoe said:

Our daycare posted her PAID days off. There are 32 NON-HOLIDAY days off. Any sick days or court days (she had 5 this year) will be in addition to those! WTF!

The three longer vacations will require us to find care for 5, 11, and 7 consecutive work days. I'm back to scheduling appointments to see more daycare centers. I'm sorry, I just think this is absolutely fucking insane.

Vacation:
Jan 21-27
May 29-June 12
July 24-Aug3
Sept 18
Dec 24-Jan 3

Holidays:
May 25
July 3 (LOL, didn't know July 3 was a holiday)
Sept 7
Nov 26-27
Dec 24-25
Dec 31 (LOL that NYE is a holiday)

I can't imagine any non-teacher families being able to work this out.

I want her job. That's crazy? I would also be looking for new childcare if DH wasn't a teacher...how is anyone supposed to function with that many days off?

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

@stasi sorry you had a shitty morning and a shitty sleeper! Re: your other post, I'm going to be stalking it. We might wait on buying a second crib for #2 because we have a RNP and a PNP. The mattress on the PNP is shitty though.

MRoxy0628 · January 2015

@tinyhumantoe Yes, that seems excessive, especially the two weeks at the end of May/beginning of June. Maybe that's when schools get out in your area? And to require payment for that many days off if is unrealistic. I don't know anyone who gets 6 weeks of paid vacation.

How many non-teacher's kids does she have?

Pokedot · January 2015

@tinyhumantoe wait she expects you to pay her for her time off? Ummm...no.

I can see having off the 3rd (not paid) because the 4th is on a Saturday. Many people will probaby have the 3rd off anyway. At least I know I do but getting paid for it is insane.

ETA: had wrong day for the 4th.

watercolor5 · January 2015

DH has the day off, and is still on night shift so he was up all night and will sleep all day. I woke up to a made-from-scratch coca cola cake that he spent all night baking, complete with a trip or two to the grocery store to get supplies. FFMC we ate cake for breakfast before DH got to bed, so it was like christmas all over again for the kids.

This is the last week he's on nights before being on days for a quarter, and I'm so excited. 3 months of having DH sleeping for 8 hours during the day every.single.weekend. was no fun, since it felt like I didn't have a single day off staying at home with the girls all day.

BeebopandBuddy · January 2015

@melody921 Add us to the mornings suck club. DH and I discussed getting up earlier to avoid the stress, but I don't think there is a time that we could get up that would resolve the issue. No matter how much time you give Maya, she is always the last one ready. We have to budget at least 10 minutes just to argue about why she has to wear pants and not a dress. Then Ethan is tearing the house down, running away with my makeup, pulling the knobs off of my dresser (happened this morning) and generally wreaking havoc. Of course, eating is always an issue too. Luckily we don't argue too much at breakfast (that's what dinnertime is for) but it still takes them 30 minutes to get a bowl of cereal down.

@tinyhumantoe No. Just no. She's nuts.

smb+jab · January 2015

Stasi said:

tinyhumantoe said:

Our daycare posted her PAID days off. There are 32 NON-HOLIDAY days off. Any sick days or court days (she had 5 this year) will be in addition to those! WTF!

The three longer vacations will require us to find care for 5, 11, and 7 consecutive work days. I'm back to scheduling appointments to see more daycare centers. I'm sorry, I just think this is absolutely fucking insane.

Vacation:
Jan 21-27
May 29-June 12
July 24-Aug3
Sept 18
Dec 24-Jan 3

Holidays:
May 25
July 3 (LOL, didn't know July 3 was a holiday)
Sept 7
Nov 26-27
Dec 24-25
Dec 31 (LOL that NYE is a holiday)

I can't imagine any non-teacher families being able to work this out.

I want her job. That's crazy? I would also be looking for new childcare if DH wasn't a teacher...how is anyone supposed to function with that many days off?

I agree - I mean I have good amount of vacation time as i have been with my company for a long time but its not nearly that much time!!

And the nearly four weeks of time during what I would consider "summer" is just ridiculous. She is running a business. If she wants to take the summer off and not run her business at that time then that should have been stated at head of time and there should not be any "holiday time" taken during the rest of the year.

I hope you can find something else

MRoxy0628 · January 2015

I don't think it's unreasonable to expect some paid holidays and vacation. We pay our in-home provider for the Thanksgiving holiday (2-3 days), Christmas/winter break (1.5-2 weeks), and spring break (1 week). We also pay her for Memorial Day and Labor Day. Because I'm off in the summer, I don't pay her, but I think she also takes a week off (not sure if people pay her for that?). What THT's provider is requiring is excessive to me, plus it sounds like she's often sick as well. I don't think you should have to pay for the 1 week in January or the 2 week vacation in May/June.

Pokedot · January 2015

watercolor5 said:

DH has the day off, and is still on night shift so he was up all night and will sleep all day. I woke up to a made-from-scratch coca cola cake that he spent all night baking, complete with a trip or two to the grocery store to get supplies. FFMC we ate cake for breakfast before DH got to bed, so it was like christmas all over again for the kids.

This is the last week he's on nights before being on days for a quarter, and I'm so excited. 3 months of having DH sleeping for 8 hours during the day every.single.weekend. was no fun, since it felt like I didn't have a single day off staying at home with the girls all day.

Yeah for days! I couldn't imagine DH being on mids all the time. We'd have no life. Especially since I work we'd be like 2 ships passing in the night. DH's schedule is 12 hours though too. 1 weekend a month with him on mids is enough for me!

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

MRoxy0628 said:

@tinyhumantoe Yes, that seems excessive, especially the two weeks at the end of May/beginning of June. Maybe that's when schools get out in your area? And to require payment for that many days off if is unrealistic. I don't know anyone who gets 6 weeks of paid vacation.

How many non-teacher's kids does she have?

She has 3 teachers, and 4 non-teachers. I have a feeling that in a couple months she will have 3 teachers, and 0 non-teachers.

@pokedot I don't mind about July 3, or Christmas Eve, or Black Friday.... but those are not "Holidays" - they are vacation days.

Pokedot · January 2015

tinyhumantoe said:

MRoxy0628 said:

@tinyhumantoe Yes, that seems excessive, especially the two weeks at the end of May/beginning of June. Maybe that's when schools get out in your area? And to require payment for that many days off if is unrealistic. I don't know anyone who gets 6 weeks of paid vacation.

How many non-teacher's kids does she have?

She has 3 teachers, and 4 non-teachers. I have a feeling that in a couple months she will have 3 teachers, and 0 non-teachers.

@pokedot I don't mind about July 3, or Christmas Eve, or Black Friday.... but those are not "Holidays" - they are vacation days.

Right! Which is what I meant about not being paid for them. She's working her way out of a job. Teachers kids only is the way it seems she wants it. Maybe she's doing this to get only teacher's kids? I know our DC is mostly teacher's children with the exception of B and about 3 others but she would never ask for a day off paid. That's crazy!

hmp1 · January 2015

melody921 said:

This birthday party talk and a few invites we've received lately is making me wonder when I'm going to need to actually have a separate kid party for my kids. So far we've just been having parties at home with family and a few close friends who have kids.

I was just thinking about the opposite. I was thinking next year might be the last year we do an "invite the class" party because the K class will be a lot bigger. I guess I will just wait and see how the transition goes and if he is making fast friends with the class.

I do have way to many party ideas to stop at next year though!

hmp1 · January 2015

Stasi said:

Managed to lock myself out of the house this morning with my car half scraped (and coated in ice) with my cell phone and car scraper still inside, don't ask me how I did that!
Then I realized that I was supposed to leave an empty cooler on my porch for the mailman to leave all the mail we had held for the last two weeks in it...I wonder if I'll come home to a pile of mail on the ground soaked with snow?
It's 8 degrees out and 48 hours ago I was in 80 degree weather.
My son sleeps like absolute shit.
Despite all that, I'm still in decent spirits and remembering how lucky I am

My mailman leaves his bucket when I have a lot of mail delivered. Hopefully, yours will do the same!

kelbel527 · January 2015

tinyhumantoe said:

Our daycare posted her PAID days off. There are 32 NON-HOLIDAY days off. Any sick days or court days (she had 5 this year) will be in addition to those! WTF!

The three longer vacations will require us to find care for 5, 11, and 7 consecutive work days. I'm back to scheduling appointments to see more daycare centers. I'm sorry, I just think this is absolutely fucking insane.

Vacation:
Jan 21-27
May 29-June 12
July 24-Aug3
Sept 18
Dec 24-Jan 3

Holidays:
May 25
July 3 (LOL, didn't know July 3 was a holiday)
Sept 7
Nov 26-27
Dec 24-25
Dec 31 (LOL that NYE is a holiday)

I can't imagine any non-teacher families being able to work this out.

That is insane. I really hope you find something better soon. Those are very crazy expectations on her part.

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

I get 20 days off - vacation and sick combined. We have to carefully budget that time to accommodate illness, appointments, but most of all - her fucking time off. The only reason we took a vacation when we did this year is because we couldn't find anyone to watch W during her second consecutive week of vacation. Because of that, we didn't get to go on my family's houseboat trip which was the vacation we love to do every year

I wouldn't mind paying 2 weeks (10 days) vacation. Anything over that is fucking insane, because childcare is something where people have to pay another provider if the kid isn't going to you! And yes, she takes sick days and court days in addition.

She really needs to watch only teachers kids. When we started with her, our contract said 10 paid vacation days. She ended up taking more than that, and it's gotten exponentially worse every year.

hmp1 · January 2015

tinyhumantoe said:

Our daycare posted her PAID days off. There are 32 NON-HOLIDAY days off. Any sick days or court days (she had 5 this year) will be in addition to those! WTF!

The three longer vacations will require us to find care for 5, 11, and 7 consecutive work days. I'm back to scheduling appointments to see more daycare centers. I'm sorry, I just think this is absolutely fucking insane.

Vacation:
Jan 21-27
May 29-June 12
July 24-Aug3
Sept 18
Dec 24-Jan 3

Holidays:
May 25
July 3 (LOL, didn't know July 3 was a holiday)
Sept 7
Nov 26-27
Dec 24-25
Dec 31 (LOL that NYE is a holiday)

I can't imagine any non-teacher families being able to work this out.

How do you think it would go if you talked to her about it? Tell her that you are going to have to look into other options due to the amount of paid time off that you will have to double cover since you do have to work. See what she says. Either she will work with you on the paid time off, and you will still need to find extra care but at least it frees up money do pay someone from care.com or she won't and you can continue on your search for a center that is open daily except a few normal holidays.

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

watercolor5 said:

This is the last week he's on nights before being on days for a quarter, and I'm so excited. 3 months of having DH sleeping for 8 hours during the day every.single.weekend. was no fun, since it felt like I didn't have a single day off staying at home with the girls all day.

I want cake like WHOA. I don't know how you did it every weekend. DH works a few weekends in a row during busy times, and a few weekend days a month during their regular time. It makes a HUGE difference to have him home and helping.

MarisaKathleen · January 2015

Today's my first day back to work since 12/19.

Happy New Year Everyone!

Poor Nancy was so distraught about waking up at 615 that she wore her pj's under her clothes to the sitter's house because she "needed Ariel to hug her."

Best part of Christmas? We're going to Mexico. Cabo to be exact. I can't even wait. We're going at the end of April. The place we're staying is just bananas. Also, I'm totally going to swim with dolphins.

hmp1 · January 2015

MRoxy0628 said:

I don't think it's unreasonable to expect some paid holidays and vacation. We pay our in-home provider for the Thanksgiving holiday (2-3 days), Christmas/winter break (1.5-2 weeks), and spring break (1 week). We also pay her for Memorial Day and Labor Day. Because I'm off in the summer, I don't pay her, but I think she also takes a week off (not sure if people pay her for that?). What THT's provider is requiring is excessive to me, plus it sounds like she's often sick as well. I don't think you should have to pay for the 1 week in January or the 2 week vacation in May/June.

I agree. We pay for 52 weeks a year and the center is closed for maybe 2 of those weeks (day here and there throughout the year) but most align with my work holidays too so the only thing I have to scramble for is when my kids are sick. Normal holidays paid is totally acceptable, and even a week vacation wouldn't phase me if I liked the provider. But she is crazy.

kelbel527 · January 2015

DH picked up books and books of paint colors from the store yesterday. I have to decide what color to paint at least 10 rooms in our new house in the next 4 weeks or so. I am completely overwhelmed.

Anyone want to do it for me?

hmp1 · January 2015

I'm lol'ing at the people that are in the office for the first time in a couple weeks sending "ZOMG, we need to have a conference call on this asap!" on something that went down 2 weeks ago. Keep reading your emails, everything has been handled.

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

hmp1 said:

How do you think it would go if you talked to her about it? Tell her that you are going to have to look into other options due to the amount of paid time off that you will have to double cover since you do have to work. See what she says. Either she will work with you on the paid time off, and you will still need to find extra care but at least it frees up money do pay someone from care.com or she won't and you can continue on your search for a center that is open daily except a few normal holidays.

I think that's a good idea, but DH and I talked about it and it's not so much about the money... our issue is scrambling to find somewhere for W to go. MIL made a comment about being nervous to watch a newborn and Winnie at the same time, so things are just going to get harder.

I checked with the YMCA about scheduling care for those vacation weeks. They said they can't really help us, so we'd be looking at finding someone on care.com. I'd rather just pay more overall and have a steady place to send the girls.

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

hmp1 said:

I'm lol'ing at the people that are in the office for the first time in a couple weeks sending "ZOMG, we need to have a conference call on this asap!" on something that went down 2 weeks ago. Keep reading your emails, everything has been handled.

SAME HERE. I guess I'm the only one that reads all emails before firing off replies?

Pokedot · January 2015

MarisaKathleen said:

Today's my first day back to work since 12/19.
Happy New Year Everyone!

Poor Nancy was so distraught about waking up at 615 that she wore her pj's under her clothes to the sitter's house because she "needed Ariel to hug her."

Best part of Christmas? We're going to Mexico. Cabo to be exact. I can't even wait. We're going at the end of April. The place we're staying is just bananas. Also, I'm totally going to swim with dolphins.

Awesome! Was this a surprise from DH?

tinyhumantoe · January 2015

I bought a box of Fruity Pebbles on Friday night. It has maybe 1 cup of cereal left in it. And I'm wishing I would have brought it to work with me. I think I'm addicted.

Pokedot · January 2015

kelbel527 said:

DH picked up books and books of paint colors from the store yesterday. I have to decide what color to paint at least 10 rooms in our new house in the next 4 weeks or so. I am completely overwhelmed.

Anyone want to do it for me?

Neutrals are good. I lean more toward grays right now. Even a crisp very light blue is a nice neutral. I remember doing this years ago. It's exhausting and overwhelming but once it's on the wall and one so worth it. That just means you're getting closer to it being completed! Yeah!

kelbel527 · January 2015

hmp1 said:

I'm lol'ing at the people that are in the office for the first time in a couple weeks sending "ZOMG, we need to have a conference call on this asap!" on something that went down 2 weeks ago. Keep reading your emails, everything has been handled.

We have the opposite going on around here. There are a lot of things that the people in the office worked on, but couldn't complete 100% because they're waiting on things from the many many people that we out for 2 full weeks.

All of a sudden we're back and everyone is, "do you have this?" "is it done?" Well, no. You weren't the only one gone for the last 2 weeks.

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