Had a early miscarriage (5 weeks) today. This is my second MC, first was 3 yrs ago (11 weeks) and then had a beautiful rainbow baby.
I am struggling because no one else seems sad. My husband, mother, sister, MIL just seem totally unaffected. No one called me to check on me and when I started MC at work H actually asked if he needed to leave work too. My OB told me to go to the ER and H was like, well... Do you want to go?
Not once did he take charge today, then at ER, keeps talking about how hungry he is. I just don't get it. I am so damn sorry you are hungry, while I am over here losing our baby. How inconsiderate of me!
I feel like last time I was aloud to be sad but this time no one understands why I am so upset.
I feel incredibly alone, anyone else struggling with this? Am I over reacting because I am emotional?
Praying this is our take home baby. STICK TURKEY
Mommy will miss you everyday my beautiful angel. We love you
M/C on 1/05/11 at 11 weeks.
Re: Intro/ Why doesn't anyone care?
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Do you think you can talk to your husband about it?
Sometimes we just need our feelings validated. It sucks when no one is there to support us.
When my sister in law miscarried a couple years ago, I was like... "Oh... I'm so sorry." That was the extent. She already had 2 kids and I couldn't relate.
Now that I miscarried, I'm so ashamed of my lack of empathy and support for her. I just didn't get it.
Also, those that have miscarried have been really supportive to me. Those that haven't, haven't.
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@shupertj09 have you been able to talk to your husband about it yet?
*hugs* for you today
So...still feeling alone.
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Have you thought about counseling with him? I know that some people freak out about the thought but it really can help in these situations.
So many *hugs* for you.
BFP- 10-16-14 EDD 6/13/15: MC 12-1-14
I don't remember him being this disconnected last time, maybe because I was in a haze whereas this time DD won't let me just check out.
I told him I didn't want to talk about TTC anymore until we were ready to actually start TTC again. At this point just trying to lessen the damage.
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