Would you have a stepMIL that you & your husband don't really know in the delivery room while your husband's first born is being born? My FIL's new wife (mom passed away 4 yrs ago, new wife only been in picture 2 yrs) has been very insistent on becoming "Grandma" right away to all of the grandchildren & has been quite vocal about offering her opinion on everything. We don't want to hurt feelings but only feel comfortable with my mom in the delivery room. Neither of us really know the stepmother since they live quite a way a way. Mainly only through Facebook. The other kids live closer to FIL so have gotten to know her.
My FIL is a very sweet man & doesn't like conflict so he's following his wife's decision to visit my SIL & her family in another state instead of visiting us after baby is home & settled. They will also not be attending the baptism because I'm Catholic & they are another religion & are she's very upset I won't be converting. I'm kind of at my wits end as to how many offers to extend for my husband & FIL's sake.