NCDR- another toddler question- time outs?

JNU76 · December 2014

For those of you with toddlers- do you use time outs? If so-

1- Where do you put them?

2- How do you make them stay there? If they get up and you have to put them back, do you start the time over?

Thank you! Maybe my next question will be related to diapers...

bumpuser9353653 · December 2014

We have a calm-down chair. When she acts up, she is told to go to the calm-down chair (with a brief mention as to why) and is told that when she is ready, she can get out and we will talk. We also practice deep breaths and counting to 3 to help her calm down.

It's just a chair in the living room, but she's allowed a pillow and blanket because she likes to hide under them.

If she gets down and clearly isn't ready, we either ask is she's calm and ready to listen/clean up/apologize/etc. (half the time, she responds by running back to the chair to hide) or we put get back in it and remind her that she needs to calm down first.

Screaming time outs in the corner just weren't effective for her, but the calm down chair has been great. I think it's helped to teach her that she needs to take a moment to chill sometimes and that her adverse behavior won't get her anywhere but a chair.

haileyq · December 2014

The only time I did time outs with DS was when he went through his phase of hitting the dogs. He would go in his crib for one minute, only because I had no other place to contain him. I guess it worked? I didn't love it though. Now we are able to let him express himself some more, acknowledge his feelings, and then go cuddle and that seems to change his attitude pretty well. It does involve letting him throw a fit now and then. Every kid is different, some kids need more boundaries than others. Mine is pretty laid back and this is what works for us.

bumpuser5078523 · December 2014

We sit him in the corner in our kitchen. We set the timer for a minute and remind him why he's there and what we expect from him. Sometimes he sits by himself, sometimes we have to make him.

I avoid putting him in his room or bed, just because I don't want him to associate them as bad places. I don't want him to think he's in trouble when it's just time for bed.

unaveragejane · December 2014

We also do cool-downs and deep breathing, pretty much just like how Rugby described.

I also use a technique called "planned ignoring" when he's doing something (non-dangerous) to get my attention in a negative way. He tends to transform into a major diva when he can't get something to work. I've coached him through asking for help a thousand times, so now I walk away until he calms down and asks for help.

TJ1979 · December 2014

We sit down and "take a break." Similar to Rugby.

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