Wine and pregnant

ramcheer55 · December 2014

I am just about 18 weeks and was thinking about having a glass of wine tomorrow. I have read so many condescending articles about drinking wine while pregnant. Some say that a glass of wine or 2 is fine, others say to avoid it all together. I'm a big wino so this has been one of the most difficult things for me to give up. I used to have a glass or 2 of wine while watching The Bachelor or my evening shows. That part hasn't bothered me, but having dinner with my girlfriends or while socializing with family on Thanksgiving and during the holidays has been tough. What are your thoughts or for those that have already had a baby before? Did it make a difference if you abstained from drinking or not?

DawnLilly · December 2014

Lol I like "condescending articles" that's the best auto correct for this. I'm sure you meant "contradicting articles". I'm not going to buy any but if someone else brings a good bottle I will have a small glass.

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ramcheer55 · December 2014

Yes, I even hit to ignore autocorrect and I guess it changed it anyway! It changed "awful" to "aweful"....thought autocorrect was to correct your words! Anyway, I have a nice bottle of wine that I have been saving since last Christmas and my husband already put it in the fridge to chill so his mom could open it. I wasn't planning on opening it anytime soon since I was trying not to drink, but since I had been saving it and he has now chilled it, I definitely want a glass of it before everyone else gets to enjoy it. I told my hubby that to make it up to me, he will need to buy me more of that so I can keep it for after baby comes.

ramcheer55 · December 2014

blackpearl08 said:

Your posts are proof that we are kind women. Ppl have posted here a ton about having wine at times during their pregnancies. Have you ever responded to anyone else's posts? I am mobile and can't check.

Sorry - I didn't go back and do a search....i'm lazy and bored since I'm the only one in the office today. I probably should have done a search first.

gmartinez14 · December 2014

I think as long as having a glass here and there isn't going to pull you into wanting too much, don't feel bad about a glass every once in awhile! (Of course my experience with coffee is that of potato chips...I can't stop at just one, so I have to steer clear altogether)

DawnLilly · December 2014

This type of thread I don't mind coming up about every 6 weeks or so because people have different comfort levels, opinions and insights at different stages of pregnancy.

jenanns · December 2014

DawnLilly said:

This type of thread I don't mind coming up about every 6 weeks or so because people have different comfort levels, opinions and insights at different stages of pregnancy.

I have read the previous threads and it seems people feel more comfortable after first tri. I haven't seen much for articles on this that talk about the timing of it in depth just makes me curious.

Edit this was in my email just now https://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/is-it-safe/articles/drinking-alcohol-during-pregnancy.aspx?cm_ven=Responsys&cm_cat=BumpNews&cm_ite=December%2023,%202014&MsdVisit=1

itsmevkb · December 2014

I sometimes have wine during my pregnancies. I believe the no alcohol at all idea is a little overboard but I get why they say that because it's hard to quantify exactly what amount is okay. To me, it's a glass of wine here and there over 9 months. To others, it could mean a glass a day.

DawnLilly · December 2014

jenanns said:

DawnLilly said:

This type of thread I don't mind coming up about every 6 weeks or so because people have different comfort levels, opinions and insights at different stages of pregnancy.

I have read the previous threads and it seems people feel more comfortable after first tri. I haven't seen much for articles on this that talk about the timing of it in depth just makes me curious.

Edit this was in my email just now https://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/is-it-safe/articles/drinking-alcohol-during-pregnancy.aspx?cm_ven=Responsys&cm_cat=BumpNews&cm_ite=December%2023,%202014&MsdVisit=1

Apparently I've read that before because a comment has my like.

Dr. Susan D. Rich, MD, MPH
National Organization on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome

VERSUS

Dr. Mary Jane Minkin, MD is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the Yale University School of Medicine

One of these opinions is not like the other. Unbiased I believe is the word.

amylee545 · December 2014

I asked my doctor about it at my last apt, since I have read and heard so many contradictory things. She said that they as doctors are trained to tell us "theres no safe amount of alcohol in pregnancy" since we really don't know what exactly is a safe amount. She then proceeded to say, that if I wanted to have a small glass to toast around the holidays, she sees nothing wrong with that. She also said, if I was 34 weeks along and wanted to have a glass in the bathtub to relax, she'd say absolutely without hesitation, Because at that point, it's not going to cause any damage.

So, after hearing that, and after having a great a/s a couple weeks ago, I absolutely will be having a small small glass at christmas. I'm a wino like yourself and have been dying the past few months.

jenanns · December 2014

DawnLilly said:

DawnLilly said:

This type of thread I don't mind coming up about every 6 weeks or so because people have different comfort levels, opinions and insights at different stages of pregnancy.

I have read the previous threads and it seems people feel more comfortable after first tri. I haven't seen much for articles on this that talk about the timing of it in depth just makes me curious.
Edit this was in my email just now https://pregnant.thebump.com/pregnancy/is-it-safe/articles/drinking-alcohol-during-pregnancy.aspx?cm_ven=Responsys&cm_cat=BumpNews&cm_ite=December%2023,%202014&MsdVisit=1

Apparently I've read that before because a comment has my like. Dr. Susan D. Rich, MD, MPH National Organization on Fetal Alcohol Syndrome VERSUS Dr. Mary Jane Minkin, MD is a clinical professor of obstetrics and gynecology at the Yale University School of Medicine One of these opinions is not like the other. Unbiased I believe is the word.

Good point!

OnceInLoveWithAmy · December 2014

I have averaged about a glass or so of wine a week once I hit my second trimester.

I am not worried in the least bit

shoff2 · December 2014

I havent drink alcohol or caffeine during my pregnancy but I didn't really drink either that often before I got pregnant. A small glass or a few sips is probably ok, but I wouldn't personally.

SarahDawn725 · December 2014

I love wine but I won't be indulging while pregnant. I'm sure a glass wouldn't hurt but personally I wouldn't feel right about it.

jennadesigns · December 2014

I am planning on having a glass with Christmas dinner. I didn't drink at all in the first trimester and while I know doctors cannot tell us with any degree of certainty how safe any alcohol is, my personal belief is that a glass here or there isn't going to cause any issues. I've been missing my wine ... so I'm really looking forward to having a glass!

nogitron · December 2014

I've been having small amounts (like, 2 oz or so) of wine or more often a little of DH's beer a few times a week since the 2nd tri. I don't think that's enough to have to worry about. Last time I had NONE at all. Not even champagne to toast at my sister's wedding. My mom thought I was being ridiculous. HER doctor told her she could have two glasses a week (not on the same day). Having done a little more reading and research since then, I feel comfortable having an occasional small drink.

samiamagirl · December 2014

Because there is contradictory (I like condescending too) information out there, at this time I'm abstaining from alcohol completely. Minus the literal pinky drop of scotch I tasted at my husband's Christmas party two weeks ago.

I may change my tune come 3rd trimester, but I figure I only have 5 months longer to wait, and as much as I miss, it I can hold off until then. And as long as you're not binge drinking vodka, I'm not going to argue with the moms that are choosing to have a glass now and then.

dukwok · December 2014

I had half a glass for our anniversary dinner earlier this month, and so far so good. I felt pretty guilty about it, but I'm also planning to have a glass with dinner on Christmas, ha.

ScarletBegonia79 · December 2014

the vast majority of opinions i have seen think that a small amount is fine. i would be ok with having a little bit here or there, but i am doing so many other questionable things this pregnancy (cold medicine, diet soda, coffee, tuna) that i feel i need to just abstain completely.

ramcheer55 · December 2014

I didn't drink at all during my first tri and had a goal to wait until my 2nd to have anything. Like my OP, I did have the tiniest glass on Thanksgiving and it seemed okay but it was maybe 3 sips worth so I was hoping to get away with having a regular sized glass amount on Christmas Eve. I have a tiny bump but I still feel a little self conscious about drinking while having a growing baby belly. It will only be close family around us at the time so I'm sure it's not a big deal. I like getting everyone's feedback though and making me worry a little less. Thanks and I hope everyone has a great holiday!

lgsdesigner · December 2014

I've chosen not to drink during pregnancy, but that's a personal decision.

If I did choose to drink, I would allow myself a glass a week.

MAdams728 · December 2014

No, I wouldn't drink at all. It's just not a big deal to give it up, to me.

supersarah77 · December 2014

I'm a daily wine drinker when not pregnant. It was hard to give up and I asked DH not to drink around me for a while until it got easier. Last pregnancy I had a few sips here and there toward the end. This time the pregnancy seems to be going by faster so I'm fine not drinking at all. It's temporary, and with the unknown safe amount, why risk it. But, no judgement for those who choose to imbibe.

MrsPDX · December 2014

I know a lot of ladies do drink a few glasses here and there 2nd and 3rd trimester. I don't judge anyone's decision, but I am not comfortable with drinking at all. I don't feel like any risk is worth it. That said, do what you think is right for you.

skupski83 · December 2014

I would love to have a glass of wine. I hate Sunday dinners bc I watch my in laws have an entire bottle while I glare at them in a jealous rage. I'm choosing to abstain bc I'm on keppra for seizures, so I'm already scared shitless of side effects from that, I don't need to add anything else into the mix. (Except a cup of coffee...)

CamoBride2010 · December 2014

Personally I gave up drinking any alcohol when we started trying for DD. And I never bothered starting back up. It is no biggie to me either way. I think in moderation you should be fine.

nightdreamer98 · December 2014

I always thought that alcohol during pregnancy was a strict no. The comments here and some research I did are very interesting. I'm considering having a small glass every now and then. I would really like to be able to toast New year's eve. To be honest I probably won't let people know besides my boyfriend.

AutumnReccius · December 2014

Personally I would not drink. It's just 9 mos to wait. It's not that long really.

xxstephh · December 2014

Personally I won't be touching anything with alcohol , there are risks even with a small glass. I won't risk it, but to each their own

Our families will buy non alcoholic wine for myself ! It doesn't give the wine taste but it has the texture ! It's only a few months anyways

Good luck with whatever decision you make '!

Jillian8488 · December 2014

My DH is very uncomfortable with me drinking anything at all. I haven't had any alcohol and haven't really struggled with it. I just stick to sparkling cider and non alcoholic beer when I am feeling kind of left out. I do think that if my DH was comfortable with it I would feel safe having a glass now and then!

kby721 · December 2014

I am a FTM so I am staying away completely because I'm paranoid and don't find it worth it. I find a festive looking drink helps though. There are tons of recipes out there for holiday mocktails and some are as simple as cranberry and club soda with a lime wedge.

ilovejosh23 · December 2014

I came here to say I can't stand the taste of wine and it taste like nasty rotten grapes..

I have tried bc I really want to but I just can't.

swiftrr · December 2014

If I won't be in house whilst it's getting painted for fear of fumes & I won't risk eating soft cheeses then I would be the biggest hypocrite drinking randomly having a drink throughout my pregnancy. Each to their own & I'm not one to judge but not for me, not worth the potential risks.

BeachBabyLove · December 2014

My doctor told me (before I had even asked) that it is absolutely fine to have a glass of wine from time to time during pregnancy. She said that some doctors tell you not to because people don't understand moderation, so it's easier to say none at all than to explain one or two but not everyday, etc. I was pretty stunned, had been abstaining completely, so she went on to tell me that studies show that fetal alcohol syndrome only occurs in people who have 6 or more drinks a week! She also told me that if she told her Australian patients that they could have no beer or French patients they could have no wine there would be no more Australian or French babies!

That said, it's better to be safe than sorry! I'm having a glass of wine on special occasions, averaging 1 every 2 weeks or so, just since the start of my second trimester, and only infront of non-judgmental people (like my friends who are already moms and get it, they all drank a bit in their pregnancies and have healthy kids)!

jaybutz · December 2014

I wouldn't give a glass of wine to a baby to drink so that's why I wouldn't put a glass of wine in my body whilst pregnant. Alcohol crosses the placenta to the baby very quickly and its blood alcohol level will be the same as yours. It can damage the baby's body and brain development at ANY time during the pregnancy. The damage may not be noticeable at birth but maybe years later, when your child is struggling at school or has behavior disorders. As a mum you will make many many many sacrifices in the future for your child. Why not start now when its going through its most critical development? It is only nine months but choices made now will have life long consequences.

Leslie2003 · December 2014

Personally, I've had a couple of glasses of wine this pregnancy. I also will probably indulge in a beer occasionally.

I will stay away from hard liquor.

If you want half a glass, or a full glass every so often, go for it.

blitzy23 · December 2014

I've had some sips here and there, and on the holidays, about an ounce of wine or champagne. My in-laws never judge because they bring up the times when it wasn't unusual to see a pregnant woman with a glass of wine!

SassyPants150 · December 2014

jaybutz said:

I wouldn't give a glass of wine to a baby to drink so that's why I wouldn't put a glass of wine in my body whilst pregnant. Alcohol crosses the placenta to the baby very quickly and its blood alcohol level will be the same as yours. It can damage the baby's body and brain development at ANY time during the pregnancy. The damage may not be noticeable at birth but maybe years later, when your child is struggling at school or has behavior disorders. As a mum you will make many many many sacrifices in the future for your child. Why not start now when its going through its most critical development? It is only nine months but choices made now will have life long consequences.

Hope the view from your high horse is lovely! 8-|

nogitron · December 2014

If that were the case, though, why aren't there much higher rates of FAS or other developmental issues in Europe or other countries that don't have the stringent drinking restrictions recommended in the US?

jwm29 · December 2014

I always say I am going to have a glass if wine on a special occasion (Christmas, our anniversary and I'm saying New Years now) but I never do...I always chicken out lol

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