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March 2015 Moms
Asshole things family said over the holidays.... Just to make you feel warm and fuzzy.
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Re: Asshole things family said over the holidays.... Just to make you feel warm and fuzzy.
OK. I'm sorry but we all know what a "black" name is..... My step mom actually enrolled a girl into school who's name was La-a..... Pronounced Ladasha. We all know that a "white" person would never name a child like that. Instead, they take normal names and fuck up the spelling so bad that no one knows how they are pronounced.
How about we name our children whatever the fuck we want to? Seriously, who cares if you want to give your child a black, white, Hispanic or muslim name?
My daughter has one of the most popular names of the year because I didn't do my research and then blabbed a few of my names to my mother in law who liked Isabella the most..... She was suppose to be Isabella James now she is Isabella Anne, the only reason for this is because my MIL passed away the day after we spoke about names, and Isabella was the name she liked and Anne was her middle name.
I know you are all going to be disappointed but her name will not be spelled Iza
How about we name our children whatever the fuck we want to? Seriously, who cares if you want to give your child a black, white, Hispanic or muslim name?
My daughter has one of the most popular names of the year because I didn't do my research and then blabbed a few of my names to my mother in law who liked Isabella the most..... She was suppose to be Isabella James now she is Isabella Anne, the only reason for this is because my MIL passed away the day after we spoke about names, and Isabella was the name she liked and Anne was her middle name.
I know you are all going to be disappointed but her name will not be spelled Iza
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Uhhhhh, really?! All black people "take normal names and fuck up the spelling so bad that no one knows how they are pronounced" ?
I guess as a stereotypical white girl, I should say, "I can't even" to this...
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Black_names
It would be enlightening (@jarrard1983) for you to just go straight ahead to the prejudice section of that link.
Uhhhhh, really?! All black people "take normal names and fuck up the spelling so bad that no one knows how they are pronounced" ?
I guess as a stereotypical white girl, I should say, "I can't even" to this...
I am in no way defending this post/poster but I think she meant white people do that [f up the spelling]. I think it was an attempt to not come off as racist, but it was very much a fail.
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The post wasnt meant to be or sound racist at all. Just to say who cares if the name you pick sounds race specific. It is your child name either what you want to.
Very sorry if I offended anyone. It certainly wasn't intentional.
I could understand if I said I don't like black sounding names like la-a. That is the opposite of what I'm saying though.... I'm saying that if you as a parent like it, it shouldn't matter what race it originated from.
If anything it was a poor Internet attempt at sarcasm, not racism.
Apparently I must be a trollop because DH and I have elected to cut communication with him since he cant stop making inappropriate comments/advances towards me.
Merry Christmas?
I'm saying that it is silly to think that certain names were not originated in certain communities. And what is more silly, in my opinion, is for people to ignore this fact, instead of embracing the culture.
Like I said I'm sorry if I worked it poorly in the first comment, and extremely sorry if I offended anyone. That's pretty much all I can say. Take it of leave it.
Let me explain where you are getting the flack from: you are using too broad of a brush to describe people, which comes off as obscenely racist.
For example, you say "Black people use X names". That is an extremely silly statement because 'black' skin is found worldwide, and in thousands of various cultures. People in England are going to use different names than people in Africa, who use different names from people in America. Rinse and repeat to almost infinity. Hell, even people in small towns several miles apart have distinct naming traditions.
Pick any skin color, and the same is true. It's why trying to use skin color to clump people together is so ridiculously stupid, and the basis for cultural misunderstandings and racism.
When looking for names the only thing I considered was the definition. Not the origin, but if I seen a name that I liked and it had Hungarian roots, that would have been a bonus, because it would be part of my culture.
The big picture is I was trying to say people should name their kids whatever the hell they want, and people just need to get over your choices because they are your choices.
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I'm certainly not arguing that people should be able to name their kids what they want (although I WILL argue it on a case-by-case basis, because some names are stupid). Or that some cultures follow certain naming structures. But you can't just break things down by race like that. Take your example of Muslim names. A Muslim from where? Pakistani Muslims will use different names than African Muslims who will use different names than Iranian Muslims. Same goes for Black people. A black person from where? Different countries and ethnicities in Africa have different naming styles. And to just lump everyone into the Lawfanduh category seems ridiculous. Latina/o names? From where? Mexico? Spain? Puerto Rico?
I stand by my original comment. WTF is a "black" name? Clearly the person making the comment in the OP I was referencing was making it out of ignorance and possibly a bit of racism (don't know them, can't say). But blanket statements that don't take into account the true diversity of humanity irritate the shit out of me. To make the assumption that "everyone knows what a black name is. It's Shaniqua" or whatever, poorly worded attempt at Internet sarcasm or not, seems fairly juvenile to me.
We all have things that bug us. Blanket statements about any group of people bother me. But it's clear you didn't mean to offend, and I stand by the fact that my Gotham comment is still funny as hell. Shall we get back to the douchebags who are saying stupid-shit to pregnant ladies?
I'm certainly not arguing that people should be able to name their kids what they want (although I WILL argue it on a case-by-case basis, because some names are stupid). Or that some cultures follow certain naming structures. But you can't just break things down by race like that. Take your example of Muslim names. A Muslim from where? Pakistani Muslims will use different names than African Muslims who will use different names than Iranian Muslims. Same goes for Black people. A black person from where? Different countries and ethnicities in Africa have different naming styles. And to just lump everyone into the Lawfanduh category seems ridiculous. Latina/o names? From where? Mexico? Spain? Puerto Rico?
I stand by my original comment. WTF is a "black" name? Clearly the person making the comment in the OP I was referencing was making it out of ignorance and possibly a bit of racism (don't know them, can't say). But blanket statements that don't take into account the true diversity of humanity irritate the shit out of me. To make the assumption that "everyone knows what a black name is. It's Shaniqua" or whatever, poorly worded attempt at Internet sarcasm or not, seems fairly juvenile to me.
We all have things that bug us. Blanket statements about any group of people bother me. But it's clear you didn't mean to offend, and I stand by the fact that my Gotham comment is still funny as hell. Shall we get back to the douchebags who are saying stupid-shit to pregnant ladies?
We I made the original statement I was speaking in response to the ladies who replied in this thread about family telling them not to give their child a Muslim name or a black name. It wasn't meant to be a blanket statement. I just thought it was a give that I was talking about more specific cases. Doesn't make it right, it just makes me stupid..... I fully blame pregnancy brain for my stupidity. Hopefully you guys can forgive me and relate to saying unintentional stupid things.
And yes.... The name Gotham makes me with I was having a boy.
actually enrolled a girl into school who's name was La-a..... Pronounced
Ladasha. We all know that a "white" person would never name a child
like that. Instead, they take normal names and fuck up the spelling so
bad that no one knows how they are pronounced"
How can this shit be misconstrued?
Like I said, it was a very poor attempt at sarcasm. Very poor attempt. There is nothing more I can say other than I'm sorry.
Anyway - Yeah I've been getting this a lot from a MALE relative. Ain't nothin like having your pregnancy mansplained to you. I had to find my happy place REAL hard to not let this ruin my Christmas.
Unacceptable comments all around, ladies, sorry you've had to deal with that gabage!
ETA: autocorrect. And in the the time it took me to post this, the conversation went way further into what the PP meant by her words. Still some underlying misconceptions about race there.
This. As 1/2 of an interracial couple, with a biracial DD and another biracial child on the way- I've heard my absolute fill of racist nonsense when it comes to baby naming.
So just stop and check yourself.
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I will never, in all my years, understand why people insist on using skin color to group others. There are SO many cultural differences within such a massive grouping, that it makes said grouping useless and pointless.
For example, I am white, but I don't think Helga is an awesome sauce name, because I don't live in Norway, where it is a legit pretty name.
I have no problem getting a good deal on things, but don't it is polite to rave publicly as someone is opening the present you gave them about how much you spent.
Your MIL must be a trip.
I felt like saying, um your sorry I am 10 weeks away from having the baby I always wanted?!
Your sorry I am choosing not to drink heavily while pregnant?!
Ugh!
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